There is a separate saying about raising a son well.
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“The son who seems indifferent flinches more at every word his parents say.
Ultimately, it is about awakening your son's potential and developing his potential.
“That’s exactly what my parents said.”
Author Jinhyuk Lee, a current elementary school teacher and father of two sons
Discovered and organized in educational settings and at home
Parents' Scenarios for Raising Their Sons
Author Jinhyeok Lee, who is famous as a kind mentor to parents of sons through books such as “The Power of First Habits for Elementary School Sons” and “For Mothers Who Are Afraid of Their Sons’ Puberty” and through social media, has now published “There Are Special Words to Say to Parents of Sons” with a focus on “words for parents of sons.”
The author, who has been an elementary school teacher for 22 years and has two sons currently in middle school, says that there are definitely specific words that can help you raise your sons well, and emphasizes that parents' words play a crucial role in awakening their sons' inner 10 potentials and developing their potential.
The ten potentials of a son that the author discusses in this book are self-esteem, independence, adversity quotient, health and physical strength, study skills, self-management and leadership, emotional regulation, empathy, social and emotional competence, and morality.
The ten possibilities are the seeds of potential that my son possesses, which could explode at any moment, and at the same time, they are the strength that my son absolutely needs to lead an active life in the world.
The author offers vivid examples and 50 realistic speaking techniques to parents who want to raise their sons well, but are also worried that their sons are late or causing problems.
At the same time, I have systematically included relative and absolute parenting and education methods for sons based on my own experience and trial and error of over 20 years of raising my own son at home and teaching someone else's son at work.
Through various episodes of 'Minwoo' and 'Seungyeol', models who embody the image of an ordinary son, the book is filled with know-how that can be applied immediately in real life, such as how to build self-esteem through daily morning and evening routines, how to strengthen independence while running errands, and how to awaken morality in playful situations with friends.
Although my son is a bit slow to develop and requires more effort to raise, his present, future, and distant future can all be positively different depending on when and how his parents speak to him.
This book will provide parents who still find raising their sons difficult and unfamiliar with the task, with a 100% chance of finding the opportunity to get along well with their sons and raise them well, just by saying a few simple words in everyday life.
Ultimately, it is about awakening your son's potential and developing his potential.
“That’s exactly what my parents said.”
Author Jinhyuk Lee, a current elementary school teacher and father of two sons
Discovered and organized in educational settings and at home
Parents' Scenarios for Raising Their Sons
Author Jinhyeok Lee, who is famous as a kind mentor to parents of sons through books such as “The Power of First Habits for Elementary School Sons” and “For Mothers Who Are Afraid of Their Sons’ Puberty” and through social media, has now published “There Are Special Words to Say to Parents of Sons” with a focus on “words for parents of sons.”
The author, who has been an elementary school teacher for 22 years and has two sons currently in middle school, says that there are definitely specific words that can help you raise your sons well, and emphasizes that parents' words play a crucial role in awakening their sons' inner 10 potentials and developing their potential.
The ten potentials of a son that the author discusses in this book are self-esteem, independence, adversity quotient, health and physical strength, study skills, self-management and leadership, emotional regulation, empathy, social and emotional competence, and morality.
The ten possibilities are the seeds of potential that my son possesses, which could explode at any moment, and at the same time, they are the strength that my son absolutely needs to lead an active life in the world.
The author offers vivid examples and 50 realistic speaking techniques to parents who want to raise their sons well, but are also worried that their sons are late or causing problems.
At the same time, I have systematically included relative and absolute parenting and education methods for sons based on my own experience and trial and error of over 20 years of raising my own son at home and teaching someone else's son at work.
Through various episodes of 'Minwoo' and 'Seungyeol', models who embody the image of an ordinary son, the book is filled with know-how that can be applied immediately in real life, such as how to build self-esteem through daily morning and evening routines, how to strengthen independence while running errands, and how to awaken morality in playful situations with friends.
Although my son is a bit slow to develop and requires more effort to raise, his present, future, and distant future can all be positively different depending on when and how his parents speak to him.
