{"product_id":"123479","title":"The secret to today's children's apathy ","description":"\u003ccenter\u003e\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:center\"\u003e\u003cimg src=\"https:\/\/tmgdisk01.cafe24.com\/images\/vs\/4172\/sv\/WQtVsWV5QUJsDn3wE1vKYL.png?v=1764958737\" style=\"max-width:100%;max-height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\u003ccenter\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:95%\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:center;font-size:30px;font-weight:bolder;line-height:1.6em\"\u003e The secret to today's children's apathy \u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"border-bottom:1px;border-bottom-style:dotted;border-color:;padding-bottom:20px\"\u003e\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable align=\"center\" width=\"100%\"\u003e\u003ctbody style=\"border:0px\"\u003e\n\n\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd align=\"center\" style=\"line-height:1.2em;text-align:center;font-size:18px;color:black;font-weight:bold;padding-bottom:20px;\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\n\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"text-align:center\"\u003e\u003cimg src=\"https:\/\/image.yes24.com\/goods\/152361957\/XL\" style=\"max-width:100%;height:auto\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\n\n\u003c\/tbody\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:95%;{split_style6}padding-top:20px;padding-bottom:20px\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:left;font-size:16px;font-weight:bold;padding-bottom:20px\"\u003e Description \u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:left;word-break:break-all;font-size:14px;line-height:1.6em;\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eBook Introduction\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e \u003cb\u003e“I don’t want to do anything.” “I don’t have the strength to do anything.” “I’ve given up.”\u003cbr\u003e To save the children who scream silently\u003cbr\u003e What adults need to learn today, according to psychiatrist Kim Hyun-soo.\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cbr\u003eKids who come to school, sleep on their desks, and when they get home, they don't let go of their phones and are absorbed in games...\u003cbr\u003e At an age when children should be full of energy, they are becoming listless and listless.\u003cbr\u003e On the other hand, the parent generation, who has little experience with being unmotivated, has a hard time accepting this kind of behavior in their children.\u003cbr\u003e Moreover, when adults hear children say things like, “I don’t have any thoughts,” “I won’t do it,” or “I gave up,” they feel anxious and worried.\u003cbr\u003e How did this happen? For over 30 years, Dr. Kim Hyun-soo, a psychiatrist, has been working to heal wounded youth and work with the community to resolve their issues.\u003cbr\u003e He is also the principal of the healing alternative school ‘Growth School Star’, and until recently, he served as the director of the Seoul Suicide Prevention Center and the head of the Seoul COVID-19 Psychological Support Team, meeting and interpreting the hearts of countless children at schools and clinics. \u003cbr\u003eBased on that experience, I argue that the apathy of children today is a result, not a cause.\u003cbr\u003e In other words, they claim that a ‘winner-takes-all society’, ‘evaluation based on uniformity’, and ‘endless ranking’ have made children helpless.\u003cbr\u003e In a social system where only the survivors can take everything, it is natural for children who are not able to do so to become helpless, and in this process, the few winners and the many losers become equally unhappy.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e In this regard, the author analyzes the causes of children's unwillingness to do anything and suggests ways to help them in \"The Secret of Today's Children's Apathy.\"\u003cbr\u003e This book is also a revised edition of the bestseller “The Secret of Helplessness,” published in 2016.\u003cbr\u003e Even though more than 10 years have passed since its publication, the number of apathetic children continues to increase. \u003cbr\u003eThe symptoms are getting worse and worse, and this is a wake-up call to society once again.\u003cbr\u003e I want to share with you the healing and recovery methods that teachers, parents, and other adults in this society should practice for children.\u003cbr\u003e This book, consisting of 12 chapters in 2 parts, examines in Part 1 how the system of 'helplessness' operates in society, schools, and families.\u003cbr\u003e We examine the current state of apathy among teenagers and introduce in detail the five psychological types of apathy.\u003cbr\u003e Part 2 will teach you how to give CPR to help helpless children.\u003cbr\u003e From conversation techniques that turn positive situations into positive ones to hospitality, respect, and encouragement, we guide you through easy-to-practice methods for everyday life.\u003cbr\u003e In particular, it presents ways to approach children by type of apathy and support strategies to help them.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eThe author argues that adolescent apathy is also the result of a series of lack of communication.\u003cbr\u003e For a conversation to occur, one must be able to see into each other or listen to what the other person is saying. Unfortunately, most adults at school and at home only engage in one-sided monologues and are unable to engage in two-way communication.