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The academy counseling director is not swayed by the neighbor's mother. We want the best education tailored to our children. A heartwarming message to all parents The author's intense coaching journey, in which she practiced 'tailored' parenting and education while communicating closely with her two children, free from the education controlled by the academy counseling director and the neighboring mother, is contained. There were also grumbles from neighbors like, “Why are you keeping perfectly good kids at home when they’re not even majors? If you send them to academies, they’ll grow wings…” However, word of mouth spread that she was raising two children without any shortcomings, including intelligence, physical strength, and mental fortitude. Since 2009, the author has been providing counseling to parents, focusing on Ilsan, and spreading her coaching parenting methodology. The author reveals the reasons why he chose coaching, the coaching methodology and know-how he developed himself, covering all areas from coaching relationships with children to creative thinking, math, English, reading, and art. “How did you raise your child to be so upright and wonderful?” Hearing these words is what every parent hopes for, and isn't it the most rewarding honor? For those who wish to wear such a medal, this book will be an excellent guide. |
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Prologue - Supporting you on the lonely and difficult path of parenting
Part 1: What is Coaching Parenting?
Chapter 1: Why Coaching, Not Teaching
No one takes responsibility for my child.
Why Coaching and Not Teaching
Coaching Parenting: A Game Similar to a Two-In-One Triangle
A tough battle between common sense and faith
Chapter 2: Parenting Coaching: The Parent's Attitude
Happy parenting starts with happy parents.
The foundation of all character, listening
Contentment and gratitude that bring happiness to the heart
Forgiveness that cannot be optional
Parents' low self-esteem ruins their children.
Part 2: The Time When Magic Opens
Chapter 3: The Beginning of Coaching Parenting: Relationship Coaching
Where does family unhappiness come from?
The starting point of a child's happiness is a stable bond.
To parents who think their children are problem children
Children are not an extension of their parents.
Chapter 4: Play and Food Coaching for Raising Healthy Children
Homo ludens, the child who grows up while playing
Mom's cooking, mom's table
Chapter 5: Creative Thinking Coaching for Future Talent
What is creative thinking?
The 'Top Project' Develops Creative Thinking Skills
What is the role of parents?
Part 3: Time to Experience Magic
Chapter 6: Overcoming the Math Wall with Mom
Math Coaching Roadmap
Building Your Child's Math Skills Before School
Elementary Math: Mastering Key Math Concepts
Chapter 7: Conquering English with Home Coaching
The meaning and preparation of English education
English Coaching Roadmap
Checkpoints in English Education
Chapter 8: A Child Growing Up with Books
Reading education that determines a child's present and future
Various branches of reading coaching
Reading Coaching Roadmap Reading Coaching Roadmap
Reading-related activities that maximize reading effectiveness
Chapter 9: The Demands of the Times: Arts Education
The Importance of Arts Education
Arts Education: What to Do
Environment is key, we are all artists
Music education that leads to holistic development
Physical strength is essential, so don't neglect physical activity.
Epilogue - Are You a Parent or a Parent?
Prologue - Supporting you on the lonely and difficult path of parenting
Part 1: What is Coaching Parenting?
Chapter 1: Why Coaching, Not Teaching
No one takes responsibility for my child.
Why Coaching and Not Teaching
Coaching Parenting: A Game Similar to a Two-In-One Triangle
A tough battle between common sense and faith
Chapter 2: Parenting Coaching: The Parent's Attitude
Happy parenting starts with happy parents.
The foundation of all character, listening
Contentment and gratitude that bring happiness to the heart
Forgiveness that cannot be optional
Parents' low self-esteem ruins their children.
Part 2: The Time When Magic Opens
Chapter 3: The Beginning of Coaching Parenting: Relationship Coaching
Where does family unhappiness come from?
The starting point of a child's happiness is a stable bond.
To parents who think their children are problem children
Children are not an extension of their parents.
Chapter 4: Play and Food Coaching for Raising Healthy Children
Homo ludens, the child who grows up while playing
Mom's cooking, mom's table
Chapter 5: Creative Thinking Coaching for Future Talent
What is creative thinking?
