Wise parents prepare for puberty in advance.
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Book Introduction
“Puberty is the best time to study!”
For confused children and anxious parents
A former and current middle school teacher and puberty expert tells you
Adolescent Learning Strategies!
What's wrong with our children, who are so delinquent, school refusal, locking themselves out, obsessed with games, social media, appearance, and friends that they're driving parents crazy? They're going through puberty.
The brain and body, which have changed during puberty, do not follow the mind as well, and the child becomes anxious in a situation where everyone around them seems to be doing well except for them.
What choices should wise parents make during this period, which will determine their child's entire life?
The author of "Wise Parents Prepare for Puberty in Advance" says that, above all else, you should trust your child.
Regardless of the child's behavior, wait rather than getting agitated and provoking the child.
At the same time, the will to learn is something that every student in Korea has in their heart.
I suggest you help me get this out properly.
High academic achievement allows children to believe in themselves.
The authors of this book are current and former middle school teachers with 24 years of experience.
I became an expert on adolescence by helping adolescent children and their parents every day.
In "Wise Parents Prepare for Puberty in Advance," they introduce practical learning methods for puberty, including learning habits of adolescent children, advance learning methods for each subject, and how to choose an academy for each child.
In addition, as an expert on adolescence, he vividly contains various solutions based on real-life cases, including relationships with friends, relationships with parents, and even the mental health of parents during adolescence.
If you want your child to have a happy and comfortable adolescence, prepare in advance with this book.
For confused children and anxious parents
A former and current middle school teacher and puberty expert tells you
Adolescent Learning Strategies!
What's wrong with our children, who are so delinquent, school refusal, locking themselves out, obsessed with games, social media, appearance, and friends that they're driving parents crazy? They're going through puberty.
The brain and body, which have changed during puberty, do not follow the mind as well, and the child becomes anxious in a situation where everyone around them seems to be doing well except for them.
What choices should wise parents make during this period, which will determine their child's entire life?
The author of "Wise Parents Prepare for Puberty in Advance" says that, above all else, you should trust your child.
Regardless of the child's behavior, wait rather than getting agitated and provoking the child.
At the same time, the will to learn is something that every student in Korea has in their heart.
I suggest you help me get this out properly.
High academic achievement allows children to believe in themselves.
The authors of this book are current and former middle school teachers with 24 years of experience.
I became an expert on adolescence by helping adolescent children and their parents every day.
In "Wise Parents Prepare for Puberty in Advance," they introduce practical learning methods for puberty, including learning habits of adolescent children, advance learning methods for each subject, and how to choose an academy for each child.
In addition, as an expert on adolescence, he vividly contains various solutions based on real-life cases, including relationships with friends, relationships with parents, and even the mental health of parents during adolescence.
If you want your child to have a happy and comfortable adolescence, prepare in advance with this book.
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Prologue: Children who have good relationships with their parents also do well in school.
Chapter 1: Puberty: A Preparation for Adolescence by Wise Parents
Adolescents prepare for independence.
Wise parents turn adolescence into an opportunity.
Puberty: If you prepare in advance, you'll get ahead of others.
Develop study habits before puberty.
Adolescence is the optimal period for learning and development.
If you want to make your teens study well
What Parents of Teenagers Need
Grow with your child
Chapter 2: Adolescent Studying is All About Emotional Stability
It's hard to keep up with my mood swings.
Fights are frequent and it's hard to calm down
I can't do anything because of my friends.
His expression is dark and his speech is rough.
Fashion sense that I don't understand
Hang out with rough and violent friends
With baseless confidence, they only believe what they say is right.
I'm overly interested in my boyfriend.
Meet incredible people online
They curse and use violence against their parents.
Chapter 3: The True Feelings of a Child Who Is Away from Studying
My child is declared a 'water dropout'
Copy the answer sheet
Keep your mouth shut and don't say anything
Everything is annoying and trivial
I don't have any best friends, so I play alone.
A kid who plays games all night
I'm only interested in SNS
I don't want to go to school
The War on Sleep
I keep putting a password on my smartphone and hiding it.
My mom's attention is too much of a burden
Chapter 4: Puberty is the best time to develop study habits.
I heard you're going to Gangnam with your friends, but I wish you'd hang out with friends who are good at studying.
You have to do as much good deeds as possible before puberty?
My child is a 'mother's boy'
I'm confused by the physical and mental changes.
I lose confidence by comparing myself to others.
Time management directly linked to study
The motivation to study that comes from an immersive experience
A child who shrinks before an exam
Epilogue_Cheer up for your shaky adolescence
Chapter 1: Puberty: A Preparation for Adolescence by Wise Parents
Adolescents prepare for independence.
Wise parents turn adolescence into an opportunity.
