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Part 1.
An invitation to a garden in full bloom

invitation.
The Garden of Evil You and I Hold
The question of 'how to live'
Myth #1: Reason and emotion are incompatible.
Myth 2: Emotions are just chemical reactions in the brain.
Why Philosophers Collect Conventions
I read dead people
Can philosophy save you from evil?

Chapter 1.
People who try to control their emotions
How we deal with emotions
For the Stoics, emotions are
To Gandhi, emotions are
Does letting go of attachment bring peace?
Why life should be comfortable

Chapter 2.
People who try to tame their emotions
To Confucius, emotions are
For Aristotle, emotions are
Normal reactions of a normal person
We are always betrayed by our emotions.
People steeped in positivism

Chapter 3.
Make room for the devil
For me I am angry
Is the ego an illusion?
For Nietzsche, emotion is
Love both joy and pain
Face it without excuses or defenses

Part 2.
Dance with the devil

Chapter 4.
anger
A greater price than the plague?
Advocacy and protest for me
People get irritated by trivial things.
Is there righteous anger?
The Internet is seething with anger

Chapter 5.
Envy and jealousy
The Jealous Woman's Story
Emotions that are everywhere but no one expresses
It's not that I want to monopolize love
The light and dark of the times
I'm jealous, but why can't I just smile?
We generally live by the lines

Chapter 6.
Angsim and Samtong
Spinoza and the emotion of hatred
grumpy person
Montaigne of humor
“Step back from my life”
Bite the hand that feeds you

Chapter 7.
contempt
Rousseau and Wollstonecraft
Feelings poured out on an arrogant fool
The feeling that I am better than that person
Is there such a thing as righteous contempt?
Contempt becomes a part of life

conclusion.
Love earthworms
Life is not about choosing what to cook.
How to live now

main

Don't live suppressing negative emotions.
That place will be hell
Dance with the devil, without any excuses or defenses!

Goethe said:
“There is no greater punishment than a heaven without friends.”
And after reading "Dances with the Devil," the reader will realize that "there is no greater punishment than heaven, where one turns a blind eye to negative emotions."
As we go through our daily lives, negative feelings naturally arise.
Anger wells up from deep within, you feel jealous of others, and you feel like a loser when you see someone's misfortune.


“If you live in this world humanely enough, your mind cannot always be at peace and tranquility.
That is what purity is all about.
Living well without being pure means realizing that as we navigate this world, we will have a tremendous amount of complex and difficult emotional experiences.” _From the text

But soon he starts scolding himself.
Feeling such emotions is something that only a small person would do, and how can one feel good about seeing the suffering of others?
I wish people would stop thinking like this.
Furthermore, they try to hide the raw negative emotions they feel from others as much as possible, and even if they do feel them, they believe it is better to use them as fuel for self-development.
And the author points out this very point.
'Why is this even a problem?' 'Why should I use this emotion as fuel for a better life?' Life doesn't always go as planned, and it's difficult to shape the self into something more than what we want.
Negative emotions are a natural part of life.
So, you can accept it without any excuses or defenses.
In "Dancing with the Devil," the author defends these misunderstood negative emotions and offers solutions to how we can live with negativity.


Gandhi, Confucius, Nietzsche, Montaigne…
On envy, jealousy, contempt, and anger, as discussed by twelve philosophers.
A poignant challenge to emotions that were once considered sinful!

Envy, jealousy, contempt, anger… .
If we trace back to when negative emotions, misunderstood and condemned, became sins, we can divide the philosophers who deal with these emotions into two groups.
'Emotionally controlled adults' and 'emotionally nurturing adults'.
Emotionally controlled adults say that the better they are at controlling their emotions, the better their lives will be.
Getting angry and crying over trivial things means you lack the ability to think, choose, decide, and act for yourself.
That is why Gandhi, a representative of the emotionally controlled adult, says that emotions must be controlled.
According to them, we must make a constant effort not to be swept away by our emotions.


On the other hand, emotionally nurturing adults say that feeling emotions in the right way at the right time is a good life.
They reject the idea that emotions are irrational forces that destroy us.
For example, Confucius's grief over the loss of a disciple he cherished greatly was an appropriate expression of emotion for the situation.
If you train yourself a little more, you'll be able to feel a little less anger over trivial things like a long wait at the hospital, and a lot more sadness over the pain of losing a loved one.
In this way, 『Dances with the Devil』 examines how anger, envy and jealousy, resentment and resentment, and contempt have been interpreted by various philosophers.


But the author points out that emotions always betray us.
We can become very angry over trivial things, or we can remain indifferent even when we thought we would feel great sadness.
This means that you can't choose the emotions you want, force yourself to feel emotions you shouldn't, or turn off the emotions you feel like you're turning off a switch.
In this book, the author discusses bad emotions that were once considered sinful, and ultimately convinces readers that there is no need to become an emotionally controlled adult or an emotionally cultivated adult.


Life is a series of tragedies and ecstasies.
Accordingly, our egos are shaking and laughing, creating masterpieces.

“When life’s tragedies and ecstasies strike—the death of a loved one, a life-altering illness, love, and childbirth—the self shatters and we must rebuild it.” In other words, our identity is always in flux.
Sometimes it feels stable, sometimes it feels like a sandcastle.
That is why we must continue the journey of self-discovery and love ourselves.
Loving ourselves honestly means accepting that we are vulnerable.
And when the ego admits its weakness, negative emotions come.
Feeling anger, feeling jealous or envious of others, experiencing emotions such as resentment, resentment, and contempt.
The reason why these feelings are usually criticized is because they 'compare' oneself to others.
By comparing ourselves and establishing superiority over others, we begin to ridicule others and diminish ourselves.
So we often hear advice not to compare ourselves to others.
But it's not a noise that others can easily ignore.

“We are a work in progress and we don’t know if we are creating a masterpiece or a flop.
That's why comparing myself to others helps me measure my progress and gives me clues as to how well I'm doing." _From the text

If comparison isn't a bad thing, and feeling negative emotions isn't the problem, then what is? The real problem is that we ignore these emotions, blame others, and express them in the wrong ways.
For example, you might feel jealous of your best friend and then shake your head and try to ignore this feeling.
Or, in a meeting, I make the person who pointed out my mistake into a villain.
That person has always been wary of me and he was trying to take this opportunity to bring me down.
Furthermore, some people throw stones at their annoying neighbors' cars that cause noise between floors.
But just let your emotions be.
Of course, it will be painful and not easy.
Don't try to find justification for your negative feelings and don't beat yourself up about it.
Don't try to get rid of it or push it away.
The more that happens, the more hell life will become.
Dance with the devil without excuses or defense.