My sweet and rude mother
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“This book made me love myself for the first time.” A time of self-healing and growth from the best psychologist in the family counseling field! “Let go of the anger, resentment, and guilt towards your mother. A book that focuses entirely on you, boosting your self-esteem and finding direction in life! How does my mother's presence affect my life? Professor Nam-ok Lee, a psychologist and family therapist who is considered one of the top authorities in the field of family counseling in Korea and also recognized in Germany and China, has met hundreds of thousands of people through counseling for over 30 years and has come to keenly realize the importance of motherhood, the most instinctive and fundamental relationship between humans. For those who are overwhelmed by countless emotions when faced with the name “mother,” there is a memory of the heart that must be brought to mind. To sustain a healthy life, we must not repeat the pain by unilaterally blaming or ignoring our mothers, but rather discover the positive power of relationships that flows unconsciously, and through that experience, learn how to restore self-esteem and find our true selves. In "My Affectionate and Rude Mother," the author delves into a variety of counseling cases that shed new light on the meaning of motherhood, drawing on her rich psychological knowledge and experience. This book delves into the fundamental causes of wounds and solutions from a family therapy perspective, and densely captures the entire process of overcoming pain while discovering one's inner value. |
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My family's story that helped me understand my mother more deeply.
A warm and deep gaze that touches the earnest desires of humanity.
prolog
The mother's presence is rewritten
Part 1: The Beginning of a Relationship: Going to Find Mom
I met the mother hidden inside me
The beauty of humanity / In the name of mother / The starting point of my life, mother
Three Signs Your Child Accepts / How They View the World
The love a mother gives, the love a child desires / The shadow of a relationship, the mother hidden within me
Part 2: A Conversation with My Mom, Who Gave Me a New Understanding
First Mom - Mom, let me go now
Letting Go and Connecting / The Tragedy of Undifferentiated Love / Where Did My Anger Begin?
Everyone has left me.
You are the only one / A heart that can neither be this way nor that way / My mother's life and my life are different
Second Mom - The Sacrifice of the Love Triangle, We Also Have a Dad
Mom, Dad, Me, the Victim of a Love Triangle / Children Who Suffer / The Reason for My Sadness / I'm Right, I'm Doing Well
To break the cycle of misfortune / Finding my father's place again / The power within me to change my destiny
Third Mom - Adult Children in Need of Love
I hate my mom to death / My mom doesn't smile / I want to be loved / Rediscovering my mom
Characteristics of a person who hates to death / A child who is an adult who appeals for love
Fourth Mom - Discrimination Hurts Everyone
Why do you only hate me / Healthy love is fair / I feel wronged / I can't do better
A special prophecy given to me
Part 3: The Power of Deep-Rooted Self-Esteem: Family Psychotherapy
How to Meet the Family Within Me - A Mother's Voice I Long to Hear
The Beginning of Family Therapy / The Value of My Life Connected to My Family / I, Too, Have a Good Mother
The visible changes within me / Embracing my mother's voice in my heart
A New Family Story - Building a Family
What is Family Building? / Self-Expressing Family / Creating a New Structure
Trauma from the original family / Now I see my children / Now that the wounds have healed, I see things
We will not forget the miracle we created.
Part 4: Mom and I, Our Changed Time
Counseling healing, a positive perspective that heals life
The next step in understanding the mind / How to transform situations into positive meaning / Changing our consciousness
Healthy self-esteem by my side / A heart that likes brings good results / How do I view the world?
A warm and deep gaze that touches the earnest desires of humanity.
prolog
The mother's presence is rewritten
Part 1: The Beginning of a Relationship: Going to Find Mom
I met the mother hidden inside me
The beauty of humanity / In the name of mother / The starting point of my life, mother
Three Signs Your Child Accepts / How They View the World
The love a mother gives, the love a child desires / The shadow of a relationship, the mother hidden within me
Part 2: A Conversation with My Mom, Who Gave Me a New Understanding
First Mom - Mom, let me go now
Letting Go and Connecting / The Tragedy of Undifferentiated Love / Where Did My Anger Begin?
Everyone has left me.
You are the only one / A heart that can neither be this way nor that way / My mother's life and my life are different
Second Mom - The Sacrifice of the Love Triangle, We Also Have a Dad
Mom, Dad, Me, the Victim of a Love Triangle / Children Who Suffer / The Reason for My Sadness / I'm Right, I'm Doing Well
To break the cycle of misfortune / Finding my father's place again / The power within me to change my destiny
Third Mom - Adult Children in Need of Love
I hate my mom to death / My mom doesn't smile / I want to be loved / Rediscovering my mom
Characteristics of a person who hates to death / A child who is an adult who appeals for love
Fourth Mom - Discrimination Hurts Everyone
Why do you only hate me / Healthy love is fair / I feel wronged / I can't do better
A special prophecy given to me
Part 3: The Power of Deep-Rooted Self-Esteem: Family Psychotherapy
How to Meet the Family Within Me - A Mother's Voice I Long to Hear
The Beginning of Family Therapy / The Value of My Life Connected to My Family / I, Too, Have a Good Mother
The visible changes within me / Embracing my mother's voice in my heart
A New Family Story - Building a Family
What is Family Building? / Self-Expressing Family / Creating a New Structure
Trauma from the original family / Now I see my children / Now that the wounds have healed, I see things
We will not forget the miracle we created.
