Why do I keep blaming myself?
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Professor Jeon Hong-jin, author of Millie's Library's #1 best-selling book, "A Book for Highly Sensitive People," and YouTuber DrawAndrew strongly recommend it! How to truly look into your own heart, as taught by psychiatrist Heo Gyu-hyung. Have you ever felt like you couldn't properly articulate your emotions? Have you ever wanted to be independent from your parents, but felt tormented by the thought that you were abandoning them? Have you ever returned home from a hard day's work and felt depressed for no apparent reason? Are we okay now? Burnout, depression, panic, insomnia… . A psychiatrist who runs the YouTube channel [Brain Rich People] introduces real-life cases of patients he has experienced in the medical field to modern people who live busy lives, caught up in the struggles of making a living and competing. The author guides me to calmly look into my own mind, which I was not even aware of, and to get to know myself. Through this book, which carefully teaches readers how to care for themselves and others while caring for their wounded hearts, readers will learn to look at themselves with a little more kindness. |
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Author's Note: To enjoyably run the marathon called life
Part 1.
I Don't Know My Own Heart: Emotions and Feelings
- Could I have ADHD?: Attention and Concentration
- I don't know how I feel: feelings
- I'm not always depressed, but is it depression?: Mood
- I can't stop my voice from shaking: anxiety
- I can't stand being so angry: anger and rage
- I wish you knew my heart without me having to tell you everything: Theory of the Heart
I can stand hunger, but I can't stand stomachache: Pride and self-esteem
Part 2. Because MBTI alone can't describe me: Personality Type Test
- Am I normal like this?: Normal and Abnormal
- Is this my true personality? MBTI
- Can an extrovert be timid?: MBTI
- I feel like I'm the only one doing my best: Attachment Style Test
- I'm really fine, but why does my body hurt?: Defense mechanism
- It wasn't me, it was my hand that threw the object: MMPI and SCT
Would it be better to keep quiet than to make a slip of the tongue?: Temperament and Personality Inventory (TCI)
Part 3.
Social Life is a Second Self: Persona and Repression
- You can't live doing only what you want: Persona
- It's more comfortable to meet people wearing a mask: inferiority complex and complex
- I feel bad for not being able to stick to my plans: What I should do and what I can do.
- I feel suffocated as if something is stuck in my stomach: angina
- There are memories I want to hold on to and memories I want to let go of: Forgetfulness and Dementia
- Is this stress too?: Stress
Part 4.
They say the important thing is an unwavering spirit: self-will and nothing else.
- I don't think I can rely on anyone: Willpower and dependence / dopamine addiction
- I want to be independent from my parents: Gaslighting
- Are greetings a lie?: A white lie
- No matter how much weight you lose, you still look fat: Anorexia and bulimia
- I feel so weak that I can't even move a hand: lethargy
- I really want to meet you for a long time this time: Human Relationships
Recommendation
Part 1.
I Don't Know My Own Heart: Emotions and Feelings
- Could I have ADHD?: Attention and Concentration
- I don't know how I feel: feelings
- I'm not always depressed, but is it depression?: Mood
- I can't stop my voice from shaking: anxiety
- I can't stand being so angry: anger and rage
- I wish you knew my heart without me having to tell you everything: Theory of the Heart
I can stand hunger, but I can't stand stomachache: Pride and self-esteem
Part 2. Because MBTI alone can't describe me: Personality Type Test
- Am I normal like this?: Normal and Abnormal
- Is this my true personality? MBTI
- Can an extrovert be timid?: MBTI
- I feel like I'm the only one doing my best: Attachment Style Test
- I'm really fine, but why does my body hurt?: Defense mechanism
- It wasn't me, it was my hand that threw the object: MMPI and SCT
Would it be better to keep quiet than to make a slip of the tongue?: Temperament and Personality Inventory (TCI)
Part 3.
Social Life is a Second Self: Persona and Repression
- You can't live doing only what you want: Persona
- It's more comfortable to meet people wearing a mask: inferiority complex and complex
- I feel bad for not being able to stick to my plans: What I should do and what I can do.
- I feel suffocated as if something is stuck in my stomach: angina
- There are memories I want to hold on to and memories I want to let go of: Forgetfulness and Dementia
- Is this stress too?: Stress
Part 4.
They say the important thing is an unwavering spirit: self-will and nothing else.
- I don't think I can rely on anyone: Willpower and dependence / dopamine addiction
- I want to be independent from my parents: Gaslighting
- Are greetings a lie?: A white lie
- No matter how much weight you lose, you still look fat: Anorexia and bulimia
- I feel so weak that I can't even move a hand: lethargy
- I really want to meet you for a long time this time: Human Relationships
Recommendation
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When you feel discouraged because you think other people's mistakes are your own, it's better to spend the day faithfully, thinking only about the tasks you handled successfully.
And let's praise ourselves for finishing the day safely.
--- p.22
How's your daily life going these days? Listen to the signals your mind and body are sending you, to see if your head and heart are feeling unsettled.
