Entering
If you don't know where to start, you can't start.

1 A closed mind is the most terrible prison.
Who was wrong?

Week 1 | Preview
I'm trying to figure out hate or my feelings
Week 2 | Looking Back
I turn my thoughts around
Week 3 | Governing
I look back on a moment when I was angry.

2 If you don't listen, you don't learn.
Talk to others

Week 4 | Divide the Inner Space
I recall a conversation that shook my heart.
Week 5 | Listening
Let's review in silence
Week 6 | Defending
I'm thinking about what kind of relationship I want to leave behind.
Week 7 | Empathize
Try to be the person who caused the conflict

3 You can't build relationships by swinging a hammer.
It's about getting along with each other

Week 8 | Be Kind
Here are some reasons why I might not be affectionate.
Week 9 | Try It
I look back on things I regret
Week 10 | Deliver
I look back on my respectful heart
Week 11 | Laughing Together
I try to relive the moment when I laughed out loud.

4 Our attitudes are the crayons that color the world.
The More You Judge, the Less You Love

Week 12 | Becoming Brave
Try to act honestly and confidently
Week 13 | Getting Back Up
Think about the meaning of failure
Week 14 | Reaching Peace
Choose to be happy

Going out
What we need to do is not condemn the past, but plan for the future.

From Confucius to Gandhi, from Shakespeare to Fitzgerald, from Seneca to Nietzsche
Learning the "No Enemy" Lifestyle with the English Original

One of the most enjoyable aspects of reading "How to Talk Without Making Enemies" is the abundance of witty and insightful quotes from famous writers, politicians, thinkers, scholars, and artists.
Thanks to long-standing requests from readers to read these famous quotes in a collection, a manuscript book titled "100 Days of Writing to Not Make Enemies" has been published, which compiles sentences that strike at the heart of "relationships."
This book, which suggests that we should look beyond conversation methods and reflect on our attitude toward life, reminds us that in order to live a life without making enemies, we must first correct our own mindset, and that in order to have that mindset, we need time to reflect on ourselves.
Over the course of 14 weeks, you'll transcribe 100 quotes with Sam Horn's guidance and write on topics suggested by Seoul National University writing professor Lee Sang-won. This will allow you to gradually embrace a more peaceful daily life.


♣ A review by a domestic reader of "How to Talk Without Making Enemies"

A book you want to read with your loved ones!
“I really recommend it to anyone starting out in society.”
A book for those deeply hurt by verbal abuse.
"I highly recommend reading this book at least once while raising your child as a parent."
“I bought it twice, because I wanted to give it as a gift to someone I love.”
A book I read and reread whenever things aren't going well and I'm having a hard time!
“Every time I feel weary of human relationships, I return to this book.”
How to Say No Confidently and Without Guilt
How to Persuade Difficult People and Get What You Want
"It changed me from being impatient and making mistakes and regretting them."

A conversation guide that will definitely improve your relationships!

"A must-read for anyone who makes more enemies than necessary."
“The art of winning gracefully without attacking rude people.”
“Able to remain calm and polite in any complex situation.”
"Mature Conversation Skills for Those Who Dream of Being Excellent Communicators"

Beyond conversations that don't create enemies
To a peaceful life without making enemies

Sam Horn, author of "The Unconventional Way to Talk," said:
“In a conflict situation, a ‘peaceful response’ is needed, not a ‘strong attack.’”
In the presence of a difficult person, there is no use in backing down, getting angry, or fighting.
The point is to 'not create enemies'.


Living together in this world is a task given to all of us.
Our lives are such that we can't work alone, play alone, eat alone, or sleep alone.
But living together is not as easy as it sounds.
Even among close friends, such as family, friends, and colleagues, frictions, big and small, continue.
Conflict is more inevitable when you have to work together to achieve something by reconciling differences of opinion.
(…) When we live busy lives, it is difficult to even find time to think about what kind of person we are.
But even so, it's crucial to know who I am, what I value in life, what situations I find difficult to tolerate, and what experiences I cherish.
Because it allows you to set standards for big and small decisions and even determine the coordinates for your life's path.
I hope this book can be the starting point for that enlightenment.

