I decided not to believe everything I thought.
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Book Introduction
- A word from MD
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Let's keep our thoughts and distance ourselvesThe first book from Distance, the psychotherapy app chosen by over 30,000 people.
It fundamentally addresses negative thoughts that cannot be cut off through a new perspective called ‘distancing’.
These 20 scientific and systematic training methods penetrate the essence of psychological problems and help you control excessive thinking and take care of your own mind.
March 25, 2025. Self-Development PD Oh Da-eun
To break the vicious cycle of negative thoughts and live a happy life today
The most scientific psychotherapy guide
“The reason you are anxious again is
“Because I couldn’t find the right distance between my thoughts.”
*** The first book from the self-therapy app 'Distance' chosen by over 30,000 people!
*** After an average of 7 weeks, depression was reduced by 34%, anxiety by 40%, and stress by 23%!
*** 1.3 million channel Doctor Friends · Highly recommended by psychiatrist Jinseung Oh!
“This book has put my life in order.” “This is the best cognitive therapy I’ve ever received.” “I want to keep it as a book and read it over and over again.” Published after numerous requests from readers on social media, “I Decided Not to Believe All My Thoughts” is a book that compiles 30 psychological laws and 20 exercises to keep a healthy mind and avoid being trapped by negative thoughts.
Thoughts are very easily distorted.
We become anxious without knowing the exact cause, and we blame ourselves excessively for even minor mistakes.
If you've tried everything from reading to meditation to counseling to try to control your wavering mind, but are still plagued by recurring thoughts, it may not be a lack of effort, but rather the wrong approach.
Have you ever tried to "stop" a thought from occurring or force it into a better, more positive thought? This book fundamentally changes your perspective on thoughts, arguing that such attempts are inherently impossible.
It is not about ‘cutting off thoughts’, but about ‘keeping distance from thoughts’, also known as ‘distancing’.
The message the author, who graduated from medical school and has been developing digital psychotherapy programs, wants to convey through distancing is clear.
“Thoughts are not me.” Those who do not understand this truth will fall into a vicious cycle of constantly ruminating on their thoughts. However, those who understand this truth can lead their lives proactively, even when negative thoughts arise in their minds.
This book scientifically explains the principles of distancing based on the latest psychological and mental health theories, but it is by no means a difficult scientific or psychological theory book.
It is focused on practical methods that readers can put into practice immediately.
This book, which has already shown clinical effectiveness in over 30,000 users, is a groundbreaking mind training method that will help you live a happy life today by wisely living with the depression, anxiety, self-reproach, and obsession that arise in your mind, rather than forcibly suppressing them.
Whether you let the thousand unwanted thoughts briefly pop into your mind and pass away, or whether they will haunt you forever, depends on how you use this book.
The most scientific psychotherapy guide
“The reason you are anxious again is
“Because I couldn’t find the right distance between my thoughts.”
*** The first book from the self-therapy app 'Distance' chosen by over 30,000 people!
*** After an average of 7 weeks, depression was reduced by 34%, anxiety by 40%, and stress by 23%!
*** 1.3 million channel Doctor Friends · Highly recommended by psychiatrist Jinseung Oh!
“This book has put my life in order.” “This is the best cognitive therapy I’ve ever received.” “I want to keep it as a book and read it over and over again.” Published after numerous requests from readers on social media, “I Decided Not to Believe All My Thoughts” is a book that compiles 30 psychological laws and 20 exercises to keep a healthy mind and avoid being trapped by negative thoughts.
Thoughts are very easily distorted.
We become anxious without knowing the exact cause, and we blame ourselves excessively for even minor mistakes.
If you've tried everything from reading to meditation to counseling to try to control your wavering mind, but are still plagued by recurring thoughts, it may not be a lack of effort, but rather the wrong approach.
Have you ever tried to "stop" a thought from occurring or force it into a better, more positive thought? This book fundamentally changes your perspective on thoughts, arguing that such attempts are inherently impossible.
It is not about ‘cutting off thoughts’, but about ‘keeping distance from thoughts’, also known as ‘distancing’.
The message the author, who graduated from medical school and has been developing digital psychotherapy programs, wants to convey through distancing is clear.