Puberty: If you prepare in advance, you'll get ahead of others.
Develop study habits before puberty.
Adolescence is the optimal period for learning and development.
If you want to make your teens study well
What Parents of Teenagers Need
Grow with your child
Chapter 2: Adolescent Studying is All About Emotional Stability
It's hard to keep up with my mood swings.
Fights are frequent and it's hard to calm down
I can't do anything because of my friends.
His expression is dark and his speech is rough.
Fashion sense that I don't understand
Hang out with rough and violent friends
With baseless confidence, they only believe what they say is right.
I'm overly interested in my boyfriend.
Meet incredible people online
They curse and use violence against their parents.
Chapter 3: The True Feelings of a Child Who Is Away from Studying
My child is declared a 'water dropout'
Copy the answer sheet
Keep your mouth shut and don't say anything
Everything is annoying and trivial
I don't have any best friends, so I play alone.
A kid who plays games all night
I'm only interested in SNS
I don't want to go to school
The War on Sleep
I keep putting a password on my smartphone and hiding it.
My mom's attention is too much of a burden
Chapter 4: Puberty is the best time to develop study habits.
I heard you're going to Gangnam with your friends, but I wish you'd hang out with friends who are good at studying.
You have to do as much good deeds as possible before puberty?
My child is a 'mother's boy'
I'm confused by the physical and mental changes.
I lose confidence by comparing myself to others.
Time management directly linked to study
The motivation to study that comes from an immersive experience
A child who shrinks before an exam
Epilogue_Cheer up for your shaky adolescence
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Adolescence is also a very important time for learning and cognitive development.
Children develop better abstract thinking, problem-solving, and planning skills than before.
As your perspective broadens, you begin to understand things more deeply.
You also develop the ability to objectively understand and analyze yourself.
This type of growth is conducive to deep learning.
You might say, “My child has no interest in studying at all.”
However, there is no child in the Republic of Korea who does not have the will to learn.
It's just hidden.
You can use puberty to bring out this hidden heart.
--- p.22
If your child has declared or is likely to declare himself/herself a 'water dropout', first check how solid his/her foundation is.
It provides small success experiences by finding and filling in the missing parts.
If your child has difficulty with basic math concepts, it is best to repeatedly solve problems at a level that your child can handle, regardless of grade level.
Even problems that were completely unsolvable will begin to be solved if you keep solving them.
Then the child thinks.
'It works if I do it?' When you feel like you can solve a math problem, that's when the fun begins.
There's no way to beat fun.
Children who have experienced solving problems in math can tackle other problems without fear.
--- p.127
The problem is that sometimes we become so fixated on levels that we end up feeling proud of our children reaching a level higher than their abilities.
The best situation at an academy is when a child takes classes that are just right for his or her level.
That's why they receive private education.
High-level class lessons are difficult for children to understand.
The vague expectation that if you don't know, you can just ask questions or that the academy teacher will take action is not realistic.
Children are conscious of other children, parents, and teachers, so they save face by copying answers to questions they don't know.
Because it's puberty.
--- p.136
The reason why children become obsessed with games during puberty is because it restores their confidence or confirms their presence.
During adolescence, we become more interested in who we are and what we are good at.
The problem is that schools and parents are interested in studying, but this does not produce good results.
It's not even fun.
If you do that, you'll end up getting absorbed in the game because it's the only fun thing.
Beyond simple fun, it could also be that children find reality too burdensome.
If children are using games as an escape from reality, the solution may not be to stop them from playing.
--- p.168
As we enter puberty, the burden of academics increases more than anything else.
Children are under a lot of academic stress.
At first, you try to do well, but the fear that you might not be as great as you think eventually causes you to avoid reality.
This is the biggest reason for refusing to go to school.
--- p.186
If you want your child to develop good study habits, you shouldn't expect them to imitate their friends, but provide them with an education that suits their level and create a study plan that suits their personality.
If your child is too young to do it on their own, you should pay attention to checking, supplementing, and correcting until the routine becomes somewhat established.
Of course, this process is discussed with the child.
--- p.223
First, check whether your child is a gifted child who needs help or more.
The easiest way to determine this is to look at the results of current curriculum tests appropriate for their age.
If a child understands the concepts perfectly, can explain them to their parents, and can solve all the problems up to advanced level without difficulty, then they are a good candidate for the next level.
But, if you have difficulty explaining concepts and cannot solve advanced problems, then no.
Doing good deeds now is creating a hole in the child.
We must remember that good deeds can actually be poisonous.
Children develop better abstract thinking, problem-solving, and planning skills than before.
As your perspective broadens, you begin to understand things more deeply.
You also develop the ability to objectively understand and analyze yourself.
This type of growth is conducive to deep learning.
