What would be different about the person you want to meet next time?
Sociability, friendliness, and even self-esteem
The secret of a unique sense of style that stands out in both words and actions

*** Communications Leader, 60 Million Attractive Advisor Heeren Choi's Hot Topic ***
*** Human Relationship Insights Compiled from Interviews with Over 1,000 People ***
*** Highly recommended by Son Mi-na, Yoon Hong-gyun, Kim Min-cheol, and Choi Seo-young! ***

Have you ever seen someone who always has good relationships with friends, has no enemies at work, and is well-liked? Or someone who seems ordinary but somehow manages to be popular? Their secret is simple.
It is 'charm'.
Each person has their own charm to attract the favor of those around them and move the hearts of others.
This book explains the characteristics of charm that determines likability and how to lead successful interpersonal relationships by utilizing your own charm.
The author, a leading interviewer in the communications field, has worked as a radio and new media producer for over 10 years, meeting some of the country's top broadcasters.
From those who start out as unseen but gradually shine to those who are consistently loved for a long time, I explored what makes people appealing by meeting countless people.
Additionally, I have expanded my scope of activities as a YouTube creator and have interviewed over 1,000 people to date, learning the art of likability, and have generously included the know-how I have accumulated in this book.

To bring out your charm, think like a PD.
If it were Kim Tae-ho or Na Young-seok, what kind of character would they portray me as and promote me as? Just thinking about it gives me hints, because it allows me to look at myself more objectively.
In this process, the disadvantages are rather the ingredients of charm.
Charm is born from strengths and can become a character, but starting from weaknesses helps to easily bring out charm.
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Lasting charm comes from saying and doing things that create unforgettable moments in someone's life.
People with that kind of charm have three powers.

1) The ability to capture and express in words what others easily overlook.
2) Concentration to respect and immerse oneself in the person in front of one's eyes
3) Look at the other person with affectionate eyes and show special interest.

In a word, it is the ability to make time spent together enjoyable.
--- p.108

Have you ever felt infinitely small and insignificant among so many accomplished people? If so, remember the "ugly duckling effect."
This term is derived from the fact that, like the ugly duckling in the fairy tale "The Ugly Duckling," even if you seem to be unattractive and lacking compared to other ducks, you can use that to your advantage to gain favor.
My appearance, which is different from many others, can become my individuality and gain popularity.
Like the ugly duckling who seemed hateful at first but eventually became a swan and shone the brightest.
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Human relationships are like growing plants.
If you water it too much, it will die, and if you don't water it, it will dry out.
They need to be given appropriate attention, and light and affection tailored to their individual characteristics.
But I was disappointed that I was going ahead on my own and watering it as I wanted, but it wasn't growing well.
From then on, my anxiety about relationships decreased.
If you give it the right amount of water, sunlight, and affection, then it's up to the plant to take care of itself, so you can stop worrying about unnecessary contact or anxiety.

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Who wants to maintain a relationship with someone who only talks about themselves? Let's put the brakes on greed and prevent one-way conversations.
People can't help but feel favorable toward someone who listens to them carefully and attentively.
Making the effort to put yourself in the other person's shoes while having a conversation doubles your appeal.
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When asked to describe someone's charm, people usually use adjectives like 'smart, funny, confident.'
This is a good method that I can apply to myself as well.
As the saying goes, words become seeds, and because language is so deeply rooted in the subconscious, I can find charm just by defining myself.
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Don't be discouraged if you don't get along with someone.
Don't force yourself to change your unique color to avoid being hated or to gain favor.
Even if no one recognizes me, I am me.
Just acknowledge and cherish the path I have taken in life and the beauty I possess.
At least I know my life well.
Isn't the recognition of myself, the one I know best, the most important thing in the world?

--- p.278