In an age of chaos with no answers,
Pastor Yoo Ki-seong's Family Solution

Who are you in a family where the true face of faith is revealed?
'My death on the cross and my life with Jesus' is the only way to live.
Family knows if you are a true Christian

This book is the core of the sermons on family topics that Pastor Yoo Ki-seong has delivered over the past 10 years.
As the author says, “Publishing a book on the subject of family is like a testimony,” the book is full of honest confessions and messages.
As the author met with believers, he learned that there was no family without pain, and he saw the reality of a faith that strives for the happiness of its family, but neglects the most important thing, Jesus.
The author shares his experiences in family life, married life, and childcare, which he thought would naturally improve, and vividly conveys how the gospel of the cross saved his family.

We must not blindly believe, 'Jesus is in me!'
If it doesn't have an effect even between couples, then it's not something to believe.
You shouldn't demand happiness from your spouse.
First, you must become completely one with the Lord.
Only the Lord Jesus who came into us can restore and heal our families.
I have preached many sermons on the topic of “Building a family with the gospel of the cross.”
When I preached, I thought of broken families and families in crisis, and I stayed up all night praying and meditating with the Lord's heart, and prepared and delivered the sermon.
My heart was warm as I told it.
When I reread the sermon manuscripts from that time to write this book, I realized that they were not sermons that came from me.
When I published this book, I asked my wife to proofread it.
I briefly included my wife's thoughts after seeing the correction in the epilogue.
Your family too can be saved from the cross.
Please look only to the Lord and obey Him.

---From the "Prologue"

When you visit the homes of the saints, there is a plaque that indicates that they are members of the Good Shepherd Church.
The title of this book is a plaque for families who encountered the cross and whose families were revived by the gospel.
We met Jesus on the cross and died with Him, and Jesus met our family as the Lord of the Resurrection.
In addition to the sign that says “House of Church Members,” I hope you will also hang a sign that says “A Family Risen from the Cross.”
I can picture the smile of our Lord who personally hung this nameplate.
_My wife Park Ri-bu
---From the "Epilogue"

The gospel that the Lord gave us, that we die and live in Jesus, is an amazing blessing in that He promised to personally bring about changes in our families that we could not achieve on our own.
I hope that now we can experience the history that the gospel of the cross brings about within our families.
“I will live, clearly believing and confessing my death.
I will live by declaring my death at home, in front of my family.” I pray that we may become people who pray, decide, and live this way.

--- p.27

When you truly believe in Jesus and learn to truly abide in Him, and open your eyes, the Lord will do amazing things.
He completely changes not only our hearts but also our families through us.
All we have to do is respond, “Amen, Lord, we will do so.”
Let us entrust our family completely to the Lord.
Don't carry the burden alone, worry, and suffer anymore.
Our passions and desires have already been crucified with our flesh.
Now we must look only to Jesus who is with us.
We must have the heart of Jesus.
You must say what the Lord tells you to say and do what the Lord tells you to do.
The Lord is able to save our family.
There is no problem that cannot be solved and no one that cannot be changed in Jesus.

--- p.45

The greatest blessing parents can give their children is to testify to the Jesus they have met and the Jesus they are always looking to.
Today, too, I must pass on to my children what the Lord has said to me, taught me, and guided me through.
Children who have become tired of hearing the gospel of the cross through doctrine will finally become interested in the living Jesus.
Actually, all of our children are thirsty too.
I wonder, 'Is God really alive? Is Jesus really in me?'
We must never forget that the greatest legacy we can leave our children is Jesus, who is still with us.

--- p.57~58

You need to come to your senses.
Because the devil is working to destroy our families.
The devil has been destroying families since the beginning of time and is still at work today.
Have you ever experienced the devil coming into your home and trying to shake it up and destroy it? Some people say, "Yes, that's right.
When you look at your spouse, when you look at your children, you might say, “It really feels like the devil is at work.”
But that is completely wrong.
Your spouse and children are not devils.
The undeniable evidence that the devil is shaking our homes is the utter selfishness and extreme self-centeredness that the devil has planted in our hearts.
This is conclusive evidence that the mind that thinks only of itself is being manipulated by the devil.

--- p.85

The issue is priorities.
Your spouse should come first, not yourself, and your family should come first.
Then you can see what the problem is.
You need to check and correct your priorities.
Those who do not die to their own thoughts and judgments and do not obey what Jesus tells them to do may not even know what they have done wrong.
Remember.
Now it is no longer I who live, but Jesus who lives in me.
“Lord, what do you want?” Only when we live with this attitude of always asking can God truly make our families into heavenly homes.
The family ultimately shows us precisely that we ourselves must die in Jesus.

