Mom's self-esteem
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Book Introduction
“The power to love a child comes from a strong heart that protects me.”
Director Jeon Mi-kyung, a psychiatrist who has saved the lives of 100,000 people over 25 years
Self-esteem recovery solutions for moms!
A book has been published for all the mothers in the world who are exhausted from raising children, have low self-esteem, and are suffering from comparison and self-blame.
"A Mother's Self-Esteem" is the first child education book by Dr. Jeon Mi-kyung, a psychiatrist who has restored the lives of 100,000 people over 25 years and a mother of one child. It is a book containing solutions for restoring self-esteem for mothers.
The author offers much-needed and warm advice to mothers, drawing on her own honest experiences as a mother, the stories of countless mothers she has met in her clinic, and examples from psychological research.
It also includes a self-assessment checklist to help you assess your current status and a worksheet to help you practice regaining your self-esteem.
Starting with questions like, "Why do I keep getting angry at my child?", "Why is parenting so hard?", and "Am I really a good mother?", it encourages you to look into your own heart and offer practical methods to break free from the shackles of "fake self-esteem" that plagues mothers and restore true self-esteem.
Just as you can't give water to a thirsty child from an empty water bottle, a mother with low self-esteem can't provide emotional stability and complete love to her child.
This book goes beyond simply restoring self-esteem, helping you navigate your child's world as a growing mother.
Through this book, let's embark on a journey to restore self-esteem as a mother and as an individual.
Not only will your life change, but you will become a strong mother who will pass on a legacy of healthy self-esteem to your child.
Director Jeon Mi-kyung, a psychiatrist who has saved the lives of 100,000 people over 25 years
Self-esteem recovery solutions for moms!
A book has been published for all the mothers in the world who are exhausted from raising children, have low self-esteem, and are suffering from comparison and self-blame.
"A Mother's Self-Esteem" is the first child education book by Dr. Jeon Mi-kyung, a psychiatrist who has restored the lives of 100,000 people over 25 years and a mother of one child. It is a book containing solutions for restoring self-esteem for mothers.
The author offers much-needed and warm advice to mothers, drawing on her own honest experiences as a mother, the stories of countless mothers she has met in her clinic, and examples from psychological research.
It also includes a self-assessment checklist to help you assess your current status and a worksheet to help you practice regaining your self-esteem.
Starting with questions like, "Why do I keep getting angry at my child?", "Why is parenting so hard?", and "Am I really a good mother?", it encourages you to look into your own heart and offer practical methods to break free from the shackles of "fake self-esteem" that plagues mothers and restore true self-esteem.
Just as you can't give water to a thirsty child from an empty water bottle, a mother with low self-esteem can't provide emotional stability and complete love to her child.
This book goes beyond simply restoring self-esteem, helping you navigate your child's world as a growing mother.
Through this book, let's embark on a journey to restore self-esteem as a mother and as an individual.
Not only will your life change, but you will become a strong mother who will pass on a legacy of healthy self-esteem to your child.
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index
To begin with: You can't give water to a thirsty child with an empty water bottle.
Mom's Self-Esteem Self-Assessment Checklist
Chapter 1.
Days that keep getting smaller with the name of mother
Becoming a mother and my self-esteem crumbling every day
Some words erode a mother's self-esteem.
When you feel like every day is the same
A diary filled with other people's standards
My life written by someone else
Days when there are only correct answers and no solutions
The trap of compromise: "This is good enough."
When will I start living the life I choose?
*Exercise 1 to regain a mother's self-esteem: Instead of saying, "Now that I'm a mother..."
Chapter 2.
Fake self-esteem that torments mom
A world where all parenting seems perfect
Moms addicted to digital dopamine
The Trap of Thinking, "I just need to get through today."
Break free from the victim mentality of "Why am I the only one who suffers from this?"
Anxiety-driven overinterpretation scenarios
The safe haven of the 'past'
A day with no life of my own, only a child's life
How to Break Free from 'Fake Self-Esteem'
*Exercise 2 to Regain Mom's Self-Esteem: Letting Go of the Survival Strategy of "Perfection"
Chapter 3.
