Dr. Lee Moo-seok's Mind Study Recover 3

The key to a confident life: self-esteem!
From what perspective do I see myself?

Even if I'm ugly, poor, or lacking in ability
You can be confident and happy.
The key to a dignified life lies in your hands!

Highly recommended by Kim Hye-nam, Ra Jun-seok, Lee Baek-yong, and Gye Su-mi!

This is the third book in the 'Mind Study Recover' series by Dr. Lee Moo-seok, an international psychoanalyst and psychiatrist, and this time, he seeks to offer a way out of the prison of inferiority complex to those trapped in it.
People with inferiority complex believe that they are ugly and incompetent.
So, they live in shame and shamelessness, hurting and suffering without anyone knowing.
On the other hand, people who believe that they are valuable and can do anything have high self-esteem, are confident and healthy on the inside.

This book broadly divides inferiority complex into those caused by innate conditions such as appearance, family background, and intelligence, and those caused by acquired conditions such as poverty, ability, and trauma.
Through the stories of people suffering from various feelings of inferiority, the book vividly portrays their psychology, and through case studies, guides readers to deeply understand and find comfort in their own hearts, saying, "Ah! So that's why I feel this way."
Methods for dealing with and overcoming feelings of inferiority are also clearly presented according to the situation.
People with low self-esteem are prone to mental illnesses such as hypochondria and social phobia.
The story of the drama's main characters, such as Ms. Ko Eun-ah and conductor Kang Ma-ae, adds to the fun by showing how the perspective of inferiority can have a destructive effect on life.
To restore self-esteem, you must change your negative view of yourself.
Self-esteem that has been damaged by negative experiences in childhood can be restored through repeated experiences of acceptance and recognition of oneself.
This book provides a warm perspective on how to overcome painful feelings of inferiority and live with confidence.

Fathers with severe inferiority complexes want their children to be the best.
I want to go to a first-class university.
It is expecting children to compensate for one's inferiority complex.
When these expectations are let down, fathers feel frustrated and angry.
In times like these, it is impossible for a child to understand his father's anger.
He becomes afraid of his father, who is confused and incomprehensible.
If this happens, they may become rebellious and may even fall into mental illness due to not being able to properly deal with their anger.

--- p.42

People with inferiority complex about their appearance are particularly conscious of other people's gaze.
I worry, 'Will I look ugly to others?'
Let's not mistake the 'looking-glass self' for ourselves.
There are many different mirrors in the world.
There are broken mirrors and dented mirrors.
There are also dirty mirrors.
These mirrors cannot properly show us our appearance.
The mirror shows us our own image.
So it can make us look overly crumpled and dirty.
If we accept this as it is, we cannot maintain our self-esteem.

--- p.74

Feeling envious of and frustrated with the wealth or talents of others is an inferiority complex.
On the other hand, developing and nurturing one's own talents is an effective way to overcome inferiority complex.
There is a proverb that says, “An apple in someone else’s hand looks redder.”
However, people who value and nurture the apples in their hands can maintain high self-esteem.
Let's take a look at our hands today.
What talent do you have in your hands? What can you do with it now?
--- pp.122-123

Horrific experiences such as sexual assault or bullying create ‘psychic trauma.’
People who experience this can suffer from severe feelings of inferiority.
Trauma is a painful reality, but the only way to heal this emotional wound is to accept it.
It was truly an unfair and unfortunate experience.
But we must escape from this painful reality.
To do that, 'Yes, I can't understand why this happened in my life, and I'm angry.
But it was an unavoidable page of my life.
I will admit it.
And you need to decide that you are not going to waste your life on this issue anymore.

--- p.161

People with low self-esteem are more prone to mental illness.
They are also prone to hypochondria, depression, schizophrenia, and social phobia.
Because self-esteem is the foundation of the building of personality.
A building with a weak foundation will easily collapse when subjected to an impact, no matter how attractive its exterior may be.
This is when mental illness sets in.

--- p.179

People who suffer from low self-esteem need to analyze their personality.
In particular, we need to look back on our relationship with our parents during childhood.
We need to think about our parenting style.
When psychiatrists begin psychotherapy, they ask, “What is your first memory of your parents?”
Because you can get a lot of information about parent-child relationships.
It is your job to understand the traces of your parents that remain within your personality and to correct their negative influence.
--- pp.200-201

Where does self-esteem come from? It comes from trust in yourself.
It comes from the experience of solving problems and overcoming them on your own.
Parental overprotection robs children of the opportunity to develop self-confidence.
If a child deserves to suffer, he should be allowed to suffer.
There may be times when it seems sad and dangerous.
But if you solve your child's problems for them, you are making them incompetent.

--- p.241

'are you okay.
It'll be okay.
You've done well even when things were more difficult than this.
don't worry.
'It will be okay.' Strength of mind is supplied through such comfort.
With this strength we can overcome the difficulties of life.
It can prevent your self-esteem from collapsing.
--- p.259

We have to choose.
Will you live in depression, burdened by feelings of inferiority, or will you live with self-esteem and dignity? It's your choice.
It's your share.
Let's take a quiet moment today and apologize to ourselves like this:
"Have I been too hard on you? I'm sorry."

--- p.286