Prologue - Comfort from a Stranger

Chapter 1: Parents at a loss when faced with the word ADHD
The feelings of a parent who is too precarious to be a strong home to support their child

Was this child born to torment me? - The heart of a parent is more desperate than that of a child.
Why Parents Are More Devastated Than Children Over ADHD Labeling - The Wide Range of Parental Emotions
Parents' self-efficacy hits rock bottom - the desire to find the cause and blame, and feelings of guilt.
Denial of reality that calls for hospital visits - makes it difficult to regulate emotions
Before the hearts of neglected parents become more desperate - Parents filled with anxiety and anger / A vague sense of unease about a difficult future
**With a heart that comforts me


Chapter 2: My Behavior with My Child Changes Without Me Knowing
Addressing the behaviors and thoughts that parents suddenly encounter when faced with the standards and situations of ADHD

Fight or flee! - Run? / Fight? / Or neither...
We must constantly check our thinking glasses - thoughts stained by negative emotions/prejudices that arise without our knowledge/the 'thought' of unhappiness exacerbates our own problems.
The growing pains of acceptance that don't always translate into reality - because children are the only things that can't be compromised, you must first understand yourself.
**To fully accept the child's condition


Chapter 3: Parents of ADHD Need Help Accepting Them Too
Advice for becoming a new 'me' and accepting our child as he or she is

How to avoid being flustered by your child's sudden movements - About your child's hyperactivity
If you hear a child being disruptive in class - about your child's impulsivity
A child who keeps forgetting everyday things - About the child's memory problem
If you have trouble concentrating because your thoughts are floating around - About your child's inattention
**Attention Test to Learn with Your Child


Chapter 4: ADHD Is Never a Barrier to Being Happy with My Child
Solutions to help children with ADHD face real-world challenges

Let's rebuild the parent-child relationship - the root of hatred that runs deeper than expected / To restore a relationship that has been deeply damaged for a long time
Let's reduce conflict in everyday life - A war-like daily life with a never-ending barrage of nagging / A peaceful daily life is not impossible.
To help your child get along well with friends - improving relationships with friends boosts self-esteem. / Practice making a kite before talking to friends.
Communicating with your school teacher - Another collaborator, the journey with your teacher
Studying is not something you should give up on - A surefire study strategy, letting go of parental greed/Let go of conventional study methods.
Another hurdle to overcome: puberty. ADHD children now have a surge of independence! / Puberty: Girls become more sensitive / Instilling the power to become independent.
**Conflict Areas Checklist for Children with ADHD


Chapter 5: To Protect My Child, I Must Protect My Heart
A Prescription for a Happy Life with Your Children, and for Parents to Care for Yourself and Avoid Getting Tired

When the burden on your heart feels heavy - it's time to recover your emotional energy as a parent.
Husband, are you on my side? Or are you on his? - I need emotional support.
To have peace of mind - to be more flexible in the face of change
Let's develop the habit of looking at strengths first in everything - 'Trust' is the easiest and most valuable thing parents can do for their children.

Epilogue - Finding meaning in being a parent of an ADHD child!

The moment a mother first witnesses her child's impulses, her anxiety begins to wane.
Parents' Wise 'Centering' for Healthy Self-Esteem in ADHD Children!

The number of children with ADHD is increasing significantly over time, to the point where it is said that one in ten children has ADHD.
It's very common to hear scary anecdotes about ADHD, such as children who can't sit still at school and run around, or children who can't remember what they just heard and are always distracted.
Children with ADHD are a regular subject of “My Child Has Changed.”
That's why, among mothers, the word ADHD has become a word that makes them feel anxious and makes their hearts sink.


In these situations, many mothers easily become anxious even if the representative symptoms of ADHD are slightly similar to their child's situation.
Due to anxiety, there are more and more cases where parents are unable to look after their children properly.
As a result, parents, who should be on the child's side more than anyone else, sometimes treat their child with prejudice or show an unwillingness to acknowledge the symptoms of their child with ADHD.
Then, when a child is diagnosed with ADHD, they often lose their composure, feel guilty, and become depressed.
This anxious state of mind of the mother is not helpful at all to the mother herself, the family, or the child with ADHD.
There is a risk of overtreatment, and above all, it can cause the child to develop a negative perception of himself or herself, which can have a negative impact on his or her self-esteem and emotions.

Parents, more than anyone else, must look at their children as they are and acknowledge the value of their children's existence, which is like a jewel.
We must protect children from the gaze and prejudice of those around them and instill in them healthy self-esteem and independence.
So, how can mothers calm their minds and care for their children with ADHD? What is the best way to help them and bring happiness to the entire family?

This book honestly tells parents who are faced with their child's ADHD what mindset they should have when dealing with their child and how to view and raise a child who is different from others.
It is also a vivid parenting book on ADHD that teaches realistic methods for raising children to be healthy and independent, while healing the hearts of parents and children who are hurt by the prejudice and gaze of those around them.

Mothers are people too. If they have compassion and mindfulness, their children and families can survive!
The most important thing is to be happy with your child!

Parents of children with ADHD are more likely to suffer from burnout syndrome or already have countless conflicts with their children in their lives.
In fact, parents are also human, so they can't help but feel exhausted and depressed when they see their children constantly moving, not concentrating, and breaking boundaries.
Many parents of ADHD children confess that they often feel guilty, resentful, or lose their temper and regret it later.
Perhaps, rather than advice on how to treat their child, parents need more encouragement and guidance on how to love their child and themselves while remaining tireless in their daily lives.


Another reason why we need to look more closely into the parents' state of mind is that it is closely related to the child's ADHD.
The biggest and most important environment for a child is his or her home and parents.
If the parents are stable and do not lose motivation, the child's situation can also improve.
With the warm embrace of parents and a stable environment, children can grow up brighter and more positively.
Based on that, you will learn your own way of living when you go to school or society, a large community.
This book tells parents of children with ADHD how to create a stable home environment and stay with their children without getting tired.
He emphasizes that there is a clear way to be happy with your child without getting angry or fighting.


Studying, friends, school, daily life, even puberty
How to be happy without fighting with your child in everyday life!

There is a saying that “it takes a village to raise a child.”
Moreover, in the case of children with ADHD, multifaceted efforts are needed, including cooperation from parents, home environment, friends, people around them, and teachers.
However, even if you know it in theory, in reality there are many situations where you worry about how to act for your ADHD child.
There is more prejudice against ADHD than you might think, and our culture, which has a strong exclusive view of things that are 'different from others', has a significant influence.


This book contains problem situations and solutions for various life situations for parents who are wondering how to best help their children.
Through various examples, it examines situations and coping methods that we frequently encounter in real life, such as studying, friends, school, daily life, and adolescence, and presents specific and practical alternatives.
Above all, the problems that ADHD children experience do not improve in a short period of time like a cold.
Only through consistent effort and a long-term perspective, can a child's ADHD progress in a positive direction by creating a stable environment.
In that long-term race, parents must remain tireless, take care of their minds, and build positive relationships with their children in reality.
And it tells you how to build that relationship.

The attitude of warmly embracing children who break the rules and framework is a virtue that both parents and society should possess.
The author also says we need to reexamine the strengths and potential of children with ADHD.
Although it may be difficult for children with ADHD to adapt to school life due to their various characteristics, there is a high possibility of success for children with ADHD in life.
He emphasizes that this possibility depends on how well parents and those around them support and guide them. Let's keep in mind that the path to happiness with a child with ADHD is not far away.