Time to find true self-esteem
Find your own values, not someone else's.
To mothers whose lives are empty right now
When you start saying “NO,” your self-esteem is restored.
What Happens When You Look at Your Day Through a Positive Filter
The special freedom that comes from the act of choosing
In my own language, not in borrowed words
My own space that no one can invade
The moment I finally become the main character
*Exercise 3 to Restore Mom's Self-Esteem: Creating Your Own World
Chapter 4.
Growing up as a strong-minded mother
Don't be discouraged by small failures
Embracing even my imperfections
Rewriting the Emotional Dictionary
Making peace with an uncontrollable world
From vague ideas to concrete plans
The illusion that conflict makes us grow
To me who is growing today too
Growing pains are also a part of my life
*Exercise 4 to Regain Mom's Self-Esteem: Naming Emotions
Chapter 5.
Children who grow up feeding on their mother's self-esteem
Your Universe, My Universe, and Our Encounter
A strong and warm authority built on a mother's self-esteem
The art of listening, not speaking
The magic of growth: '1+1' becomes '3'
Time according to the child's clock
Why is my child different from me?
A relationship that becomes stronger the more it falls
The inheritance of self-esteem across generations
*Exercise 5 to Regain Mom's Self-Esteem: The Joy of Growing Together
In closing: Remember, you are already a good enough mother.
References
Mom's Self-Esteem Self-Assessment Checklist
Chapter 1.
Days that keep getting smaller with the name of mother
Becoming a mother and my self-esteem crumbling every day
Some words erode a mother's self-esteem.
When you feel like every day is the same
A diary filled with other people's standards
My life written by someone else
Days when there are only correct answers and no solutions
The trap of compromise: "This is good enough."
When will I start living the life I choose?
*Exercise 1 to regain a mother's self-esteem: Instead of saying, "Now that I'm a mother..."
Chapter 2.
Fake self-esteem that torments mom
A world where all parenting seems perfect
Moms addicted to digital dopamine
The Trap of Thinking, "I just need to get through today."
Break free from the victim mentality of "Why am I the only one who suffers from this?"
Anxiety-driven overinterpretation scenarios
The safe haven of the 'past'
A day with no life of my own, only a child's life
How to Break Free from 'Fake Self-Esteem'
*Exercise 2 to Regain Mom's Self-Esteem: Letting Go of the Survival Strategy of "Perfection"
Chapter 3.
Time to find true self-esteem
Find your own values, not someone else's.
To mothers whose lives are empty right now
When you start saying “NO,” your self-esteem is restored.
What Happens When You Look at Your Day Through a Positive Filter
The special freedom that comes from the act of choosing
In my own language, not in borrowed words
My own space that no one can invade
The moment I finally become the main character
*Exercise 3 to Restore Mom's Self-Esteem: Creating Your Own World
Chapter 4.
Growing up as a strong-minded mother
Don't be discouraged by small failures
Embracing even my imperfections
Rewriting the Emotional Dictionary
Making peace with an uncontrollable world
From vague ideas to concrete plans
The illusion that conflict makes us grow
To me who is growing today too
Growing pains are also a part of my life
*Exercise 4 to Regain Mom's Self-Esteem: Naming Emotions
Chapter 5.
Children who grow up feeding on their mother's self-esteem
Your Universe, My Universe, and Our Encounter
A strong and warm authority built on a mother's self-esteem
The art of listening, not speaking
The magic of growth: '1+1' becomes '3'
Time according to the child's clock
Why is my child different from me?
A relationship that becomes stronger the more it falls
The inheritance of self-esteem across generations
*Exercise 5 to Regain Mom's Self-Esteem: The Joy of Growing Together
In closing: Remember, you are already a good enough mother.
References
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Into the book
Becoming a mother of one child has taught me a paradoxical truth.
The more I abandon myself for my child, the less I can give to him.