The 'Top Project' Develops Creative Thinking Skills
What is the role of parents?
Part 3: Time to Experience Magic
Chapter 6: Overcoming the Math Wall with Mom
Math Coaching Roadmap
Building Your Child's Math Skills Before School
Elementary Math: Mastering Key Math Concepts
Chapter 7: Conquering English with Home Coaching
The meaning and preparation of English education
English Coaching Roadmap
Checkpoints in English Education
Chapter 8: A Child Growing Up with Books
Reading education that determines a child's present and future
Various branches of reading coaching
Reading Coaching Roadmap Reading Coaching Roadmap
Reading-related activities that maximize reading effectiveness
Chapter 9: The Demands of the Times: Arts Education
The Importance of Arts Education
Arts Education: What to Do
Environment is key, we are all artists
Music education that leads to holistic development
Physical strength is essential, so don't neglect physical activity.
Epilogue - Are You a Parent or a Parent?
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If 'teaching' means 'the knowledge transmitter takes the lead in the class and teaches and conveys the target to the child', 'coaching' means 'the teacher or parent assisting the child to reach a certain goal through his or her own efforts, from the perspective of viewing the child as the subject of learning.'
In this way, I thought that teaching through school education alone was sufficient.
I thought that other private education was something that could only be used selectively when the child requested it.
This is because it was believed that overuse of teaching would destroy a child's innate learning ability, and that teaching that ignored each individual's characteristics and development would only be toxic to the child.
--- p.27
Isn't learning ultimately a battle with books and letters, and a process of becoming enlightened through reading and thinking on your own?
So I didn't attach much importance to textbooks or curriculum.
Rather, I thought that the starting point of studying was where the child's interest and curiosity remained.
The direction of coaching is where the child's interests and attention are directed.
--- p.28
Parents who are reasonably satisfied and grateful for life in general focus only on their own children and refrain from mentioning other children.
Once 'comparison' is activated in the parenting field, a minefield is guaranteed for parents and hell begins for children.
In that sense, comparison is taboo in the parenting field.
--- p.69
The stimulation that infants and toddlers need can be sufficiently provided at home, rather than through private educational institutions.
Although there are things to be gained from starting private education earlier than others, it is important to keep in mind that there may be more to be lost.
Because I have seen many negative effects of the myth of 'faster than others, more than others' on children.
Among children who were exposed to excessive private education at too early an age, there were many cases where they showed the same characteristics as the children with low self-esteem mentioned above.
--- p.87
The parent-child relationship is the strength and foundation that sustains the difficult task of parenting.
Therefore, most mothers pay particular attention to improving their relationships with their children.
That is because without improving relationships, any kind of parenting that a mother dreams of and desires is impossible.
As someone who practices coaching parenting, I have always paid attention to my relationship with my two children.
Because coaching, education, and conversation are impossible for a child who is angry at their mother or who is disgusted by their mother.
--- p.99
There is a growing number of children who must prove themselves to their parents to gain their love and acceptance.
Can't we break free from the shackles of self-proving and self-aggrandizement, living together as "we" despite our shortcomings and differences? I hope the relationship between parents and children can become something whole in itself, free from any selfishness or interference.
--- p.124
As long as parents think of their children as their possessions or as extensions of themselves, their love cannot be successful.
The bond with children, marked by possessiveness and dominance, continues even after the children become adults and eventually leads to the breakdown of the relationship.
Conversely, parents who raise their children with love rather than possession or domination help their children grow into independent, independent individuals.
This is why the outcome of love for one's children should not be the fulfillment of parents' desires or self-satisfaction.
--- p.120
While teaching begins with the teacher or parent's desired goal, coaching begins with the child's interests and needs.
When curiosity about a phenomenon or principle arises, the child's interest is naturally drawn and corresponding demands arise.
In that respect, a child's curiosity becomes the driving force and driving force for creative thinking.
--- p.150
Before starting full-scale math education, there were two things I paid special attention to.
One is instrumental education, and the other is reading.
