Mom's 5-minute daily speaking habits
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Book Introduction
Professor Lim Young-joo, who has emphasized the power of words in effective child education through 『The Power of Respectful Language to Awaken a Child's Brain』 and 『Self-Esteem Class for Our Children』, has published her new book 『A Mother's Speech Habits for 5 Minutes a Day』 through Yedam Friend.
This time, I focused on my mother's daily language habits.
The author meticulously analyzes, based on actual counseling cases, how a mother's speaking habits specifically affect her child's abilities and emotional development, and then presents solutions.
Just five minutes a day, if mothers change their speech habits as the author suggests in this book, their children will surely grow in a positive direction.
A mother's one word can change a child's life.
Maybe my mother's passing words are more important.
This is because such words have become ingrained as habits.
The power of 'Mom's 5-minute daily speaking habit', a word said carelessly and by chance.
A mother's everyday words can bring out the extraordinary in an ordinary child and nurture the child's inner self.
In the end, the child will do as the mother says.
This time, I focused on my mother's daily language habits.
The author meticulously analyzes, based on actual counseling cases, how a mother's speaking habits specifically affect her child's abilities and emotional development, and then presents solutions.
Just five minutes a day, if mothers change their speech habits as the author suggests in this book, their children will surely grow in a positive direction.
A mother's one word can change a child's life.
Maybe my mother's passing words are more important.
This is because such words have become ingrained as habits.
The power of 'Mom's 5-minute daily speaking habit', a word said carelessly and by chance.
A mother's everyday words can bring out the extraordinary in an ordinary child and nurture the child's inner self.
In the end, the child will do as the mother says.
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index
Prologue: A mother's 'passing words' create a child's 'path to follow.'
Chapter 1: A Mother's Speaking Habits That Boost Her Child's Self-Esteem
01 Use the six principles of respect when speaking to children.
As children learn to speak, they build the foundation of self-esteem. A mother's positive response is paramount. The six principles of respect that will help your child grow to great heights.
02 Let's talk after understanding the situation from the child's perspective.
The story of how "Our Block Leader" became "You're throwing away your blocks": The correlation between concentration and self-esteem: A mother who puts her child's perspective first
03 Let's guide, respect, and hold children accountable for their choices.
A mother who guides and respects her child's choices. A mother who teaches her that choices come with responsibility. A mother's words that foster self-esteem and independence.
04 Let's say things that bring out your child's hidden strengths.
The absolute condition for raising a timid and sensitive child: The more timid the child, the more important passing remarks are. A mother's words for raising a timid child into a sensitive child.
05 Let's talk about your child's strengths in detail.
The more you elaborate on the strengths of self-esteem and self-compassion, the higher your self-esteem will be. "Strengths Word Play" helps build your child's self-esteem in everyday life.
Chapter 2: Mothers' Speaking Habits That Enhance Their Children's Empathy
01 Let's do our best to listen to our children.
The magic of listening begins with "Mom, I'll listen." The words and facial expressions that open a child's mouth are "true listening."
02 Let's read the child's emotions sincerely.
A child's future depends on a mother's response. A mother should be a counselor, not a problem solver.
03 Respond to all of your child's emotions, good or bad.
A mother's attitude in dealing with her child's various emotions A mother's attitude A mother's attitude for an irritable child A mother's attitude for a depressed child A mother's attitude for a crying child
04 Let's be honest about the diversity of emotions.
Instead of saying, "You need to change this way," say, "If you do this, things will change." Children learn emotions from their mothers.
05 Respond to negative emotions last.
Instead of using words that suppress a child's emotions, why mothers should not be "emotional" about their child's "feelings." There are also order and strengths in words.
Chapter 3: Mothers' Speaking Habits That Enhance Their Children's Social Skills
01 Let's establish the foundation of sociality with firm words.
A mother's words that foster self-control: "No." The correlation between social skills and frontal lobe development. A mother's words that raise a child with the basics.
02 Let's talk and make suggestions from the child's perspective.
A mother's step-by-step story to nurture her child's emotions and develop social skills. Why you should appreciate even bad emotions.
03 Be sure to discipline any behavior that causes harm.
What a mother says to her child when he or she has caused trouble. What a mother says to her child when he or she has caused trouble. Speaking about 'empathy', the foundation of sociality.
