It was always me who hurt me
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Description
Book Introduction
A person who loves himself
Don't get hurt by anyone!
As we go through life, we all get hurt by other people's harsh words and become depressed when things don't go as planned.
However, the way people deal with this varies from person to person.
Some people shake it off and get up without a care, while others, unable to bear the pain, collapse.
This difference arises from one's attitude toward oneself.
People who love themselves are not easily swayed by what others say, and they do not become frustrated or sad over small failures.
However, people who do not believe in themselves and blame themselves easily crumble even with small stimuli from outside.
If you are currently struggling with pain from relationships, life, or love, you need to take time to reflect on yourself before blaming others or being pessimistic about life.
By simply looking into the root causes of your emotional distress and addressing them appropriately, you will be able to overcome many of the obstacles you encounter in life with ease.
Don't get hurt by anyone!
As we go through life, we all get hurt by other people's harsh words and become depressed when things don't go as planned.
However, the way people deal with this varies from person to person.
Some people shake it off and get up without a care, while others, unable to bear the pain, collapse.
This difference arises from one's attitude toward oneself.
People who love themselves are not easily swayed by what others say, and they do not become frustrated or sad over small failures.
However, people who do not believe in themselves and blame themselves easily crumble even with small stimuli from outside.
If you are currently struggling with pain from relationships, life, or love, you need to take time to reflect on yourself before blaming others or being pessimistic about life.
By simply looking into the root causes of your emotional distress and addressing them appropriately, you will be able to overcome many of the obstacles you encounter in life with ease.
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Preview
index
prolog
Chapter 1.
To you who has stumbled over yourself
- I don't know myself at all
- Mind care starts with body care
- Don't fight your emotions.
- I get lonely when I distance myself
- True appearance comes from self-esteem.
- Worrying is also a habit.
- The me that I hate is also a part of me.
Chapter 2.
To you who stumbled over others
- Do it alone and don't get hurt.
- You don't need to be loved by everyone.
- We are all strangers to someone.
- There is no relationship that lasts a lifetime.
- The more you become aware of things, the more miserable your life becomes.
- Consideration also requires a certain amount of consideration.
- Let's distinguish between rudeness and sensitivity.
Chapter 3.
To you who stumbled over work
- The more you want to do well, the lazier you become.
- Effort is not a strategy.
- If you turn your weaknesses into strengths, they become your strengths.
- It's not a crime to be tired.
- If you want to rest, it means you worked hard.
It's not that I lack concentration, it's that I'm anxious.
- You won't fall behind even if you take a break.
Chapter 4.
To you who has stumbled in love
- Courage makes love shine
- Love also requires study.
- Don't cover up rudeness with love.
- All love changes
- You can't control other people's minds.
- Sometimes a firm breakup is necessary.
- Love deepens when you lower your expectations.
Chapter 5.
To you who stumbled in the world
- There's no such thing
- Don't be swayed by other people's opinions.
- If you fall, just get up.
Comparison is the shortcut to despair.
- Don't be swayed by an edited life.
- You are always getting better
- If you are happy now, you will be happy forever.
Chapter 1.
To you who has stumbled over yourself
- I don't know myself at all
- Mind care starts with body care
- Don't fight your emotions.
- I get lonely when I distance myself
- True appearance comes from self-esteem.
- Worrying is also a habit.
- The me that I hate is also a part of me.
Chapter 2.
To you who stumbled over others
- Do it alone and don't get hurt.
- You don't need to be loved by everyone.
- We are all strangers to someone.
- There is no relationship that lasts a lifetime.
- The more you become aware of things, the more miserable your life becomes.
- Consideration also requires a certain amount of consideration.
- Let's distinguish between rudeness and sensitivity.
Chapter 3.
To you who stumbled over work
- The more you want to do well, the lazier you become.
- Effort is not a strategy.
- If you turn your weaknesses into strengths, they become your strengths.
- It's not a crime to be tired.