--- p.25
Just naming the feelings I couldn't quite articulate can help me feel more in touch.
--- p.33
Just as clear skies and stormy, cloudy skies alternate on the same day, our emotions fluctuate just like the weather.
--- p.38
From now on, let's worry, make mistakes, and shed tears with all our might, unlike before.
You will definitely feel yourself changing.
--- p.54
If you can control your emotions appropriately, anger is not a bad emotion that should never be expressed.
Anger that resists injustice or seeks to protect oneself is righteous energy.
--- p.63
The easiest and most effective way to improve your self-esteem is to keep a 'praise journal'.
Write down three things you did well every day, even if they seem small and insignificant.
--- p.87-90
MBTI is a test of 'preferences' rather than a tool to diagnose abilities.
There is no better or worse tendency, each person is slightly different.
--- p.117
If your persona, your mask, is too strong, life becomes empty and it becomes difficult to find meaning in living.
--- p.160
Everyone has an inferiority complex.
That is, everyone lives with a story that is difficult to tell.
--- p.174
When you are sick, relying on crutches and not walking with your injured leg is a shortcut to getting better quickly.
The same goes for emotional pain.
--- p.219
I hope that we can slowly build precious memories and continue to walk together, drawing strength from those memories and the people we share them with.
--- p.202
Not only can the pain from interpersonal relationships be stressful, but work itself can also be stressful.
--- p.207
There is no special way to relieve stress.
Anything is okay as long as it is done 'in moderation'.
--- p.209
Always listen carefully to your own mind and state.
To safely send away harmful guests and wisely welcome welcome guests.
--- p.212
Only when we lean on each other so that neither our own nor the other's feelings are hurt will the moment come when we become whole.
--- p.222
Let's acknowledge that we need to praise something or someone to deserve praise, and believe that we have done something that is somewhat praiseworthy.
--- p.244
In most cases, the relationships you want are achieved by letting go of your power.
(…) If you just focus on the relationship you are in and maintain a relationship where you share things together, your feelings for each other will naturally deepen.
And let's praise ourselves for finishing the day safely.
--- p.22
How's your daily life going these days? Listen to the signals your mind and body are sending you, to see if your head and heart are feeling unsettled.
--- p.25
Just naming the feelings I couldn't quite articulate can help me feel more in touch.
--- p.33
Just as clear skies and stormy, cloudy skies alternate on the same day, our emotions fluctuate just like the weather.
--- p.38
From now on, let's worry, make mistakes, and shed tears with all our might, unlike before.
You will definitely feel yourself changing.
--- p.54
If you can control your emotions appropriately, anger is not a bad emotion that should never be expressed.
Anger that resists injustice or seeks to protect oneself is righteous energy.
--- p.63
The easiest and most effective way to improve your self-esteem is to keep a 'praise journal'.
Write down three things you did well every day, even if they seem small and insignificant.
--- p.87-90
MBTI is a test of 'preferences' rather than a tool to diagnose abilities.
There is no better or worse tendency, each person is slightly different.
--- p.117
If your persona, your mask, is too strong, life becomes empty and it becomes difficult to find meaning in living.
--- p.160
Everyone has an inferiority complex.
That is, everyone lives with a story that is difficult to tell.
--- p.174
When you are sick, relying on crutches and not walking with your injured leg is a shortcut to getting better quickly.
The same goes for emotional pain.
--- p.219
I hope that we can slowly build precious memories and continue to walk together, drawing strength from those memories and the people we share them with.
--- p.202
Not only can the pain from interpersonal relationships be stressful, but work itself can also be stressful.
--- p.207
There is no special way to relieve stress.
Anything is okay as long as it is done 'in moderation'.
--- p.209
Always listen carefully to your own mind and state.
To safely send away harmful guests and wisely welcome welcome guests.
--- p.212
Only when we lean on each other so that neither our own nor the other's feelings are hurt will the moment come when we become whole.
--- p.222
Let's acknowledge that we need to praise something or someone to deserve praise, and believe that we have done something that is somewhat praiseworthy.
--- p.244
In most cases, the relationships you want are achieved by letting go of your power.
(…) If you just focus on the relationship you are in and maintain a relationship where you share things together, your feelings for each other will naturally deepen.
--- p.271
Publisher's Review
Ranked #1 in Millie's Bookstore's comprehensive bestseller list immediately after publication
A warm response from readers who found empathy and comfort!
A "must-read for today's times," verified by 1,124 reader reviews.
* Actual reviews from Millie's Library
- I liked that it was comprised of concrete examples that can actually lead to change rather than abstract stories.
- I realized that I needed to make an effort to understand myself, who always ended up blaming myself, and who must have been struggling emotionally.
- It was a great help to me because I had many similar experiences.
- A truly essential book that will help you in your daily life! All the content is valuable.
- A book that allows me to examine myself.
It is a must-read book these days.
Plus, I read it all in one go with ease.
- I'm so glad that I can take care of myself like this, even if it's on my own, while reading this book.
- I was able to understand myself a little more deeply and was comforted by the author's warmth.