04 Let's raise children who can accept even negative opinions.
A mother's speaking habits that help her develop an eye for her friend's strengths A mother's speaking habits that help her child accept even negative opinions The magic of a mother's words that help her child turn weaknesses into strengths and develop social skills
05 Observe your child closely and encourage him or her to make friends.
A multi-faceted look at a child's friendships. A mother's every word can impact a child's friendships.
Chapter 4: A Mother's Speaking Habits That Improve Her Child's Problem-Solving Ability
01 Let's develop problem-solving skills through problems.
A great opportunity to develop problem-solving skills between a child's needs and the teachings of "What should I do?" A wise mother's words and attitude toward problems
02 Let them know that any problem can be solved.
A serious child needs a careful mother. A mother's words and attitude that accept her child's problems. A mother's words that help her child sort out his or her feelings.
03 Give sincere advice when your child fails.
A mother's words to soothe her child's anxious mind A mother's words to wake her child up
04 Let's foster a sense of responsibility so that we can take responsibility for the future.
Everyday problem-solving skills are more important than academics: The correlation between responsibility and problem-solving skills.
05 Let's use children's fights as opportunities to develop problem-solving skills.
A mother's attitude toward her children's fights: Fighting between children isn't always a bad thing.
Chapter 5: A Mother's Speaking Habits That Boost Her Child's Creativity
01 Let's create a foundation for creativity by writing a diary.
The Magic of a Child's Diary + Mom's Words: "How was it?", "So?", "So?" = Creative Development
02 Don't underestimate your child's abilities.
Recognizing a child's temperament is essential for creativity to flourish. Instead of saying, "He's doing something else again,"
03 Acknowledge and encourage your child's worries and fears.
Child's fear + mother's words = intellectual curiosity and creativity. If 'What should I do?' becomes the source of creativity,
04 Support your child's interests.
How to Unleash Your Child's Ingenuity and Uniqueness into Creativity: Creativity Comes from Your Child's Current Interests
05 Let's open up children's possibilities with 'why' and 'how'
The Importance of Open Questions Considering TPO Why Moms Should Use "Why" and "How" Well How Wise Moms Use "Why" and "How"
Chapter 6: A Mother's Speaking Habits That Enhance Her Child's Learning Ability
01 Let's teach the meaning and necessity of studying.
"Our ○○ is studying." The answer to the question, "Why do we study?"
02 Let's have skinship with Mom's words
A mother's words that help a child's cognitive development, "Let's hug ○○." A mother's words that help a child improve their learning ability, "How can they be so lovely?" A mother's words that make a child study on his or her own, "You are a blessing to the world."
03 Identify your child's interests and talents.
True learning should be connected to a child's interests. "What do you want to be?", "What do you find most interesting?" A mother's words brighten a child's future.
04 Let's motivate your child to study with words of praise and encouragement.
What can a mother say to her child to make him study? Instead of saying, "I'm telling you to study because it's good for you,"
05 Let's say it's okay to not know or be wrong.
A wise mother's attitude toward her child's "um...um...": A child's learning level and a mother's expectations are what hinder it.
Chapter 1: A Mother's Speaking Habits That Boost Her Child's Self-Esteem
01 Use the six principles of respect when speaking to children.
As children learn to speak, they build the foundation of self-esteem. A mother's positive response is paramount. The six principles of respect that will help your child grow to great heights.
02 Let's talk after understanding the situation from the child's perspective.
The story of how "Our Block Leader" became "You're throwing away your blocks": The correlation between concentration and self-esteem: A mother who puts her child's perspective first
03 Let's guide, respect, and hold children accountable for their choices.
A mother who guides and respects her child's choices. A mother who teaches her that choices come with responsibility. A mother's words that foster self-esteem and independence.
04 Let's say things that bring out your child's hidden strengths.
The absolute condition for raising a timid and sensitive child: The more timid the child, the more important passing remarks are. A mother's words for raising a timid child into a sensitive child.
05 Let's talk about your child's strengths in detail.
The more you elaborate on the strengths of self-esteem and self-compassion, the higher your self-esteem will be. "Strengths Word Play" helps build your child's self-esteem in everyday life.