Part 4: Mom and I, Our Changed Time
Counseling healing, a positive perspective that heals life
The next step in understanding the mind / How to transform situations into positive meaning / Changing our consciousness
Healthy self-esteem by my side / A heart that likes brings good results / How do I view the world?
Detailed image
Into the book
We must muster up the courage to confront the hidden wounds in our hearts and look again at the circumstances behind them.
Only then can you realize the power to sustain a healthy life going forward.
And I can reunite with my mother, whom I so desperately wanted to hug as a child, and reconcile with my current life.
--- p.59
'This was Mom's feeling. It must have been hard for Mom.
But that's a mother's life.
'I have to live a separate life here.' After understanding this, I separate my mother's life from my life.
Two trainings are required at this time.
One is the task of understanding your mother.
The reason my mom did that was because she also didn't see a good model.
There was no model I wanted to apply to escape my unhappy life.
I understand when I see this mother's life.
Another thing is that mothers should also understand the lives of previous generations and tell their daughters stories of comfort.
--- p.82
Even if a mother's life was difficult, that is not a problem for her children to solve.
It's a mother's job, and the most powerful mother's life is when she can unravel and redesign it herself.
Mom, too, must have had countless choices in life.
If that choice has created your current life, you can create a new life with the choices you make in the future.
--- p.84
Among the countless memories she had, she tried to relive the ones with her parents.
If you recall a memory of being loved rather than not being loved, and a warm image comes to mind, even if it seems trivial, then you should deeply accept it and reflect on it.
Then that memory creates a sanctuary in your heart.
--- p.108
If I want to become a precious person, I have to acknowledge and comfort my feelings by saying, "This is how I felt. I should have looked at it properly."
When you cherish yourself like that, positive memories will slowly surround you.
As I become more precious, the wounds that I feared as negative memories do not come as much.
--- p.132
The life decisions we make are always accompanied by worries and anxieties.
But more important than the decision itself is how much you like the decision after you make it.
It has already happened, and if you believe in and follow what you have chosen, it is the right decision, otherwise it is the wrong decision.
Only then can you realize the power to sustain a healthy life going forward.
And I can reunite with my mother, whom I so desperately wanted to hug as a child, and reconcile with my current life.
--- p.59
'This was Mom's feeling. It must have been hard for Mom.
But that's a mother's life.
'I have to live a separate life here.' After understanding this, I separate my mother's life from my life.
Two trainings are required at this time.
One is the task of understanding your mother.
The reason my mom did that was because she also didn't see a good model.
There was no model I wanted to apply to escape my unhappy life.
I understand when I see this mother's life.
Another thing is that mothers should also understand the lives of previous generations and tell their daughters stories of comfort.
--- p.82
Even if a mother's life was difficult, that is not a problem for her children to solve.
It's a mother's job, and the most powerful mother's life is when she can unravel and redesign it herself.
Mom, too, must have had countless choices in life.
If that choice has created your current life, you can create a new life with the choices you make in the future.
--- p.84
Among the countless memories she had, she tried to relive the ones with her parents.
If you recall a memory of being loved rather than not being loved, and a warm image comes to mind, even if it seems trivial, then you should deeply accept it and reflect on it.
Then that memory creates a sanctuary in your heart.
--- p.108
If I want to become a precious person, I have to acknowledge and comfort my feelings by saying, "This is how I felt. I should have looked at it properly."
When you cherish yourself like that, positive memories will slowly surround you.
As I become more precious, the wounds that I feared as negative memories do not come as much.
--- p.132
The life decisions we make are always accompanied by worries and anxieties.
But more important than the decision itself is how much you like the decision after you make it.
It has already happened, and if you believe in and follow what you have chosen, it is the right decision, otherwise it is the wrong decision.
--- p.231
Publisher's Review
“This book made me love myself for the first time.”
A time of self-healing and growth from the best psychologist in the family counseling field!
“Let go of the anger, resentment, and guilt towards your mother.
A book that focuses entirely on you, boosting your self-esteem and finding direction in life!
How does my mother's presence affect my life?
Professor Nam-ok Lee, a psychologist and family therapist who is considered one of the top authorities in the field of family counseling in Korea and also recognized in Germany and China, has met hundreds of thousands of people through counseling for over 30 years and has come to keenly realize the importance of motherhood, the most instinctive and fundamental relationship between humans.
For those who are overwhelmed by countless emotions when faced with the name “mother,” there is a memory of the heart that must be brought to mind.
To sustain a healthy life, we must not repeat the pain by unilaterally blaming or ignoring our mothers, but rather discover the positive power of relationships that flows unconsciously, and through that experience, learn how to restore self-esteem and find our true selves.
