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The core of designing thoughts, actions, and habits, proven by Germany's top mental coach.

Martin Berle, Germany's top self-development mentor, introduced by Focus, one of Germany's three major weekly magazines, as "Germany's most famous career advisor" and with a record of "200 consecutive weeks on the Der Spiegel bestseller list."
This book is a compilation of 52 of the most effective methods he has found while counseling thousands of people for 23 years.

People believe that change requires great determination or overwhelming motivation.
But Martin Berle says that even without that, if you find a trigger for change and take action for just two minutes, a positive spiral of change will form on its own.
Regardless of what genes you were born with or how you lived, anyone can change if they know the three stages of change, and he explains the core of change by dividing it into thoughts, actions, and habit design.

If you change your thoughts just a little, actions become easier, and if small actions accumulate, habits will change before you know it.
Drawing on thousands of counseling cases, including brain science, psychology, and philosophical theories, this book outlines the key change triggers that lead to greater change. It has received rave reviews from various media outlets, including Express Cologne, which called it “the definitive answer to the question of how to change.”
Also, on major bookstore sites, readers are leaving comments such as, "I'm reading this 3 times a day for 20 minutes each," "I listened to it as an audiobook and then bought it as an e-book and a paperback," "It's easy to understand and, above all, easy to put into practice," and "I received personal consulting for the price of one book."

There are many things in life that you cannot influence.
You can't choose your parents when you're born, fate throws itself at you without your permission, and the genetic material that makes you up is chosen at random, like a lottery.
But even within these limited conditions, how you act is entirely up to you.
A bad childhood doesn't necessarily lead to a bad life.
Fate gives you gasoline.
You can burn your life with it, but you can also use it as precious fuel.
---From "If you're anxious about continuing to live like this"

One day, a close colleague said:
“I’m going to write a book about presentations.” “When are you starting?” I asked.
“I just installed a program.
“You can use it to collect data and organize references.” “So when do you plan on starting writing?” “I should start right after I finish researching the data.
I also want to read important books about presentations.
Both German and English books.
I plan to interview the top experts in that field.
“I’ll listen to their presentation and write about it in my book later.” There was a glass of water on the table where we were standing.

“I need to drink some water.
“I’m thirsty,” I said.
"Don't hold back and drink it quickly." "But before you drink it, I want to know what's in this water." "Right now? Really? It's just plain water, so you can drink it." "No.
I need to interview the manufacturer first.
Next, I plan to take a closer look at the supply chain.
“I’ll make it clear where this water actually comes from.” Only then did my colleague understand my intention and laugh.
"If you want to quench your thirst, you should drink water immediately, right? If you want to publish a book, you should write immediately, right?"
---From "All you need when you're anxious is two minutes of action"

One day, Wolfgang, a freelance illustrator working for the editorial department, showed up with bad news.
“I went to the hospital today, and the doctor said I was going to die soon.
“I only had two months left.” I was only twenty-two years old at the time.
I was at a loss as to how to deal with a seventy-two-year-old man who spoke like a machine, without any emotion.
I desperately searched for words to comfort Wolfgang, and a few sentences flashed through my mind.

"It could be a misdiagnosis. Maybe I could live much longer."
“Please get tested again at another hospital.
“It could be a wrong diagnosis.”
“Don’t give up, just live the rest of your days to the fullest.”

While I was thinking this, my mentor Richard, who was twenty years older than me, said this.
“Wolfgang, this is truly cruel to you! You love life so much.” At that moment, Wolfgang’s whole body shook and he burst into tears.
Richard hugged him tightly.
The two stood like that for a long time.

After the hug, Wolfgang asked.
“What kind of illustrations do you have for me?” “Are you sure you want to continue working on them?” Richard asked, puzzled.
“Of course.
I am happiest when I am drawing.
“I will draw until the very last moment,” said Wolfgang.
---From "A Mindset That Turns Anxiety and Worry into a Trigger for Growth"

Asking about possibilities is not constructive.
“Can I get promoted in six months?” This question implies a goal, but it lacks the motivation to execute.
On the other hand, asking, “What do I need to do to get promoted in six months?” focuses your attention on both the goal and the solution simultaneously.
You will already see yourself taking active action.
---From "The moment you ask 'how', your brain already begins to prepare"

An interesting study conducted at the University of California, Berkeley, supports this.
The researchers paired the participants in pairs and asked them to picture a penguin.
As a result, the probability that two people would think of the same penguin was only 12 percent.
When one person thought of an adult penguin, another thought of a baby penguin.
Some people thought of stuffed penguins, while others thought of stickers or characters from cartoons.
Up to 30 different penguins have appeared in people's minds.