--- p.170
Providing opportunities for talent discovery and career exploration is also an essential role of arts education.
Art activities provide opportunities to discover myself and experience self-efficacy.
There are children who have low academic achievements but show talent in arts and physical education.
It is not right to blindly focus on only English and math.
A child should never be ignored or marginalized in education and parenting simply because he or she lacks interest or talent in English or math.
Every child has the right to live confidently as themselves, and every parent has the responsibility to help their child grow up to be themselves, not someone else or someone the parents want them to be.
In reality, there are more cases than you might imagine where talents discovered through arts and physical education and activities become one's career path.
In this way, I thought that teaching through school education alone was sufficient.
I thought that other private education was something that could only be used selectively when the child requested it.
This is because it was believed that overuse of teaching would destroy a child's innate learning ability, and that teaching that ignored each individual's characteristics and development would only be toxic to the child.
--- p.27
Isn't learning ultimately a battle with books and letters, and a process of becoming enlightened through reading and thinking on your own?
So I didn't attach much importance to textbooks or curriculum.
Rather, I thought that the starting point of studying was where the child's interest and curiosity remained.
The direction of coaching is where the child's interests and attention are directed.
--- p.28
Parents who are reasonably satisfied and grateful for life in general focus only on their own children and refrain from mentioning other children.
Once 'comparison' is activated in the parenting field, a minefield is guaranteed for parents and hell begins for children.
In that sense, comparison is taboo in the parenting field.
--- p.69
The stimulation that infants and toddlers need can be sufficiently provided at home, rather than through private educational institutions.
Although there are things to be gained from starting private education earlier than others, it is important to keep in mind that there may be more to be lost.
Because I have seen many negative effects of the myth of 'faster than others, more than others' on children.
Among children who were exposed to excessive private education at too early an age, there were many cases where they showed the same characteristics as the children with low self-esteem mentioned above.
--- p.87
The parent-child relationship is the strength and foundation that sustains the difficult task of parenting.
Therefore, most mothers pay particular attention to improving their relationships with their children.
That is because without improving relationships, any kind of parenting that a mother dreams of and desires is impossible.
As someone who practices coaching parenting, I have always paid attention to my relationship with my two children.
Because coaching, education, and conversation are impossible for a child who is angry at their mother or who is disgusted by their mother.
--- p.99
There is a growing number of children who must prove themselves to their parents to gain their love and acceptance.
Can't we break free from the shackles of self-proving and self-aggrandizement, living together as "we" despite our shortcomings and differences? I hope the relationship between parents and children can become something whole in itself, free from any selfishness or interference.
--- p.124
As long as parents think of their children as their possessions or as extensions of themselves, their love cannot be successful.
The bond with children, marked by possessiveness and dominance, continues even after the children become adults and eventually leads to the breakdown of the relationship.
Conversely, parents who raise their children with love rather than possession or domination help their children grow into independent, independent individuals.
This is why the outcome of love for one's children should not be the fulfillment of parents' desires or self-satisfaction.
--- p.120
While teaching begins with the teacher or parent's desired goal, coaching begins with the child's interests and needs.
When curiosity about a phenomenon or principle arises, the child's interest is naturally drawn and corresponding demands arise.
In that respect, a child's curiosity becomes the driving force and driving force for creative thinking.
--- p.150
Before starting full-scale math education, there were two things I paid special attention to.
One is instrumental education, and the other is reading.
--- p.170
Providing opportunities for talent discovery and career exploration is also an essential role of arts education.
Art activities provide opportunities to discover myself and experience self-efficacy.
There are children who have low academic achievements but show talent in arts and physical education.
It is not right to blindly focus on only English and math.
A child should never be ignored or marginalized in education and parenting simply because he or she lacks interest or talent in English or math.
Every child has the right to live confidently as themselves, and every parent has the responsibility to help their child grow up to be themselves, not someone else or someone the parents want them to be.
In reality, there are more cases than you might imagine where talents discovered through arts and physical education and activities become one's career path.