“Thoughts are not me.” Those who do not understand this truth will fall into a vicious cycle of constantly ruminating on their thoughts. However, those who understand this truth can lead their lives proactively, even when negative thoughts arise in their minds.
This book scientifically explains the principles of distancing based on the latest psychological and mental health theories, but it is by no means a difficult scientific or psychological theory book.
It is focused on practical methods that readers can put into practice immediately.
This book, which has already shown clinical effectiveness in over 30,000 users, is a groundbreaking mind training method that will help you live a happy life today by wisely living with the depression, anxiety, self-reproach, and obsession that arise in your mind, rather than forcibly suppressing them.
Whether you let the thousand unwanted thoughts briefly pop into your mind and pass away, or whether they will haunt you forever, depends on how you use this book.
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index
Opening remarks: Starting with appropriate social distancing
Prologue Why are we so miserable?
Chapter 1.
[Thoughts] Distance from thoughts
Rule 1.
The 'thinking me' is an illusion
Rule 2.
Thoughts are automatic
Rule 3.
Thoughts have symbolic effects
Rule 4.
Problems arise when thoughts are too close to each other.
Rule 5.
Thoughts come in bundles
* Appropriate Distance Training 1: Separating Your Thoughts
Rule 6.
Attention is the intention of 'me'
* Appropriate Social Distancing Training 2: Regaining Attention
Rule 7.
A thought is a psychological event
* Appropriate Distance Training 3: Noticing Your Thoughts
Rule 8.
The idea is inaccurate
* Appropriate Distance Training 4: Dealing with Thinking Traps - Lack of Evidence
Rule 9.
Thoughts are biased towards the negative
* Appropriate Distance Training 5: Dealing with Thinking Traps - Negativity Bias
Rule 10.
Thinking is 'me'-centered
* Appropriate Distance Training 6: Dealing with the Thinking Trap - Over-Responsibility
Chapter 2.
[Emotion] Willing to experience
Rule 11.
The more you dodge, the stronger you become.
Rule 12.
Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.
Rule 13.
If you are willing to experience it, it won't be painful.
Rule 14.
Rumination is a vicious cycle.
* Appropriate Distance Training 7: Dealing with Thought Traps - Rumination
Rule 15.
There is no such thing as inherently good or bad.
* Appropriate Distance Training 8: Dealing with Thinking Traps - Assessment
Rule 16.
A sensation is a psychological event.
* Appropriate Distance Training 9: Acquiring Sensory Vocabulary
* Appropriate Distance Training 10: Becoming Aware of Your Sensations - Nonverbal Bodily Expressions, Body Scan, Muscle Relaxation, Grounding
Rule 17.
Emotions are psychological events.
* Appropriate Distance Training 11: Acquiring Emotional Vocabulary
* Appropriate Distance Training 12: Recognizing Emotions
Rule 18.
My story is not about me
* Appropriate Distance Training 13: Dealing with Thought Traps - Conceptualization
Rule 19.
Belief is also just a thought
Rule 20.
'I' am an illusion
* Appropriate Social Distancing Training 14: Recognizing Yourself
Chapter 3.
[Action] Moving towards values
Rule 21.
Freedom is the ability to choose.
Rule 22.
Experience avoidance is a vicious cycle.
Appropriate Social Distancing Training 15: Analyzing the Vicious Cycle
Rule 23.
The focus should be on values, not thoughts.
Rule 24.
Value is the direction of life I choose at every moment.
Rule 25.
Avoidance and persistence are not worth it.
* Appropriate Distancing Training 16: Clarifying Values
* Appropriate Social Distancing Training 17: Affirming Values
Rule 26.
Value is a virtuous cycle
* Appropriate Social Distancing Training 18: Analyzing Virtuous Cycles
Rule 27.
Actions are not thoughts, they are what 'I' do.
Rule 28.
Actions should be strengthened in stages.
* Appropriate Social Distancing Training 19: Setting Step-by-Step Goals
Rule 29.
Value is not in effort, but in dedication.
* Appropriate Social Distancing Training 20: Setting Step-by-Step Goals
Rule 30.