This book will provide parents who still find raising their sons difficult and unfamiliar with the task, with a 100% chance of finding the opportunity to get along well with their sons and raise them well, just by saying a few simple words in everyday life.
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Prologue | To all parents around the world who want to raise their sons well
Books at a glance
Minwoo and Seungyeol talking
Part 1: Words to Raise a Son Who Takes Responsibility for Himself
Chapter 01 Self-Esteem_ The Power to Live Your True Life
· A moment when competition needs to be reinterpreted
[Parents say] “But you’re good at something else.”
· Me over others, process over results
[Parents' words] "If you work hard, you will succeed!"
· Accept your temperament as it is.
[Parents' words] "Being introverted is also a good trait."
· The courage to take criticism to build your son's self-esteem
[Parents' words] "I'm talking about your behavior.
“I’m not saying I don’t like you.”
· The seeds of self-esteem sprout from a little attention from parents
[Parents' words] "Mom (Dad) will speak to you more gently."
Chapter 02 Self-reliance_ The power to move forward bravely on your own
A son who does as much as his parents expect
[Parents say] “You try it.”
· Waiting parents, choosing sons
[Parents say] “You choose.”
· Everyday adventures and errands that foster self-reliance
[Parents say] “Can you do this for me?”
· Correlation between economic ideology and self-reliance
[Parents say] “Will you help me manage the money?”
· Career exploration is a catalyst for self-reliance.
[Parents' words] "What will you do when you grow up?"
Chapter 03 Adversity Index_ The power to get back up even after falling and collapsing
· “What can’t be done can’t be done.”
[Parents say] “No!”
· Challenges require steps.
[Parents' Comments] "How did you do well from the beginning?"
Failure is bitter, but it helps.
[Parents' Comments] "What was lacking?"
· The moment when deficiency becomes education
[Parents' Comments] "Should we save some more money?"
· Parents, the most excellent positive filter
[Parents' words] "It's fortunate that things are at their worst now.
“Next time will definitely be better.”
Part 2: Raising a Son Who Learns and Practices Wisely and Proactively
Chapter 04 Health and Physical Fitness_ The Power to Strengthen the Foundation of Body and Mind
· Physical activity is everything to my son.
[Parents' words] "Shall we play outside?"
· PAPS and my son's physical fitness management
[Parents' words] "Shall we play soccer with Dad?"
· Play dirty, eat clean
[Parents' words] "It's okay if it's a little dirty."
· Sleep management is also necessary.
[Parents say] “It’s time to sleep now.”
· Take a rest when you are sick
[Parents' words] "You need to rest when you're sick."
Chapter 05 Study Power: The Power to Build a Foundation of Knowledge and Wisdom
· An excellent way to develop your son's concentration.
[Parents' Comments] "Shall we solve the problems one by one?"
· Flexibility is needed between the current and the previous.
[Parents' Note] "Shall we solve the advanced problems together?"
· Be together, respect, and be consistent
[Parents' words] "I have to finish what I have to do today."
· Literacy, the foundation of all study
[Parents' words] "The character '연' means 'to touch' and the character '에트패' means 'to be the best.'"
· Correlation between study motivation and reward
[Parents' words] "You worked hard, so we'll have tteokbokki for dinner tonight."
Chapter 06 Self-Management and Leadership_ The Power to Take Care of Myself and Consider Others
· The basics of self-management, time management
[Parents' Comments] “Should I write down the time for ~?”
· To get your son to organize and clean
[Parents' words] "Mom (Dad) will return the vacuum cleaner."
· Managing your smartphone is difficult, but be thorough
[Parents say] “Look at that.
“That’s what you said.”
· A true leader is someone who can humble himself.
[Parents' words] “Listen to your friend.”
How to develop leadership skills in your son
[Parents' Comments] "Okay, shall we have a meeting?"
Part 3: Words to Raise a Son Who Will Live and Build Healthy Relationships with Others
Chapter 07 Emotional Control Ability_ The Power to Wisely Tune Your Emotional Frequency
· The starting point of emotional regulation ability: recognizing emotions
[Parents' words] "This is how Mom (Dad) feels today."