Just as you can't give water to a thirsty child from an empty water bottle, a mother with low self-esteem can't provide emotional stability to her child.
Children learn by watching us.
How can a child who grows up watching a mother treat them poorly learn to value themselves? Like the air we breathe, self-esteem is passed down through generations.
--- p.6 From “Getting Started”
Jean-Paul Sartre said, “Existence precedes essence.”
There is no predetermined essence or identity, and humans define themselves through their choices and actions.
In other words, we first ‘exist’ and then we choose ‘who I am.’
But the moment you become a mother, this process of choice is shaken in an instant.
Because the role of 'mother' is so powerful that it overwhelms all other aspects of womanhood.
As a result, your sense of who you are becomes blurred and your self-esteem naturally becomes shaken.
--- p.22 From “Chapter 1: Days that keep getting smaller with the name of mother”
The first thing to do in parenting is to let go of the desire to find the perfect answer.
Perhaps the real problem isn't that we can't find the perfect answer, but that we're trying to find the right answer.
And that realization, even if only a little bit, can be the first step toward a truly personalized approach.
As numerous studies have shown, children's emotional well-being is enhanced when mothers trust their intuition and are sensitive to their child's well-being.
This suggests that the quality of interaction between mother and child is more important than following any particular parenting method.
--- p.64 From “Chapter 1: Days that keep getting smaller with the name of mother”
“One day, my five-year-old daughter said, ‘Mom, take a picture of this and post it on Instagram.’
“I was so surprised to realize that a five-year-old is already aware of social media and wants to be recognized there.”
Children form their values by watching their parents.
If a mother often shows herself to be swayed by the reactions of others, her child may also learn from an early age to easily depend on external approval.
This can have a negative impact on developing a child's autonomy and self-efficacy.
--- pp.104-105 From “Chapter 2: Fake Self-Esteem That Torments Mothers”
When I start to fall apart, the people around me who are important to me also suffer.
Because the frustration and anger are constantly directed at the children, the relationship with the spouse is also endangered by emotional dryness and disconnection.
In survival mode, it's difficult to feel true emotional connection or warm bonds.
So what we need now is a courageous question to ask ourselves.
“Am I going to keep repeating this pattern, or am I going to stop now?”
--- pp.155-156 From "Chapter 2: Fake Self-Esteem That Torments Mothers"
Many mothers I meet in the clinic say this out of habit.
“I couldn’t help it,” “Everyone else does it,” “I don’t know.” These are phrases often used by people with low self-esteem.
If we keep feeling like we're being led by circumstances rather than leading our own lives, at some point we start to lose sight of what we truly want.
But I discovered an amazing power hidden in the very moment of choice.
In those brief moments when we consciously make a decision, we enjoy a special psychological freedom.
It is not freedom from the consequences of choice, but freedom experienced in the process of making the choice itself.
--- p.208 From “Chapter 3: Time to Find True Self-Esteem”
Life as a mother is especially full of unpredictable variables.
Your child might suddenly get sick, something unexpected might happen, like a family reunion, or you might just be too tired to do anything.
That's why, more important than a perfect, grand plan are the small, precious steps you can take right now.
As those small, easy steps accumulate, little by little, changes occur, and those changes in turn become nutrients that restore our self-esteem.
--- p.294 From “Chapter 4: Growing into a Strong-Minded Mother”
What children really need is not a poor mother who sacrifices everything.
The kind of mother children truly want is a mother who values her own life and pursues a happy and worthwhile life.
Such a mother's image will be a warm permission for her children to "cherish yourself and live your life in pursuit of happiness," and will serve as the most beautiful model for life.
--- p.339 From “Chapter 5: Children who grow up eating their mother’s self-esteem”
You don't have to be a perfect parent to pass on self-esteem.
Rather, the greater legacy is to honestly acknowledge your imperfections while doing your best and to show a genuine effort to get back up even when you fall.
