Opening remarks

Just by listening to Chapter 1 carefully

Language is the house of being
Every day I'm nagging
27 minutes and 30 seconds
low and slow
You are not alone
A day without saying a word
You are like the sunshine of a spring day
Turn off navigation
A word from the director
Manager Syndrome
Slowly and steadily

Chapter 2 Understanding Language is a Miracle

We live in the same house as people from other countries.
Should I ask your name?
Up is a beat late
I'm on your side no matter what
The back is more important
A gentle person is scary when he gets angry
Rejection is also slow
Because we are each other's mirrors
It's okay to laugh
Leave 10 percent
Like watering bean sprouts

Chapter 3 Sometimes a small salvation

Monologue becomes confession, and confession becomes salvation.
Beings like Pluto or Uranus
I was a morning salary person.
Until the mud settles
As I believe in you
The wrong train takes you to your destination.
We just met at the intersection
Circles, just circles
A person with 100 strengths
As if the string tied around my ankle had been released

Chapter 4: Practice of the 22-year lecture on speaking properly

Presentation is a battle of wits
Break through the wall
Teamwork is reaction
Don't write sentences
Yes, the power of the puppy
I learned it from my junior
A veteran announcer's practice method
There were 100 sheets, but there is only 1 sheet.
Try broadcasting alone
Half the battle is already won
Breathing is the rhythm of speech
It's okay to ask one more time
Organize, organize, organize again

Closing remarks

[Morning Plaza], [Human Theater], [Power Interview], etc.
Creating countless iconic programs and dramatic moments
Lee Geum-hee, a broadcaster with 33 years of experience who has established herself as a national announcer, is revealing for the first time
A communication method that opens the tightly closed heart and mouth of the other person.

“I’m stressed out again today because of the manager.
He gets angry and asks why you don't understand when I say it once.
“Am I really that incompetent?” While hosting the radio program [A Good Day to Love, This is Lee Geum-hee] live on the way home from work, the author often hears stories of people complaining about the hardships of work life.
In particular, lack of communication between superiors and employees is common.
Why is the manager frustrated and why are we upset because we don't understand?
There is only one reason: the manager missed 'who is listening' and 'who is speaking to'.
The most important person in speaking is the listener.
Speaking is the process of conveying a message to the other person and making them understand.
That is why the listener's understanding is more important than ever.
What if you tell your team members what you want to say to your team leader? They won't understand.
We must keep this in mind so that we do not make the same mistakes.
'Who is listening to what I'm saying now?'

There are people who can soften the situation with words at any moment.
Aren't those people good at understanding the other person's feelings?
A client who feels their bangs are too long may want their bangs cut a bit longer, but may also be curious about what other people will think of their bangs.
When you mention the image, you say that this length suits you well.
When you listen to what the other person is saying, you pay attention to the context rather than the text, and the context rather than the words, to understand why they are saying what they are saying.
It's about understanding the other person's feelings.
_p.75

Besides the above situation, it is natural to always find it difficult to speak and to lose confidence when speaking.
Because no one ever taught me properly.
Because I've never learned it.
However, speaking, which we have never learned, is essential for social life.
So, in 『Let's Talk Comfortably』, we talk about the basics of speaking in 4 chapters.
Chapter 1, “Just by Listening Well,” focuses on the topic that “listening must come first in order to speak properly,” and emphasizes the importance of listening as the beginning and end of relationships and the need to focus on what is being said.
Chapter 2, “Understanding Language is a Miracle,” introduces speaking methods that open the hearts of others.
As a host for a long time, I have met many people and realized that what attitude, look, and words can open the hearts of others?
It also provides thoughts to consider in order to communicate with people around you, and speaking methods that will keep the conversation going.


Chapter 3, “Sometimes a Small Salvation,” recommends some words of encouragement for oneself.
The author shares his experiences on the actions necessary to protect one's self-esteem and reflects on the importance of the conversations I have with myself.
Finally, Chapter 4, “Because I Never Learned to Speak Properly,” contains practical speaking practice methods that I have used in class for 22 years.
We introduce the essential skills and techniques for speaking well at a beginner's level.


“Presentation is a battle of wits.”
Moving other people's hearts
How to Create Soft Charisma
Lee Geum-hee's speaking class, where you listen with all your heart and don't miss anything you want to say.

“How can you be so confident that people will like you and speak so easily?” someone across from the author once asked him this question as he joined the after-party after hosting a book concert.
“I’ve seen you host broadcasts and performances many times.
You always talk comfortably.
“Everyone here will like me,” he said, as if he were thinking about it. The author said he didn’t know how to respond and just smiled and muddled along.
Then I thought about it carefully and realized that when I speak in front of people, I basically trust them.
If you believe and speak with the thought that 'these people will listen to my story', it will definitely bring about different results.
Of course, it's not easy to have this kind of confidence from the beginning, but maybe you can practice.