· Why you should make your emotions visible
[Parents' Comments] “How are you feeling now?”
· Don't let your emotions become your attitude
[Parents' words] "You have to distinguish between feelings and attitudes."
· The more a parent endures, the more mature a son becomes.
[Parents say] “Say that again.”
· Emotional stability and emotional regulation ability
[Parents' words] “Mom and Dad fought.
I'm really sorry."
Chapter 08 Empathy: The power to fully understand and embrace the hearts of others
· Empathy with your son requires effort.
[Parents' words] "Shall I sleep with Dad?"
· Parents should first fully empathize with their child.
[Parents' words] "You must be upset."
· Concreteness and accuracy that elicits empathy from your son
[Parents' words] “Could you please open the right door of the refrigerator and take out the kimchi container behind the red container in the second compartment from the top?”
· A son's empathy for growing up with small creatures
[Parents' Comments] "Won't the goldfish be hungry?"
· Empathetic conversation techniques to teach your son
[Parents' Comments] “How do you think the main character felt?”
Chapter 09 Social and Emotional Competence: The Power to Get Along with the Environment
The power of the 'not-to-do' list
[Parents' words] "Why can't we do that?"
· Getting along really well with friends
[Parents say] “That’s bad behavior.”
· Provides an opportunity to resolve conflicts directly
[Parents' words] "Try to work it out with your friend."
· Do not interpret the other person's intentions hostilely.
[Parents say] “That could just be your feeling.”
· Socio-emotional competencies upgraded through expression
[Parents' Note] “Did you write a letter to Mom (Dad)?”
Chapter 10 Morality: The Power to Distinguish Right from Wrong
· Stages of moral development of a son
[Parents' words] "Why can't we do that?"
· Parents need to be firm.
[Parents' words] "If it can't be done, it can't be done."
· The impact of good judgment on your son
[Parents' words] "You shouldn't do the same thing your friends do."
· Parents' attitudes that develop morality
[Parents' Comments] "What did you learn?"
Netiquette for Sons These Days
[Parents' Note] "Let's leave a thoughtful message."
Books at a glance
Minwoo and Seungyeol talking
Part 1: Words to Raise a Son Who Takes Responsibility for Himself
Chapter 01 Self-Esteem_ The Power to Live Your True Life
· A moment when competition needs to be reinterpreted
[Parents say] “But you’re good at something else.”
· Me over others, process over results
[Parents' words] "If you work hard, you will succeed!"
· Accept your temperament as it is.
[Parents' words] "Being introverted is also a good trait."
· The courage to take criticism to build your son's self-esteem
[Parents' words] "I'm talking about your behavior.
“I’m not saying I don’t like you.”
· The seeds of self-esteem sprout from a little attention from parents
[Parents' words] "Mom (Dad) will speak to you more gently."
Chapter 02 Self-reliance_ The power to move forward bravely on your own
A son who does as much as his parents expect
[Parents say] “You try it.”
· Waiting parents, choosing sons
[Parents say] “You choose.”
· Everyday adventures and errands that foster self-reliance
[Parents say] “Can you do this for me?”
· Correlation between economic ideology and self-reliance
[Parents say] “Will you help me manage the money?”
· Career exploration is a catalyst for self-reliance.
[Parents' words] "What will you do when you grow up?"
Chapter 03 Adversity Index_ The power to get back up even after falling and collapsing
· “What can’t be done can’t be done.”
[Parents say] “No!”
· Challenges require steps.
[Parents' Comments] "How did you do well from the beginning?"
Failure is bitter, but it helps.
[Parents' Comments] "What was lacking?"
· The moment when deficiency becomes education
[Parents' Comments] "Should we save some more money?"
· Parents, the most excellent positive filter
[Parents' words] "It's fortunate that things are at their worst now.
“Next time will definitely be better.”
Part 2: Raising a Son Who Learns and Practices Wisely and Proactively
Chapter 04 Health and Physical Fitness_ The Power to Strengthen the Foundation of Body and Mind
· Physical activity is everything to my son.
[Parents' words] "Shall we play outside?"
· PAPS and my son's physical fitness management
[Parents' words] "Shall we play soccer with Dad?"