In "My Affectionate and Rude Mother," the author delves into a variety of counseling cases that shed new light on the meaning of motherhood, drawing on her rich psychological knowledge and experience. This book delves into the fundamental causes of wounds and solutions from a family therapy perspective, and densely captures the entire process of overcoming pain while discovering one's inner value.
The book is divided into four parts.
In "Part 1: The Beginning of a Relationship, Going to Find Mom," I identified the type of relationship I have with my mother and suggested a psychological approach to how to develop the relationship.
In "Part 2: A Conversation with a Mother Who Understands Me in a New Way," we look at the cases of mothers who make their children feel guilty by not letting go, mothers who cause pain to their children by passing on marital conflicts to them, mothers who make their children starve for love throughout their lives with self-centered love, and mothers who cause great pain to their children by discriminating against siblings. We also go through a specific counseling process together to see how mothers and children face and heal their wounds.
In Part 3, "The Power of Deep-Rooted Self-Esteem: Family Psychotherapy," we learn how to improve fundamental self-esteem and discover inner strength by identifying our roots and reconciling with past memories through practical methods from a family therapy perspective.
In Part 4, “Mom and I, Our Changed Time,” we learned realistic and practical ways to change our lives through a positive perspective after understanding our relationship with our mother.
The author, who has dedicated himself to family counseling for a long time, says that the fundamental strength of life comes from discovering the beauty within us.
The author's thoughtful and warm gaze, listening to the stories behind the wounds, takes us deep into our hearts, awakening hidden desires and longings, and encouraging forgiveness and reconciliation.
The process is so comfortable and soothing that just feeling that emotion can bring us deep comfort.
I recommend this to you who is crumbling in front of a mother like this today.
- She stabs me in the back with a merciless knife, saying, "I'm saying this because I'm your mom."
- I can't leave my mother's side because of a strange sense of guilt.
- Am I invisible? I only give it to different siblings every time.
I want to escape from my mother, who unilaterally vents her feelings.
- After giving birth, my hatred for my mother grew stronger.
A time of self-healing and growth from the best psychologist in the family counseling field!
“Let go of the anger, resentment, and guilt towards your mother.
A book that focuses entirely on you, boosting your self-esteem and finding direction in life!
How does my mother's presence affect my life?
Professor Nam-ok Lee, a psychologist and family therapist who is considered one of the top authorities in the field of family counseling in Korea and also recognized in Germany and China, has met hundreds of thousands of people through counseling for over 30 years and has come to keenly realize the importance of motherhood, the most instinctive and fundamental relationship between humans.
For those who are overwhelmed by countless emotions when faced with the name “mother,” there is a memory of the heart that must be brought to mind.
To sustain a healthy life, we must not repeat the pain by unilaterally blaming or ignoring our mothers, but rather discover the positive power of relationships that flows unconsciously, and through that experience, learn how to restore self-esteem and find our true selves.
In "My Affectionate and Rude Mother," the author delves into a variety of counseling cases that shed new light on the meaning of motherhood, drawing on her rich psychological knowledge and experience. This book delves into the fundamental causes of wounds and solutions from a family therapy perspective, and densely captures the entire process of overcoming pain while discovering one's inner value.
The book is divided into four parts.
In "Part 1: The Beginning of a Relationship, Going to Find Mom," I identified the type of relationship I have with my mother and suggested a psychological approach to how to develop the relationship.
In "Part 2: A Conversation with a Mother Who Understands Me in a New Way," we look at the cases of mothers who make their children feel guilty by not letting go, mothers who cause pain to their children by passing on marital conflicts to them, mothers who make their children starve for love throughout their lives with self-centered love, and mothers who cause great pain to their children by discriminating against siblings. We also go through a specific counseling process together to see how mothers and children face and heal their wounds.
In Part 3, "The Power of Deep-Rooted Self-Esteem: Family Psychotherapy," we learn how to improve fundamental self-esteem and discover inner strength by identifying our roots and reconciling with past memories through practical methods from a family therapy perspective.
In Part 4, “Mom and I, Our Changed Time,” we learned realistic and practical ways to change our lives through a positive perspective after understanding our relationship with our mother.
The author, who has dedicated himself to family counseling for a long time, says that the fundamental strength of life comes from discovering the beauty within us.
The author's thoughtful and warm gaze, listening to the stories behind the wounds, takes us deep into our hearts, awakening hidden desires and longings, and encouraging forgiveness and reconciliation.
The process is so comfortable and soothing that just feeling that emotion can bring us deep comfort.
I recommend this to you who is crumbling in front of a mother like this today.
- She stabs me in the back with a merciless knife, saying, "I'm saying this because I'm your mom."
- I can't leave my mother's side because of a strange sense of guilt.
- Am I invisible? I only give it to different siblings every time.
I want to escape from my mother, who unilaterally vents her feelings.
- After giving birth, my hatred for my mother grew stronger.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: June 8, 2020
- Page count, weight, size: 240 pages | 362g | 135*200*14mm
- ISBN13: 9791197024108
- ISBN10: 1197024107
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