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Don't be fooled by that two-faced person, speak firmly.
Seduction, anger, domination, gaslighting…
Why we are being manipulated by narcissists
How to distance yourself from someone who only cares about you

People don't really know what a narcissist is.
In psychology, narcissism is already considered one of the three major personality disorders, along with psychopaths and sociopaths.
It is best to avoid meeting a narcissist, and if you do, it is best to run away, but this is not realistically possible.
Although it is difficult to keep physical distance, it is possible to keep psychological distance.
How to Smile and Distance Yourself from a Narcissist teaches you how to respond to a narcissist calmly and with a smile without being intimidated by the narcissist.

The author of "How to Smile at a Narcissist and Distance Yourself from Them" was once deeply hurt by a narcissist and even left Korea.
After returning to Korea, I used my psychology major to study the personality disorder called narcissism by reading numerous psychology books and looking at research materials.
Writing this on my blog helped me heal my heart from the hurt I felt from a narcissist.
Through these experiences, I wrote this book with the hope of providing comfort and courage to those who are struggling because of narcissists.

"How to Smile and Distance Yourself from a Narcissist" contains various types of narcissists, including narcissists who get angry at everything, narcissists who sow discord to create their own allies, and narcissists who enjoy the suffering of others.
This will help us understand what kind of person a narcissist is, how they behave, and what causes us to be influenced by them.
Now that you've recognized the two faces of a narcissist, you know everything about them: how to separate your emotions from the narcissist, how to respond to their strange words, and how to heal your broken heart.

This book is for people who are struggling with their relationships because of rude people, people who want to escape from a narcissist, and people who want to heal their hearts that have been hurt by a narcissist.
If you find yourself blaming yourself for the difficulties in your relationships, "How to Smile and Distance Yourself from a Narcissist" will help.
Learn how to smile and distance yourself from a narcissist.

Meeting a narcissist is not something we did wrong.
I was just a little unlucky.
However, how one deals with a narcissist is a personal choice.
Depending on your choices, you can turn this misfortune into an opportunity in life.
So, I hope you will make the choice to save your own life at least once.
---From "To You Who Are Having a Hard Time Because of a Narcissist"

People who don't know the psychological basis of narcissism think of a narcissist as someone who "loves themselves" or someone with high self-esteem.
But narcissists are the exact opposite, emotional destroyers who torment others.
Of course, not all narcissism is bad.
In general, humans have some degree of narcissism.
But just as not everyone is a bully, narcissism runs the gamut from healthy to unhealthy.
The problem here is narcissistic personality disorder, which consists solely of unhealthy narcissism.

---From "Narcissists, Who Are They?"

I hope you acknowledge yourself for having lived well today, rather than relying on the approval of others.
This is what will raise your self-esteem, keep you from feeling empty inside even when you are alone, and give you the strength to live a happy life.
Letting go of the narcissist and the need for approval is a choice that can positively change a person's life.
---From "People Who Want to Dominate and People Who Want to Be Recognized"

Narcissists really confuse people.
He acts like he is the victim even though he has harmed people.
This is 'victim cosplay'.
Their victim cosplay has no limits.
When they are criticized or put in an awkward situation, they use the psychological manipulation technique called 'playing pity'.
By distorting the story, they make the other person feel sympathy and turn the situation around by making themselves the victim when they should be criticized.
This method is mainly used when appealing to how pitiful one is.
---From "The Narcissist's Acting That Confuses Responsibility"

In normal human relationships, even if you don't have high expectations, you have expectations that 'a normal person wouldn't do this.'
But for a narcissist, these expectations are meaningless.
So, to understand them, we need to look at them from a different perspective than the usual one.
---From "I Don't Expect Anything from a Narcissist"

In fact, when I looked closely at the relationships of people with narcissistic spouses, I found that not only the spouses but also all of their acquaintances were narcissists.
He knew that those around him were exploiting him, but he turned a blind eye to it, believing that his sacrifice and help would change the relationship.
So, even when I tried to help, he didn't listen to the third party and instead got angry.
Such people volunteer to become the narcissist's scapegoat in the name of self-sacrifice.
---From "Is this relationship okay now?"

When I talk to people who have been emotionally abused by narcissists for a long time, it's surprising how often they don't even realize they've been emotionally abused.
They rationalize it by saying, "This is social life, so it's okay," or overestimate themselves by saying, "I'm mentally strong, so it's okay!"
Of course, there are people who have greater resilience than others.
But most of the time, we avoid facing our true feelings by making excuses that are good for us.
---From "Why did that person care but ignore my feelings?"

The person a narcissist fears most is the person who will smile and go their way, no matter how much the narcissist criticizes and belittles them.
The person the narcissist fears the most is the person who, no matter how much the narcissist hits them, gets up with a smile and ends up hurting the narcissist's hand, and yet sees through them exactly how much of a dummy the narcissist is.
Even if a narcissist lies and causes discord, I can say, 'I'm not that kind of person.
You just need to make up your mind that you are not afraid of me.
This is the realm of self-esteem.

---From "Time to Move the Center of Life to Me"

Unfortunately, the way to survive the unreasonable violence that is committed in the name of social life is not to become weak.
To do that, you need the ability to say what you want to say while smiling.
One of the misconceptions people have is that they must be relegated to slavery within the framework of social life.

No, it isn't.
Rather, among those who are doing well, there are more people who smile and say what they want to say and do not always put themselves in the position of the weak.
When it comes to negotiating, put yourself in the position of A regardless of your rank.
In other words, you decide your own position.
---From "My value is determined by me, not by others"

This book is my survival story.
You who have read this book are also survivors.
People who are currently struggling with narcissists, people who are already suffering from past wounds, and people who have not yet met them but want to avoid them are all survivors.
If you survived, you are no longer who you were.
I have become someone who can see through the essence of a narcissist.

---From "You Are Already a Narcissist Survivor"