─ In the text

《100 Days of Desperate Practice to Not Make Enemies》 is a book that started from this very attitude toward life of 《The Conversation Method that Does Not Make Enemies》.
In a society where we constantly clash with others, 'a way of communicating without making enemies' is essential for ourselves more than anyone else.
But how can we embody this? "100 Days of Writing to Make No Enemies" is designed to guide you on a journey to peace, where you can "make no enemies" by mastering your mind through writing and writing for 100 days.
Why on earth does that person act like that? Is this my problem? What stance should I take in this precarious situation to protect both the relationship and myself? If you're struggling to find answers to these questions, follow this book's 100-day journey.


I hope that with this book, your day, your week, your 100 days will be a little different from before.
Coming across good quotes, thinking about them, and applying them to myself allows me to look at my life again and encounter the world in a new way.

─ In the text

When you are having a hard time with complicated work and tangled relationships,
A book written with someone you really want to protect

Sam Horn said, "If 'Conversation Without Enemies' is to ultimately turn into a delicious meal, it requires the reader's practice."
The table of contents of "100 Days of Writing Without Making Enemies" faithfully reflects the words of the author, Sam Horn.
It naturally helps readers put it into practice by specifying the process of reaching peace by starting with self-reflection and engaging in conversation with others.

Over 14 weeks, the quotes, grouped by stage and topic, guide a journey of self-exploration and relationships, beginning with "reflecting on oneself and managing anger," moving on to "attempting dialogue with empathy toward others," "striving for cooperative dialogue," and ultimately "reaching complete inner stability that is unshaken even by failure."
“The more you know, the more you forgive” (Week 1) “The ultimate goal of human communication is compromise” (Week 4) “We may not always be able to see each other with our eyes.
But we can always try to see each other in our hearts” (Week 7) “It is more human to laugh at life than to be sad” (Week 11) “I always looked for strength and confidence outside of myself, but it was always inside me” (Week 14) etc. These will serve as excellent guides for readers to gradually find stability by copying one sentence a day.

“100 Days of Writing Without Making Enemies” is not just about writing down famous quotes.
The English translations of the included quotes are included to allow readers to delve deeper into the original text. Another great strength of this book is that it includes excerpts from Sam Horn, author of "How to Talk Without Making Enemies," highlighting the essential techniques for conversation, allowing readers to connect the impact of the quotes with real life.


Also useful are the writing topics presented every seven days for a total of 14 weeks by Sangwon Lee, a professor of writing at Seoul National University and the translator of "How to Talk Without Making Enemies" and author of "Writing That Arouses Me."
'My Writing Time', where readers transcribe and write down their thoughts for a week, helps them become the subject of 'writing' this book, rather than simply copying sentences.
Through the process of reviewing, such as ‘Consider hatred or feelings’ (Week 1), ‘Think about what kind of relationship to leave behind’ (Week 6), and ‘Think about the meaning of failure’ (Week 13), you can be reborn as a person who ‘writes’ books, ‘understands’, and ‘puts into practice’, rather than just a person who ‘reads’.
It might be a good idea to share the process of desperation with someone who is in an unwanted conflict but wants to find a way to coexist.
In the 21st-century Korean society, where conflicts are on the rise, I hope this book can help usher in a virtuous cycle of peace and kindness without creating enemies.


“Never change your opinion or
A person who never corrects his mistakes
“It is impossible to be wiser tomorrow than today.”

Five minutes a day is enough to reflect on myself by transcribing sentences.
As the famous quote from the book says, “To achieve peace in life, you must pay the price of courage.” Let’s achieve peace that “does not make enemies” by investing 5 minutes a day, for a total of 500 minutes.
The bright cover, which catches the reader's eye, features a background of poppies, whose flower language symbolizes 'comfort', and the double-sided, fully openable binding ensures that the scribe can transcribe the text without any inconvenience.
“If you want to change your life, start boldly now.
“Don’t make any exceptions.”

This is an exposed iron-bound book.