Life exists in every moment
Closing Thoughts: Distance Yourself from Thoughts and Move Forward with Values
Prologue Why are we so miserable?
Chapter 1.
[Thoughts] Distance from thoughts
Rule 1.
The 'thinking me' is an illusion
Rule 2.
Thoughts are automatic
Rule 3.
Thoughts have symbolic effects
Rule 4.
Problems arise when thoughts are too close to each other.
Rule 5.
Thoughts come in bundles
* Appropriate Distance Training 1: Separating Your Thoughts
Rule 6.
Attention is the intention of 'me'
* Appropriate Social Distancing Training 2: Regaining Attention
Rule 7.
A thought is a psychological event
* Appropriate Distance Training 3: Noticing Your Thoughts
Rule 8.
The idea is inaccurate
* Appropriate Distance Training 4: Dealing with Thinking Traps - Lack of Evidence
Rule 9.
Thoughts are biased towards the negative
* Appropriate Distance Training 5: Dealing with Thinking Traps - Negativity Bias
Rule 10.
Thinking is 'me'-centered
* Appropriate Distance Training 6: Dealing with the Thinking Trap - Over-Responsibility
Chapter 2.
[Emotion] Willing to experience
Rule 11.
The more you dodge, the stronger you become.
Rule 12.
Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.
Rule 13.
If you are willing to experience it, it won't be painful.
Rule 14.
Rumination is a vicious cycle.
* Appropriate Distance Training 7: Dealing with Thought Traps - Rumination
Rule 15.
There is no such thing as inherently good or bad.
* Appropriate Distance Training 8: Dealing with Thinking Traps - Assessment
Rule 16.
A sensation is a psychological event.
* Appropriate Distance Training 9: Acquiring Sensory Vocabulary
* Appropriate Distance Training 10: Becoming Aware of Your Sensations - Nonverbal Bodily Expressions, Body Scan, Muscle Relaxation, Grounding
Rule 17.
Emotions are psychological events.
* Appropriate Distance Training 11: Acquiring Emotional Vocabulary
* Appropriate Distance Training 12: Recognizing Emotions
Rule 18.
My story is not about me
* Appropriate Distance Training 13: Dealing with Thought Traps - Conceptualization
Rule 19.
Belief is also just a thought
Rule 20.
'I' am an illusion
* Appropriate Social Distancing Training 14: Recognizing Yourself
Chapter 3.
[Action] Moving towards values
Rule 21.
Freedom is the ability to choose.
Rule 22.
Experience avoidance is a vicious cycle.
Appropriate Social Distancing Training 15: Analyzing the Vicious Cycle
Rule 23.
The focus should be on values, not thoughts.
Rule 24.
Value is the direction of life I choose at every moment.
Rule 25.
Avoidance and persistence are not worth it.
* Appropriate Distancing Training 16: Clarifying Values
* Appropriate Social Distancing Training 17: Affirming Values
Rule 26.
Value is a virtuous cycle
* Appropriate Social Distancing Training 18: Analyzing Virtuous Cycles
Rule 27.
Actions are not thoughts, they are what 'I' do.
Rule 28.
Actions should be strengthened in stages.
* Appropriate Social Distancing Training 19: Setting Step-by-Step Goals
Rule 29.
Value is not in effort, but in dedication.
* Appropriate Social Distancing Training 20: Setting Step-by-Step Goals
Rule 30.
Life exists in every moment
Closing Thoughts: Distance Yourself from Thoughts and Move Forward with Values
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Into the book
When asked, “What does a thinker look like?” many people think of sculptor Auguste Rodin’s “The Thinker.”
The sight of someone sitting in a chair, staring intently into one spot, makes us believe that humans think actively and with intention.
But this belief is clearly a mistake.
--- p.33, from “Thoughts are automatic”
Solving a problem begins with properly recognizing it.
Until now, your interest has been in the content of your thoughts.
It was a negative thought.
That was a better idea.
It was a way to think in a better direction.
But they are not a big problem.
The bigger problem is that we look too closely at our thoughts and struggle to subdue them.
Taking a step back and looking at your thoughts opens up a completely different perspective.