· Play dirty, eat clean
[Parents' words] "It's okay if it's a little dirty."
· Sleep management is also necessary.
[Parents say] “It’s time to sleep now.”
· Take a rest when you are sick
[Parents' words] "You need to rest when you're sick."
Chapter 05 Study Power: The Power to Build a Foundation of Knowledge and Wisdom
· An excellent way to develop your son's concentration.
[Parents' Comments] "Shall we solve the problems one by one?"
· Flexibility is needed between the current and the previous.
[Parents' Note] "Shall we solve the advanced problems together?"
· Be together, respect, and be consistent
[Parents' words] "I have to finish what I have to do today."
· Literacy, the foundation of all study
[Parents' words] "The character '연' means 'to touch' and the character '에트패' means 'to be the best.'"
· Correlation between study motivation and reward
[Parents' words] "You worked hard, so we'll have tteokbokki for dinner tonight."
Chapter 06 Self-Management and Leadership_ The Power to Take Care of Myself and Consider Others
· The basics of self-management, time management
[Parents' Comments] “Should I write down the time for ~?”
· To get your son to organize and clean
[Parents' words] "Mom (Dad) will return the vacuum cleaner."
· Managing your smartphone is difficult, but be thorough
[Parents say] “Look at that.
“That’s what you said.”
· A true leader is someone who can humble himself.
[Parents' words] “Listen to your friend.”
How to develop leadership skills in your son
[Parents' Comments] "Okay, shall we have a meeting?"
Part 3: Words to Raise a Son Who Will Live and Build Healthy Relationships with Others
Chapter 07 Emotional Control Ability_ The Power to Wisely Tune Your Emotional Frequency
· The starting point of emotional regulation ability: recognizing emotions
[Parents' words] "This is how Mom (Dad) feels today."
· Why you should make your emotions visible
[Parents' Comments] “How are you feeling now?”
· Don't let your emotions become your attitude
[Parents' words] "You have to distinguish between feelings and attitudes."
· The more a parent endures, the more mature a son becomes.
[Parents say] “Say that again.”
· Emotional stability and emotional regulation ability
[Parents' words] “Mom and Dad fought.
I'm really sorry."
Chapter 08 Empathy: The power to fully understand and embrace the hearts of others
· Empathy with your son requires effort.
[Parents' words] "Shall I sleep with Dad?"
· Parents should first fully empathize with their child.
[Parents' words] "You must be upset."
· Concreteness and accuracy that elicits empathy from your son
[Parents' words] “Could you please open the right door of the refrigerator and take out the kimchi container behind the red container in the second compartment from the top?”
· A son's empathy for growing up with small creatures
[Parents' Comments] "Won't the goldfish be hungry?"
· Empathetic conversation techniques to teach your son
[Parents' Comments] “How do you think the main character felt?”
Chapter 09 Social and Emotional Competence: The Power to Get Along with the Environment
The power of the 'not-to-do' list
[Parents' words] "Why can't we do that?"
· Getting along really well with friends
[Parents say] “That’s bad behavior.”
· Provides an opportunity to resolve conflicts directly
[Parents' words] "Try to work it out with your friend."
· Do not interpret the other person's intentions hostilely.
[Parents say] “That could just be your feeling.”
· Socio-emotional competencies upgraded through expression
[Parents' Note] “Did you write a letter to Mom (Dad)?”
Chapter 10 Morality: The Power to Distinguish Right from Wrong
· Stages of moral development of a son
[Parents' words] "Why can't we do that?"
· Parents need to be firm.
[Parents' words] "If it can't be done, it can't be done."
· The impact of good judgment on your son
[Parents' words] "You shouldn't do the same thing your friends do."
· Parents' attitudes that develop morality
[Parents' Comments] "What did you learn?"
Netiquette for Sons These Days
[Parents' Note] "Let's leave a thoughtful message."
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Into the book
The elementary school years, when children first enter school and begin group life, are an important time to awaken their potential, the physical and mental strength they need for a long life.