- A book filled with gentle and warm comfort, not forced and flashy consolation.
"It's hard to find a job, and even if you do, interpersonal relationships are a struggle."
“When things go wrong, it feels like it’s all my fault, and it’s painful.”
Encouragement and comfort for those in their 20s and 40s who suffer from self-reproach and depression.
Making a living is mostly hard work.
Competition follows competition, and after overcoming one hurdle, you must overcome the next hurdle that society expects.
In the process, we often get much more depression and guilt than reward or joy.
Dr. Heo Gyu-hyung, a psychiatrist who sees dozens of patients every day in the medical field, has recently been focusing on the emotions that many modern people are complaining about.
The concerns of our clients are not much different from those in our heads.
They are caught up in a situation where they feel stressed due to interpersonal relationships in the groups they belong to, such as school, academy, company, or part-time job, or when something goes wrong in their relationships, at home, or at work, and they feel like it's all their fault, and they can't shake off the feeling of distress.
At this time, many people do not accurately recognize what emotion is disturbing their minds.
For many who constantly blame themselves without knowing the cause, the author tells us how to look into our own hearts.
People are anxious due to the random stabbing incidents and accidents.
In a society filled with inferiority complex and anger
How to protect myself and take care of my heart
Recently, 'blind crimes' are occurring almost every day.
With stabbing incidents occurring one after another in the middle of the city in broad daylight and posts warning of crimes flooding the streets, many people are feeling anxious.
Criminals say:
“I’m angry because that person is not sincere.”, “I worked hard, but nothing worked out.”, “Society is the problem.” Modern society is gripped by fear because of those consumed by feelings of inferiority and anger.
Here, the author examines the various emotions that exist in the world one by one, and through 26 cases, suggests ways to express such emotions in a positive rather than negative way, and thus protect myself and take care of my heart.
At a time when comfort and stability are needed more than ever, through "Why Do I Keep Blaming Myself," you will be able to delicately organize your emotions one by one, which you were not aware of, and learn how to deal with them well. This book will become a good friend who comforts and consoles you in this difficult world.
A warm response from readers who found empathy and comfort!
A "must-read for today's times," verified by 1,124 reader reviews.
* Actual reviews from Millie's Library
- I liked that it was comprised of concrete examples that can actually lead to change rather than abstract stories.
- I realized that I needed to make an effort to understand myself, who always ended up blaming myself, and who must have been struggling emotionally.
- It was a great help to me because I had many similar experiences.
- A truly essential book that will help you in your daily life! All the content is valuable.
- A book that allows me to examine myself.
It is a must-read book these days.
Plus, I read it all in one go with ease.
- I'm so glad that I can take care of myself like this, even if it's on my own, while reading this book.
- I was able to understand myself a little more deeply and was comforted by the author's warmth.
- A book filled with gentle and warm comfort, not forced and flashy consolation.
"It's hard to find a job, and even if you do, interpersonal relationships are a struggle."
“When things go wrong, it feels like it’s all my fault, and it’s painful.”
Encouragement and comfort for those in their 20s and 40s who suffer from self-reproach and depression.
Making a living is mostly hard work.
Competition follows competition, and after overcoming one hurdle, you must overcome the next hurdle that society expects.
In the process, we often get much more depression and guilt than reward or joy.
Dr. Heo Gyu-hyung, a psychiatrist who sees dozens of patients every day in the medical field, has recently been focusing on the emotions that many modern people are complaining about.
The concerns of our clients are not much different from those in our heads.
They are caught up in a situation where they feel stressed due to interpersonal relationships in the groups they belong to, such as school, academy, company, or part-time job, or when something goes wrong in their relationships, at home, or at work, and they feel like it's all their fault, and they can't shake off the feeling of distress.
At this time, many people do not accurately recognize what emotion is disturbing their minds.
For many who constantly blame themselves without knowing the cause, the author tells us how to look into our own hearts.
People are anxious due to the random stabbing incidents and accidents.
In a society filled with inferiority complex and anger
How to protect myself and take care of my heart
Recently, 'blind crimes' are occurring almost every day.
With stabbing incidents occurring one after another in the middle of the city in broad daylight and posts warning of crimes flooding the streets, many people are feeling anxious.
Criminals say:
“I’m angry because that person is not sincere.”, “I worked hard, but nothing worked out.”, “Society is the problem.” Modern society is gripped by fear because of those consumed by feelings of inferiority and anger.
Here, the author examines the various emotions that exist in the world one by one, and through 26 cases, suggests ways to express such emotions in a positive rather than negative way, and thus protect myself and take care of my heart.
At a time when comfort and stability are needed more than ever, through "Why Do I Keep Blaming Myself," you will be able to delicately organize your emotions one by one, which you were not aware of, and learn how to deal with them well. This book will become a good friend who comforts and consoles you in this difficult world.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: August 23, 2023
- Page count, weight, size: 288 pages | 704g | 135*200*20mm
- ISBN13: 9791169083553
- ISBN10: 1169083552
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