I may not identify my thoughts with myself.
--- pp.48-49, from “Problems arise when thoughts are close to each other”
An empty mind is not our goal.
The more you try to stop thinking, the more you think.
The more you dodge, the stronger you become.
All methods known to heal the mind are not intended to eliminate or control pain.
It's simply a process of redefining your relationship with your thoughts and learning to respond more flexibly to the thoughts in your mind.
Happiness, peace, and relaxation cannot be the ultimate goal.
Rather, we can achieve a deeper and more essential freedom only by truly understanding and accepting that it is impossible to fill every moment with such emotions.
--- pp.117-118, from "The More You Avoid, the Stronger You Get"
It is natural to not want to have negative thoughts or feelings.
But this practice won't completely eliminate them.
Instead, you can learn to relate more comfortably to your emotions.
Being able to observe the psychological events that arise in my mind means that the entity called 'I' is a larger vessel that can contain them.
I am willing to acknowledge them, accept them, and experience them.
When you can accept this fact with your heart, not your head, through consistent practice, your life will have already changed dramatically.
--- pp.184-185, from “Emotion is a psychological event”
It is actually unnatural for us to identify ourselves with our inner psychological events, especially our thoughts.
You don't consider yourself to be vomiting.
Although vomit comes from the body, we perceive it as something foreign and unpleasant.
Thoughts, like vomit, arise and pass away, but we cannot let them flow away like vomit.
This is ultimately a problem that arises because we do not know what ‘I’ am.
But when we become aware of ourselves, we come to understand that all the things that come to mind do not define who we are.
--- pp.216-217, from “‘I’ am an illusion”
If one day you feel heavy and don't want to lift a finger, and the story I'm telling you now pops into your mind like popcorn, raise your right hand very high.
Even if you don't feel like it, let's just do it.
You will see with your own eyes that you can choose to act independently of your thoughts.
I can choose to distance myself from my thoughts.
Starting from the value, from the outside in.
This is the key to behavior change.
--- pp.284-285, from “Action is not a thought, but something that ‘I’ do”
Don't let anger or frustration shake you.
Let's not look at them from a close distance and mull over our thoughts.
Thoughts and feelings are not 'me'.
All we can do is make it clear that it is our responsibility to choose to move forward with values, and then make that choice and act accordingly.
Life is something you lead yourself, and there is no such thing as failure, at least in terms of 'direction'.
Even if it seems trivial, let us willingly move towards our values step by step, gradually, and honestly.
The sight of someone sitting in a chair, staring intently into one spot, makes us believe that humans think actively and with intention.
But this belief is clearly a mistake.
--- p.33, from “Thoughts are automatic”
Solving a problem begins with properly recognizing it.
Until now, your interest has been in the content of your thoughts.
It was a negative thought.
That was a better idea.
It was a way to think in a better direction.
But they are not a big problem.
The bigger problem is that we look too closely at our thoughts and struggle to subdue them.
Taking a step back and looking at your thoughts opens up a completely different perspective.
I may not identify my thoughts with myself.
--- pp.48-49, from “Problems arise when thoughts are close to each other”
An empty mind is not our goal.
The more you try to stop thinking, the more you think.
The more you dodge, the stronger you become.
All methods known to heal the mind are not intended to eliminate or control pain.
It's simply a process of redefining your relationship with your thoughts and learning to respond more flexibly to the thoughts in your mind.
Happiness, peace, and relaxation cannot be the ultimate goal.
Rather, we can achieve a deeper and more essential freedom only by truly understanding and accepting that it is impossible to fill every moment with such emotions.
--- pp.117-118, from "The More You Avoid, the Stronger You Get"
It is natural to not want to have negative thoughts or feelings.
But this practice won't completely eliminate them.
Instead, you can learn to relate more comfortably to your emotions.
Being able to observe the psychological events that arise in my mind means that the entity called 'I' is a larger vessel that can contain them.
I am willing to acknowledge them, accept them, and experience them.
When you can accept this fact with your heart, not your head, through consistent practice, your life will have already changed dramatically.
--- pp.184-185, from “Emotion is a psychological event”
It is actually unnatural for us to identify ourselves with our inner psychological events, especially our thoughts.