Self-esteem that allows you to live your true life, independence that allows you to move forward bravely on your own, adversity index that allows you to get back up even after falling down, health and physical strength that build a solid foundation of body and mind, study skills that lay the foundation of knowledge and wisdom, self-management and leadership that take care of yourself and others, emotional control that wisely matches your emotional frequency, empathy that allows you to fully understand and care for others, social and emotional competency that allows you to get along well with your environment, morality that allows you to distinguish right from wrong…
If parents can awaken and nurture their sons' ten potentials in this way, their sons will gain the power to grow on their own.
What should parents do to achieve this? What attitude should they have and what should they say? This book began with these two questions.
Parents are willing to do anything and everything to raise their sons well, and the most common and immediately practical method is 'speech'.
---From "Prologue - To all parents in the world who want to raise their sons well"
“I did it after playing yesterday, so I couldn’t finish it until late.
“I think it would be better to study first and then rest today.”
“I can do well today.”
“Yes, I understand how you feel.
But we promised that if we couldn't finish it properly yesterday, we would study first from next time.
Do you remember?
“….”
Reminding your son of past experiences and promises will make him more likely to do things he needs to do first, even if he doesn't feel like it.
It also takes some skill on the part of parents to make their sons accept something as their own.
When parents give their sons a short period of time to choose, and use more imperative sentences like "Let's do our homework" rather than imperative sentences like "Do your homework," or even interrogative sentences like "Should we do our homework?", they can help raise their sons to be more proactive.
---From "Chapter 02 Self-Reliance - The Magic of Waiting and Choice"
A good head is something you have to be born with.
If a son hears praise for something he cannot do, he will be unable to do anything.
When I hear things like that, it doesn't feel good, it just feels burdensome.
So when praising your son, you should encourage him by focusing on what he can do right now, that is, his actions and processes.
When you see your son studying that day, when you see him persistently digging into the things he didn't know and trying to understand them, say something like, "You tried hard to understand them even though you didn't know them." When you see your son sitting upright and doing his work even though his body must have been hunched over and he didn't want to study, say something like, "You studied while controlling your mind." Keep an eye on your son and then say something to him.
The key to praising and encouraging your son is to point out behaviors he can control. Remember this, too.
---From "Chapter 05 Study Ability - Conditions for Praise for Sons"
If parents want to reflect their son's heart like a mirror, they need to observe their son a little more closely.
Because we need to find the underlying cause of emotions and be able to understand emotions through nonverbal behaviors such as facial expressions and gestures.
How can I reflect my son's feelings at home? First, listen to what he has to say.
It's a good idea to talk to your son about what happened and why he's upset, and then say something like this when he gets upset and starts to spit it out.
“Our Minwoo is upset because his toy broke.”
“I’m anxious because I haven’t finished my homework yet.”
Then your son will also realize that the reason he is feeling bad or angry is because he is having those feelings.
Then you start to think about what to do to relieve those feelings.
At this point, it would be good to tell the story one more time.
"Are you upset that your toy broke? Why not take it to our toy company for repairs?"
“I didn’t do my homework, but I still have time.
It'll only take 30 minutes after you eat.
“Let’s use our time wisely.”
If you repeat this kind of behavior and saying things, your son will gain the ability to figure out why he is angry.
As parents make more efforts to reflect their son's emotions in everyday life, the son's pattern of dealing with his own emotions will develop in a very sophisticated way.
---From "Chapter 07 Emotional Control Ability - Parents are a mirror that reflects their son's heart"
To properly develop your son's social and emotional skills, conversation simulations with him are essential.
That way, when you encounter a certain situation, you can be a little more careful about your actions.
When your son brings home a list of things to do, have a conversation about them using the information below as a reference.
“Minwoo, weren’t you running around in the hallway?” (×)
Then the son says that even if he had run around, it wouldn't have happened.
I don't want to get scolded at home.
So, it's a good idea to start the conversation like this.
“Minwoo, it says on the notice, ‘No running in the hallways.’ Why can’t I run in the hallways?” (○)
There is always a reason for any prohibited action.
It is important to explore the reasons while talking to your child.
That way, when the same situation arises, you can think about it again at least once.