Chapter 2: Mothers' Speaking Habits That Enhance Their Children's Empathy
01 Let's do our best to listen to our children.
The magic of listening begins with "Mom, I'll listen." The words and facial expressions that open a child's mouth are "true listening."
02 Let's read the child's emotions sincerely.
A child's future depends on a mother's response. A mother should be a counselor, not a problem solver.
03 Respond to all of your child's emotions, good or bad.
A mother's attitude in dealing with her child's various emotions A mother's attitude A mother's attitude for an irritable child A mother's attitude for a depressed child A mother's attitude for a crying child
04 Let's be honest about the diversity of emotions.
Instead of saying, "You need to change this way," say, "If you do this, things will change." Children learn emotions from their mothers.
05 Respond to negative emotions last.
Instead of using words that suppress a child's emotions, why mothers should not be "emotional" about their child's "feelings." There are also order and strengths in words.
Chapter 3: Mothers' Speaking Habits That Enhance Their Children's Social Skills
01 Let's establish the foundation of sociality with firm words.
A mother's words that foster self-control: "No." The correlation between social skills and frontal lobe development. A mother's words that raise a child with the basics.
02 Let's talk and make suggestions from the child's perspective.
A mother's step-by-step story to nurture her child's emotions and develop social skills. Why you should appreciate even bad emotions.
03 Be sure to discipline any behavior that causes harm.
What a mother says to her child when he or she has caused trouble. What a mother says to her child when he or she has caused trouble. Speaking about 'empathy', the foundation of sociality.
04 Let's raise children who can accept even negative opinions.
A mother's speaking habits that help her develop an eye for her friend's strengths A mother's speaking habits that help her child accept even negative opinions The magic of a mother's words that help her child turn weaknesses into strengths and develop social skills
05 Observe your child closely and encourage him or her to make friends.
A multi-faceted look at a child's friendships. A mother's every word can impact a child's friendships.
Chapter 4: A Mother's Speaking Habits That Improve Her Child's Problem-Solving Ability
01 Let's develop problem-solving skills through problems.
A great opportunity to develop problem-solving skills between a child's needs and the teachings of "What should I do?" A wise mother's words and attitude toward problems
02 Let them know that any problem can be solved.
A serious child needs a careful mother. A mother's words and attitude that accept her child's problems. A mother's words that help her child sort out his or her feelings.
03 Give sincere advice when your child fails.
A mother's words to soothe her child's anxious mind A mother's words to wake her child up
04 Let's foster a sense of responsibility so that we can take responsibility for the future.
Everyday problem-solving skills are more important than academics: The correlation between responsibility and problem-solving skills.
05 Let's use children's fights as opportunities to develop problem-solving skills.
A mother's attitude toward her children's fights: Fighting between children isn't always a bad thing.
Chapter 5: A Mother's Speaking Habits That Boost Her Child's Creativity
01 Let's create a foundation for creativity by writing a diary.
The Magic of a Child's Diary + Mom's Words: "How was it?", "So?", "So?" = Creative Development
02 Don't underestimate your child's abilities.
Recognizing a child's temperament is essential for creativity to flourish. Instead of saying, "He's doing something else again,"
03 Acknowledge and encourage your child's worries and fears.
Child's fear + mother's words = intellectual curiosity and creativity. If 'What should I do?' becomes the source of creativity,
04 Support your child's interests.
How to Unleash Your Child's Ingenuity and Uniqueness into Creativity: Creativity Comes from Your Child's Current Interests
05 Let's open up children's possibilities with 'why' and 'how'
The Importance of Open Questions Considering TPO Why Moms Should Use "Why" and "How" Well How Wise Moms Use "Why" and "How"
Chapter 6: A Mother's Speaking Habits That Enhance Her Child's Learning Ability
01 Let's teach the meaning and necessity of studying.
"Our ○○ is studying." The answer to the question, "Why do we study?"
02 Let's have skinship with Mom's words
A mother's words that help a child's cognitive development, "Let's hug ○○." A mother's words that help a child improve their learning ability, "How can they be so lovely?" A mother's words that make a child study on his or her own, "You are a blessing to the world."
03 Identify your child's interests and talents.
True learning should be connected to a child's interests. "What do you want to be?", "What do you find most interesting?" A mother's words brighten a child's future.
