“Let me explain how to use luck by comparing it to filling a vessel with water.
Even if the same person fills a bowl of the same size with water, the result can be different depending on how they use luck.
In some cases, you can fill the bowl with water and even grow the bowl.
On the other hand, you may not even be able to fill one-tenth of your bowl, with only water rippling at the bottom.”
Seo-yoon paused for a moment after saying this, then spoke in a more clear tone.
“To sum up, realistically, using luck effectively means filling your bowl with water efficiently.”
“Ah, so in the end, even if you meet the same luck, it all depends on what that person does.
“Hearing it, the concept of ‘using luck’ seems to have a subjective and active meaning.”
--- p.41

Seo-yoon, who had been listening intently to Ho-jeong's words while making eye contact with her with sincerity, spoke with emphasis on each word as if sending positive energy.
“You can certainly think that way.
But what I really want you to remember is that even at the moment when you think luck is passing you by, fate is still showing you favor.”
Ho-jeong opened his eyes wide and asked back.
“Huh? A favor?”
Seoyoon nodded with a faint smile and answered.

"yes that's right.
It's called the favor of fate.
Usually, when something bad happens or there are small signs that a crisis is about to occur, we tend to write ourselves a doomsday scenario.
We recall past bad experiences and predict that something unfortunate will happen.
But even in those moments when we feel negative emotions, fate is showing us favor.”
--- p.51

“Having the right perspective is an important starting point for leveraging your luck.
What I want to talk about here is Favor's perspective.
Even if you encounter bad luck, you know that there is a favor from fate behind it and you move forward with the intention of taking advantage of that luck.
“You could also say that it is an attitude of dealing with luck in a more subjective and proactive way.”
People were listening intently to Seoyoon's words.

“Favor’s perspective is different from a passive view of luck.
If you take a passive stance, when the weather is bad, there is no other way but to wait for the weather to improve.”
“Oh, I see.
It's just waiting desperately for good luck to come.
“I think there are quite a few people around me who look at luck from that perspective.”
--- p.58

“If we look at luck from the perspective of our favorite, we are beings with the potential to grow with luck.
“When we recognize that possibility, take advantage of luck, and move forward, we can become ‘a better version of ourselves.’”
Before she knew it, the attendees were absorbed in her story.
“If we recognize the favor that fate bestows upon us, I believe there is no longer any such thing as ‘good luck’ or ‘bad luck.’
“There is only ‘luck for growing up’ and ‘luck for maturity.’”
Jae-yeon, who had been listening intently as if trying not to miss a single word Seo-yoon said, spoke without realizing it.
“In the end, it means that even bad luck can be used as a foundation for maturity.”
--- p.64

Seoyoon's voice had the power to calm people's hearts.
“But what we must remember is that anxiety is not an emotion that harms me.
Rather, it is a grateful hand that fate has prepared to awaken us.”
Seoyoon gave them a moment to think, and then opened her mouth again after confirming that everyone's expressions had relaxed somewhat.
This time the tone was more firm.
“After analyzing countless cases, I can tell you with certainty that anxiety does not necessarily lead to bad luck.
Rather, if you feel a relatively strong sense of anxiety or it continues, it can be a good opportunity to go with the flow of luck.”
--- p.74

“What we have in our hands right now may not necessarily be the best.
To receive the better gifts that fate has to offer, you must be able to open your hands and let go of what you are holding in them.
But it’s usually not easy to let go of it.”
People nodded as if they sympathized.

“The anxiety that has come now may be a favor from fate that is trying to make you let go of what you are holding in your hands.
If we can accept the signals that fortune gives us at this time, take the necessary actions, and learn the lessons we need to learn, the best things will ultimately be in our hands.”
People nodded their heads.
Seoyoon smiled briefly, then slowly looked around at the people with warm eyes.
Then he spoke in a soft but clear tone.