\u003cbr\u003e This revised edition adds examples of communication patterns that can lead to helplessness, helping adults recognize their own conversation patterns and approach children more affectionately.\u003cbr\u003e In addition, through extensive field experience and research theories in psychoanalysis, psychology, and philosophy, we provide reliable insights and directions for recovery. \u003cbr\u003eIn a time when the educational and parenting environment has rapidly changed due to the COVID-19 pandemic, AI, and social media, and the number of apathetic children has increased, this book will provide direction for families, schools, and society to work together to develop comprehensive and diverse recovery measures so that children can heal and recover at their own pace.\u003cbr\u003e\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cul\u003e\u003cli\u003e You can preview some of the book's contents.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cspan\u003ePreview\u003c\/span\u003e\n\n\u003c\/li\u003e\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eindex\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e Revised Edition Prologue: A World That Makes Children More Apathetic\u003cbr\u003e Prologue: The Secret of Apathy That Adults Have Ignored\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003ePart 1: The Birth of Helpless Children\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Opening remarks_ How did I become a sleeping child?\u003cbr\u003e 1 Understanding the feeling of not wanting to do anything\u003cbr\u003e 2 What has happened to the children so far?\u003cbr\u003e 3 Seven Perspectives on Understanding the Hidden Meaning of Apathy\u003cbr\u003e 4 Children crushed by social pressure\u003cbr\u003e 5. Apathy Born from the Education and Parenting System \u003cbr\u003e6 Five Psychological Types of Apathy\u003cbr\u003e 7 Four Paradigms That Demonstrate Incompetence\u003cbr\u003e Closing remarks: What is the cause of children's lethargy?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003ePart 2: Helping Helpless Children\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Opening Remarks_ Rescuing One Person at a Time\u003cbr\u003e 1. CPR Leading Change? Paradox and Positivity\u003cbr\u003e 2 CPR that Leads Change ② Hospitality, Participation, and Respect\u003cbr\u003e 3 Things Adults Should Do to Help Children Live Again and Encourage Them\u003cbr\u003e 4 Ways to Approach Children with Apathy by Type - Deficiency Type, Over-Eager Type, and Chronic Type\u003cbr\u003e 5 Support Strategies to Help Children Who Are Apathetic - Resilience, Relationships, and Achievement Experiences\u003cbr\u003e Closing Remarks_ Have I lived my life to the fullest?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Epilogue: What You Need to Do Now to Awaken the Sleeping Giant\u003cbr\u003e Revised Edition Epilogue_To Exist Is to Communicate\u003cbr\u003e References\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eDetailed image\u003c\/b\u003e \u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cimg src=\"https:\/\/image.yes24.com\/momo\/TopCate5571\/MidCate004\/557033064.jpg\" border=\"0\" alt=\"Detailed Image 1\"\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eInto the book\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e  \u003cdiv\u003eWhen we use adjectives to describe apathetic children in school, that is, when we call them apathetic children now, we use terms with a similar meaning to the phrase “they are apathetic”: unmotivated children, lazy children, children without dreams, depressed children, children who have given up, etc.\u003cbr\u003e As the expressions listed above show, apathetic children are often judged as lazy and easily labeled as children who find everything bothersome or uninteresting.\u003cbr\u003e And the more parents or teachers work hard and have strong motivation, the more they tend to think of these children as 'bad guys.'\u003cbr\u003e It is common to encounter parents or teachers raising their voices and saying, “What kind of bad guys are these, sleeping in school?”\u003cbr\u003e However, assuming that these children are just like that is actually the worst way to misunderstand a helpless child. \u003cbr\u003e--- From \"1-1 Understanding the Feeling of Not Wanting to Do Anything\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e It is clear that children do not like to be listless.\u003cbr\u003e First of all, being listless is not in line with the nature of living things, so if you look closely at the minds of children, you will find that there is not a single child who truly wants to be listless.\u003cbr\u003e I just want to have fun, but I can't, and I've tried many things to have fun, but they all fail, so I think it's better to just stay the course for now than to fuss and struggle about trying again. That's just the behavior I chose.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e --- From \"1-2 What has happened to the children so far?\"\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eMichael Eigan used the term \"psychological death\" in his analysis of patients who were mentally dysfunctional and living like zombies, and apathetic children who were just killing time are in a similar state.\u003cbr\u003e Because we are living a life without subjectivity, a life without content, a life where we do what others tell us to do, a life where we move like a machine.\u003cbr\u003e The same goes for children who are partially dead and partially alive, children who have killed the part that touches the world and live only by clinging to their inner fantasies.\u003cbr\u003e What they have in common is 'loss of sensation', and the core of it is 'loss of pain'.