Easy and happy parenting is determined by the relationship between parents and children.
If the relationship between parents and children is strong, parents can use that as a foundation to raise their children to be future leaders.
In a well-established relationship, parents can teach their children life values, and the children accept and learn what they need to learn from their parents.
If you have a good relationship, you tend to listen to what that person says.
Parenting becomes easier and happier when children listen to their parents.
By the time my child turns 10, let's be parents who lay the foundation of a good relationship.
This period is a crucial time for parents and children to build a good relationship.
Because this is the period when a child loves and needs their parents the most.
These 10 years will determine the next 100 years for parents and children.

--- p.22~23

Parents should raise their children with 'gentleness in normal times' and 'firmness in disciplinary situations' within a well-established relationship with their children.
Gentleness includes smiles, compliments, encouragement, and comfort.
Firmness requires strictness and the trust that parents' word is the rule.
A parent's gentleness fills the child's inner self with warmth, raising his or her sense of worth and self-esteem, while firmness in disciplinary situations teaches the child the principles and rules of the world and enhances his or her self-control.
Children raised by these parents grow up to be mentally strong, equipped with both flexibility and strength.

--- p.25

Immature children want to do what they want, but parents must restrain children who only want to do what they want and guide them in the right direction.
In this situation, what parents need to show is firmness.
When raising children, there are many times when a parent's firmness is needed.
This is because the role of parents is to form the right attitudes and habits in their children, teach them rules, and teach them to keep themselves and others safe.
Children do not follow their parents' teachings obediently because they are in the developmental process of acting according to their desires and emotions.
However, parents must repeatedly teach children who are awkward in managing their emotions or behavior.
When a child behaves inappropriately, such as throwing a tantrum, being stubborn, or lying, discipline is also necessary.
What needs to be shown at this time is the firmness of parents with emotional control.
If parents just let things slide when they should be firm, the child will end up living 'as they please.'
It means becoming an uncontrollable person who does what he wants to do and doesn't do what he doesn't want to do.
Parents should not let their children be swayed by their own desires, but should firmly teach them to do what they need to do.
“Even if you don’t want to do it, you have to do it.” “Even if you want to do it, you can’t do it.

--- p.28~29

Understanding your parents' parenting style is an important part of parenting.
Parenting style refers to a parent's attitude toward parenting, and the parent-child relationship is determined by the type.
It also has a great impact on the emotional development, personality, and self-identity of children.
Knowing 'what type of parent am I?' increases your parenting efficacy and makes parenting easier.
Knowing what type of parent you are can be even more helpful because it allows you to reflect on yourself and refine your parenting style.

--- p.31

A child is born with a basic character called ‘temperament.’
If you want to raise your child well, help them grow by making good use of their innate temperament.
Temperament is not good or bad.
Remember that just as personality has strengths and weaknesses, temperament also has strengths and weaknesses.
However, if parents criticize or criticize their child's temperament, the child will define himself/herself in that way and develop a negative identity.
Rather than blaming your child's temperament, let's raise them by making good use of their temperament's strengths.
At the very least, we should refrain from making comments that criticize or worry about the child's temperament.
“Because you’re so picky...”, “Because you’re so slow...”, “Because you’re so docile...”
--- p.53~54

Let's convey what we earnestly desire to our children through words and eyes.
And let's express it in various ways.
A child's worth increases with the parents' words, "You are precious just the way you are," and their expectations.
When words and eyes are combined, it becomes more perfect.
A parent's 'one second glance' at their child may determine the child's life.
A single line of message, “What do you expect from me?” sent with a cold, indifferent look of resignation, carries a strong toxicity that can instantly knock the other person down.
Ironically, parents do this to their children.
Even though no parent wants to instill such a negative self-image in their child.
Parents want to help their children reach their full potential.
If so, then desire it earnestly and say it with all your heart.
--- p.132

Self-identity is, in a word, knowing ‘myself’.
And it is about finding and knowing another me that is related to me.
There are many things related to me.
Parents, where I was born and raised, how I love myself, how I overcome hard times, etc.
Among these, knowing myself, my parents, and the place where I was born and raised is an important link that allows me to recognize that I am an organically connected being.
Helping children realize that they are not something that fell from the sky and that they are not alone gives them direction for their life's journey.
It also helps children realize that there is a North Star that will keep them from getting lost.

--- p.145

How does my child deal with things he or she doesn't want to do?
Do you avoid difficult and challenging tasks?
Are you just putting your feelings out there and making excuses?
Do you try to do things you don't want to do but have to do?
What do you do when you fail despite working hard?
We need to observe how children react to difficult and challenging tasks and help them develop the ability to cope with and manage pain so that they can overcome them.
During this process, parents should encourage their children, but when they encounter situations that require discipline, they should firmly teach and guide their children.
Through countless repetitions like this, the child will eventually grow into a child with high self-control and mental strength who can do what needs to be done on his or her own.

