Speaking Habit 1.
Let me start from scratch
To a child who has trouble starting to study, “Should I just read five pages?”
A question that increases metacognitive skills: “How can I study well?”
“What should I do first?” so that you can make your own plan.
Language skills are the basis of study skills. “Who, what, where, how?”
"Tell me when you're going to do it": A tip for developing independent study habits
"The choice is yours": a phrase that confers "autonomy" instead of "freedom."

Speaking habit 2.
Please tell me why I should study
Appropriately providing internal and external motivation: "If you study to be praised, you'll quickly tire."
A phrase that encourages the process, not the result: "You're a genius at hard work."
A saying that makes you believe in the power of time: "Three years of study is like three years of savings."
A saying that connects a child's strengths to their dreams: "You're logical, so you'll become a great scientist."
A phrase to encourage a lazy child: "You're really good at this."

Speaking habit 3.
Please give me a strong growth engine.
"You don't know yet": A phrase that fosters a growth mindset
"Just change little by little": The words that ignite the spark of re-challenge after failure
To experience a thrilling sense of accomplishment every day, "Make a plan to strengthen your will."
To foster the courage to challenge yourself, say, "Even last place can become first."
Horizontal praise is also effective: "I didn't study as hard as you."
Sometimes high expectations lead to good grades, like, “You should definitely go to a good college.”

Speaking habit 4.
Please 'ask' instead of 'force'
Learning attitude criticism is specifically “Should I take a deep breath before the test?”
If you want to really relax and not play games, “It’s time to give your brain artificial respiration.”
Breaking Performance-Defeating Habits: "Leave Everything Else the Same, Just Change This"
How to Deal with a Bad Report Card: "If you just try a little harder, you'll get a lot better."

Speaking Habit 5.
You have to calm your emotions to focus on your studies.
When you worry too much and your grades are bad, “It’s mostly not going to happen.”
The Absolute Condition for Improved Grades: "I Respect Your Thoughts."
When relationships are difficult and you can't focus, "Thinking about someone you hate is a waste of life."
If you want your child to study happily, “Don’t worry about what others think.”
A warm word from my father: “You are right.
“Dad is on your side.”

Speaking Habit 6.
Please attract distant targets
Simultaneously achieving both mastery and performance goals: "It's better to be number one in effort than number one in grades."
A daily phrase that leads to small successes: "If you're better than you are now, that's a victory."
To avoid wasting energy, “Listen to the compliments and ignore the criticism.”
Sometimes, you need an abstract goal: "Become a cool person."
For children without immediate goals, “Let’s focus on today.”

Speaking Habit 7.
Please allow me to fully immerse myself.
Maximize your concentration: "Shout out when distracting thoughts invade."
How to Train Your Young Child's Concentration: "Listen to the Lyrics and Guess the Song Name"
The secret to increasing study intensity: Focus on short bursts instead of long ones.
To a confused child who doesn't know what to do, "Focus on just one thing"

Speaking Habit 8.
Help me find an effective study method
The World's Strongest Study Method: "Take a Self-Test"
The habit of developing proactive thinking: “What will come next?”
"Remember These Numbers" Quiz to Boost Working Memory
The saying that reveals the truth about memorization: "You have to forget it three times before it becomes yours."

Speaking Habit 9.
Help me get out of my slump
To a child who despairs of being stupid, "Human intelligence changes."
If you're in a deep slump, "imagine yourself achieving your dreams."
The Power of Grit: Overcoming Frustration: "Even if your grades drop, they'll keep improving."
If you feel bad about giving up, “Just decide for yourself whether it’s okay to stop.”
Imagine how much effort your favorite idol must have put into your role model.
To instill the courage to overcome, “welcome failure.”

Speaking Habit 10.
Tell your child about the upcoming exam.
An Effective Crash Study Method: "Find the Important Things"
A surprising phrase that will help you do well on tests: "It's okay if you don't get a perfect score."
To a child with a low self-esteem, "You can do what others can do."
To do well on your next test, ask yourself, “Why did I get this question wrong?”
Mom's Praise Is Effective: "You worked hard, so the results are good."

Speaking Habit 11.
Develop the habit of overcoming temptation.
To build self-control, say, “I’ll be happier tomorrow.”
Causality Between Present and Future: "If You Want to Succeed, Don't Give Up."
A Black Hole of Will and Focus: "Smartphones Are Scary Monsters"
The Courage to Be Different: "To Study Well, You Have to Be Different."
To a child afraid of "hard work," "Don't die. Just try it for a month."

A new work from the author of "Why Did You Say That to Your Child?"
Language Habits That Lead Your Child to 'Small Successes' Every Day

The author has already confessed.
“They were never exemplary or good parents,” he said.
The previous work, "Why Did I Say That to My Child?", is a reflection on my immature child-rearing after sending my child to Seoul National University, and is also a parenting error notebook.
However, amidst the favorable reviews, some readers raised this question:
"Is it a good parenting practice to simply embrace a child who is lazy about studying? I believe that successful college admissions are also important in a child's life."

The author once again makes a realistic confession in this book.
“Even if I could go back in time, I don’t think I could give up on my child’s grades,” he said.
However, we will choose a much better method than what we have done in the past.
Instead of roaring, "What are you doing sitting here? Hurry up and do your homework!", I'd say, "Tell me when you're going to start your homework."
Instead of scolding a child who has experienced failure, encourage them by saying, “You did better when you did this.”
Additionally, it will allow your child to experience small successes every day as a habit.
The more children experience small successes, the more confident they become, and eventually, the more likely they are to achieve big successes.


Unfortunately, the role of parents in Korean society is contradictory and dual.
You shouldn't just make your child anxious, but you can't allow him or her endless leisure.
It is also necessary to encourage friendship while not losing the competitive spirit with friends.
Not only intrinsic motivation, but also extrinsic motivation must be properly instilled.
Sometimes, choosing a detour instead of a direct route is more effective.
A seemingly impossible mission, a 'mission impossible', is the fate of parents in our country.
This book will be of great help in this precarious tightrope walk.


Without nagging, without hurting,
11 Steps to Raising Your Child's Grades

Grades don't improve overnight.
Likewise, there are steps to the conversation method that leads a child to study.
There are different things to say to a child when he or she has not even started studying and when he or she needs to take a leap beyond his or her current level.
There's a difference between what you say when you're encouraging more effort and what you say when you're praising good results.
Furthermore, if you have a clear 'motivation' for why you need to study, you can find 'effective study methods' together and achieve 'complete immersion'.
"Change Your Speech, and Your Child Will Start Studying" delicately guides readers through these steps in sequence.
It presents 11 steps of speech habits to help children study, from metacognition → motivation → growth mindset → study habits → friendships → goal awareness → immersion training → the best study method → ​​overcoming slump → test preparation → self-control.


Ultimately, a child's heart is moved by the words of his parents.
To make a listless child study hard, to help them overcome a slump, to give them a strong engine for growth, parents must first change their tone of speech.
This book will pave the way for children to set their own study goals and move forward step by step.