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★ The first female CEO in L'Oréal's history

Self-doubt, shame, loneliness, anxiety, the longing to be accepted and loved…
“Why do I always feel inadequate?”
Every moment you feel worthless and unworthy,
A book that gives you the courage to love yourself just as you are!

Jamie Kern Lima, the first female CEO in L'Oréal's history, overcame numerous rejections and failures.
A journey to face your true self and believe that you are valuable as you are.

There are themes that have been repeated in countless dramas, movies, and books throughout the ages.
It is also a question we have constantly faced throughout our lives.
It's the question, 'Is it okay to live as the real me?' and self-esteem.
The pressure to be seen as a 'good person' to be loved, accepted, and not abandoned.
The anxiety that I am inadequate as I am, the delusion that I am only good if I meet someone else's standards.
Some people hide themselves for fear of being rejected, and others hate themselves for not meeting the standards.
Ultimately, we live as 'agents' who meet the expectations of others.
Living a life like that as a 'fake me' gradually isolates you, and eventually leads to self-loathing, inferiority complex, depression, and emptiness.
“My Value” speaks with sincerity to those who are stuck before the question, “Why do I always feel inadequate?”
“You are worthy and worthy of love just as you are.”

Because of self-doubt, feelings of worthlessness, and fear, we dim the light of our soul.
And increasingly, we begin to choose only the safe path.
Hide, suppress, and hide your body.
We tell only part of the truth, live only half of our lives, and express only a part of our true selves.
They crave a sense of belonging rather than genuine connection, and strive to be recognized as important based on external, rather than internal, criteria.
Because I believe that these are the only ways to be loved, belong, and be valued.

---From "My Value Starts Here"

I am learning step by step to believe in my own worth in life.
Through the important moments of enlightenment in the midst of big and small changes, and the small steps we take toward faith.
In human experience, believing in our worth is a lifelong pursuit and the most important experience we will ever have.
If I hadn't worked to build my self-esteem, many moments in my life up to this point would not have happened.
When the media reports about me, they usually say things like, "The Denny's waitress who built a billion-dollar business."
Of course that's true, but my real story is about a woman who didn't believe in herself, but learned to believe.
A woman who felt worthless, and still does sometimes, but who eventually learned to believe in her own worth.
A woman who was adopted at birth, but accepted that she was chosen and born with a purpose according to God's will.
It's about a woman who knows deep down that we are all worthy and worthy of love.

---From "My Value Starts Here"

Self-esteem is the deep-rooted belief that you are enough and worthy of love and belonging just as you are.
On the other hand, confidence, like self-esteem, has internal characteristics, but is generally related to one's evaluation of oneself compared to the outside world.
It is the feeling that you are confident, certain, and competent in one or more specific areas of your life.
Confidence is how you evaluate yourself based on your qualities, skills, and characteristics.
Confidence is also a way of believing firmly in your ability to meet life's challenges, your willingness to embrace and tackle them, and your will to succeed.
Since confidence is linked to external factors that can change frequently, confidence can also change frequently.
Therefore, confidence can fluctuate depending on mood, comparisons, circumstances, achievements, and recognition from others.

---From "Chapter 1: One Thing That Changes Everything"

The first and most important person you need to be honest with about your self-esteem is yourself.
Let's talk for a moment about self-esteem and self-awareness.
Sometimes we don't focus on learning how to love ourselves.
Because they worry that their self-love will seem selfish, self-centered, or even narcissistic.
This is not true at all.
In fact, narcissism has nothing to do with self-love; in fact, it is quite the opposite.
Of all personality disorders, narcissism is the one most heavily based on shame.
Narcissism actually stems from deep feelings of worthlessness, shame, and self-loathing.
All the exaggerations, superiority, and entitlement that can often be mistaken for narcissism are actually attempts to compensate for low self-esteem and self-loathing.
---From "Chapter 1: One Thing That Changes Everything"

When you build your self-esteem and believe that you are inherently worthy as a human being, you will discover that you are inherently valuable and sufficient, regardless of any achievements, accolades, awards, or circumstances.
Research shows that boosting your self-esteem can impact everything from your mood to the quality of your relationships to your job satisfaction.
Remember.
Confidence is like building a house, and self-esteem is like the solid foundation that supports that house.
The self-esteem that says, "I am enough just as I am," is the foundation that not only allows you to build that house, but also helps you truly enjoy the journey.

---From "Chapter 1: One Thing That Changes Everything"

What ultimately led me to change was the moment I began to imagine the price I would pay if I didn't let go of my self-limiting beliefs about my body.
I thought about the adventures I would reject, the precious time I would lose, the countless memories I would miss, worrying that I wouldn't fit in or be a good fit.
I imagined the joy I would lose, the bonds I would give up with others, the swimming sessions I would miss with my children.
As I looked back at the toll these self-limiting beliefs about my body had already taken, I felt deep within my soul that they were not true.
With this realization, I finally had a change of heart, thinking that I would be setting an example for my daughter Wonder that she wouldn't feel worthless.
---From "Chapter 5 Lies: How Weight Affects My Self-Worth"

This also applies to the workplace.
This is especially true when women are in leadership positions or have aspirations to become leaders.
When it comes to making firm decisions, taking managerial action, exercising judgment, or giving direction to teams at work, women are often labeled aggressive, cold, and unlikable.
When men do the same thing, they are called confident and visionary.
Female leaders often receive feedback from their superiors or HR departments, or are judged in year-end performance reviews to be "not a team player," "political," or "overly competitive."
When women leaders receive this kind of feedback, they take a step back, withdraw, and diminish their potential.
This type of feedback feels like criticism.
Because we've learned from a young age not to trust ourselves, it's easy to mistake that feedback for truth.
Female leaders who receive this feedback may feel they need to take a less decisive approach to get ahead.
In fact, this attitude can be detrimental to the potential of female leaders.
---From "Chapter 10 Lies: If You Stand Out, You'll Be Kicked Out"

Because we're taught that women should be good at raising children above all else, even when they're competent, they don't seem to be doing a good enough job.
Moreover, when a woman does something exceptionally well, she is considered to be fairly good rather than competent.
We unconsciously learn that this kind of thinking is okay.
Because remember that intelligence and success reduce a man's attractiveness to women.
When we distort ourselves to fit these cultural norms, we end up being liked, but we don't feel fulfilled.

---From "Chapter 10 Lies: If You Stand Out, You'll Be Kicked Out"

We cannot ignore or bury the deep story that our values ​​tell us about our self-identity.
Because those stories will continue to surface and become louder and louder.
But as we begin to acknowledge and confront those stories, their power slowly begins to wane and we begin to realize that they are not true.
Because our souls already knew that they were not true.
When we try not to believe, they continue to diminish.
Their authority over our lives, our thoughts, and our identities continues to diminish.
---From "Chapter 13 Lies: Once a Label is Attached, It Lasts Forever"

“I love you.
You deserved to be loved from the day you were born, and you deserve to be loved just as you are right now, just as you are.
Nothing you've ever done or will ever do makes you unworthy of love.
You are worthy, whole, and worthy enough.
I love you and I watch you.
You are so important to me.
You are so precious.
You are enough.
You are valuable just the way you are.
I love you.
You are loved.
You deserve to be loved and you deserve to give love.
You are 'love' itself.
love you."

---From Chapter 15, Are You Seeing Yourself?