“Life is a journey of finding the many different aspects of myself and integrating them into one.
In other words, it is a process of awakening and meeting the new 'me' within you, and loving the self you meet in the process.
This is also where the meaning of times when anxiety comes strongly lies.
This is the time when we must awaken our ‘action-taking self.’
I hope you will welcome me and love me a lot when you meet me like that.”
--- p.106

"yes.
It's quite common for something that seems unexpectedly bad to happen at the very moment when good luck begins.
That incident can lead to a change in behavior, a learning curve, or significant growth.
Or maybe you meet a good person.”
Before they knew it, people had turned their gaze away from Jihyuk and were concentrating on Seoyoon's words.
“For example, when it is time to meet a good person, there are cases where you break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend because an unexpected negative side of them is revealed.
“Sometimes things that seem bad happen for a while in order to meet someone better.”
Seoyoon continued her explanation.
“Conversely, at the beginning of a period of bad luck, events that at first glance appear to be good things may occur.
But things like that can put you at great risk in the long run.”
--- p.132

“The reason people who reach their prime in the second half of their lives are better at making the most of good luck is because they have a resilience to hardship.
In fact, no matter how much good luck you have, difficulties big and small are bound to follow in the process of unfolding that luck.”
Seoyoon continued her explanation.
“People who have naturally built up resilience to hardships by going through hardships in their youth are able to accept and overcome difficulties with relative ease.
“It’s the same principle that growing up with moderate exposure to bacteria boosts immunity rather than growing up in a sterile environment.”
The attendees nodded in agreement.
“They also realize their limitations through difficult experiences, so when good luck comes, they don’t make reckless attempts.
And then, step by step, you will achieve what you want.
“Because I know how to admit that I might be wrong, I’m better at collaborating with others and am more flexible in accepting new solutions.”
--- p.143

“We achieve the individuation that Carl Jung spoke of by completing the tasks given to us by luck during our growth and maturity stages.
“That’s when I find my true self.”
“But, author, to be honest, I only want to grow, not mature.”
When Injae cracked a joke, everyone burst into laughter.
Seoyoon also showed a bright smile and answered affectionately.
"that's right.
Most people would do that.
But actually, what's more important is luck for maturity rather than growth.
In fact, most people often repeat the same patterns throughout their lives.
And then we live a life without development.
“It’s like a fractal, where a simple structure repeats endlessly to form a whole.”
Seoyoon continued speaking calmly.
“To avoid being trapped in this fractal, we must accept the luck that leads to maturity and properly carry out the tasks that luck gives us.
As we move forward like that, we can evolve in a spiral and grow into a better version of ourselves.”
--- p.150

“Finally, there are those who hope for a ‘silver bullet’ in the process of acting out, fueled by anxiety.
I think there must be a way to solve the problem once and for all.
But at times like these, we must let go of the illusion of a silver bullet.”
Sangwoo nodded vigorously, as if agreeing with Seoyoon's words.
“Silver bullet” is a word that developers use a lot, so I am familiar with it.
To be honest, there was a time when I was developing a game and was hoping for a powerful hit.
When a well-made game comes out from a competitor, I feel anxious and struggle to find a way to dramatically improve performance in a short period of time.
I even hoped that some genius developer would just drop from the sky and solve all these problems.”
As if embarrassed, Sangwoo finished speaking with an embarrassed expression.
Seoyoon comforted Sangwoo like that.
“Still, that’s fortunate.
In fact, in times like these, out of impatience, there are times when we resort to forced expedients or even resort to incorrect methods.”
--- p.173

“Let me compare the anxiety we face now to a cloud.
You could say that as anxiety intensifies, the clouds get darker.
Then it may turn into dark clouds and eventually bring rain, wind, or a storm.”
People listened intently to Seoyoon's words.
“But if we perceive anxiety differently, it can become the starting point for the clouds to disperse.
As the clouds slowly disperse, the light hidden behind them begins to reveal itself.”
--- p.229

Seoyoon nodded as if to reassure him and answered.
“Yes, there is some common ground.
This process can be explained by the spiral growth model.
If you follow the spiral growth model, at first it may seem like you're going around in circles, but at some point you'll find yourself one step higher than before.
Just as Toynbee said that the history of the world develops in a spiral, our history also develops in that way.”
Seoyoon continued her explanation with a smile on her face.
“And as we draw this spiral upward curve, we become more and more like ourselves.
As my self-esteem builds up, my self-esteem naturally rises.
As a result, you become increasingly free from comparisons with others.
Because I realized that within my destiny, there is good fortune prepared just for me.”
--- p.238