If we can imagine penguins in such diverse ways, how much greater must the range be when it comes to abstract concepts like "recognition," "trust," "friendship," "love," and "contentment"? Therefore, don't assume anything about what others think, how a situation will unfold, or anything else.
Don't overinterpret your own perspective, but objectively examine the other person's thoughts and the circumstances surrounding them.
---From "Don't worry for more than 5 minutes"

Of course, skill and preparation are important.
Just as great athletes never neglect their basic physical training, developing your abilities and preparing for opportunities is fundamental.
But if you've prepared to some extent, fill in the rest through practice.
Perfect preparation is impossible in the first place, so you shouldn't pour all your energy into preparation.
Life is not a performance that must be played without mistakes.
On the contrary, it is closer to an experiment in which you make mistakes and gradually improve.
---From "Life is like an experiment, the more you try and modify, the better it gets"

What is expected actually happens because it is expected.
In psychology, this is called a "self-fulfilling prophecy."
How about using this positively? For example, some people believe they are good at English and have talent.
Then the challenge becomes easier.
Challenge yourself to read English books, watch CNN news, and speak English whenever you have the chance.
As a result, he becomes more and more fluent in English.
Even though I originally couldn't speak English and had no special talent.
---From "Psychologists unanimously say, 'Just think that everything will turn out well'"

What happens when heavy rain falls? The water level rises.
But the water level does not remain high.
It always returns to the previous level.
This is exactly how 'hedonic adaptation' works in the brain.
When success hits, you win the lottery, fall in love, or make a fortune in the stock market, your happiness level soars.
But it doesn't take long for the water level to return to its previous level.
So if you were unhappy before you won, you will be unhappy again after you win.
If you were happy before, you will be happy in the future.
---From "How Mentally Strong People See the World"

You've probably had this experience too.
I don't know how to solve a problem, but I know as well as any expert how to make it worse.
This very situation can be turned around.
In other words, we ask people who are worried about being shy to find ways to be more shy, and we ask people who are worried about being sensitive to find ways to act more sensitive.
In this case, clients feel resistance and either stop what they are doing or accept the change.
---From "Imagining the worst case scenario leads to unexpected solutions"

A woman complained to her therapist.
“I feel like I’m a completely useless person.
“My boss keeps stepping on me.” Then the therapist took a 50 euro note out of his wallet, threw it on the floor, and stomped on it, crumpling it and making it dirty.
Then he picked up the bill again and handed it to the woman.
“How much is this note?” “It’s still 50 euros,” the woman said.
That's when she realized that her worth couldn't be dictated by her boss.
---From "The Power to Persevere to the End Without Being Swayed by the World's Doubts and Comparisons"

We often overestimate the clairvoyant abilities of others.
I feel like the other person knows my thoughts, feelings, and desires even if I don't say anything.
But surprisingly, the opponent knows almost nothing.
Change your mind.
Being clear about what you want is actually a sign of respect for the other person.
You have to tell the other person what you mean so that they can decide whether or not to meet their expectations.
---From "I just changed my tone of speech"

Other people are constantly judging you.
But in nature it is different.
No one is gossiping about you.
The forest doesn't care if you were the CEO of a bank or were fired as an unskilled worker.
The river doesn't care if you're wearing designer clothes or an old t-shirt and socks with holes in them.
Whether you're newly in love or have been dumped again, the clouds in the sky don't care.
Whether he has a million dollars in assets or millions in debt, the woodpecker is not affected at all.
Nature accepts you as you are.
The more time you spend in nature, the more you will feel good about yourself just the way you are.

---From "If you want to be well, rest well"