You might say, “My child has no interest in studying at all.”
However, there is no child in the Republic of Korea who does not have the will to learn.
It's just hidden.
You can use puberty to bring out this hidden heart.
--- p.22
If your child has declared or is likely to declare himself/herself a 'water dropout', first check how solid his/her foundation is.
It provides small success experiences by finding and filling in the missing parts.
If your child has difficulty with basic math concepts, it is best to repeatedly solve problems at a level that your child can handle, regardless of grade level.
Even problems that were completely unsolvable will begin to be solved if you keep solving them.
Then the child thinks.
'It works if I do it?' When you feel like you can solve a math problem, that's when the fun begins.
There's no way to beat fun.
Children who have experienced solving problems in math can tackle other problems without fear.
--- p.127
The problem is that sometimes we become so fixated on levels that we end up feeling proud of our children reaching a level higher than their abilities.
The best situation at an academy is when a child takes classes that are just right for his or her level.
That's why they receive private education.
High-level class lessons are difficult for children to understand.
The vague expectation that if you don't know, you can just ask questions or that the academy teacher will take action is not realistic.
Children are conscious of other children, parents, and teachers, so they save face by copying answers to questions they don't know.
Because it's puberty.
--- p.136
The reason why children become obsessed with games during puberty is because it restores their confidence or confirms their presence.
During adolescence, we become more interested in who we are and what we are good at.
The problem is that schools and parents are interested in studying, but this does not produce good results.
It's not even fun.
If you do that, you'll end up getting absorbed in the game because it's the only fun thing.
Beyond simple fun, it could also be that children find reality too burdensome.
If children are using games as an escape from reality, the solution may not be to stop them from playing.
--- p.168
As we enter puberty, the burden of academics increases more than anything else.
Children are under a lot of academic stress.
At first, you try to do well, but the fear that you might not be as great as you think eventually causes you to avoid reality.
This is the biggest reason for refusing to go to school.
--- p.186
If you want your child to develop good study habits, you shouldn't expect them to imitate their friends, but provide them with an education that suits their level and create a study plan that suits their personality.
If your child is too young to do it on their own, you should pay attention to checking, supplementing, and correcting until the routine becomes somewhat established.
Of course, this process is discussed with the child.
--- p.223
First, check whether your child is a gifted child who needs help or more.
The easiest way to determine this is to look at the results of current curriculum tests appropriate for their age.
If a child understands the concepts perfectly, can explain them to their parents, and can solve all the problems up to advanced level without difficulty, then they are a good candidate for the next level.
But, if you have difficulty explaining concepts and cannot solve advanced problems, then no.
Doing good deeds now is creating a hole in the child.
We must remember that good deeds can actually be poisonous.
--- p.233
Publisher's Review
“Oh, it’s annoying! Go away!”
Adolescence spitting in a smiling face
'The child rolled his eyes and said, "Oh, this really pisses me off!" and went into his room and locked the door.
A note with the words 'Do not enter!' written on it was fluttering in the wind.
Just moments ago, the child was eating, and I was smiling and talking to him. What could possibly be the problem? No matter how much I think about it, I can't figure it out.
I feel so wronged by this one-sided situation that I am on the verge of tears.
Are your parents a scapegoat?'
Various online communities are filled with complaints from parents who say their children are suffering from depression due to puberty.
Where does this child's attitude, which is so incomprehensible, come from?
The answer is simple.
A child's brain is under construction right now.
The brain has been growing ever since we were born, but the problem is that the frontal lobe, which is responsible for rational judgment, is currently developing.
And explosively.
This is to the extent that the growth rate of the frontal lobe is not kept up with the rest of the brain.
As a result, the frontal lobe, which is not well connected to the rest of the brain, is often unable to make rational decisions.
Even if you look at me with a smile, it's at the level of asking why I'm looking at you with a smile that makes me feel bad.
Puberty is literally spitting in someone's smiling face.
Puberty, when everything starts again
Wise parents don't miss this opportunity!
No parent gets annoyed right away when their child gets annoyed.
But if this happens repeatedly, parents will eventually burst.
The problem is that children do not remember the countless moments when their parents were patient, and only remember the moments when they were angry.
This is also a characteristic of adolescence, where one judges the world egocentrically.
Should parents just continue to endure it even when their hearts are about to burst? No.
Adolescence is a time when everything begins anew, including lifestyle, study habits, and friendships.
A wise parent would not let this golden time pass by without fighting with their child.
Give direction to the child, guide him and push him.
"Wise Parents Prepare for Puberty in Advance" contains the things parents should do, do, and say during this period.
Drawing on their extensive field experience, the authors provide detailed case studies to explain how parents' words can be a stimulus to adolescent children, the differences between the perspectives of children and parents, and even how to resolve such conflicts.
