“If you speak nicely, life becomes pretty too.”
To the teenagers who are going through an incredibly brilliant time
40 Lucky Conversations That Will Build Lifelong Friends and Strong Self-Esteem
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Author Kim Beom-jun, who has helped 300,000 adults improve their speech and solve their relationship problems, has now stepped forward for teenagers.
A child who can't get along with friends in the new semester, a child who uses swear words and vulgar language as if it were nothing, a child who hurts others with sharp words, a child who unintentionally creates misunderstandings with family, friends, and teachers.
The reason these children are pitiful is because they have never personally experienced how a single word can change their lives.
Just as childhood experiences can have a lifelong impact on a child, it is important to experience the power of words early on, during the teenage years when they will never return.

This book is a healing essay that helps teenagers rebuild their self-esteem, which has been lowered by worries about their studies and future, and to speak kindly to themselves as well as others.
Positive words like “I’m lucky,” “I can do it,” and “It’s okay if it’s slow” strengthen your inner self and attract good luck to your life.
Conversely, negative statements like “It won’t work out anyway,” “I’m unlucky,” or “That’s not great” extinguish potential that could eventually be realized.
At the end of each chapter, there is also a 'Speech Practice Sheet' where you can reflect on your own language and try to change it yourself.
These practice sessions will become a time for self-growth beyond simple reading.
I hope that all children who read this book will experience the miracle of words, and thereby develop a proactive attitude and a strong mind.

Good words attract good people.
Positive expressions bring positive results, and proactive expressions create new opportunities.
Considerate communication builds deep trust with others.
This is the great fortune that words bring.
--- p.7, from “Your Words Will Change Your World”

Apologies to avoid responsibility only destroy trust.
When trust is lost, conversations begin to feel like the hard, cold ground of midwinter.
It is the apple that melts the frozen ground like the soft spring rain.
Only a sincere apology can gently heal a wounded relationship.
--- p.33, from “Words Like Spring Rain That Moisten a Dry Heart”

Nelson Mandela, South Africa's first black president, was imprisoned for his struggle to end racial discrimination.
He is said to have said this after 27 years of unjust imprisonment.
“As I walked toward the door to freedom, I knew that if I didn’t let go of my hate, I would still be in prison.”
It is not harsh, uniform language, but a language of forgiveness that respects diversity that leads us to freedom.
--- p.46, from “Words that embrace a different heart from mine, like the color of opal”

Hope sprouts from the darkness.
A few encouraging words have the power to change someone's day, or sometimes their life.
--- p.79, from “Words that Give Warmth Like a Luminous Sunstone”

The North Star has been a reliable landmark for navigators for thousands of years.
For a long time, it has consistently pointed north and served as a guide for mankind.
There is a sense of stability in this consistency.
That's why it's important to be consistent and genuine when giving feedback to others, rather than being emotional or moody.
--- p.94, from “Words that serve as a standard like the North Star in the night sky”

Connection is a value that should never be lost in human relationships.
So, people who manage relationships well find common ground with each other.
Because even between two completely different things there is a common denominator, and this becomes a medium that connects them.
These connections create the sense of belonging we need.
--- p.100, from “Conversations Connected Like Constellations”

When giving a presentation with limited time, convey the main point by saying, “Let me get to the point.”
In discussions where logical arguments are important, structure your words, such as, “I will explain with three reasons.”
For a friend who needs comfort, use empathetic language like, “I understand how you feel” or “If it’s okay, could you tell me more?”
People who know how to read situations like this are also good communicators.
--- p.112, from “Words as Changeable as Signal Flags”

Just being honest about your feelings makes a conversation special.
It doesn't require anything grand.
Simply confessing, "My heart is pounding right now," while waiting for test results with a friend in class creates a precious moment of sharing your true feelings.
--- p.132, from “A conversation that exchanges emotions like a pouring meteor shower”

There are limits to directionless reflection.
When you reflect on yourself, think about what words you tend to use most often.
The attitude of “Everyone else is doing it, so I am too” has no subjectivity.
Saying “I couldn’t help it” is an evasion of responsibility.
The ending, “It’s always like this,” is a denial of my potential.
--- p.151, from “The Wisdom of the Compass Flower that Leads You Where You Need to Go”

When you speak with sincerity, you gain the power to move the other person's heart.
How have I been speaking to my friends all this time? Have I been using dry, emotionless language? Why not try preparing myself to convey my sincerity every now and then?
--- p.172, from “Words that resonate like the ultrasound of a dolphin going far away”

Harmony comes from diversity.
A group where everyone thinks the same way is unlikely to be creative.
To someone whose interests differ from yours, saying, "I'd like to know more about what you like," is to declare that you want to expand your world.
--- p.190, from “Words that Harmonize Like Tulips of Many Colors”


The 'positivity' I want to emphasize is different from simple optimism.
I hope you have the wisdom to find meaning in even the smallest things.
Because the attitude of rejoicing in the small good fortunes of everyday life, like coins found on the street, and giving them positive meaning is an important factor in improving the quality of life.
--- p.206, from “Words that bring unexpected joy like lucky coins”

“I understand how you feel.
But for your sake, let's think of a different way this time."
Being supportive means acknowledging the person's worth and helping them move forward in a better direction.

--- p.254, from “Words of a Guardian Angel to Soothe Anxiety”