Among children, there are some who cry especially.
No matter how much I try to soothe him, he won't stop crying.
Children who feel empathy do not cry easily.
Even if I cry, I only cry for a little while, and after crying, there are no emotional residues left behind, so I laugh brightly and run around, to the point where I wonder when I was like that.
But if there is sadness inside the mother, the child will cry until the mother's sadness is completely resolved.
When a child cries, that crying directly touches the sadness that is suppressed in the mother's unconscious.

---From "A Child Reflecting His Mother's Sorrow"

When anger arises, I have to examine how this relates to my childhood.
The point at which anger arises varies from person to person.
There are mothers who cannot bless and welcome their children when they have them.
Some fathers say they get angry when their children don't eat.
Some mothers get angry when their children won't sleep.
Some mothers get into power struggles with their children and explode when they refuse to wash their hair or brush their teeth.
There are fathers who have a hard time when their children don't say hello, and there are also parents who can't stand their children whining and yell at them.
---From "There is a wound at the point of anger"

If you don't like your child whining and clinging, you need to be aware of whether there is a lonely inner child who grew up alone because his mother told him to go away because he was annoyed.
Whining is a child's way of trying to connect and communicate with their mother.
All children have whining expressions.
However, it is difficult for a mother who does not receive empathy from her own mother to empathize with her child.
---From "When a child whines, I go crazy"

When you get married and have children, the child's words and actions will touch on the desires and emotions that have been suppressed in your subconscious.
'She's so pretty, where can I hit her?' Then, I come to my senses.
How miserable and terrifying it was to be beaten in my childhood.
I didn't realize it when I thought being beaten was normal, but as I raised my child, I realized that there was a wounded inner child within me, a desire and emotion that remained unresolved.
The inner child stopped growing right there.
My body is an adult, but inside me, in a dark room, there is a child crying alone.

---From "Repressed anger can only be seen as a projection"

As the encounter continues, all the puzzle pieces fall into place in an instant, explaining why you said and did what you did in the past.
A life-permeating realization comes, and everything becomes understood and clear.
Confrontation is the process of bringing unconscious emotions into consciousness.
Only when we come to consciousness can we make choices based on our will, and only then can healing occur.
If you don't do that, you will be ruled by your subconscious and will act without even knowing why you are doing it.

---From "Meeting Frozen Emotions Again"

The emotional wounds children receive are as painful as being pricked by a thorn.
Adults know that if they get pricked by a thorn, they should remove it even if it stings a little so that it doesn't get worse, but children don't have that understanding.
If a child gets pricked by a thorn, he bandages the area.
Then I don't feel any pain.
This bandage is a defense mechanism.
Every time I get pricked by a thorn, I bandage it.
Although she defends everything well, she ends up becoming a mummy who has difficulty feeling emotions.
---From "Defense Mechanism"

I have had the experience of crying like an animal while facing my wounds and then losing my inner watcher.
I feel at peace because I no longer have to hide myself in shame.
Not hiding means the 'pretend' is gone.
The moment of deep peace I experienced then will be unforgettable for the rest of my life.
When mothers cry, children live.
Don't end a 30-minute cry in 20 minutes.
If you keep thinking about other people while crying, it means you haven't finished crying yet.
---From "The Third Stage of Mourning: Grief"

This means that the level of consciousness that created the environment that hurt us in our childhood is the same as the level of consciousness that creates the present, so we are creating the same environment.
For example, let's say a man and a woman who are very fearful meet and get married.
That home environment is dominated by fear at a level of consciousness of about 100.
Children who grow up in that family have similar friends, and later meet and marry someone with the same level of consciousness.
If we fail to recognize and confront this fear, the same environment will be created for at least five generations.

---From "Ego"

As a first-time mother, you might wonder what a newborn who sleeps and eats can learn, but the child absorbs the direction of life that becomes the foundation of his or her life from the mother.
The child literally absorbs.
I absorb and use what I hear from my mother, and I absorb her attitude towards life.
In fact, a mother doesn't know how she lives unless she observes her own life, but a child can sense what is being suppressed by the mother's unconscious.
---From “Children are noble and majestic beings”

Moms can also get angry, laugh when they are happy, or cry when they are sad.
However, a mother's love must remain constant so that the child can have the image of the mother as an inseparable object and always the same.
This means that the world is not divided into light and darkness, but is one.
To a child, a mother is the world.
Children who become one with their mothers through their mothers' love believe in the world as love.
They look at the world with fear and do not divide it into black and white, good people and bad people.
---From "Target Constancy"

The second reason children don't read is because they are emotionally pressured to read.
When a child is learning something, it is important to let them do it in a friendly environment at a pleasant time, and for the parent to stop before the child expresses the intention to stop.
Parents should create an environment for their children to read books, and give them to their children when they express a desire to read. Parents should not be the first to give in to this.
Parents who raise their children well are not those who control their children, but those who follow them half a step behind and respond.
---From "Playing Time: The Stage of Playing with Books"

Education is about helping children develop this great power they are born with, without damaging it.
If we change our perspective from teaching children to drawing them out rather than forcing them to learn, education becomes natural and easy.
If a child were raised from the moment of conception by parents who, without fear, embraced him or her with caring love, how would that child perceive himself or herself? He or she would believe himself or herself to be noble, majestic, light, and love.

---From "Every child is born with great power"

All parents want to love their children just as they are.
But when I make the choice to love my child as he or she is and try to put it into practice in my daily life, I quickly realize that it is difficult.
Because considerate love brings from the unconscious into consciousness all the opposite pairs that block considerate love.
Considerate love already exists within us because it is our nature and our home.
So, if only the obstacles that prevent us from knowing considerate love were removed, it would reveal itself.

---From "Love Considerately"