Author's Note

Parents grow together with their children.
Just as it is
No parent is prepared
Good parenting is for parents
The closer we are, the more I don't know my child's heart
Parents' hearts come first
Parents are people who believe even when there is nothing to believe in
Parents speak through life
Parents' expectations weigh on their children.
Time is on the parents' side
Difficult situations are opportunities
Oppression called 'love'
Please let me go because I love you
Difficult times are bound to come
Parents' problems are passed on to their children.
There is no problem that can be solved in a short period of time.
For today's happiness, not tomorrow's
Essay: Good People Make Good Parents

Parenting is in the details
True education is when you tell your child what he or she wants to hear.
The difference between education and intervention
The Art of Persuasion
Parenting is a joint operation between couples.
Manners are a result of maturity.
How should I respond to my child's questions?
Is it difficult to play with your child?
How far should children's entertainment devices go?
There's a difference between being strict and being strict.
Can corporal punishment change a child?
Raising siblings
Raising a Teenager
Love also requires skill
Sometimes you have to be cool
When a child commits a mistake
Please notice the small changes
Encourage your child's life
How to use compliments
When a child expresses his or her own thoughts
Essay: Tell Your Child You Love Him Today

Children growing up in conflict
A child who throws a tantrum
A child who is having a hard time
A child who has difficulty making friends
A child who attacks his parents
stressed child
A child who has difficulty controlling his anger
A child who is anxious and worried
A child who bullies his friend
A child who doubts his parents' love
A child who has experienced failure
A child obsessed with winning
A child who made a mistake
A child with low self-confidence
A child who blames himself
Essay: A Child's Pain Is the Child's Share

The wavering hearts of parents
I just feel sorry for the child.
My child doesn't do what I want.
I don't want to lose the fight with my child.
Why doesn't my words work?
How should I deal with a rebellious teenager?
I hate myself for always getting angry at my child.
I'm worried about whether I'm raising my child well.
Does my child love me?
I'm tired of the endless conflict with my child.
I want to get rid of my child's problem quickly.
Essay: A child is not the clone of his parents.

Education for a Child's Life
If a child doesn't study, will his or her life be a failure?
Is it always good to have a lot of experience?
Early education, a perennial concern for parents
How should I prepare for the new school year and new semester?
Between the child and the teacher
Don't compare it to other houses
Let your child manage his or her own time.
You should study according to your age.
Let them know what and why they are studying
Take a look at your child's textbook
How should I study math?
Please create an atmosphere
The vocabulary you learn while reading becomes the foundation for your studies.
Attitude towards exams
Ultimately, it's the parents' faith that matters.
Studying for a Child's Life
Essay Confidence Building Education

Seo Cheon-seok's Parenting Counseling Center

Seo Cheon-seok, the representative parenting mentor of our time,
The warm comfort and encouragement he offers to parents exhausted from raising children.
Seo Cheon-seok has been active in various media such as television (EBS 60 Minutes Parents, KBS Morning Plaza), radio (MBC Women's Era, MBC Mind Research Institute), newspapers, magazines, and Naver Cast, and has established himself as a representative parenting mentor of our time, receiving praise from many parents as "a doctor you want to confide in and receive comfort from" and "a doctor who gives realistic answers, not vague principles."
In particular, he consistently posts on Twitter the thoughts he feels while counseling children and their parents in his clinic, as well as the words he directly tells children who are suffering from psychological pain. These words are retweeted hundreds of times a day, and they are drawing great sympathy from parents who are having a hard time in their relationships with their children.

In the past, children grew up naturally in the bosom of a community comprised of extended families and neighbors, but these days, parents must raise their children solely through their own efforts.
The difficulties that arise from balancing work and childcare are the responsibility of individual parents.
The author of this book, Seo Cheon-seok, understands better than anyone the fatigue and pressure felt by parents in this day and age, and offers warm and realistic encouragement to parents struggling with parenting stress instead of harsh reprimands.
He worries that trying to be a good parent can lead to punishing yourself and your child, and says, "The first condition for happy parenting is to relax the pressure to be a good parent."
This advice can help ease the burden on the minds of parents who are constantly anxious and plagued by guilt about whether they are raising their children well and whether they are truly good parents.
It is also a book that pats parents on the shoulder and extends a hand to take just one more step by encouraging them to do as much as they can, right here, right now.


Both I and the child are immature beings.
Love that begins with parents and children being who they are
Many parents try to appear mature in front of their children.
When they are with their friends or colleagues, they show their human side by saying, “I don’t know how someone like me became a parent,” but in front of their children, they act more solemn and dignified than anyone else and try to teach their children as the perfect parent.
However, the author says that there is no such thing as a 'perfect parent, a 'prepared parent', and that people begin to grow as parents from the moment they become parents.
Although we are lacking and still immature, it is more mature to acknowledge that and try to mature in a better direction.

This attitude is important not only for yourself but also when looking at your child.
A child is naturally an immature being and is bound to be full of flaws.
However, if you focus on solving your child's problems and obsess over the results, parenting becomes a heavy burden.
Therefore, the author emphasizes that we must accept our children as they are, and that this is where love for our children begins, and where parenting that can make parents happy begins.
These messages serve as a reminder to countless parents struggling to create a "no-problem" state that they need to "let go."


About realistic issues such as studying and puberty
Advice that provides specific and practical help
If the author's first book, "10 Minutes a Day, Thinking of My Child," focused on parents' attitudes and philosophies toward their children, "Parents Who Grow with Their Children" faithfully contains such content as well as specific, practical advice.
When a child is in trouble, parents often feel at a loss as to what to say or how to help.
Also, when parents experience conflict with their children, they are often swayed by their own emotions and find it difficult to show a rational attitude toward their children.
This book presents specific conversational phrases to help parents improve their relationships with their children without showing emotional reactions when in conflict situations.
Even if it feels a little awkward at first, if you read it out loud and have the courage to speak to your child, you will be able to develop a positive relationship with him or her.

It also provides specific information on how to raise adolescent children and how to help children study, so that it can be helpful not only for parents of young children but also for parents of elementary school students and adolescents.
As a child psychiatrist and father of two, the author's words and methods are even more trustworthy because they are things he has personally tried.

A story that is by no means light, contained in a short text.
A delicate and lyrical painting expressing a child's heart
"Parents Who Grow Up with Their Children" is a book based on the author's tweets.
Among the numerous articles, we selected those that resonated with people and compiled the articles that had to be shortened due to the nature of the medium into a book.
The author, after considering whether to compile a relatively long or short piece, explains why he chose this book format, saying, "I didn't want to add the burden of reading to the already burdensome task of raising children."
Parenting is ultimately about practice.
Even if you know in your head how important your parents' facial expressions and attitude are, it's of no use if you don't put them into action.
The writings in this book, although not long, are by no means light and are not easy to put into practice.
But if you keep even one sentence in mind every day, it will definitely make a difference in solving problems with your child.

The illustrations in this book were drawn by children's book author Park Bo-mi.
The delicate hearts and cute movements of children were depicted in a clear and transparent style, enriching the content expressed in the text.
With each page turn, delicate illustrations unfold, revealing the big and small challenges children face as they grow up, and the emotions parents feel while raising children.
We believe that these warm and loving illustrations will help parents understand their children's hearts more deeply and will also soothe the hearts of parents who have become dry and weary from parenting.