The inheritance of self-esteem from generation to generation is like a dandelion seed blowing in the spring breeze. It will fly far and wide on the invisible wind and one day quietly land in someone's heart, where it will bloom into another beautiful flower.
--- p.406 From “Chapter 5: Children who grow up eating their mother’s self-esteem”
When our children grow up and become parents, what will they be like? I hope they become people who can embrace even their own wounds.
I hope you become someone who knows it's okay to not be perfect, who believes you can get back up when you fall, and who isn't ashamed of your feelings.
That's why we're working together to restore our self-esteem.
Our self-esteem is not simply a personal possession, but rather the water of life that flows through time like a river and is passed down to the next generation.
The more I abandon myself for my child, the less I can give to him.
Just as you can't give water to a thirsty child from an empty water bottle, a mother with low self-esteem can't provide emotional stability to her child.
Children learn by watching us.
How can a child who grows up watching a mother treat them poorly learn to value themselves? Like the air we breathe, self-esteem is passed down through generations.
--- p.6 From “Getting Started”
Jean-Paul Sartre said, “Existence precedes essence.”
There is no predetermined essence or identity, and humans define themselves through their choices and actions.
In other words, we first ‘exist’ and then we choose ‘who I am.’
But the moment you become a mother, this process of choice is shaken in an instant.
Because the role of 'mother' is so powerful that it overwhelms all other aspects of womanhood.
As a result, your sense of who you are becomes blurred and your self-esteem naturally becomes shaken.
--- p.22 From “Chapter 1: Days that keep getting smaller with the name of mother”
The first thing to do in parenting is to let go of the desire to find the perfect answer.
Perhaps the real problem isn't that we can't find the perfect answer, but that we're trying to find the right answer.
And that realization, even if only a little bit, can be the first step toward a truly personalized approach.
As numerous studies have shown, children's emotional well-being is enhanced when mothers trust their intuition and are sensitive to their child's well-being.
This suggests that the quality of interaction between mother and child is more important than following any particular parenting method.
--- p.64 From “Chapter 1: Days that keep getting smaller with the name of mother”
“One day, my five-year-old daughter said, ‘Mom, take a picture of this and post it on Instagram.’
“I was so surprised to realize that a five-year-old is already aware of social media and wants to be recognized there.”
Children form their values by watching their parents.
If a mother often shows herself to be swayed by the reactions of others, her child may also learn from an early age to easily depend on external approval.
This can have a negative impact on developing a child's autonomy and self-efficacy.
--- pp.104-105 From “Chapter 2: Fake Self-Esteem That Torments Mothers”
When I start to fall apart, the people around me who are important to me also suffer.
Because the frustration and anger are constantly directed at the children, the relationship with the spouse is also endangered by emotional dryness and disconnection.
In survival mode, it's difficult to feel true emotional connection or warm bonds.
So what we need now is a courageous question to ask ourselves.
“Am I going to keep repeating this pattern, or am I going to stop now?”
--- pp.155-156 From "Chapter 2: Fake Self-Esteem That Torments Mothers"
Many mothers I meet in the clinic say this out of habit.
“I couldn’t help it,” “Everyone else does it,” “I don’t know.” These are phrases often used by people with low self-esteem.
If we keep feeling like we're being led by circumstances rather than leading our own lives, at some point we start to lose sight of what we truly want.
But I discovered an amazing power hidden in the very moment of choice.
In those brief moments when we consciously make a decision, we enjoy a special psychological freedom.
It is not freedom from the consequences of choice, but freedom experienced in the process of making the choice itself.
--- p.208 From “Chapter 3: Time to Find True Self-Esteem”
Life as a mother is especially full of unpredictable variables.
Your child might suddenly get sick, something unexpected might happen, like a family reunion, or you might just be too tired to do anything.
That's why, more important than a perfect, grand plan are the small, precious steps you can take right now.
As those small, easy steps accumulate, little by little, changes occur, and those changes in turn become nutrients that restore our self-esteem.
--- p.294 From “Chapter 4: Growing into a Strong-Minded Mother”
What children really need is not a poor mother who sacrifices everything.
