Author's Note
Introducing friends who can share their concerns with you!

Chapter 1: Words that are different from my heart come out

1 I feel sorry, but I don't want to apologize.
2 I'm jealous inside, but I pretend not to be.
3 I start to act like I'm better than others without realizing it.
4. In a sad atmosphere, strange words come out.
5 I keep bothering my friend I like
6. Don't complain to your loved ones for no reason.

I could say it in two words, but I'm already angry

1 I get annoyed when things don't go my way.
2 When I get teased, my fists automatically clench.
3 I feel really bad when someone touches my stuff.
4 I can't understand a friend whose words and actions are different.
5 I want to scold my friend for not doing things right.
6 I'm going to study on my own, but I get upset when people nag me.

Chapter 3 It's so hard to open your mouth

1 I feel frustrated with myself for not being able to refuse.
2. Be mindful when asking a friend to borrow something.
3 Every time I make a presentation, my stomach churns
4 When the teacher speaks to me, my body shrinks.
5 My mind goes blank when I have to speak English
6 I feel uncomfortable greeting people I'm not close with.

Chapter 4 I don't know what to say in times like this.

1 I met a friend I knew in an unfamiliar place
2 I have a friend I want to be close with.
3 It's awkward when there's a pause in conversation.
4. My heart flutters when I hear compliments.
5 I want to comfort a friend who is upset
6 I want to ask for help, but I can't find the words.
7 It's hard when I have to be honest

“Words that are different from what I think come out.”
“I could just say it, but I get angry.”
“It’s so hard to open my mouth.”
“I don’t know what to say.”
A Guide to Affectionate Speaking for Children Who Have Difficulty Expressing Their Feelings

There are children who hurt their friends and are at a loss as to how to deal with it.
On the other hand, there are children who are hurt by their friends' words or attitudes but cannot say anything for fear of being scolded.
Communication is still awkward, each person has a different personality, and the level of consideration and understanding is very different, so minor misunderstandings and conflicts can arise.
But in order to grow into a good adult, you have to learn how to deal with these misunderstandings and conflicts!

The author recommends that children who experience conflicts due to the outburst of negative emotions such as anger, jealousy, sadness, irritation, and fear practice speaking so that they do not get hurt and their friends do not get hurt.
It reveals how a single careless word can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts, and what kind of feelings are hidden beneath those negative expressions.
Then, he gives advice on how to manage those negative emotions and how to express them.
You can learn essential conversation skills in human relationships, such as politely apologizing, expressing gratitude, and gently declining something.
Kang Seung-im, author of the best-selling book “Twelve Words That Protect Me” and a speech education expert, has incorporated her extensive field experience into this book.
The right words are empathy, encouragement, and advice, spoken as if talking directly to the children while making eye contact.


“Oh, this is my story?”
100% relatable stories of children's concerns through comics

The book depicts the big and small conflicts that children experience in their daily lives in the form of cartoons.
These are stories closely related to daily life, as if they were found in a child's diary.
Miyeogi, who made a mistake and wanted to apologize but couldn't, Sol, who got annoyed because she thought she would lose the game, Seokbing, who was frustrated because she couldn't refuse her friend's request, Godi, who gave advice to her upset friend instead of comforting him, and Taru, who felt awkward because his conversation was interrupted, appear in this story with various friendly characters, each of whom tells their own story.
Through this cartoon, children can recall upsetting memories, empathize with them, and see the position of a friend who was hurt by one of their words.

Author Kim Gyu-jeong vividly captured children's worries with cute and lovely drawings.
In particular, it is impressive that the characters are depicted as seaweed, waffles, mackerel, etc., which not only adds to the fun but also avoids stigmatizing them by associating their appearance with their personality.
The author's delicate gaze toward children is clearly felt.

“How about saying it like this in the future?”
Practice resolving conflicts with friends on your own

The advice this book offers is quite specific and practical.
However, we have not set a set correct answer for 'In this situation, say this!'
We remain true to our role as guides, helping children resolve conflicts on their own, in accordance with their own circumstances.
For a child who scolds a friend who made a mistake in group activities, explain that each person completes a task at different speeds, and encourage them to recall a time when they received kind help and imitate it.
In addition, it provides hints by showing how the results change when the main characters in the cartoon speak differently in the same situation.
All of this advice is based on the warm encouragement that while it's difficult to get it right all at once, practicing slowly can lead to a healthy relationship where neither person hurts the other.