--- p.192~193

Even children's lives are not this simple.
Even if you don't want to, if it's something you have to do, you have to accept the situation and do it.
If you refuse by saying, “I can’t do this,” or “I don’t want to do it, so I won’t do it,” you will show your child that the world is not easy.
For a child's life to be enterprising and upright, 'acceptance' is essential.
It's not just about accepting joy, happiness, and things like that.
On the contrary, it is important to have an attitude of accepting unacceptable situations.
If you help your child understand and resolve difficult situations, he or she will grow into a big-hearted child.
The meaning of acceptance, which means 'to be aware of and understand the words, actions, and circumstances of others', well expresses the value of acceptance, that is, acceptance.
The problem is our attitude when we have to accept things that we cannot understand.
Situations such as unfair things, difficult things, things that one cannot do, and things that one does not want to do can appear in front of a child at any time.
If you cannot accept it and avoid it every time, you become maladjusted.
As you go through the process of accepting something, trying it, and if it doesn't work out, learning from it and trying again, your mentality will become stronger and your ability to accomplish things will improve.
--- p.210~211

If you are obsessed with the results rather than the process and are at the bottom of your social relationships, it is because of a need for dependence that was not met when you were young.
If you feel bad about not being recognized, wallow in self-pity, or blame others, you will become an undesirable person, whether at work or in your friendships.
Parents who let their children know, show, and feel that they are precious and loved regardless of the conditions and circumstances, and who fulfill their children's need for dependence, are excellent parents who build strong emotional stability.
Children have their needs met through protection, love, attention, and care, and they are confident in interacting with the world based on their bond with their parents.
Even if a situation arises where you are not recognized by others, you are not easily shaken or hurt.
Meeting a child's emotional dependence needs transcends any material investment.
Let's fill it out for my child now.
It's not grandiose, nor is it difficult.
This expression will do.
This is something we already know.
Say it out loud, and say it without holding back.
“I love you.”, “You are a blessing to us.”, “I love you just the way you are.”
--- p.141~142

Even if you don't expect your child to enjoy studying, focus consistently, and learn independently without parental help, remember that if they ignore or dislike studying, it can lead to self-esteem problems.
Because self-esteem is accompanied by a sense of competence and efficacy.
If you feel incompetent in your studies, your self-esteem will hit rock bottom during your long school years.
And we shouldn't think that academic talent is something that is only innate.
Parents should encourage their children to a certain extent and help them shine. Parents can help their children develop a love of studying.
It has a different meaning from having excellent grades.
At the very least, let's not forget that in order to avoid neglecting studies, we need to have a lot of 'experience in achieving things'.
If you help your child experience a lot of accomplishment and success, he or she will gradually become self-motivated and study without parental help.
If my child develops the stamina to persevere and work hard to see things through to the end in his studies, he will achieve as much as he wants in any field.
Studying not only raises self-esteem, but also serves as a foundation for developing the grit of patience and perseverance in other endeavors.
Since you have successfully accomplished the difficult and arduous task of studying that you were supposed to do during your student years, wouldn't you eventually do well in the tasks that you are supposed to do during your growing years?

--- p.253~254

Parents are the ones who make children feel that they are loved enough for their very existence.
In addition, it is a presence that helps children improve their academic achievement and ultimately succeed.
Parents are such great beings.
To improve a child's academic achievement, parents must have a firm belief in learning.
Parents must have a firm belief in their child's learning, even when it comes to the most challenging tasks. This will allow the child to persevere, persevere, and successfully complete the developmental task of a long learning journey.
This is why parents' philosophy and beliefs about their children's learning must be positive until the third grade of elementary school, a critical period that determines their children's learning ability.
Now, let's not doubt the use of studying hard.
What no one can deny is that when a child has high learning ability during the time when he or she should be studying, his or her happiness and satisfaction are high.
This is not a child who is only good at studying, but a child who is also good at studying, a child with a strong mentality who has successfully completed developmental tasks.

--- p.274~275

The power of belonging and connection plays a vital role in a child's communication and social skills, and also leads to confidence and academic achievement.
As research results show, “Children with good interpersonal relationships also have high self-esteem,” relationship skills are directly linked to self-esteem.
But the problem is that 'relationships' can't always go well.
The nature of relationships is that they are formed, maintained, and in the process, they can become entangled or even unintentionally broken.
Children may also be bullied or ostracized in situations they do not want to be in, may experience exclusion from groups, or may experience being alienated from friends they used to get along with.
There will be times when you feel upset because your friends won't play with you, and there will be times when you feel bewildered and the world feels dark because you've been rejected.
For parents, something that is 'no big deal' can become a 'huge incident' that is so devastating to the child that it can lead to refusal to go to daycare or school.
This is why the role of parents is important in a child's interpersonal relationships.

--- p.285

Let's help children develop their daily life skills by teaching them kindly, helping them experience success together, and praising their achievements.
Life force is the ability to adapt and survive.
People who know how to do things on their own have more confidence and achieve more.
Let's raise my child to be competent at housework.
Children who are good at housework also do well in school, and children who are good at housework develop greater empathy and emotional intelligence, and children who are capable of many things ultimately become successful.

--- p.350