04 Let's motivate your child to study with words of praise and encouragement.
What can a mother say to her child to make him study? Instead of saying, "I'm telling you to study because it's good for you,"
05 Let's say it's okay to not know or be wrong.
A wise mother's attitude toward her child's "um...um...": A child's learning level and a mother's expectations are what hinder it.
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Children grow up seeing not only the front view of their parents, but also their side views and back views.
The moment you say, “Sit up straight and listen to me,” the child takes a defensive stance and although he sits up straight, he cannot listen to me properly.
If you have something to say to your child, it is best to do so in a natural setting.
Whether you speak while standing, while walking, or while giving a brief hug
Everything is okay.
The words a mother says as she passes by shape the path her child will walk and pass through in the future, and on the other hand, they become the path the child passes through and even shape his or her life.
--- p.
16
The most typical and wrong thing a mother says is, “Don’t think about anything and just study.”
The phrase 'don't think' implies that there is no need to choose.
On the surface, it seems like a saying that emphasizes studying, but if you look closely, it is a scary saying that raises an incompetent child who has no choice but to live each day.
When a child makes a choice, it is part of raising the child.
Therefore, not giving a child a choice means not only not respecting their self-esteem, but also not acknowledging it.
A child's habit of thinking carefully about what to choose and making decisions on his own is connected to his sense of self.
Therefore, we must give children choices and let them think carefully.
There should be many things in the child's daily routine that he or she can choose for himself or herself.
--- p.
40
The first and last part of listening is the words and expression, “I trust you.”
You shouldn't just say, "Tell Mom anything," but you should also say it with your eyes.
Sincere listening has the power to open our mouths.
If a child doesn't open his mouth, it's not the child's fault, but the mother's fault for listening.
“You’re shutting your mouth again.
If you say, “I’m ready to listen,” how different is your appearance from your inside?
How much more heartbreaking and painful must the heart of a child be as he keeps his mouth shut and his mother burns inside?
Rather than putting the mother who is ready to listen first, it is actually more important to understand the feelings of the child who is not ready to speak than to listen.
You need to tell your child sincerely, “Mom, I’m ready to listen.”
--- p.
74
Raising a child who understands reason and can properly judge right from wrong is the way for parents to give their child complete love.
Although children are expected to do what is right and not do what is wrong, they are very curious about prohibitions.
I find myself more tempted to do things I shouldn't be doing.
This is why we need to teach our children basic manners.
It seems like everyone can follow it because it's basic, but in reality, it requires a tremendous amount of self-control.
As mentioned before, self-control is a device that helps us to properly judge right and wrong and put it into practice.
I believe that the words “no” and “absolutely not” that mothers use on a daily basis have a huge impact on raising their children during their early childhood.
“No” is not a negative word, but a keyword that can help you raise a child properly.
--- p.
120
How can a mother encourage a child facing a problem and instill a growth mindset?
When dealing with a child's problems, mothers must remember that there are things they should not say, even if the child's mistake is obvious.
That's a hasty judgment.
“You were wrong.
Saying, “That’s why this happened” doesn’t help solve the problem.
The child is now very cowering in the face of problems.
A child doesn't need a prosecutor mother who points out mistakes or a judge mother who judges right and wrong.
I need a lawyer mom who is always on my side.
Otherwise, when a child faces a big problem in the future, he or she may seek out someone outside the home instead of consulting with his or her mother.
It's dangerous.
Instead of minimizing or exaggerating the child's problems, you should objectively accept them and draw a positive mind map yourself to speak properly.
--- pp.
181~182
The very essence of creativity is thought.
As you imagine and connect it to reality, you will come up with a series of unique and novel ideas.
This is why the more a child fidgets and procrastinates, the more you need to encourage them to think.
If you look up the dictionary definition of 'Gungri', it is 'to study the principles of things deeply, to think about this and that in your mind.'
It takes time to study the principles here and there.
Rather than looking frustrated as a child who is dawdling, the back of the child should look like a little researcher contemplating something deeply.
My child who was doing something else is now a little researcher.
Depending on the mother's speaking habits, the child can either be a 'slow-witted child who fidgets' or a 'child who freely thinks and reasones'.
The mother said to the child, “Play
If you often say “this is amazing” and “this is new,” your child will draw more creative ideas and draw more creative ideas.
Even if the words “You’re doing something else again” are on the tip of your tongue, once you realize that those words have no effect on your child, you can try to change them.