Become a 'good student' on your own
Adolescent learning methods
One of the biggest causes of emotional instability among adolescents is grades.
The desire to be a good student, which every student in Korea harbors, unfortunately disappears once the child reaches puberty.
There are many reasons, such as not knowing how to study, using the wrong study method, or not developing study habits.
The authors of "Wise Parents Prepare for Puberty" advise that you first set clear goals.
And let the child plan his or her own study schedule.
It's also a good idea to reward people by giving them small prizes when they reach their goals.
“When studying, choose a method that suits you.
If you prefer visual learning, you can use visual aids like graphs, and if you are an auditory learner, you can also record your learning.
No matter which method you choose, the most important thing is to organize and review after learning.
And parents must take care of their children’s study habits.”
This book argues that parents need to have an objective view of their children as a learning method during adolescence.
To do that, he says to utilize your school teachers and the academy teachers you attend.
“Many parents fail to view their children objectively, so even capable children become passive in their studies.
“Only when you have an objective perspective can you figure out whether your child is studying too much or too little, whether the level of the academy they are attending is high or low, and whether they are solving fake workbooks.”
This objective perspective from parents helps children develop confidence in studying.
Then, the child naturally realizes the dream of being a good student that he or she has been hiding in his or her heart.
Adolescence spitting in a smiling face
'The child rolled his eyes and said, "Oh, this really pisses me off!" and went into his room and locked the door.
A note with the words 'Do not enter!' written on it was fluttering in the wind.
Just moments ago, the child was eating, and I was smiling and talking to him. What could possibly be the problem? No matter how much I think about it, I can't figure it out.
I feel so wronged by this one-sided situation that I am on the verge of tears.
Are your parents a scapegoat?'
Various online communities are filled with complaints from parents who say their children are suffering from depression due to puberty.
Where does this child's attitude, which is so incomprehensible, come from?
The answer is simple.
A child's brain is under construction right now.
The brain has been growing ever since we were born, but the problem is that the frontal lobe, which is responsible for rational judgment, is currently developing.
And explosively.
This is to the extent that the growth rate of the frontal lobe is not kept up with the rest of the brain.
As a result, the frontal lobe, which is not well connected to the rest of the brain, is often unable to make rational decisions.
Even if you look at me with a smile, it's at the level of asking why I'm looking at you with a smile that makes me feel bad.
Puberty is literally spitting in someone's smiling face.
Puberty, when everything starts again
Wise parents don't miss this opportunity!
No parent gets annoyed right away when their child gets annoyed.
But if this happens repeatedly, parents will eventually burst.
The problem is that children do not remember the countless moments when their parents were patient, and only remember the moments when they were angry.
This is also a characteristic of adolescence, where one judges the world egocentrically.
Should parents just continue to endure it even when their hearts are about to burst? No.
Adolescence is a time when everything begins anew, including lifestyle, study habits, and friendships.
A wise parent would not let this golden time pass by without fighting with their child.
Give direction to the child, guide him and push him.
"Wise Parents Prepare for Puberty in Advance" contains the things parents should do, do, and say during this period.
Drawing on their extensive field experience, the authors provide detailed case studies to explain how parents' words can be a stimulus to adolescent children, the differences between the perspectives of children and parents, and even how to resolve such conflicts.
Become a 'good student' on your own
Adolescent learning methods
One of the biggest causes of emotional instability among adolescents is grades.
The desire to be a good student, which every student in Korea harbors, unfortunately disappears once the child reaches puberty.
There are many reasons, such as not knowing how to study, using the wrong study method, or not developing study habits.
The authors of "Wise Parents Prepare for Puberty" advise that you first set clear goals.
And let the child plan his or her own study schedule.
It's also a good idea to reward people by giving them small prizes when they reach their goals.
“When studying, choose a method that suits you.
If you prefer visual learning, you can use visual aids like graphs, and if you are an auditory learner, you can also record your learning.
No matter which method you choose, the most important thing is to organize and review after learning.
And parents must take care of their children’s study habits.”
This book argues that parents need to have an objective view of their children as a learning method during adolescence.
To do that, he says to utilize your school teachers and the academy teachers you attend.
“Many parents fail to view their children objectively, so even capable children become passive in their studies.
“Only when you have an objective perspective can you figure out whether your child is studying too much or too little, whether the level of the academy they are attending is high or low, and whether they are solving fake workbooks.”
This objective perspective from parents helps children develop confidence in studying.
Then, the child naturally realizes the dream of being a good student that he or she has been hiding in his or her heart.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: August 12, 2024
- Page count, weight, size: 288 pages | 414g | 148*210*18mm
- ISBN13: 9791193153291
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