Prologue: Raise Your Child to Make Their Own Decisions

Part 1.
The Secrets of Discipline Revealed by Brain Science

Chapter 1.
How does the brain learn about the world?
Why do we always fail at discipline?
There is a separate training method for developing a smart brain.
Why do you only do what you are told not to do without learning what you are taught?
The Secret of Dopamine: Guiding Children to Good Choices

Chapter 2.
Discipline principles that children follow on their own
Consistency isn't always about treating someone the same way.
Decisiveness is not a matter of words, but of action.
3 Skills of a Child Who Makes Good Choices
4 Superpowers of Effective Disciplinarians

Chapter 3.
[Infant and Toddler] Raise your child to be a happy explorer of the world.
Parents who understand the brain, discipline that leads development
[0 years old] Teaching with warm responses and rules
[1~2 years old] Teaching through daily life and free movement
[Ages 3-5] Teaching children to make their own choices and control themselves.

Chapter 4.
[Childhood] Raise a smart child who achieves what he wants.
A critical period for brain efficiency
How to Raise a Self-Directed Child
Give your children a chance to convince their parents based on evidence.
Family Meetings and Negotiation: "Say What You Think"

Part 2.
Practicing discipline that doesn't hurt your child

Chapter 5.
The Brain Science of Emotional Regulation: Managing Anger Effectively
What is this feeling that explodes without me knowing?
Don't be a threat to the child
Check before starting the Buruk Diet
Practice getting out of anger quickly
Practice doing things without getting caught up in anger
+My Buruk Signal Checklist
+No-Burning Discipline Plan 1: When Teaching a Behavior That's Not Yet Correct
+No-Burning Discipline Plan 2: When You Get Angry the Late It Gets
+No-Bullshit Discipline Plan 3: When You're Angry Because Your Child's Behavior Is Uncomfortable

3 Magic Words to Help You Become a Great Adult

Chapter 6.
Realistic Discipline Counseling to Awaken Your Child's Brain
If things don't go their way, they cry and throw tantrums.
Aggressive behavior such as hitting, pushing, and throwing
I have a hard time doing things I need to do, like brushing my teeth, eating, and going to school.
I'm angry at my child's rebellious behavior.
It's hard to balance between siblings.

Epilogue: There is no one magic bullet that solves all problems.

“There is a special way of disciplinary action that children’s brains learn well!”

A child who wouldn't listen no matter how much I told him
Learning to self-regulate behavior, emotions, and desires
The Secret to Magical Parenting

* Real-life parenting advice from a Stanford University doctoral student and 'brain science parenting expert'
* Age-appropriate training coaching tailored to brain development stages
* Strongly recommended by Professor Kim Boong-nyeon of Seoul National University College of Medicine

The child does not do it because he ‘does not want to do it’
I can't do it because I don't know.

Parents cite discipline as the most difficult part of parenting.
When I see a child who doesn't listen, throws tantrums, cries, and is stubborn no matter how much I tell them, I start to wonder, 'How on earth should I teach them?' and 'What am I doing wrong?'
Why don't children listen? Why is discipline so difficult?

Neuroscientist Dr. Kim Bo-kyung says, “For a child to behave according to rules, they must develop the ability to perform that behavior,” and “Discipline that does not take into account the child’s brain development stage is likely to be an unreasonable demand on the child.”
In other words, asking a child to do something he or she cannot do yet will only result in the child becoming disobedient.
So what should parents know?

In this book, the author clearly explains, based on brain science, that even with the same rules, teaching methods should vary depending on age and situation, and that there are different disciplinary methods that children's brains learn best.
The child simply cannot do something because his or her abilities have not yet developed or he or she has not learned it.
As children develop skills like understanding, reasoning, emotional regulation, problem solving, and self-control, they will naturally choose better behaviors.
Are you finding your child's behavior completely incomprehensible? Are you frequently frustrated by the difficulty of disciplining them? Let's delve into the "most scientific and realistic world of parenting" that will completely change your perspective on discipline.

A child who does as he is told vs. a child who makes his own decisions
What kind of child do I want to raise?

Traditional discipline aims to make children obey their parents.
However, demanding that children behave exactly as their parents have prescribed does not adequately address the numerous, ever-changing problems.
The author says that “the goal of discipline should be to raise children to be independent decision makers,” and emphasizes that instead of telling them to “do it!”, children should be given the opportunity to choose and experience things for themselves.
The child is still clumsy, and the choices he makes are more likely to lead to failure, but both experiences of success and failure help the child grow.
These experiences accumulate in the brain, enabling the child to make better choices next time.
This is why we should never deprive children of the opportunity to experience anything.


In this way, this book begins by looking back on the reasons why discipline has failed in the past and suggesting that the goals of discipline be re-established.
The book is largely divided into two parts. Part 1 explains in an easy-to-understand way what criteria should be applied to 'consistency and firmness' in disciplinary situations, the characteristics of children's brain development by age from infancy to childhood, and the abilities that children must acquire during that period.
Part 2 provides guidance on how to manage parental anger, which hinders proper discipline, and provides disciplinary methods for specific situations that parents find most difficult.
If you find yourself losing your temper without realizing it and repeatedly saying hurtful things to your child, I recommend reading Chapter 5 first. If you are in dire need of realistic parenting advice, I recommend reading Chapter 6 first.


"A child who does as they're told vs. a child who makes their own decisions." What kind of child do I want to raise? Which parenting style should I choose for my child's future? If we remember that the ultimate goal of parenting is to make children completely independent, the answer is self-evident without much thought.

It closes in one day after opening,
A hot topic of disciplinary lectures that I listen to again and again

This book originated from Dr. Kim Bo-kyung's brain science training lectures.
The Class 101 lecture “Discipline and Habits,” which became a hot topic upon its opening, was flooded with reviews such as, “From a brain science perspective, I now understand both my child and myself,” “I have become stronger as a parent because I have established a direction for discipline,” and “I realized that true discipline is helping children solve problems on their own.”
Afterwards, the training lectures conducted through the channel of the brain development research institute 'Studio B' run by the author also became popular through word of mouth, and the application was sold out in one day.
The testimonials of those who have actually experienced changes in their children after taking the course convey a common message.
It was an opportunity to completely change one's mindset and attitude as a parent, beyond simply acquiring skills.

Understanding your child's brain development can help you more easily understand why your child is being tantrum-y and stubborn, why they won't listen, and why they repeat behaviors you tell them not to do.
As a result, it becomes possible to provide kind discipline that teaches children the rules and boundaries of the world with a warmer and more affectionate gaze.
The author wrote this book by supplementing and refining the content of his previous lectures in order to spread the positive effects of this 'brain science training' to more parents.

With this book, “The Essentials of Discipline That Will Change Your Child’s Behavior on Its Own,” discipline is no longer confusing or overwhelming.
Brain science discipline is ultimately the way to make both parents and children happy.
I hope that you will experience for yourself the magical effects of reducing parenting stress and improving your relationship with your child by reading and applying this book.