The kind of mother children truly want is a mother who values her own life and pursues a happy and worthwhile life.
Such a mother's image will be a warm permission for her children to "cherish yourself and live your life in pursuit of happiness," and will serve as the most beautiful model for life.
--- p.339 From “Chapter 5: Children who grow up eating their mother’s self-esteem”
You don't have to be a perfect parent to pass on self-esteem.
Rather, the greater legacy is to honestly acknowledge your imperfections while doing your best and to show a genuine effort to get back up even when you fall.
The inheritance of self-esteem from generation to generation is like a dandelion seed blowing in the spring breeze. It will fly far and wide on the invisible wind and one day quietly land in someone's heart, where it will bloom into another beautiful flower.
--- p.406 From “Chapter 5: Children who grow up eating their mother’s self-esteem”
When our children grow up and become parents, what will they be like? I hope they become people who can embrace even their own wounds.
I hope you become someone who knows it's okay to not be perfect, who believes you can get back up when you fall, and who isn't ashamed of your feelings.
That's why we're working together to restore our self-esteem.
Our self-esteem is not simply a personal possession, but rather the water of life that flows through time like a river and is passed down to the next generation.
--- From "In Conclusion" pp.417-418
Publisher's Review
“A mother's self-esteem is the greatest love she can give her child.”
A psychiatrist and self-esteem expert who has helped 100,000 people recover over 25 years
How to Become an Unwavering Mother, Free from Regret, Remorse, and Apathy
Mothers are anxious.
There's so much information out there, but I don't know what's best for my child. Other people seem to be the perfect moms, but I'm still a newbie, feeling a bit awkward.
Why is raising a child so difficult? I read parenting books and attend lectures, but every day passes by, repeating the same thing: yelling at my child and regretting it.
What should mothers do about their children's self-esteem, which is slowly plummeting to rock bottom, sometimes feeling helpless, sometimes blaming themselves, sometimes lonely, and at a loss in an environment where they cannot do anything on their own, such as going to the bathroom, eating, or sleeping?
"A Mother's Self-Esteem" is a book written by a psychiatrist with 25 years of experience and a mother of one child, and is a book filled with advice for all mothers around the world who want to break free from anxiety, frustration, and guilt, protect themselves, and love their children more.
It offers sobering, practical advice to help you break free from the shackles of false self-esteem that plagues you and restore healthy, authentic self-esteem.
Based on the stories of countless mothers the author met in her clinic, research cases in psychology and brain science, and her own honest experience as a mother of one child, she teaches mothers what self-esteem is and how to regain lost self-esteem.
The text is richly structured, with a checklist for mothers' self-esteem, where readers can first check their own condition, and worksheets for each chapter to practice restoring mothers' self-esteem.
'I can't do this now that I'm a mother.'
'Other people are doing well, so why am I the only one who is like this?'
What if you ever thought, 'I just need to get through today?'
Signs that you need to break free from 'fake self-esteem' and regain real self-esteem.
Self-esteem is 'the belief that I can accept myself as I am, trust my choices, and get back up again even if I make mistakes.'
But after becoming a mother, we so easily lose that foundation of faith.
Why? The pressure to do everything perfectly for their children, the comparisons with other mothers on social media, the burdensome label of "good mother" demanded by society—the environment surrounding mothers feels overwhelming, and parenting is always full of unpredictability.
In particular, the stories of the numerous mothers the author met in his clinic reflect our reality.
A mother who loves her child but doesn't know how to love her properly, a mother who feels like she's lost herself while raising her child, a mother who feels tormented by the recurrence of past wounds during the process of raising her child?
But a mother's self-esteem isn't simply a matter of parenting.
A mother with a broken self-esteem will inevitably lose her way not only in her relationship with her child, but also in her relationship with her husband, friends, people around her, and most of all, herself.
As a psychiatrist, self-esteem expert, and bestselling author of You Are Stronger Than You Think, who has helped countless people recover, Jeon Mi-kyung says:
I need to break free from the 'fake self-esteem' that torments my mother and find real self-esteem.
