Now, I have stopped the love that started with my own strength.
Begin the 'God-led love'

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A book that will help couples develop deeper intimacy in their relationship.
Do married couples need to learn about "love"? While marriage is often thought of as the culmination of love, the truth is that our love is truly tested after marriage.
Marriage reminds us daily how imperfect we are, how selfish we are to love unconditionally.
Love is something we cannot do on our own.
Only by learning from God, who has shown us perfect love, can we experience true love.

This book clearly and deeply explains the attributes of love as revealed in the Bible over 40 days.
Each chapter also presents specific tasks to apply to your spouse.
As we humbly follow the couple's lessons led by God, we will experience the abundance of love and oneness we never knew existed.
Decide not to follow your heart, but to lead it.
Learning to truly love is the most important thing you can do on this earth.

This book is not about transforming your spouse into the person you want him or her to be.
You probably already know that trying to change your husband or wife is futile.
Rather, this book guides you to seek and express true love, even when love dries up and even the will to love fades.

-From the preface

Love acknowledges the human side of your spouse.
Because we understand that everyone makes mistakes every day, we give others ample time to correct their mistakes.
Patience gives you the strength to persevere and persevere to the end, rather than giving up when the pressure gets too much and you lose heart.

-Day 01 Love is patient

Wasn't kindness the very reason you and your partner were initially attracted to each other? When you got married, didn't you expect to experience kindness from your spouse for the rest of your life? Didn't your husband or wife feel the same way? While that desire might have dulled over time, a happy marriage hinges on how much kindness you show each day.
Kindness enhances each other's joy.
-Day 02 Love is kind

Your spouse is a living, breathing, never-ending book.
That book contains dreams and hopes you may not have discovered yet.
It contains hidden treasures of talent and ability.
But it is up to you to explore it.

-Day 06 Love Believe

You and your spouse won't always see eye to eye.
They don't have to be identical.
If the two were completely different, one of them would not have been needed in the first place.
If two people always hold the same opinions and perspectives, they will lose the balance and character that makes their relationship stronger.
Rather, couples should listen to each other's differences and learn from them.
-Day 12 Love Gives In

Love teaches us that marriage is too precious to be left to its own devices, and that our love for our spouse is more important than any fight we have.
Love helps put airbags and guardrails in a couple's relationship.
Love reminds us that conflict can be resolved in a positive way.
Couples who learn to resolve conflict effectively grow closer, build greater trust, become more intimate, and enjoy a deeper union.
-Day 13 Love fights fair

So now, change your mind.
Learn to find joy in your spouse again.
As you re-establish your love for your spouse and reinvest the time and energy your relationship needs, your heart will delight in them more each day, just as they are.
-Day 14 Love is Joyful

Have you ever wondered why God gives you such incredible insight, allowing you to see even your spouse's hidden faults? Do you think He gave you this so you could constantly nag at your partner's mistakes? No, you don't.
To make you kneel.
Because you are the one who can pray most effectively for your spouse.
-Day 16 Love intercedes

Pure love that can withstand any oppression is not your lot.
If you seek it within yourself.
You need another source of supply.
We need someone else to give us that kind of love.
But here's the good news.
Because of God's great love for you and your spouse, He has provided a way for Him to express His love 'through you.'
-Day 19 Love is Impossible

Lust is like a warning light on the dashboard of the mind.
A warning light goes on when something other than God's love tries to fill you.
When we turn our eyes and hearts solely to Him and act accordingly, the vicious cycle of regret and condemnation will be broken, and constant joy will come.
-Day 24 Love is not lust

Love doesn't hesitate to make sacrifices to show that you are doing your best to meet your partner's needs.
When your spouse is in trouble and you don't know what to do, love demands that you give up even what is most important to you in order to help them.
Sometimes it can be as simple as listening to the other person's story.
-Day 28 Love is a sacrifice

Now, your greatest loyalty must shift from your parents to your spouse.
You need to give your spouse the attention you used to giving to your ex-lovers or friends.
Everyone else needs to step back and emotionally distance themselves so that your relationship can have enough space to flourish.

-Day 31 Love is independent from parents

Love is most joyful when it pleases God.
The Bible tells us that we should rejoice when our spouses become mature Christians, keeping the faith, pursuing purity, and fulfilling roles of service and sharing—when they become spiritually responsible members of the family.
You should be happier than when you save money by managing your household well or when you get a promotion at work.

-Day 34 Love Rejoices in Holiness

Wise advice is like having a detailed map and personal guide on a long, arduous journey.
Such advice can make the difference between a successful marriage and one that falls apart.
It's so important to invite healthy couples and hear the wisdom they've gained through their successes and failures.
-Day 35 Love Needs Advice

When you become one with your spouse, God gives you the gift of marriage.
A lifelong prayer partner, someone who can help you take your prayer life to the next level.

-Day 37 Love prays together

What if you "poured" your heart out to your spouse? What if you embraced a level of love where you were willing to "fulfill" their dreams and desires, even if you were willing to listen to them?
-Day 38 Love Makes Dreams Come True

Marriage is a covenant that blocks all escape.
Nothing in this world can separate what God has united.
Your love is based on a covenant.

-Day 40 Love is a Covenant

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