\u003cbr\u003e The pain is so severe that the sense of pain is killed when you are alive. \u003cbr\u003eTo do that, you have to kill your mind or spirit, and what can replace the death of your mind and spirit is deep sleep, or activities similar to sleep, such as games, television, or something similar.\u003cbr\u003e Another way to live that is similar to being dead is to choose a dissociated life.\u003cbr\u003e Dead during class and awake during break, dead in front of demanding adults, alive in front of understanding friends, incompetent in front of forced tasks, crazy and explosive in front of things they like, hiding and showing, going on and off, they live a double life, going back and forth between life and death like a pendulum.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e --- From \"1-3 Seven Perspectives on Understanding the Hidden Meaning of Apathy\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Schools have been biased in favor of 'good kids'.\u003cbr\u003e We were clumsy in respecting children's diversity and were also lacking in providing equal opportunities. \u003cbr\u003eIn the field of academics, competition is the basis, and children who excel are given more opportunities and privileges, leading to hierarchical guidance based on grades.\u003cbr\u003e Children who do not belong to the group of 'good kids' suffer the injustice of being ignored and given no opportunities, like shadows or ghosts.\u003cbr\u003e The children soon learned that the school had little interest in students who were average or below average, and that they were fortunate as long as they didn't cause any major trouble.\u003cbr\u003e I also realized that I didn't have a teacher who really knew me well.\u003cbr\u003e --- From \"1-5 Apathy Born from the Education and Parenting System\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Children who become addicted to games or smartphones later in life are a little different from children who started playing games early and became addicted to games in the classic sense. \u003cbr\u003eThis apathetic group jumps into gaming in earnest after their grades drop at some point. Some of them are very good at gaming, but most are just average. Most of them hide in gaming because they are discouraged from not meeting their own expectations and those of their parents.\u003cbr\u003e As is well known, the game is another life league that allows you to experience vicarious satisfaction through status advancement and leveling up in exchange for lost grades.\u003cbr\u003e The vicarious satisfaction of 'grades go down, levels go up' in games is somewhat effective when you're in the game world, but it feels very uncomfortable when you return to the real world.\u003cbr\u003e --- From \"1-6 Five Psychological Types of Apathy\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The first thing to do is to stop nagging.\u003cbr\u003e The most pathological approach to perpetuating a negative relationship is to repeat the same nagging over and over again for years. \u003cbr\u003eIf you just repeat the scolding your child is expecting, nothing will change.\u003cbr\u003e Nagging is boring and only worsens the relationship, so when I counsel my children, I always harshly criticize parents who nag.\u003cbr\u003e Whether it's not putting things back where they belong, not washing up properly, holding your phone for too long, playing games, sleeping late, or having bad posture, if teachers or parents were to set their minds to it, there would be no end to nagging about all the things that make you seem lethargic and lazy.\u003cbr\u003e But often times, things that don't change are things that are difficult to change.\u003cbr\u003e So one day, you just have to stop nagging.\u003cbr\u003e This alone has a tremendous effect.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e --- From “2-1 CPR that Leads to Change ① Paradox and Positivity”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Don't we all know the awkwardness of forcing ourselves to sit down in a place that doesn't welcome us? \u003cbr\u003eThe feeling of being somewhere you shouldn't be, of being in a place you shouldn't be, of being stuck in a place that wants to be left out and excluded, of being a crow among the herons, further intensifies the feeling of helplessness.\u003cbr\u003e Not only does it make you feel lethargic, but it also awakens dormant hostility.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “No matter what you do, this is where you belong.”\u003cbr\u003e “This is exactly where you belong.”\u003cbr\u003e By conveying this message and offering a welcome of presence and belonging, we can ignite the seeds of joy.\u003cbr\u003e Hospitality is a powerful tool for energizing existence and opening hearts.\u003cbr\u003e\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e --- From “2-2 CPR that Leads to Change ② Hospitality, Participation, and Respect”\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003ePublisher's Review\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e \u003cb\u003eA world that makes children more helpless\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The older generation was poor, but they had hope, and as they achieved that hope, they learned to have more hope. \u003cbr\u003eBut today's young generation has learned that although they are rich, there is no hope, and that hope is difficult to achieve, and they have naturally learned the futility of hope.\u003cbr\u003e So, they can remain in a state of helplessness that adults cannot understand for a long time.\u003cbr\u003e Why is it becoming more difficult for them to have hope? 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