False self-esteem is the temporary comfort we get from satisfying external standards or the gaze of others.
If you find yourself habitually saying things like, “I’m a good mom because everyone says so,” “At least I’m better than that mom,” or “I’m a good mom because I make these sacrifices,” then your self-esteem is sending you a warning signal.
This book tells us to break free from the shackles of this false self-esteem and start a new life.
“As much as a mother loves herself
“Children can learn to love themselves too.”
A mother's self-esteem passed down through generations
This is another reason why mothers need self-esteem.
This is because it can break the vicious cycle of a person with low self-esteem eventually becoming a mother with low self-esteem, and that mother then raising a child with low self-esteem.
We cannot give to a child what we do not have ourselves.
As you practice building self-esteem little by little every day, starting with how to let go of the past, how to create your own world without comparing yourself to others, and how to control your emotions, not only your life but also your child's world will begin to change.
A mother's journey to rediscover her life and self-esteem is not simply a matter of personal happiness, but is also the most powerful lesson and legacy she can pass on to the next generation.
Because parents and children are mirrors that reflect each other.
The book also covers a mother's self-esteem and relationship with her child, including how to grow as an individual beyond the role of "mother," how to respond to a child's failures, how to establish a warm and firm authority, and how to get along well with an independent child.
Especially since the author herself is a mother who has experienced the same struggles before becoming an expert, the author's honest experiences in the book provide even deeper empathy and comfort to readers.
A warm message to all mothers of this era.
“It’s okay to not be perfect and it’s okay to make mistakes.
“Because you are already a good enough mother.”
Finally, the author conveys the most important message to the readers.
“You are already a good enough mother just by existing.”
Even in those moments when her heart is pounding, a mother's gaze is always turned towards her child.
But it doesn't have to be perfect.
Psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott coined the term "Good Enough Mother," meaning that what a child needs is not a perfect mother, but a mother who fails and falters little by little, but grows stronger.
A child who grows up seeing a mother who truly loves and cherishes him or her can naturally learn to love his or her whole self.
And I want you to remember one more important message this book is trying to convey.
“You are precious as a mother, but you are even more precious as a human being.”
The journey to find the lost self through becoming a mother will never be easy, but at the end of it, we will become more three-dimensional and richer beings.
Let's practice restoring self-esteem and protecting ourselves with this book.
The calluses of the heart that grow this way will become a strong self-esteem that is not easily swept away by any big waves in the world, and will hold you together in life as a mother and as a person.
A psychiatrist and self-esteem expert who has helped 100,000 people recover over 25 years
How to Become an Unwavering Mother, Free from Regret, Remorse, and Apathy
Mothers are anxious.
There's so much information out there, but I don't know what's best for my child. Other people seem to be the perfect moms, but I'm still a newbie, feeling a bit awkward.
Why is raising a child so difficult? I read parenting books and attend lectures, but every day passes by, repeating the same thing: yelling at my child and regretting it.
What should mothers do about their children's self-esteem, which is slowly plummeting to rock bottom, sometimes feeling helpless, sometimes blaming themselves, sometimes lonely, and at a loss in an environment where they cannot do anything on their own, such as going to the bathroom, eating, or sleeping?
"A Mother's Self-Esteem" is a book written by a psychiatrist with 25 years of experience and a mother of one child, and is a book filled with advice for all mothers around the world who want to break free from anxiety, frustration, and guilt, protect themselves, and love their children more.
It offers sobering, practical advice to help you break free from the shackles of false self-esteem that plagues you and restore healthy, authentic self-esteem.
Based on the stories of countless mothers the author met in her clinic, research cases in psychology and brain science, and her own honest experience as a mother of one child, she teaches mothers what self-esteem is and how to regain lost self-esteem.
The text is richly structured, with a checklist for mothers' self-esteem, where readers can first check their own condition, and worksheets for each chapter to practice restoring mothers' self-esteem.