You don't consider yourself to be vomiting.
Although vomit comes from the body, we perceive it as something foreign and unpleasant.
Thoughts, like vomit, arise and pass away, but we cannot let them flow away like vomit.
This is ultimately a problem that arises because we do not know what ‘I’ am.
But when we become aware of ourselves, we come to understand that all the things that come to mind do not define who we are.
--- pp.216-217, from “‘I’ am an illusion”
If one day you feel heavy and don't want to lift a finger, and the story I'm telling you now pops into your mind like popcorn, raise your right hand very high.
Even if you don't feel like it, let's just do it.
You will see with your own eyes that you can choose to act independently of your thoughts.
I can choose to distance myself from my thoughts.
Starting from the value, from the outside in.
This is the key to behavior change.
--- pp.284-285, from “Action is not a thought, but something that ‘I’ do”
Don't let anger or frustration shake you.
Let's not look at them from a close distance and mull over our thoughts.
Thoughts and feelings are not 'me'.
All we can do is make it clear that it is our responsibility to choose to move forward with values, and then make that choice and act accordingly.
Life is something you lead yourself, and there is no such thing as failure, at least in terms of 'direction'.
Even if it seems trivial, let us willingly move towards our values step by step, gradually, and honestly.
--- pp.288-289, from “Actions must be strengthened in stages”
Publisher's Review
★The Psychology of Appropriate Distance by Hong Seung-joo, a Startup CEO and Graduate of Seoul National University College of Medicine
★A practical guide to mental health based on mindfulness, brain science, and cognitive psychology.
★30 Psychological Laws and 20 Practical Training Methods to Control Overthinking
“The ultimate principle discovered by the masters of mind cultivation over thousands of years is
It all comes down to ‘distancing’, keeping your thoughts at a distance!”
From meditation and mindfulness to the latest cognitive psychology and brain science.
A scientific and systematic mind training method that penetrates the essence of psychological problems.
Distancing, which means keeping a distance from one's own thoughts, is not a new concept.
From meditation, which has been preached as enlightenment for thousands of years, to the message of Buddha in Buddhist philosophy, to the psychoanalysis of Freud, Jung, and Adler, to modern psychotherapies like cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), all efforts to master the mind are in fact processes of practicing distancing.
Major self-help books that have made waves worldwide address the secrets of distancing, and speeches by people who have achieved profound enlightenment in difficult lives also focus on distancing.
Whether it's therapy, religion, or self-development, the essence of everything converges on distancing.
The author, who dreams of a world where more people can truly understand and observe their own minds, has compiled the ultimate principles discovered by masters of mind training over thousands of years into a mind training tool that anyone can practice.
That's how the digital psychotherapy program "Distance," which has secured over 30,000 users, came into the world, and this book organizes its principles and practical methods more clearly and systematically.
The 30 distancing principles included in this book go beyond fragmented knowledge to help you gain a holistic understanding of the mind and guide you to look at mental health issues from a more fundamental perspective.
At this time, spiritual or metaphysical content was excluded, and only scientific content based on psychology and mental health theory was organized so that anyone can intuitively understand and easily put into practice.
In today's world, where it's safe to say no one is immune to psychological challenges, distancing may be the most powerful tool we have to help us take care of our own minds.
Now, through distancing, let's establish a completely new relationship with our inner selves and move beyond apathy and emptiness to find hope, health, and happiness.
“Why do so many psychology books, meditation, and counseling therapies not work?”
Separate myself from the thoughts that bother me and the feelings of suffering,
A fundamental psychological healing book that helps you discover your true self.
As mental health issues become more prevalent, more people are seeking mental health care through psychological treatments, meditation, and counseling.
However, this method often does not provide a fundamental solution.
Why? Because we try to control thoughts like anxiety and depression.
As an example, the author cites a clumsy meditation instructor who demands that one 'empty one's mind'.
People see meditation instructors promising a peaceful state free from worry and confusion, and they deny their own 'too many thoughts' and become preoccupied with eliminating them.
Using meditation as a means to avoid thoughts.