--- p.
226
Many mothers complain that they have to tell their children to study.
If you look closely at these mothers, you will see that when their children listen to their mothers and pretend to study, they always say this.
"Do I have to tell you to do it? How long are you going to do this? Don't you know how to learn independently? It's time for you to figure it out on your own." It's not about pretending to study, it's about the child studying.
Rather than thinking of it as 'just pretending to do it', we should acknowledge that 'we are doing it'.
In the same situation, depending on how the mother speaks, she can force the child to continue studying, or she can force the child to quit and say, “I won’t do it!”
If you started studying because your mother told you to, it would be good to wait for a while and then give some words of encouragement.
“You’re studying hard.” I put aside the thought, “It would be better if you did that before telling me to study…”
If you are doing it now, that too is commendable.
The moment you say, “Sit up straight and listen to me,” the child takes a defensive stance and although he sits up straight, he cannot listen to me properly.
If you have something to say to your child, it is best to do so in a natural setting.
Whether you speak while standing, while walking, or while giving a brief hug
Everything is okay.
The words a mother says as she passes by shape the path her child will walk and pass through in the future, and on the other hand, they become the path the child passes through and even shape his or her life.
--- p.
16
The most typical and wrong thing a mother says is, “Don’t think about anything and just study.”
The phrase 'don't think' implies that there is no need to choose.
On the surface, it seems like a saying that emphasizes studying, but if you look closely, it is a scary saying that raises an incompetent child who has no choice but to live each day.
When a child makes a choice, it is part of raising the child.
Therefore, not giving a child a choice means not only not respecting their self-esteem, but also not acknowledging it.
A child's habit of thinking carefully about what to choose and making decisions on his own is connected to his sense of self.
Therefore, we must give children choices and let them think carefully.
There should be many things in the child's daily routine that he or she can choose for himself or herself.
--- p.
40
The first and last part of listening is the words and expression, “I trust you.”
You shouldn't just say, "Tell Mom anything," but you should also say it with your eyes.
Sincere listening has the power to open our mouths.
If a child doesn't open his mouth, it's not the child's fault, but the mother's fault for listening.
“You’re shutting your mouth again.
If you say, “I’m ready to listen,” how different is your appearance from your inside?
How much more heartbreaking and painful must the heart of a child be as he keeps his mouth shut and his mother burns inside?
Rather than putting the mother who is ready to listen first, it is actually more important to understand the feelings of the child who is not ready to speak than to listen.
You need to tell your child sincerely, “Mom, I’m ready to listen.”
--- p.
74
Raising a child who understands reason and can properly judge right from wrong is the way for parents to give their child complete love.
Although children are expected to do what is right and not do what is wrong, they are very curious about prohibitions.
I find myself more tempted to do things I shouldn't be doing.
This is why we need to teach our children basic manners.
It seems like everyone can follow it because it's basic, but in reality, it requires a tremendous amount of self-control.
As mentioned before, self-control is a device that helps us to properly judge right and wrong and put it into practice.
I believe that the words “no” and “absolutely not” that mothers use on a daily basis have a huge impact on raising their children during their early childhood.
“No” is not a negative word, but a keyword that can help you raise a child properly.
--- p.
120
How can a mother encourage a child facing a problem and instill a growth mindset?
When dealing with a child's problems, mothers must remember that there are things they should not say, even if the child's mistake is obvious.
That's a hasty judgment.
“You were wrong.
Saying, “That’s why this happened” doesn’t help solve the problem.
The child is now very cowering in the face of problems.
A child doesn't need a prosecutor mother who points out mistakes or a judge mother who judges right and wrong.
I need a lawyer mom who is always on my side.
Otherwise, when a child faces a big problem in the future, he or she may seek out someone outside the home instead of consulting with his or her mother.
It's dangerous.
Instead of minimizing or exaggerating the child's problems, you should objectively accept them and draw a positive mind map yourself to speak properly.
--- pp.
181~182
The very essence of creativity is thought.
As you imagine and connect it to reality, you will come up with a series of unique and novel ideas.
This is why the more a child fidgets and procrastinates, the more you need to encourage them to think.
If you look up the dictionary definition of 'Gungri', it is 'to study the principles of things deeply, to think about this and that in your mind.'