--- p.102

The process of forgiveness is a truly difficult and painful one.
I don't know when it's someone else's story, but when it becomes my own specific problem, I lose sleep and shed tears of blood.
But we must remember.
Forgiveness is grace, and the grace of forgiveness makes the families of the saints blessed.
Forgiveness between family members is forgiveness without repentance.
When it comes to forgiveness, we often place a great deal of importance on the question of whether or not someone has repented.
If you repent within your family, you will be forgiven, but if you do not repent and cannot be forgiven, you are no longer a family.
Did God forgive us because we repented?
--- p.116

God did not give us a family for our happiness.
Of course, you can enjoy the happiness that God has given you within your family.
But the root of happiness is the Lord.
Happiness comes from the Lord, not from family.
So why was the family given to us? It was given to us to make us holy.
That's why things keep happening inside the home that are causing conflict and strife.
I don't think those things make us happy.
It just makes us holy.
Through the pulpit, sometimes through truly heartbreaking experiences, we are led to pray, to cling more to the Lord, to look more closely to the Lord, to draw closer to the cross, and to bear it.
It's a wonderful mystery.

--- p.128~129

How do your husband, wife, and children appear in God's eyes? Pray that God will help you see them through His eyes, not through your own.
That's the beginning of love.
When you start seeing through God's eyes, you start seeing people differently.
The only power that can truly make us love someone is seeing them through God's eyes.

--- p.142~143

Where on earth does a husband get his fulfillment? From Jesus.
Happiness is not something that a wife gives.
Happiness can only be given by Jesus.
You can't be happy by demanding happiness from your wife.
It's not that my wife doesn't make me happy, it's that I can't make her happy.
Our true happiness can only come from God.
A man who has been filled with happiness from God marries because he wants to give unconditional love.
I am getting married to let go of the happiness I am enjoying.

--- p.169

There is one thing that is most important for us to do for our children.
We must allow our children to hold on to the Lord on their own and have a personal relationship with Him.
We need to practice separation when raising children.
Before we part ways, we must make sure that our children meet the Lord.
Therefore, everything in our family is an experiment in faith.
Every time we do this, we should tell our children:
“No matter what difficulties arise, let us not panic. Let us see together how the Lord works in this matter.
Let us hear what the Lord says.
“The Lord is with us now.” If you experiment with faith with your children, God will surely work.
The children's eyes are opened.

--- p.202~203

Parents must now realize that they are constantly competing with the devil over their children.
We cannot do whatever we want with our children.
(Omitted) We too are competing with the devil to capture the hearts of our children.
That is spiritual warfare.
What we must instill in our children's hearts is the instruction and admonition of the Lord.
That is life for our children.
It is the wisdom to live in the world.
It is the strength to survive in this world that is changing so frighteningly.
We must train our children in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
It's good for children to do well in school, but it's wrong if parents are only interested in studying.
All our children need is the instruction and admonition of the Lord.

--- p.224~225

No matter how well you try, if you only say and do what you think is right, God cannot take responsibility for that family.
From now on, we must thoroughly change the center of our family life.
I don't think it's right, but 'What did God say? We have a king in our family.
I hope you will live with the mindset of 'always listening to God and obeying what He says.'
Then, the blessings of family that God has promised will surely come to our family as well.

--- p.255

There is a King in our hearts and in our homes to serve.
The important thing in accepting Jesus as king is to meet Him personally.
If you think only in your head and decide with your will that Jesus is king and that you must live according to God's word, you will end up being a fearful legalist, even though your thoughts are right.
If I try to live a life where Jesus is King through my own will and effort, the atmosphere in my home becomes very heavy.
That is why there are families that hold family worship services while holding a sackcloth.

--- p.263

When we leave this world, our home, our living room, our bedroom, and our kitchen, where we shed tears and pray now, will all be holy places.
God wants our homes to be holy places.
Please don't give me good or bad reviews.
When the Lord is with us, even the most difficult moments become holy places.
'Ah, I experienced God's work here.
I met the Lord here.
'This is where our family changed.' I believe the Lord will accomplish this in our family.
If you still have worries, anxieties, fears, and resentments, crucify them.
The Lord wants to give us complete faith.
Take it by faith.
Believe that God has taken complete responsibility for our family.

--- p.278~279