Seoyoon spoke, looking into each and every one of the attendees' eyes.
“As we go through life, we often experience things that make us wonder, ‘Why did this happen in my life?’
It could be an event that caused pain or hurt, or it could be an experience that left a big impression.”
People paused for a moment, each recalling their memories.
“If you look at it from the perspective of achieving spiral growth, you can see that as part of the growth process.
Realizing this can help you understand a little more about why things happened that way, and even help you learn from it in your next adventure.”
Seoyoon's words flowed like water.
“Of course, that doesn’t mean the wound will completely heal or that the pain will disappear.
But I will be able to accept that event as a part of my life and at the same time understand that it was a necessary piece to complete the wonderful puzzle that is my life.”
--- p.245

“One more thing to add is that in this spiral growth, your strengths, abilities, and the impression you give to others often develop together.
The strengths and abilities developed at this time play a key role in utilizing each person's luck.
“As you become more and more like yourself through spiral growth, the positive abilities within you naturally blossom.”
People were falling for Seoyoon's voice.

“Also, the strengths revealed through this process are often completely different from the strengths you previously knew.
Sometimes, what you thought was a weakness can actually turn out to be a strength.”
Seoyoon said with sparkling eyes.
“The important thing is that spiraling growth and becoming a ‘better me’ doesn’t mean you become a completely different person than you are now.
Rather, it makes me get closer to my true self.”
--- p.249

“In fact, the most effective way to cultivate a vessel is through a noble person.”
Seoyoon's explanation continued like flowing water.
“To do that, two things are important: the ability to recognize a noble person and loyalty to that person.
Among them, I will first explain about royalty.
Among the sayings of Yulgok Yi I, there is a saying, 'A gentleman takes righteousness as his foundation, and a petty man takes profit as his foundation.'
I believe that the righteousness I am talking about here has something in common with the loyalty I am talking about.”
(syncopation)
Seoyoon nodded slightly and continued speaking slowly, making eye contact with each member.
“Loyalty is a precious spiritual asset that you possess.
Since it is something so valuable, it should be given to someone who deserves it.
So I urge you to be especially careful when choosing the object of your loyalty.
Going one step further, you should also remember that ‘trust’ and ‘faith’ are different.”
--- p.275

“There is something I really need to say about openness.
While it's important to be open-minded during uncertain times, it's best to keep your Agreeableness level low.
“It’s okay to be wrong, but try to reduce your efforts to get along with others.”
“Oh, so you’re saying that being open-minded and meeting a lot of people are different things?”
Seoyoon smiled and responded to Injae's words, which seemed to have realized something.
"yes.
In times of uncertainty, it is important to focus your energy solely on yourself.
Of course, if you have a trustworthy expert or someone you can confide in, it's okay to communicate.
But you have to be careful about showing your anxiety.
“From a luck perspective, at that time, you could easily be taken advantage of by others.”
--- p.302

“As long as you breathe, there is a chance of luck.
In fact, if you look at cases, good luck often comes to people in their 60s and even in their 90s.
If you use that luck well, you can live a happy and comfortable life.
However, it is sad that there are people who give up the good fortune that has been given to them just because they are getting older.”
(syncopation)
Seoyoon took a moment to catch her breath and then continued speaking calmly.
“If you are tied down by age stereotypes, it is easy to become anxious when you cannot keep up with the timetable set by the world.
At times like that, you might think, 'That person achieved this much in their 40s, so why couldn't I?'
I hope you remember that your own time will come, knowing that your own timetable may be different from that of that person.
“I have my own schedule.”
--- p.312

“Luck always presents us with another opportunity to heal our past.
The important thing here is to recognize and believe that we have the power to heal.”
Seoyoon's sincere words had the power to comfort people's hearts.
“If we believe in ourselves and learn from the life we ​​have lived, we can use our emotions to choose the right path.
If you go through that process and make the right choice, you can accept the wounds of the past as your own and still grow to the next level.”
(syncopation)
Seoyoon's story continued.
“If we don't simply endure life, trapped in the pain and anxiety of the past, but instead move forward feeling alive in this moment, we can truly become people who hold the keys to our own destiny.”
After saying this, Seo-yoon gave the members a moment to think before adding clearly and calmly.
“Holding the key to destiny here doesn’t mean forging a path where none existed or clearing away a mountain of obstacles to pave the way.
I know that the best path is already prepared for me, and I just need to discover it.
“We’ll look at what the best path is until the next fork in the road comes.”

--- p.330