It takes time to study the principles here and there.
Rather than looking frustrated as a child who is dawdling, the back of the child should look like a little researcher contemplating something deeply.
My child who was doing something else is now a little researcher.
Depending on the mother's speaking habits, the child can either be a 'slow-witted child who fidgets' or a 'child who freely thinks and reasones'.
The mother said to the child, “Play
If you often say “this is amazing” and “this is new,” your child will draw more creative ideas and draw more creative ideas.
Even if the words “You’re doing something else again” are on the tip of your tongue, once you realize that those words have no effect on your child, you can try to change them.
--- p.
226
Many mothers complain that they have to tell their children to study.
If you look closely at these mothers, you will see that when their children listen to their mothers and pretend to study, they always say this.
"Do I have to tell you to do it? How long are you going to do this? Don't you know how to learn independently? It's time for you to figure it out on your own." It's not about pretending to study, it's about the child studying.
Rather than thinking of it as 'just pretending to do it', we should acknowledge that 'we are doing it'.
In the same situation, depending on how the mother speaks, she can force the child to continue studying, or she can force the child to quit and say, “I won’t do it!”
If you started studying because your mother told you to, it would be good to wait for a while and then give some words of encouragement.
“You’re studying hard.” I put aside the thought, “It would be better if you did that before telling me to study…”
If you are doing it now, that too is commendable.
--- pp.
288~289
288~289
Publisher's Review
“A mother’s passing words pave the way for her child to pass.”
A 5-minute daily practice of motherly speech habits that develop children's abilities and nurture their hearts.
Professor Lim Young-joo, who has emphasized the power of words in effective child education through 『The Power of Respectful Language to Awaken a Child's Brain』 and 『Self-Esteem Class for Our Children』, has published her new book 『A Mother's Speech Habits for 5 Minutes a Day』 through Yedam Friend.
This time, I focused on my mother's daily language habits.
The author meticulously analyzes, based on actual counseling cases, how a mother's speaking habits specifically affect her child's abilities and emotional development, and then presents solutions.
As a child grows up, he or she hears ‘mother’s words’ the most.
That's why your mother's words are important.
Is there anything more revealing than a person's habits? It's the "speech habits"—words that come out so quickly that you only realize what you said afterward.
A mother knows in her head what to say to her child, but she cannot actually put it into practice.
You just have to pay a little attention and make it a habit.
'Five minutes a day' is a symbolic unit of time.
If you spend at least 5 minutes a day being conscious of what you say to your child as a mother, you will be able to get along well with your child and change his or her behavior and even his or her mind just by using the words you say on a daily basis.
“Self-esteem, empathy, social skills, problem-solving skills, creativity, and even learning ability…”
A mother's daily conversation skills to help her child grow
The most important thing for a mother to do when speaking is to think in advance about how her words will affect her child.
If a mother does not check her words in advance, she will not be able to control her words, and of course, this will have a negative effect on the child.
If you are a mother who feels frustrated and lost every day about what to say to your child, you should pay attention to the speech habit solutions and conversation methods presented by the author in this book.
From children's self-esteem to learning ability, it contains the secrets of raising children well using everyday words from mothers.
[Point.
[A mother's speaking habits that boost her child's self-esteem]
A mother must understand and respect her child's words.
When a mother respects her child's words, the child's self-esteem is fostered.
Adults have the ability to digest any words according to the situation they are in, but children do not.
This is because they are at a stage of development where they are greatly influenced by their mother's words.
When talking to children, use the six principles of respect: “When, where, who, what, how, why?”
Encourage, respect, and empower your child's choices: "What do you want to do first? What if you choose?"
[Point.
[A mother's speaking habits that enhance her child's empathy]
When a mother reads her child's emotions, it means understanding the child's mind, coaching them when things don't go their way, and guiding them to practice better methods.
A mother can fully understand her child's emotions through words, and the child develops empathy through this process.
Listen to your child as best you can_ “Don’t worry.
“Mom will listen.”
Respond to all of your child's emotions, good or bad_ “So that's why you're so angry.
“You must have been upset, but you held it together well.”
[Point.
[A mother's speech habits that improve her child's social skills]
As social animals, the way for humans to live well is not only based on 'me' but also on 'you'.
But people instinctively always put 'me' first.