But this is a mistake that occurs because we do not understand the principle by which thoughts arise in our minds.
The author explains why we should not mistake our thoughts for ourselves, saying, “The ‘thinking me’ is an illusion.”
Because thoughts are something that is outside of my control in the first place.
According to the author, we often think that we can actively choose our thoughts, but thoughts just pop into our minds.
Therefore, we should neither identify with thoughts as ourselves nor believe their contents at face value.
If we do not understand this principle, we will become obsessed with eliminating, changing, correcting, and eliminating the content of our thoughts, and such efforts will only deepen the vicious cycle of thinking.
This is why the author emphasizes that we must change our 'relationship' with our thoughts, not the 'content' of our thoughts.
Without distancing, mindfulness and psychotherapy can devolve into another trap. Only by distancing ourselves from our thoughts and understanding them objectively can all our efforts truly shine.
“The moment I understood the 30 rules, my life became clearly organized!”
To live wisely together without being swayed by negative thoughts and emotions
30 Laws of the Mind and 20 Mental Trainings
The book begins with the principles of how thoughts arise, and expands the story to include emotions and even a happy life.
Chapter 1, "Keeping a Distance from Thoughts," covers the principles of how thoughts arise in our minds and how they are distorted, and teaches us how to keep an appropriate distance from them.
Chapter 2, "Willing to Experience," explains why emotions like anger and even sensations like pain should not be taken at face value, and provides ways to maturely accept them.
To this end, the author presents six thinking traps, allowing readers to directly score and visually observe how and how easily their thoughts and emotions are biased and distorted.
But when we question what thoughts, feelings, and sensations are, we inevitably face one question:
The question is, “If thoughts, feelings, and sensations are not mine, then who am I?”
So, Chapter 3, “Moving Toward Values,” teaches you how to choose the life you truly want, by distancing yourself from thoughts, emotions, and sensations.
The author emphasizes that the path to freedom lies not in simply meeting the expectations of others or pursuing outwardly appealing values, but in discovering and practicing the values that spring from within.
Another thing to note about this book is that instead of listing the 30 laws in isolation, they are logically interconnected.
The rules you learn before are designed to naturally connect to the rules that come after, so that you gain deeper insight as you learn.
It is also about learning the 20 rules in Chapters 1 and 2 to properly move towards the ultimate goal of a 'valuable life'.
After reading the last thirty laws, readers will find themselves a completely different person than when they read the first law.
“Let’s think better.” “Think positively.” “This is a more correct mindset.” The author speaks to those who have tried tirelessly to change their thinking but have ultimately become exhausted.
"Haven't we already tried that method countless times? We need a completely different perspective, a more systematic approach." Through this book, which helps readers strengthen their weakened mental strength, readers will finally be able to fully enjoy this moment, this happy day.
★A practical guide to mental health based on mindfulness, brain science, and cognitive psychology.
★30 Psychological Laws and 20 Practical Training Methods to Control Overthinking
“The ultimate principle discovered by the masters of mind cultivation over thousands of years is
It all comes down to ‘distancing’, keeping your thoughts at a distance!”
From meditation and mindfulness to the latest cognitive psychology and brain science.
A scientific and systematic mind training method that penetrates the essence of psychological problems.
Distancing, which means keeping a distance from one's own thoughts, is not a new concept.
From meditation, which has been preached as enlightenment for thousands of years, to the message of Buddha in Buddhist philosophy, to the psychoanalysis of Freud, Jung, and Adler, to modern psychotherapies like cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), all efforts to master the mind are in fact processes of practicing distancing.
Major self-help books that have made waves worldwide address the secrets of distancing, and speeches by people who have achieved profound enlightenment in difficult lives also focus on distancing.
Whether it's therapy, religion, or self-development, the essence of everything converges on distancing.
The author, who dreams of a world where more people can truly understand and observe their own minds, has compiled the ultimate principles discovered by masters of mind training over thousands of years into a mind training tool that anyone can practice.
That's how the digital psychotherapy program "Distance," which has secured over 30,000 users, came into the world, and this book organizes its principles and practical methods more clearly and systematically.