'I can't do this now that I'm a mother.'
'Other people are doing well, so why am I the only one who is like this?'
What if you ever thought, 'I just need to get through today?'
Signs that you need to break free from 'fake self-esteem' and regain real self-esteem.
Self-esteem is 'the belief that I can accept myself as I am, trust my choices, and get back up again even if I make mistakes.'
But after becoming a mother, we so easily lose that foundation of faith.
Why? The pressure to do everything perfectly for their children, the comparisons with other mothers on social media, the burdensome label of "good mother" demanded by society—the environment surrounding mothers feels overwhelming, and parenting is always full of unpredictability.
In particular, the stories of the numerous mothers the author met in his clinic reflect our reality.
A mother who loves her child but doesn't know how to love her properly, a mother who feels like she's lost herself while raising her child, a mother who feels tormented by the recurrence of past wounds during the process of raising her child?
But a mother's self-esteem isn't simply a matter of parenting.
A mother with a broken self-esteem will inevitably lose her way not only in her relationship with her child, but also in her relationship with her husband, friends, people around her, and most of all, herself.
As a psychiatrist, self-esteem expert, and bestselling author of You Are Stronger Than You Think, who has helped countless people recover, Jeon Mi-kyung says:
I need to break free from the 'fake self-esteem' that torments my mother and find real self-esteem.
False self-esteem is the temporary comfort we get from satisfying external standards or the gaze of others.
If you find yourself habitually saying things like, “I’m a good mom because everyone says so,” “At least I’m better than that mom,” or “I’m a good mom because I make these sacrifices,” then your self-esteem is sending you a warning signal.
This book tells us to break free from the shackles of this false self-esteem and start a new life.
“As much as a mother loves herself
“Children can learn to love themselves too.”
A mother's self-esteem passed down through generations
This is another reason why mothers need self-esteem.
This is because it can break the vicious cycle of a person with low self-esteem eventually becoming a mother with low self-esteem, and that mother then raising a child with low self-esteem.
We cannot give to a child what we do not have ourselves.
As you practice building self-esteem little by little every day, starting with how to let go of the past, how to create your own world without comparing yourself to others, and how to control your emotions, not only your life but also your child's world will begin to change.
A mother's journey to rediscover her life and self-esteem is not simply a matter of personal happiness, but is also the most powerful lesson and legacy she can pass on to the next generation.
Because parents and children are mirrors that reflect each other.
The book also covers a mother's self-esteem and relationship with her child, including how to grow as an individual beyond the role of "mother," how to respond to a child's failures, how to establish a warm and firm authority, and how to get along well with an independent child.
Especially since the author herself is a mother who has experienced the same struggles before becoming an expert, the author's honest experiences in the book provide even deeper empathy and comfort to readers.
A warm message to all mothers of this era.
“It’s okay to not be perfect and it’s okay to make mistakes.
“Because you are already a good enough mother.”
Finally, the author conveys the most important message to the readers.
“You are already a good enough mother just by existing.”
Even in those moments when her heart is pounding, a mother's gaze is always turned towards her child.
But it doesn't have to be perfect.
Psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott coined the term "Good Enough Mother," meaning that what a child needs is not a perfect mother, but a mother who fails and falters little by little, but grows stronger.
A child who grows up seeing a mother who truly loves and cherishes him or her can naturally learn to love his or her whole self.
And I want you to remember one more important message this book is trying to convey.
“You are precious as a mother, but you are even more precious as a human being.”
The journey to find the lost self through becoming a mother will never be easy, but at the end of it, we will become more three-dimensional and richer beings.
Let's practice restoring self-esteem and protecting ourselves with this book.
The calluses of the heart that grow this way will become a strong self-esteem that is not easily swept away by any big waves in the world, and will hold you together in life as a mother and as a person.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: July 31, 2025
- Page count, weight, size: 424 pages | 152*225*30mm
- ISBN13: 9791168273160
- ISBN10: 1168273161
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