This is especially true for children who tend to be self-centered.
Mothers should correct their children's tendencies with words so that they can live with other people.
It lays the foundation for sociality with firm words_ “No.
“Absolutely not.”
Talk from the child's perspective and make suggestions_ “If you think crying will make you feel better, why don't you just cry and then talk to Mommy?”
[A Mother's Speaking Habits That Boost Her Child's Problem-Solving Abilities]
What should a mother do when her child has a problem? If she sees the problem as just a problem, she'll get angry and yell.
The world is a place where we have to live while solving countless problems.
The fact that a problem arises also presents an opportunity to enrich the child's life through that problem.
Develop problem-solving skills through problems_ “What don’t you like? Why is that?”
It tells you that any problem can be solved_ “If you have a problem, be sure to tell Mom.
“Every problem has an answer, so don’t worry and let’s find it together.”
[A mother's speaking habits that boost her child's creativity]
Creativity is the power to come up with new things.
Thoughts do not necessarily come from only beautiful and good things.
The more a child tries new ideas, the more important a mother's words become.
Because depending on what your mother says, you can either become creative or a strange child.
Build a foundation for creativity by writing a journal_ "How was it? Was it like that? So?"
Opening up your child's possibilities with "why" and "how": "Why did you think that? That's surprising. How did you come up with that?"
[A mother's speaking habits that enhance her child's learning ability]
Studying cannot be done by someone else.
The child must do it himself.
What should a mother say to her child who's studying? It's enough to let them know that studying is necessary and that they're doing it for their own good.
Skinship with Mom's words_ "How can you be so lovely?"
Encourage your child to study with words of praise and encouragement_ “I am happy to see my daughter (son) studying.”
“What is needed to properly raise a child is
“It’s not unconditional love, it’s just a passing remark from a mother.”
“Get up quickly.
“Can’t you sleep a little longer?”, “Eat some food.
- From everyday conversations like “I’m not hungry” to “Mom, how do I solve this problem? - Yeah, that’s…”, “You really thought you were going to get in trouble! - You were wrong.
Mothers and children exchange countless words every day, including conversations with a purpose, such as, “I won’t do that again.”
But unfortunately, most mothers are unaware of the diversity of language and just repeat the same things to their children.
Mothers talk to their children constantly, but few mothers actually think about how to speak to their children in a way that will have a positive impact.
Just five minutes a day, if mothers change their speech habits as the author suggests in this book, their children will surely grow in a positive direction.
A mother's one word can change a child's life.
Maybe my mother's passing words are more important.
This is because such words have become ingrained as habits.
The power of 'Mom's 5-minute daily speaking habit', a word said carelessly and by chance.
A mother's everyday words can bring out the extraordinary in an ordinary child and nurture the child's inner self.
In the end, the child will do as the mother says.
A 5-minute daily practice of motherly speech habits that develop children's abilities and nurture their hearts.
Professor Lim Young-joo, who has emphasized the power of words in effective child education through 『The Power of Respectful Language to Awaken a Child's Brain』 and 『Self-Esteem Class for Our Children』, has published her new book 『A Mother's Speech Habits for 5 Minutes a Day』 through Yedam Friend.
This time, I focused on my mother's daily language habits.
The author meticulously analyzes, based on actual counseling cases, how a mother's speaking habits specifically affect her child's abilities and emotional development, and then presents solutions.
As a child grows up, he or she hears ‘mother’s words’ the most.
That's why your mother's words are important.
Is there anything more revealing than a person's habits? It's the "speech habits"—words that come out so quickly that you only realize what you said afterward.
A mother knows in her head what to say to her child, but she cannot actually put it into practice.
You just have to pay a little attention and make it a habit.
'Five minutes a day' is a symbolic unit of time.
If you spend at least 5 minutes a day being conscious of what you say to your child as a mother, you will be able to get along well with your child and change his or her behavior and even his or her mind just by using the words you say on a daily basis.
“Self-esteem, empathy, social skills, problem-solving skills, creativity, and even learning ability…”
A mother's daily conversation skills to help her child grow
The most important thing for a mother to do when speaking is to think in advance about how her words will affect her child.
If a mother does not check her words in advance, she will not be able to control her words, and of course, this will have a negative effect on the child.