The 30 distancing principles included in this book go beyond fragmented knowledge to help you gain a holistic understanding of the mind and guide you to look at mental health issues from a more fundamental perspective.
At this time, spiritual or metaphysical content was excluded, and only scientific content based on psychology and mental health theory was organized so that anyone can intuitively understand and easily put into practice.
In today's world, where it's safe to say no one is immune to psychological challenges, distancing may be the most powerful tool we have to help us take care of our own minds.
Now, through distancing, let's establish a completely new relationship with our inner selves and move beyond apathy and emptiness to find hope, health, and happiness.
“Why do so many psychology books, meditation, and counseling therapies not work?”
Separate myself from the thoughts that bother me and the feelings of suffering,
A fundamental psychological healing book that helps you discover your true self.
As mental health issues become more prevalent, more people are seeking mental health care through psychological treatments, meditation, and counseling.
However, this method often does not provide a fundamental solution.
Why? Because we try to control thoughts like anxiety and depression.
As an example, the author cites a clumsy meditation instructor who demands that one 'empty one's mind'.
People see meditation instructors promising a peaceful state free from worry and confusion, and they deny their own 'too many thoughts' and become preoccupied with eliminating them.
Using meditation as a means to avoid thoughts.
But this is a mistake that occurs because we do not understand the principle by which thoughts arise in our minds.
The author explains why we should not mistake our thoughts for ourselves, saying, “The ‘thinking me’ is an illusion.”
Because thoughts are something that is outside of my control in the first place.
According to the author, we often think that we can actively choose our thoughts, but thoughts just pop into our minds.
Therefore, we should neither identify with thoughts as ourselves nor believe their contents at face value.
If we do not understand this principle, we will become obsessed with eliminating, changing, correcting, and eliminating the content of our thoughts, and such efforts will only deepen the vicious cycle of thinking.
This is why the author emphasizes that we must change our 'relationship' with our thoughts, not the 'content' of our thoughts.
Without distancing, mindfulness and psychotherapy can devolve into another trap. Only by distancing ourselves from our thoughts and understanding them objectively can all our efforts truly shine.
“The moment I understood the 30 rules, my life became clearly organized!”
To live wisely together without being swayed by negative thoughts and emotions
30 Laws of the Mind and 20 Mental Trainings
The book begins with the principles of how thoughts arise, and expands the story to include emotions and even a happy life.
Chapter 1, "Keeping a Distance from Thoughts," covers the principles of how thoughts arise in our minds and how they are distorted, and teaches us how to keep an appropriate distance from them.
Chapter 2, "Willing to Experience," explains why emotions like anger and even sensations like pain should not be taken at face value, and provides ways to maturely accept them.
To this end, the author presents six thinking traps, allowing readers to directly score and visually observe how and how easily their thoughts and emotions are biased and distorted.
But when we question what thoughts, feelings, and sensations are, we inevitably face one question:
The question is, “If thoughts, feelings, and sensations are not mine, then who am I?”
So, Chapter 3, “Moving Toward Values,” teaches you how to choose the life you truly want, by distancing yourself from thoughts, emotions, and sensations.
The author emphasizes that the path to freedom lies not in simply meeting the expectations of others or pursuing outwardly appealing values, but in discovering and practicing the values that spring from within.
Another thing to note about this book is that instead of listing the 30 laws in isolation, they are logically interconnected.
The rules you learn before are designed to naturally connect to the rules that come after, so that you gain deeper insight as you learn.
It is also about learning the 20 rules in Chapters 1 and 2 to properly move towards the ultimate goal of a 'valuable life'.
After reading the last thirty laws, readers will find themselves a completely different person than when they read the first law.
“Let’s think better.” “Think positively.” “This is a more correct mindset.” The author speaks to those who have tried tirelessly to change their thinking but have ultimately become exhausted.
"Haven't we already tried that method countless times? We need a completely different perspective, a more systematic approach." Through this book, which helps readers strengthen their weakened mental strength, readers will finally be able to fully enjoy this moment, this happy day.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: March 14, 2025
- Page count, weight, size: 320 pages | 592g | 152*225*20mm
- ISBN13: 9791130665009
- ISBN10: 1130665003
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