--- p.249
Publisher's Review
The academy counseling director is not swayed by the neighbor's mother.
We want the best education tailored to our children.
A heartwarming message to all parents
The author, who broke away from the education system controlled by the neighborhood mother and the academy counseling director, has practiced a "tailored" parenting and education while communicating closely with her two children. The author's intense coaching journey is contained in this book. There were also whispers from neighbors like, "Why do you keep perfectly good children at home when you're not even a specialist? Children who would grow wings if you send them to academies..." However, word of mouth spread that she raised her two children well without lacking anything, including intelligence, physical strength, and mental strength. Since 2009, the author has been providing parent counseling and spreading her coaching parenting methodology, focusing on Ilsan. The author reveals the reasons why she chose coaching, and her self-developed coaching methodology and know-how, covering all areas from relationship coaching with children to creative thinking, math, English, reading, and art.
Customized education that takes into account the child's development and characteristics through coaching
If 'teaching' is 'a knowledge transmitter taking the lead in class and teaching and conveying the goal to the child', 'coaching' refers to 'assisting teachers or parents so that the child can reach a certain goal through their own efforts, from the perspective of viewing the child as the subject of learning.' The author's eldest child had a hard time at school during his elementary and middle school years. This was because the uniform classes that ignored the child's characteristics, learning ability, and learning speed made the child bored and tired. Since he believed that school education alone was sufficient for teaching, when the child came home after school, instead of sending him to an academy, the author designed a customized education method of coaching. The most important thing is for the parent to thoroughly identify the point where the child's interest and curiosity linger and expand that into a learning opportunity. As an example, the author introduces the "Top Project." This happened when the eldest child was five years old. Watching the child mutter "Why does a top fall over when it stops?", the author realized that now was the moment for coaching to intervene. The eldest child's curiosity led him to find the answer himself. The author, who wanted to create a process of discovery, set a topic of inquiry, selected experiences based on that topic, and directly experienced them with the child. He organized the discoveries made through those experiences. He then integrated those discoveries to create a hypothesis about friction, concluding the project.
The results of this coaching parenting were amazing. With just home English coaching, my eldest child was able to read the entire English version of Harry Potter by the age of 7, and was featured in JoongAng Ilbo and EBS as a success story of mom-style English. In math, he completed the elementary school curriculum (grades 4-6) in just one month in April of his 4th grade and completed the middle school curriculum in his 5th grade. My eldest child entered a science high school for gifted students, and at the time, the entrance exam consisted of integrative questions across subjects. My eldest child entered the high school with good grades without attending an academy to prepare for the integrative questions. This was possible because the math and science knowledge accumulated through consistent reading through coaching parenting and the creative thinking skills developed shone through.
From coaching relationships with children
Creative thinking, math, English, reading, and art
Child coaching know-how covering all areas
This book is divided into three parts. Part 1, "What is Coaching Parenting?" explains why coaching, not teaching, is necessary in a reality where no one takes responsibility for my child, and explains why the author began coaching parenting. Part 2, "Time for Magic to Open," contains coaching know-how for developing creative thinking skills, which play a crucial role in fostering relationship coaching and problem-solving skills. Part 3, "Time to Experience Magic," contains coaching know-how that helps balanced development through humanities and arts education as well as math, English, and reading coaching.
Are you a parent or a parent?
If you can do your job as a parent well, your child will grow up well!
In an increasingly competitive atmosphere, there is a social atmosphere that considers a child's success as the mother's success. In this environment, the author is concerned that more and more parents are taking the 'path of parents' that focuses only on their children's studies, career paths, and advancement, rather than the 'path of parenting' that places importance on the child's happiness and the child's current life. The author believes that if a parent can do a good job, the child will grow up well without much to worry about. The author has said with his entire life that if there is a right answer to raising a child, that one and only answer is 'parental true love.'
“How did you raise your child to be so upright and wonderful?”
Hearing these words is every parent's dream, and perhaps the most rewarding honor. For those who aspire to receive such a medal, this book will be an excellent guide.
We want the best education tailored to our children.