The 'sense of stability' and 'warmth' that the public feels when watching announcer Lee Geum-hee is actually the result of decades of intense practice.
To speak at your own pace in front of an audience, you need to have a 'fight' more than anything else.
In this book, the author asserts that "presentation is a battle of wits," and emphasizes that you should not be overwhelmed by people's wits from the moment you say "hello."
Of course, that confidence can be gained through sufficient preparation and practice.
Just like a musical actor practices a song 10,000 times, or prepares for a 5-minute segment on "Gag Concert" by repeating it 100-200 times.

I asked a comedian who was appearing with me a question.
How many times do you actually practice?
It varies from corner to corner, but they say they do it 100 to 200 times.
What happens if you practice that much?
I don't even have time to worry about forgetting my lines, because they just flow out of my mouth like a conditioned reflex.
It felt like it was being engraved into the cells rather than stored in the brain.
What we saw on television was not an innate talent for making others laugh, but rather hundreds of years of prepared effort to make others laugh.
Only effort can win the battle of wits.
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In this way, in 『Let's Speak Comfortably』, the author introduces the 'speaking practice method' that he has learned on his own and adapted from others' methods.
Among the anchors and actors who appear on TV, those who are somehow trustworthy speak quietly and slowly.
To make this clear, he reminds them of the importance of tone of voice by recommending, "Speak a little slower and in a slightly lower tone," or gives them the difficult task of picking out three words in one minute and saying them while mentally connecting them to convey a loud and lasting energy that will captivate people.
He emphasized that speaking in sentences only improves writing skills, not speaking.
He also revealed his own habit of collecting 100 pages of A4 material on a related topic to organize and store what he needs to say in his head, then reducing it to about 10 pages by underlining while reading, and then reducing those 10 pages to 3-4 pages, and finally to just 1 page.
Furthermore, through the timing of delivering words of comfort, it captures the essence of moments of sharing feelings that we have experienced but often forget, that words can resonate more deeply when left unsaid than when spoken.


“If there is someone you truly care about, just listen.”
22 years of teaching with over 2,000 juniors,
Over the past 15 years, we have had tea time with about 1,500 students.
The fundamentals of speaking emphasized by teacher and senior Lee Geum-hee

As he began giving lectures at his alma mater, the author realized his shortcomings more clearly than ever before and pondered what students most wanted from him.
Finally, I decided that students would want to see me as a 'senior' rather than a 'teacher', so I started having one-on-one meetings with students in my seventh year of teaching.
Through this period, which lasted for 15 years until he stopped teaching and called it 'Tea Time,' the author was able to directly experience the power of listening and conversation.
In this way, you too can give someone this feeling of being 'accepted' in a stable way.
"I'm listening to you. Feel free to talk. I'll listen." This attitude, born from this mindset, has a greater power than any advice or conversation.


When I first started teaching, I was full of enthusiasm.
It must have been very difficult for the students.
Every week, they gave us assignments, and they weren't easy ones.
At that time, the students were so docile that they followed along without raising any objections.
But after 3~4 years, I found out.
The reason why I filled in every hour so densely and gave homework every week.
It was because I lacked confidence.
[…] As five years passed and six years passed, I realized.
If you are lacking, you should be honest about it and do your best.
p.33-34

The more I talk, the more difficult it feels.
It is much more difficult to soothe the mind with words.
Besides, comfort is always bound to be awkward.
Because I and others are different.
No matter how much you love someone, you can never know their heart 100%.
Choi Jeong-hoon, the leader of the band Jannabi, praised the book, saying, “Our daily lives are a struggle between words, but if we have no choice but to find comfort and wisdom through words, I highly recommend this book.” He also encouraged us not to give up on speaking properly.
The author said that it was only after he left the podium that he began to think that the experience he had accumulated over 33 years in the broadcasting industry and the know-how he had acquired over 22 years as an adjunct professor could be of help to future generations.
“I always felt indebted to young people, even when I was teaching them.
As an adult, I wanted to live hard and make the world a better place, but I feel like I've ended up living in a world that's incomparably more difficult than before.
“I wrote this from memory, with the intention of repaying my debt to the youth.”

In life, a single word can show heaven to someone who has experienced hell, or it can suddenly push someone into a hell of mental suffering.
What kind of world do you open up to others?
As the author has broadcast widely, encompassing not only young people but also many generations, this book will instill confidence in everyone, regardless of their situation or environment.