Each person has a vessel to hold their words.
However, depending on the size, the level of speech and the depth of the relationship change.
People who are known to be big talkers do not use their words to dazzle or exploit others or to stand out from the crowd.
Rather, we use words to communicate with others, overcome conflicts, and understand people.
We naturally accept the differences between you and me and find ways to continue conversations with people even in difficult communication situations.

--- p.17, from “Wounds given by words are the most painful”

A man fills his mouth with words.
People with a big heart have enough space to listen and accept what others have to say.
Because you don't have to be impatient or rude, you don't interrupt or interrupt the other person by saying, "That's not it," "I don't know," or "Listen to me."
Rather, you make the other person open their mouth more by saying things like, “I see,” “Tell me more,” or “What do you think?”
It lowers the other person's anxiety and opens their heart.
That's why people feel comfortable talking to people who have a big mouth.
--- p.39, from “A Man of Great Words”

What's interesting is that when you have a conversation about horses, you'll find yourself pouring out thoughts about that person's past, present, and future.
Situations that have been bothering you, such as hidden family history, problems at work that you couldn't reveal, conflicts and crises in relationships with friends or lovers, etc., naturally come out.
And as you spend time asking and answering questions like that, you come across the psychological roots that were driving a person's words.

--- p.52, from “When the mind changes, the words change”

If you don't learn about emotions from a young age because you're studying Korean, English, and math, you'll still be awkward with emotions as an adult.
To be overly stingy or overly generous.
If you pretend not to know the colors of emotions that arise in your own heart, you will end up living only showing the emotions that you deem beneficial to yourself.
In particular, you become accustomed to the emotion called ‘anger’.
When things are good, they don't express it, but when things are unfair, they react with glares and raised voices.
This is the so-called 'anger addiction'.
When you get angry, you think you have power and you only seek out harsh and strong words.
--- p.75, from “People who are awkward with emotions”

When having a conversation, there are often times when 'my words' and 'the other person's words' are too different, which causes conflict.
At first, I try to speak nicely, but soon my voice gets louder and my emotions get intense.
What is needed to wisely navigate this situation is an understanding of the formula in your head.
Because a person's special formula and emotions are tangled like a thread.
We cannot accept the differences between each formula and complain, “He’s driving me crazy.”
Finally, he drives the other person away with the words, “I just can’t understand you!”
The underlying premise is that one is right and the other person is wrong.
I wish I could tear down your thoughts and change them.
--- p.107, from “Formulas Created in the Head”

To have a generous vessel to hold the words of others, you must be free and not be bound by a single formula.
Express your opinions confidently, but understand that they can be interpreted quite differently depending on your perspective.
We must accept that what is a precious jewel to us may be a rock to someone else, or vice versa.
Only by knowing this can we reconcile differences, big and small, and integrate conflicts.
Differences clearly create conflict.
However, when we realize that the differences in the numerous formulas we encounter are ultimately not differences in 'humanity and superiority' but differences in 'experience and formula', our hearts become much more softened.

--- p.123, from “You and I Are Pretty Good People”