- If you want to rest, it means you worked hard.
It's not that I lack concentration, it's that I'm anxious.
- You won't fall behind even if you take a break.
Chapter 4.
To you who has stumbled in love
- Courage makes love shine
- Love also requires study.
- Don't cover up rudeness with love.
- All love changes
- You can't control other people's minds.
- Sometimes a firm breakup is necessary.
- Love deepens when you lower your expectations.
Chapter 5.
To you who stumbled in the world
- There's no such thing
- Don't be swayed by other people's opinions.
- If you fall, just get up.
Comparison is the shortcut to despair.
- Don't be swayed by an edited life.
- You are always getting better
- If you are happy now, you will be happy forever.
Into the book
If up until now I have always fallen in the same place in the same way, now I get up from the very spot where I fell, bump into the obstacles in front of me, see them break, and sometimes embrace them, and move forward one step at a time.
That is the way I can give myself the happiness and joy in life that I so desire.
That is the way to harmonize ‘the me that is visible’ and ‘the me that I see.’
--- p.21
There are no separate bad or good feelings.
There is no need to judge or categorize, just read the feelings as they are.
It is important to know that the emotions inside me, the emotions I feel as I live, are all mine, and that there is a reason for each of them.
The person who can most accurately hear what my emotions are saying is not my lover or my family, but me.
If I don't listen accurately, who else will listen as well as I do?
--- p.36
Other people's minds belong to others.
If that person doesn't like me, then there's nothing I can do.
Because it is that person's heart.
I can't control that area.
Let us remember that I only have control over my mind.
Just as everyone's favorite flower scent is different, it is impossible to be loved by everyone, and I have no right to control everyone's heart.
--- p.89
What makes me uncomfortable is what makes me uncomfortable.
Let's put aside the discomfort and not blame ourselves by thinking, 'Am I being more sensitive than others?'
As I evaluate my own sensitivity, discomfort only builds up in my heart.
Let's give ourselves a chance to blow a nice punch.
It starts with letting the other person know that you are offended by the rudeness they have shown you regardless of your feelings.
--- p.126
'Working hard' is not a strategy.
The only time hard work helps in life is when you have a clear direction in which you want to go.
It helps to work hard when your goal is clearly defined, like a running track with a start and stop line.
But real life is very different from that running track.
Real-world problems cannot be solved by working hard without any strategy.
You have to think about ‘which direction to go’ and ‘what to do’ first.
This is the strategy.
That is the way I can give myself the happiness and joy in life that I so desire.
That is the way to harmonize ‘the me that is visible’ and ‘the me that I see.’
--- p.21
There are no separate bad or good feelings.
There is no need to judge or categorize, just read the feelings as they are.
It is important to know that the emotions inside me, the emotions I feel as I live, are all mine, and that there is a reason for each of them.
The person who can most accurately hear what my emotions are saying is not my lover or my family, but me.
If I don't listen accurately, who else will listen as well as I do?
--- p.36
Other people's minds belong to others.
If that person doesn't like me, then there's nothing I can do.
Because it is that person's heart.
I can't control that area.
Let us remember that I only have control over my mind.
Just as everyone's favorite flower scent is different, it is impossible to be loved by everyone, and I have no right to control everyone's heart.
--- p.89
What makes me uncomfortable is what makes me uncomfortable.
Let's put aside the discomfort and not blame ourselves by thinking, 'Am I being more sensitive than others?'
As I evaluate my own sensitivity, discomfort only builds up in my heart.
Let's give ourselves a chance to blow a nice punch.
It starts with letting the other person know that you are offended by the rudeness they have shown you regardless of your feelings.
--- p.126
'Working hard' is not a strategy.
The only time hard work helps in life is when you have a clear direction in which you want to go.
It helps to work hard when your goal is clearly defined, like a running track with a start and stop line.
But real life is very different from that running track.
Real-world problems cannot be solved by working hard without any strategy.