The "don't do" list that your homeroom teacher asks you to write in your notice board is a great topic for homeschooling.
It would be a good idea to talk about it together every time your child writes a report.
Self-esteem that allows you to live your true life, independence that allows you to move forward bravely on your own, adversity index that allows you to get back up even after falling down, health and physical strength that build a solid foundation of body and mind, study skills that lay the foundation of knowledge and wisdom, self-management and leadership that take care of yourself and others, emotional control that wisely matches your emotional frequency, empathy that allows you to fully understand and care for others, social and emotional competency that allows you to get along well with your environment, morality that allows you to distinguish right from wrong…
If parents can awaken and nurture their sons' ten potentials in this way, their sons will gain the power to grow on their own.
What should parents do to achieve this? What attitude should they have and what should they say? This book began with these two questions.
Parents are willing to do anything and everything to raise their sons well, and the most common and immediately practical method is 'speech'.
---From "Prologue - To all parents in the world who want to raise their sons well"
“I did it after playing yesterday, so I couldn’t finish it until late.
“I think it would be better to study first and then rest today.”
“I can do well today.”
“Yes, I understand how you feel.
But we promised that if we couldn't finish it properly yesterday, we would study first from next time.
Do you remember?
“….”
Reminding your son of past experiences and promises will make him more likely to do things he needs to do first, even if he doesn't feel like it.
It also takes some skill on the part of parents to make their sons accept something as their own.
When parents give their sons a short period of time to choose, and use more imperative sentences like "Let's do our homework" rather than imperative sentences like "Do your homework," or even interrogative sentences like "Should we do our homework?", they can help raise their sons to be more proactive.
---From "Chapter 02 Self-Reliance - The Magic of Waiting and Choice"
A good head is something you have to be born with.
If a son hears praise for something he cannot do, he will be unable to do anything.
When I hear things like that, it doesn't feel good, it just feels burdensome.
So when praising your son, you should encourage him by focusing on what he can do right now, that is, his actions and processes.
When you see your son studying that day, when you see him persistently digging into the things he didn't know and trying to understand them, say something like, "You tried hard to understand them even though you didn't know them." When you see your son sitting upright and doing his work even though his body must have been hunched over and he didn't want to study, say something like, "You studied while controlling your mind." Keep an eye on your son and then say something to him.
The key to praising and encouraging your son is to point out behaviors he can control. Remember this, too.
---From "Chapter 05 Study Ability - Conditions for Praise for Sons"
If parents want to reflect their son's heart like a mirror, they need to observe their son a little more closely.
Because we need to find the underlying cause of emotions and be able to understand emotions through nonverbal behaviors such as facial expressions and gestures.
How can I reflect my son's feelings at home? First, listen to what he has to say.
It's a good idea to talk to your son about what happened and why he's upset, and then say something like this when he gets upset and starts to spit it out.
“Our Minwoo is upset because his toy broke.”
“I’m anxious because I haven’t finished my homework yet.”
Then your son will also realize that the reason he is feeling bad or angry is because he is having those feelings.
Then you start to think about what to do to relieve those feelings.
At this point, it would be good to tell the story one more time.
"Are you upset that your toy broke? Why not take it to our toy company for repairs?"
“I didn’t do my homework, but I still have time.
It'll only take 30 minutes after you eat.
“Let’s use our time wisely.”
If you repeat this kind of behavior and saying things, your son will gain the ability to figure out why he is angry.
As parents make more efforts to reflect their son's emotions in everyday life, the son's pattern of dealing with his own emotions will develop in a very sophisticated way.
---From "Chapter 07 Emotional Control Ability - Parents are a mirror that reflects their son's heart"
To properly develop your son's social and emotional skills, conversation simulations with him are essential.
That way, when you encounter a certain situation, you can be a little more careful about your actions.
When your son brings home a list of things to do, have a conversation about them using the information below as a reference.
“Minwoo, weren’t you running around in the hallway?” (×)
Then the son says that even if he had run around, it wouldn't have happened.
I don't want to get scolded at home.
So, it's a good idea to start the conversation like this.
“Minwoo, it says on the notice, ‘No running in the hallways.’ Why can’t I run in the hallways?” (○)
There is always a reason for any prohibited action.
