prolog
To the mother and daughter who love each other to death and hate each other to death

Part 1: Mother-Daughter Relationships Seen from the World of the Mind

1 Mother and daughter share the same unconsciousness.
2 Unresolved feelings are inherited.
3 Principles of Creating Reality
4 Self-Acceptance Methods to Change the Unconscious
5-Step Self-Acceptance Method
6 Things to Watch Out for on Your Journey to Self-Acceptance Themed Around Mother-Daughter Relationships
Preparation Mission

Part 2 My Daughter's Journey to Self-Acceptance

1 If you don't do well, how will you be loved?
2 A daughter's appearance complex stemming from her mother's pain
3 Why is my love life like this?
4. A child who should never become competent
5 My mom and I are scared of money
6 Mom tells me not to get married and to take responsibility for myself
7 I grew up loved, so why isn't my life going well?
8 Narcissistic Mom's Circumstances
Daughter's Comprehensive Mission

Part 3: A Mom's Journey to Self-Acceptance

1 I'm so frustrated with my fat and timid daughter.
2. My heart that I met through my second daughter who had an accident
3 The desire to have something is just a desire
A mother and daughter share their feelings of being abandoned by four men.
5 Competent Mother and Incompetent Daughter
6 My heart shown by my daughter who never wants to leave me
7 A daughter who rejects and abandons her mother
8 Moms with Narcissistic Daughters
Mom's Comprehensive Mission

Epilogue
Until we reach the knowledge that love is the best of all things
Acknowledgements

supplement
Self-Acceptance Questionnaire

An Inner Healing Guide for Mothers and Daughters Who Share Unconscious Wounds

Many of the life problems that many women have in common stem from a deep, unconscious identification between daughter and mother.
So how can we uncover the unconscious hidden within us and solve the problem?

This book guides mothers and daughters to resolve problems that may arise in their relationship by bringing to the surface the unconscious shared by both and using self-acceptance techniques to resolve unaccepted, wounded emotions.
Self-acceptance is a method of purifying the unconscious and healing the inner child by finding and accepting all the 'me' that exists within.
To live freely as a complete self, it is essential to face and accept what unconscious aspects of yourself your mother or daughter may be displaying that you have not been able to accept.
This book is a guidebook that makes the journey of inner exploration less lonely and much easier.

Step-by-step self-acceptance method and counseling cases to purify the unconscious

Part 1 explains how a mother's unconscious is internalized by her daughter at the unconscious level.
The fetus knows what kind of being the mother thinks of it in the womb, and is born with that perception intact.
And we inherit unconscious emotions and memories that our parents could not accept.
My daughter, who grew up without knowing what kind of unconsciousness she had inside her, lives by projecting her mother and father's unconsciousness onto the world, and as a result, experiences various problems in life.
The author proposes a step-by-step 'self-acceptance method' to accept all inner emotions based on the universal principle that everything seeks balance and the principle of reality creation that reality is created to force us to face emotions we cannot accept.

Parts 2 and 3 detail the journey of sixteen women to self-acceptance as they discover the unconscious wounds they share with their mothers and come to terms with the emotions that permeate those memories.
The daughters in the counseling cases fail to become economically independent and suffer from inexplicable lethargy and appearance complex.
He feels frustrated by his mother's excessive dependence on him and is deeply hurt by his narcissistic mother.
Mothers are heartbroken because of daughters who suddenly cut ties with them, daughters who are obsessed with them, and daughters who do not study despite all their support.


They wrote down and read aloud their thoughts and feelings about the issues that were bothering them, and their feelings about their mothers and daughters, without hiding anything.
As we went through that time, we realized in our hearts that we shared the same unconsciousness, and we gained the perspective and mental space to accept ourselves and our mother/daughter as they are.
The result was an inner freedom to accept any aspect of myself or the other person, and a gradual recovery of relationships and changes in reality.
In this way, self-acceptance allows both mother and daughter to fully realize that the words and actions that hurt each other were actually the cries of an inner child who was afraid of not being loved, and that this child existed within the hearts of both mother and daughter.


If you feel uneasy in your relationship with your mother or daughter, or if you feel overwhelmed by incomprehensible circumstances and want to distance yourself, I recommend following the step-by-step self-acceptance method presented in this book.
Even if you start with the desire for the other person to change into the person you want them to be, if you acknowledge that desire and discover and accept your true self, you will experience that each other's existence is not a shackle, but a key to liberation that will help you find your true desires.