“Children learn to communicate their emotions through their parents’ speech.”
“If parents change their tone of speech, their child’s future will change!”

Warm words from parents that reflect their hearts enrich children's emotions, improve the relationship between parents and children, and ultimately make children listen to their parents.
When speech is repeated in life, it becomes a habit.
Also, the power to change a child without nagging or hurting their feelings lies in the way parents speak.
By communicating properly with your child, you can foster harmony in your family and foster the child's future growth.

Raising a child is not an easy task.
Any parent who has raised children will agree.
No parent wants to get angry, yell, or order around their beloved child.
However, the reality is that parents are too busy and their children act out of their own accord, unlike their parents' circumstances. When their children do not listen no matter how many times they are told to, the parents become impatient and end up scolding their children.
As a result, the relationship between parents and children often becomes more distant, and parents' worries grow.


I realized that parents have been scolding their children and trying to make them obey orders for their own convenience, so I wrote this book to help parents change their speech and thinking in a way that helps their children grow.
As you go through the process of improving, I hope you will reflect on your communication style and check whether the words you usually say to your child are either extremely short or, conversely, too long.


In such cases, the time that becomes a standard is ‘1 minute’.
One minute is an important golden time that busy parents can spare and that children can understand.
This book is filled with conversational tips that will help you convey your thoughts to your parents in less than a minute.

The suggestion type has the effect of leaving decision-making up to the child.
Children learn to think, judge, and make decisions for themselves.
If this becomes a habit, the child will act spontaneously without the parents having to say anything.
This is because this is also called ‘self-selection motivation’, and everyone, regardless of whether they are an adult or a child, has a tendency to stick to what they have decided for themselves.

--- p.27

'Praise' is not just a one-sided act of parents praising their children's growth, but rather a valuable method of communication that encourages and motivates children.
Therefore, let's think of 'when you fail to achieve something = when you are in the process of achieving something' and praise the process and effort not only when you succeed but also when you fail to achieve something.

--- p.35

I witnessed something similar a few days ago.
This happened in a local park that was bustling with children holding their parents' hands every weekend.
A father was diligently teaching soccer to a boy of about six years old.
The boy was not very good at kicking the ball, as he had only recently started playing soccer.
The father would come behind the child and teach him soccer diligently, telling him to move his feet like this and to watch the ball carefully before kicking it, but since skills cannot be improved in a short period of time, the ball would often roll in a completely different direction.
Still, the child would smile and kick the ball seriously as if he was having fun playing, and he would pick up the ball that went out of the way and throw it to his father with his hand.
But the father, perhaps angry that the child kept making mistakes, kicked the ball at the child and said in a slightly harsh tone, “You’re playing soccer right now.
“Don’t use your hands,” he instructed.
Then the child asked, “Why can’t you use your hands in soccer?”
At those words, Dad stopped saying, “Be quiet.
“Okay, do it quickly,” he blurted out.

--- p.50

It is said that even adults can only focus on listening to what someone else is saying for about 10 minutes, but children can focus for much shorter periods of time.
Children are a bundle of curiosity, and with objects of interest scattered everywhere, they have a hard time focusing on one thing.
Therefore, if you want to convey something clearly to your child, you must convey only the essence of what you want to say within a time frame in which the child can concentrate and listen.
The optimal time for a conversation with a child is one minute.
In terms of character count, it is around 350 characters.

--- p.61