It is important to explore the reasons while talking to your child.
That way, when the same situation arises, you can think about it again at least once.
The "don't do" list that your homeroom teacher asks you to write in your notice board is a great topic for homeschooling.
It would be a good idea to talk about it together every time your child writes a report.
---From "Chapter 09 Social and Emotional Competence - Talking While Thinking About the Situation"
Publisher's Review
“Are you worried that your son will fall behind and make mistakes?
At times like that, please say a word to your son.
“The son follows along slowly at his own pace.”
3No! No prejudice, no nagging, no stress
A son's amazing potential sprouts from ordinary words from his parents.
This book is a 'speaking secret book on raising sons well, by parents of sons, for parents of sons', filled with the hearts of parents who raised two sons, the experience of a teacher who changed thousands of boys, and the know-how of a parenting mentor who has garnered sympathy from 13 million people on social media.
The author does not simply give one-sided advice to parents of sons, saying, “In situation A, say B.”
This is because, based on the data accumulated so far, we know that most sons are unpredictable beings, so doing so will not lead to results that parents want.
So, the author organized this book into three stages to help parents raise their sons well, that is, to speak words that awaken their sons' potential. This book allows parents to look at the 'words' when speaking to their sons from a broad perspective, including not only the 'words' themselves, but also the 'context' in which those words appear and the 'current situation' the son is in.
For example, if a parent wants to raise their son's self-esteem and speaks to him, they should first find out when self-esteem should be appropriately applied in the son's daily life or school life (Step 1: Introduction), then look at real-life cases and simulate them (Step 2: Cases), and finally, have the parent speak the prepared words as is or in an application at the optimal time (Step 3: Parental Speech).
[Step 1 Introduction] A situation where a student breaks a rule and the teacher points it out, but the student perceives this as disliking him/her.
[Step 2 Case] Various Reactions of Parents When Their Son Carelessly Breaks a Cup
[Step 3 Parents’ Comments] “I’m talking about your behavior.
It's not that I don't like you."
The reason why the process of parents speaking to their sons is systematically structured is simple.
That way, I can reach my son sufficiently.
The desire of parents to raise their sons well and the desire of sons to do as they please are always bound to clash, but this process transforms the parents' words to their sons from nagging to sincere teachings.
The book kindly presents five parental comments that go through three stages for each of the ten possibilities for a son, so that a total of 50 parental comments can be closely applied while actually raising a son.
“To the rebellious son, to the silent son
Parents' words given separately
“It becomes the seed of potential.”
Son-possible! Raising a son who can do anything
Parents' New Speaking
"Where's the jacket I wore this morning?" - "I don't know... Oh, right! Taekwondo school!" - "Ugh..."
“Now wash up and get dressed.” - “Just put this puzzle together.” - “Do it now!”
“Please stop running around.
“I’ll come up from downstairs…” - “No!” - “Ugh…”
There are three main types of things that parents (especially mothers) say to their sons every day.
The first is fact-checking (very few sons will tell their parents about things they absolutely need to know - notices, family newsletters, things they got hurt while playing, etc.), the second is ordering (they don't do what you tell them to do, so you have to scold them), and the third is complaining (if orders don't work, you have to desperately cling to them).
Parents try their best every day to raise their wild and mischievous sons well, but they always end up just hovering around on the outside, unable to get close to them, using the same old formula of fact-checking, ordering, and complaining.
This book was written for all the parents in the world who try hard to raise their sons well, but always end up frustrated by default.
If you have been repeating the same words over and over again to raise your son well, it is time to break away from that method and start using new words prepared specifically for your son.
Of course, it is not easy to change long-established habits overnight.
However, if you approach your son slowly and correctly as the author guides in this book and say a word to him, your son will also change in a positive direction as much as the words of his parents have changed.
A son who doesn't know where he'll go, a son who needs to be told what to do, a son who causes trouble at every turn, but hidden within his actions and heart is the driving force that can help him grow more than anyone else.
It is a fact that biologically speaking, most sons develop more slowly than daughters, but that does not mean they cannot catch up.