You have to think about ‘which direction to go’ and ‘what to do’ first.
This is the strategy.
--- p.140
Publisher's Review
“The person who knows me least is myself.”
Looking into one's own mind is difficult for anyone.
This is because deep down in our hearts, there are layers of wounds and pain that we do not want to look at.
But to heal the pain you're facing, you must discover the root cause of the pain before solving the immediate problem.
Otherwise, you will suffer from the same problem again later.
The first thing needed for this is to find the real me.
It is about exploring the self hidden deep within, not the self that is created out of concern for other people's gaze.
By exploring what I truly like, what I dislike, what I am particularly sensitive to, and what causes it, I will discover my true self and realize what I need to do to achieve my own happiness.
“Emotions are the voice of your heart.”
We don't express our angry and hurt feelings, but rather swallow them inside.
This is because they think it is a 'bad feeling' that must be avoided.
Since we are taught from a young age that only positive emotions are good, we suppress negative emotions and wait for them to pass.
But these suppressed emotions will eventually explode through a chance incident.
The mind is like a crying child, it appeals to you through its bad feelings.
When certain emotions arise, what you should do is not to ignore those uncomfortable feelings, but to look with interest at why those feelings arise.
If you ask your heart what it needs right now and soothe it, you will be able to have a healthy mind that is not sensitive or shaken by trivial things.
Don't compare 'other people's highlights' with 'my behind-the-scenes'
The biggest cause of human unhappiness is the habit of comparing oneself to others.
The information we have about other people's lives is limited.
I only know fragments of what they edited to show.
Yet, we make our lives miserable by comparing our most ordinary selves with the most brilliant moments of others.
I can't judge whether someone's life is good or bad based on the information I have.
More importantly, how do I view my life?
Every life is a shining life that needs no comparison with other lives.
You have a life that is incomparable to anything else.
So let's not beat ourselves up or belittle ourselves by comparing our lives to someone else's.
Your life is beautiful in itself.
Looking into one's own mind is difficult for anyone.
This is because deep down in our hearts, there are layers of wounds and pain that we do not want to look at.
But to heal the pain you're facing, you must discover the root cause of the pain before solving the immediate problem.
Otherwise, you will suffer from the same problem again later.
The first thing needed for this is to find the real me.
It is about exploring the self hidden deep within, not the self that is created out of concern for other people's gaze.
By exploring what I truly like, what I dislike, what I am particularly sensitive to, and what causes it, I will discover my true self and realize what I need to do to achieve my own happiness.
“Emotions are the voice of your heart.”
We don't express our angry and hurt feelings, but rather swallow them inside.
This is because they think it is a 'bad feeling' that must be avoided.
Since we are taught from a young age that only positive emotions are good, we suppress negative emotions and wait for them to pass.
But these suppressed emotions will eventually explode through a chance incident.
The mind is like a crying child, it appeals to you through its bad feelings.
When certain emotions arise, what you should do is not to ignore those uncomfortable feelings, but to look with interest at why those feelings arise.
If you ask your heart what it needs right now and soothe it, you will be able to have a healthy mind that is not sensitive or shaken by trivial things.
Don't compare 'other people's highlights' with 'my behind-the-scenes'
The biggest cause of human unhappiness is the habit of comparing oneself to others.
The information we have about other people's lives is limited.
I only know fragments of what they edited to show.
Yet, we make our lives miserable by comparing our most ordinary selves with the most brilliant moments of others.
I can't judge whether someone's life is good or bad based on the information I have.
More importantly, how do I view my life?
Every life is a shining life that needs no comparison with other lives.
You have a life that is incomparable to anything else.
So let's not beat ourselves up or belittle ourselves by comparing our lives to someone else's.
Your life is beautiful in itself.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: May 2, 2022
- Page count, weight, size: 264 pages | 304g | 128*188*17mm
- ISBN13: 9791191731217
- ISBN10: 1191731219
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