A heartwarming message to all parents
The author, who broke away from the education system controlled by the neighborhood mother and the academy counseling director, has practiced a "tailored" parenting and education while communicating closely with her two children. The author's intense coaching journey is contained in this book. There were also whispers from neighbors like, "Why do you keep perfectly good children at home when you're not even a specialist? Children who would grow wings if you send them to academies..." However, word of mouth spread that she raised her two children well without lacking anything, including intelligence, physical strength, and mental strength. Since 2009, the author has been providing parent counseling and spreading her coaching parenting methodology, focusing on Ilsan. The author reveals the reasons why she chose coaching, and her self-developed coaching methodology and know-how, covering all areas from relationship coaching with children to creative thinking, math, English, reading, and art.
Customized education that takes into account the child's development and characteristics through coaching
If 'teaching' is 'a knowledge transmitter taking the lead in class and teaching and conveying the goal to the child', 'coaching' refers to 'assisting teachers or parents so that the child can reach a certain goal through their own efforts, from the perspective of viewing the child as the subject of learning.' The author's eldest child had a hard time at school during his elementary and middle school years. This was because the uniform classes that ignored the child's characteristics, learning ability, and learning speed made the child bored and tired. Since he believed that school education alone was sufficient for teaching, when the child came home after school, instead of sending him to an academy, the author designed a customized education method of coaching. The most important thing is for the parent to thoroughly identify the point where the child's interest and curiosity linger and expand that into a learning opportunity. As an example, the author introduces the "Top Project." This happened when the eldest child was five years old. Watching the child mutter "Why does a top fall over when it stops?", the author realized that now was the moment for coaching to intervene. The eldest child's curiosity led him to find the answer himself. The author, who wanted to create a process of discovery, set a topic of inquiry, selected experiences based on that topic, and directly experienced them with the child. He organized the discoveries made through those experiences. He then integrated those discoveries to create a hypothesis about friction, concluding the project.
The results of this coaching parenting were amazing. With just home English coaching, my eldest child was able to read the entire English version of Harry Potter by the age of 7, and was featured in JoongAng Ilbo and EBS as a success story of mom-style English. In math, he completed the elementary school curriculum (grades 4-6) in just one month in April of his 4th grade and completed the middle school curriculum in his 5th grade. My eldest child entered a science high school for gifted students, and at the time, the entrance exam consisted of integrative questions across subjects. My eldest child entered the high school with good grades without attending an academy to prepare for the integrative questions. This was possible because the math and science knowledge accumulated through consistent reading through coaching parenting and the creative thinking skills developed shone through.
From coaching relationships with children
Creative thinking, math, English, reading, and art
Child coaching know-how covering all areas
This book is divided into three parts. Part 1, "What is Coaching Parenting?" explains why coaching, not teaching, is necessary in a reality where no one takes responsibility for my child, and explains why the author began coaching parenting. Part 2, "Time for Magic to Open," contains coaching know-how for developing creative thinking skills, which play a crucial role in fostering relationship coaching and problem-solving skills. Part 3, "Time to Experience Magic," contains coaching know-how that helps balanced development through humanities and arts education as well as math, English, and reading coaching.
Are you a parent or a parent?
If you can do your job as a parent well, your child will grow up well!
In an increasingly competitive atmosphere, there is a social atmosphere that considers a child's success as the mother's success. In this environment, the author is concerned that more and more parents are taking the 'path of parents' that focuses only on their children's studies, career paths, and advancement, rather than the 'path of parenting' that places importance on the child's happiness and the child's current life. The author believes that if a parent can do a good job, the child will grow up well without much to worry about. The author has said with his entire life that if there is a right answer to raising a child, that one and only answer is 'parental true love.'
“How did you raise your child to be so upright and wonderful?”
Hearing these words is every parent's dream, and perhaps the most rewarding honor. For those who aspire to receive such a medal, this book will be an excellent guide.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: October 29, 2024
- Page count, weight, size: 276 pages | 382g | 148*210*20mm
- ISBN13: 9791193865088
- ISBN10: 1193865085
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