As a child grows, if parents recognize his potential and stimulate him with appropriate words, things will definitely change.
This book will be the most solid and reliable cornerstone on that path.
At times like that, please say a word to your son.
“The son follows along slowly at his own pace.”
3No! No prejudice, no nagging, no stress
A son's amazing potential sprouts from ordinary words from his parents.
This book is a 'speaking secret book on raising sons well, by parents of sons, for parents of sons', filled with the hearts of parents who raised two sons, the experience of a teacher who changed thousands of boys, and the know-how of a parenting mentor who has garnered sympathy from 13 million people on social media.
The author does not simply give one-sided advice to parents of sons, saying, “In situation A, say B.”
This is because, based on the data accumulated so far, we know that most sons are unpredictable beings, so doing so will not lead to results that parents want.
So, the author organized this book into three stages to help parents raise their sons well, that is, to speak words that awaken their sons' potential. This book allows parents to look at the 'words' when speaking to their sons from a broad perspective, including not only the 'words' themselves, but also the 'context' in which those words appear and the 'current situation' the son is in.
For example, if a parent wants to raise their son's self-esteem and speaks to him, they should first find out when self-esteem should be appropriately applied in the son's daily life or school life (Step 1: Introduction), then look at real-life cases and simulate them (Step 2: Cases), and finally, have the parent speak the prepared words as is or in an application at the optimal time (Step 3: Parental Speech).
[Step 1 Introduction] A situation where a student breaks a rule and the teacher points it out, but the student perceives this as disliking him/her.
[Step 2 Case] Various Reactions of Parents When Their Son Carelessly Breaks a Cup
[Step 3 Parents’ Comments] “I’m talking about your behavior.
It's not that I don't like you."
The reason why the process of parents speaking to their sons is systematically structured is simple.
That way, I can reach my son sufficiently.
The desire of parents to raise their sons well and the desire of sons to do as they please are always bound to clash, but this process transforms the parents' words to their sons from nagging to sincere teachings.
The book kindly presents five parental comments that go through three stages for each of the ten possibilities for a son, so that a total of 50 parental comments can be closely applied while actually raising a son.
“To the rebellious son, to the silent son
Parents' words given separately
“It becomes the seed of potential.”
Son-possible! Raising a son who can do anything
Parents' New Speaking
"Where's the jacket I wore this morning?" - "I don't know... Oh, right! Taekwondo school!" - "Ugh..."
“Now wash up and get dressed.” - “Just put this puzzle together.” - “Do it now!”
“Please stop running around.
“I’ll come up from downstairs…” - “No!” - “Ugh…”
There are three main types of things that parents (especially mothers) say to their sons every day.
The first is fact-checking (very few sons will tell their parents about things they absolutely need to know - notices, family newsletters, things they got hurt while playing, etc.), the second is ordering (they don't do what you tell them to do, so you have to scold them), and the third is complaining (if orders don't work, you have to desperately cling to them).
Parents try their best every day to raise their wild and mischievous sons well, but they always end up just hovering around on the outside, unable to get close to them, using the same old formula of fact-checking, ordering, and complaining.
This book was written for all the parents in the world who try hard to raise their sons well, but always end up frustrated by default.
If you have been repeating the same words over and over again to raise your son well, it is time to break away from that method and start using new words prepared specifically for your son.
Of course, it is not easy to change long-established habits overnight.
However, if you approach your son slowly and correctly as the author guides in this book and say a word to him, your son will also change in a positive direction as much as the words of his parents have changed.
A son who doesn't know where he'll go, a son who needs to be told what to do, a son who causes trouble at every turn, but hidden within his actions and heart is the driving force that can help him grow more than anyone else.
It is a fact that biologically speaking, most sons develop more slowly than daughters, but that does not mean they cannot catch up.
As a child grows, if parents recognize his potential and stimulate him with appropriate words, things will definitely change.
This book will be the most solid and reliable cornerstone on that path.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: September 20, 2024
- Page count, weight, size: 356 pages | 490g | 145*210*30mm
- ISBN13: 9791192097916
- ISBN10: 1192097912
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