If you are a mother who feels frustrated and lost every day about what to say to your child, you should pay attention to the speech habit solutions and conversation methods presented by the author in this book.
From children's self-esteem to learning ability, it contains the secrets of raising children well using everyday words from mothers.
[Point.
[A mother's speaking habits that boost her child's self-esteem]
A mother must understand and respect her child's words.
When a mother respects her child's words, the child's self-esteem is fostered.
Adults have the ability to digest any words according to the situation they are in, but children do not.
This is because they are at a stage of development where they are greatly influenced by their mother's words.
When talking to children, use the six principles of respect: “When, where, who, what, how, why?”
Encourage, respect, and empower your child's choices: "What do you want to do first? What if you choose?"
[Point.
[A mother's speaking habits that enhance her child's empathy]
When a mother reads her child's emotions, it means understanding the child's mind, coaching them when things don't go their way, and guiding them to practice better methods.
A mother can fully understand her child's emotions through words, and the child develops empathy through this process.
Listen to your child as best you can_ “Don’t worry.
“Mom will listen.”
Respond to all of your child's emotions, good or bad_ “So that's why you're so angry.
“You must have been upset, but you held it together well.”
[Point.
[A mother's speech habits that improve her child's social skills]
As social animals, the way for humans to live well is not only based on 'me' but also on 'you'.
But people instinctively always put 'me' first.
This is especially true for children who tend to be self-centered.
Mothers should correct their children's tendencies with words so that they can live with other people.
It lays the foundation for sociality with firm words_ “No.
“Absolutely not.”
Talk from the child's perspective and make suggestions_ “If you think crying will make you feel better, why don't you just cry and then talk to Mommy?”
[A Mother's Speaking Habits That Boost Her Child's Problem-Solving Abilities]
What should a mother do when her child has a problem? If she sees the problem as just a problem, she'll get angry and yell.
The world is a place where we have to live while solving countless problems.
The fact that a problem arises also presents an opportunity to enrich the child's life through that problem.
Develop problem-solving skills through problems_ “What don’t you like? Why is that?”
It tells you that any problem can be solved_ “If you have a problem, be sure to tell Mom.
“Every problem has an answer, so don’t worry and let’s find it together.”
[A mother's speaking habits that boost her child's creativity]
Creativity is the power to come up with new things.
Thoughts do not necessarily come from only beautiful and good things.
The more a child tries new ideas, the more important a mother's words become.
Because depending on what your mother says, you can either become creative or a strange child.
Build a foundation for creativity by writing a journal_ "How was it? Was it like that? So?"
Opening up your child's possibilities with "why" and "how": "Why did you think that? That's surprising. How did you come up with that?"
[A mother's speaking habits that enhance her child's learning ability]
Studying cannot be done by someone else.
The child must do it himself.
What should a mother say to her child who's studying? It's enough to let them know that studying is necessary and that they're doing it for their own good.
Skinship with Mom's words_ "How can you be so lovely?"
Encourage your child to study with words of praise and encouragement_ “I am happy to see my daughter (son) studying.”
“What is needed to properly raise a child is
“It’s not unconditional love, it’s just a passing remark from a mother.”
“Get up quickly.
“Can’t you sleep a little longer?”, “Eat some food.
- From everyday conversations like “I’m not hungry” to “Mom, how do I solve this problem? - Yeah, that’s…”, “You really thought you were going to get in trouble! - You were wrong.
Mothers and children exchange countless words every day, including conversations with a purpose, such as, “I won’t do that again.”
But unfortunately, most mothers are unaware of the diversity of language and just repeat the same things to their children.
Mothers talk to their children constantly, but few mothers actually think about how to speak to their children in a way that will have a positive impact.
Just five minutes a day, if mothers change their speech habits as the author suggests in this book, their children will surely grow in a positive direction.
A mother's one word can change a child's life.
Maybe my mother's passing words are more important.
This is because such words have become ingrained as habits.
The power of 'Mom's 5-minute daily speaking habit', a word said carelessly and by chance.
A mother's everyday words can bring out the extraordinary in an ordinary child and nurture the child's inner self.
In the end, the child will do as the mother says.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: August 6, 2018
- Page count, weight, size: 302 pages | 454g | 174*198*30mm
- ISBN13: 9791189125264
- ISBN10: 1189125269
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