A must-read for parents who want to raise healthy, bright children. This reference book on child-rearing has sold over a million copies worldwide.
The author, an expert in child rearing and family counseling, writes in an interesting and accessible way, drawing on his extensive experience and research.
It will relieve the frustration of parents who have been raising children.

The people around you can either drain your energy or boost it. Sometimes, you find yourself saying, "Oh, I feel so drained whenever I meet that person."
But on the other hand, there are people who you would definitely want to meet, no matter how far away they are.
Because meeting that person makes me feel good.
Children also give their parents energy, but in most cases, it is right and natural for us as parents to recharge them.
But if parents are the only source of energy and their energy is completely depleted, a backlash occurs.
Stop reading for a moment and think about it.
How is your energy reserves right now?

--- p.186-187

What's truly valuable is that (with a little luck) your children will one day realize all the effort you've put in.
Love eventually accomplishes something.
Compared to that, everything else is ultimately nothing.
What's truly valuable is that (with a little luck) your children will one day realize all the effort you've put in.
Love eventually accomplishes something.
Compared to that, everything else is ultimately nothing.

--- p.
222

The reason is simple.
The misfortune is pre-programmed.
Many people have learned from childhood to be unhappy without even realizing it, and they are living according to that ingrained mindset.
As you read this book, you will discover that the words you say without thinking are hypnotizing your children into hating themselves, and that those unthinking words will cause problems for them throughout their lives.
The reason is simple.
The misfortune is pre-programmed.
Many people have learned from childhood to be unhappy without even realizing it, and they are living according to that ingrained mindset.
As you read this book, you will discover that the words you say without thinking are hypnotizing your children into hating themselves, and that those unthinking words will cause problems for them throughout their lives.

--- p.13

This is an example of 'active listening'.
Of course, I'm not saying parents should remain silent.
The idea is to show your child that you care by acknowledging their feelings and thoughts, helping them think through them, and encouraging them to do so.
These are the approaches we use.

- Do not solve problems for students ('call the school') unless there is a special reason.
- Unless the child needs help or information, do not give advice rashly ('You should have listened to the teacher').
- If your child is not a chronic complainer, try to avoid or obscure the issue ('Okay, forget about it and watch TV.
(Even if you eat rice, you don't do it.)
This is an example of 'active listening'.
Of course, I'm not saying parents should remain silent.
The idea is to show your child that you care by acknowledging their feelings and thoughts, helping them think through them, and encouraging them to do so.
These are the approaches we use.

- Do not solve problems for students ('call the school') unless there is a special reason.
- Unless the child needs help or information, do not give advice rashly ('You should have listened to the teacher').
- If your child is not a chronic complainer, try to avoid or obscure the issue ('Okay, forget about it and watch TV.
(Even if you eat rice, you don't do it.)

--- p.82

Remember, the goal is to develop your child's competence in all basic areas of daily life, from cooking, cleaning, laundry, pet care, budgeting, time management, family negotiation, and teamwork.
By the time your child grows up and leaves home, he or she will be fully independent and ready to take care of himself or herself.
Remember, the goal is to develop your child's competence in all basic areas of daily life, from cooking, cleaning, laundry, pet care, budgeting, time management, family negotiation, and teamwork.
By the time your child grows up and leaves home, he or she will be fully independent and ready to take care of himself or herself.

--- p.

When you ask your children to do something, explain to them exactly how to do it.
Make sure your instructions are clear, as children may cause accidents.
"Minsu, hold on to this side of the boat with both hands" is better than "If you pull that out, you'll die" or "Are you trying to fall into the water?"
It may not seem like a big difference, but in fact, there is a big difference.
Positive words make children think and act positively, allowing them to deal with unexpected situations with ease.
Children imagine themselves succeeding and repeat those words to themselves until they achieve great results.
Parental encouragement stays with children their entire lives.
When you ask your children to do something, explain to them exactly how to do it.
Make sure your instructions are clear, as children may cause accidents.
"Minsu, hold on to this side of the boat with both hands" is better than "If you pull that out, you'll die" or "Are you trying to fall into the water?"
It may not seem like a big difference, but in fact, there is a big difference.
Positive words make children think and act positively, allowing them to deal with unexpected situations with ease.
Children imagine themselves succeeding and repeat those words to themselves until they achieve great results.
Parental encouragement stays with children their entire lives.

--- p.44

If you're doing anything with kids, here are some rules to follow:

1.
It doesn't necessarily have to produce any results.
Especially if your child is young, you should not be obsessed with the goal.
For example, if you teach a child how to use a screwdriver, don't expect them to quickly install a door.
Just do whatever comes to you.
Children will naturally get lost.
Any slowdown in work can be made up for later.
2.
Choose a convenient time
When you're planting seeds with children, it's nearly impossible to create a perfect garden without a single mess.
It's up to you to decide whether you want to be with the kids or get the job done.
If you are greedy for both, you will become anxious.
Instead of completely sweeping away the fallen leaves in the yard, we'll just sweep them up and have fun together.
3.
Enjoy being a parent - kids grow up fast.
- Omitted -
You will rediscover the little joys that children bring.
Time spent with children is never wasted. If you do anything with children, there are some rules to follow.

1.
It doesn't necessarily have to produce any results.
Especially if your child is young, you should not be obsessed with the goal.
For example, if you teach a child how to use a screwdriver, don't expect them to quickly install a door.
Just do whatever comes to you.
Children will naturally get lost.
Any slowdown in work can be made up for later.
2.
Choose a convenient time
When you're planting seeds with children, it's nearly impossible to create a perfect garden without a single mess.
It's up to you to decide whether you want to be with the kids or get the job done.
If you are greedy for both, you will become anxious.
Instead of completely sweeping away the fallen leaves in the yard, we'll just sweep them up and have fun together.
3.
Enjoy being a parent - kids grow up fast.
- Omitted -
You will rediscover the little joys that children bring.
Time spent with children is never wasted time.

--- p.72-73

Imagine how different their lives would be if children believed these things about themselves:
'I am a good person'
'I get along well with people'
'I have good comprehension skills'
'I'm not smart'
'I'm really creative'
'I am healthy and strong'
'I am happy with the way I look.' Imagine how different children's lives would be if they believed this about themselves.
'I am a good person'
'I get along well with people'
'I have good comprehension skills'
'I'm not smart'
'I'm really creative'
'I am healthy and strong'
'I am satisfied with my appearance'

--- p.23

I am just as important as any other family member. Children are the most precious, but I also need to know how to get along with other people.
Children's complaints are also a part of growth.
You can't always get what you want.
To be a good parent, I need to be happy and healthy myself.
I need to know how to take care of myself too. My spouse and our marriage are very important.
Children are the top priority.
Life is a series of challenges, but it's also fun.
Life becomes much more comfortable if children follow instructions properly.
As an adult, I am responsible for all of this.
I am just as important as any other family member. Children are the most precious, but I also need to know how to get along with other people.
Children's complaints are also a part of growth.
You can't always get what you want.
To be a good parent, I need to be happy and healthy myself.
I need to know how to take care of myself too. My spouse and our marriage are very important.
Children are the top priority.
Life is a series of challenges, but it's also fun.
Life becomes much more comfortable if children follow instructions properly.
As an adult, I am responsible for all of this.

--- p.126 Strict parents