
You try too hard to live well
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Book Introduction
“You have to let go of your strength to find joy in life!”
Creator Larit of the popular channel [Inspiration Class]
The Laws of Life I Learned While Overcoming a Slump
YouTuber Larry's mental health management method that will empower those struggling with interpersonal relationships, obsessions, the need for recognition, anxiety, depression, regret, and helplessness.
Author Larry, who was on the road to success, one day experiences a severe slump and is unable to step out of bed.
Looking back on my past life, I realize that I have been pushing myself only by worrying about 'how can I do well', 'how can I be more efficient', and 'how can I succeed'.
And after I decided to 'don't try to live well, just live', I was freed from the burden that had been weighing me down.
Strangely enough, when I started living with less energy, I found that my life was flowing much more smoothly than before.
This book details the author's journey from being a sensitive, perfectionist to breaking free from the obsession with "doing well," and finding the drive to accomplish many things while maintaining a center of comfort.
If you've been struggling to stay afloat in the vast ocean of life, this book encourages you to take a break.
The moment you stop struggling, you will realize that instead of sinking, you can actually rise.
Creator Larit of the popular channel [Inspiration Class]
The Laws of Life I Learned While Overcoming a Slump
YouTuber Larry's mental health management method that will empower those struggling with interpersonal relationships, obsessions, the need for recognition, anxiety, depression, regret, and helplessness.
Author Larry, who was on the road to success, one day experiences a severe slump and is unable to step out of bed.
Looking back on my past life, I realize that I have been pushing myself only by worrying about 'how can I do well', 'how can I be more efficient', and 'how can I succeed'.
And after I decided to 'don't try to live well, just live', I was freed from the burden that had been weighing me down.
Strangely enough, when I started living with less energy, I found that my life was flowing much more smoothly than before.
This book details the author's journey from being a sensitive, perfectionist to breaking free from the obsession with "doing well," and finding the drive to accomplish many things while maintaining a center of comfort.
If you've been struggling to stay afloat in the vast ocean of life, this book encourages you to take a break.
The moment you stop struggling, you will realize that instead of sinking, you can actually rise.
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index
prolog
Chapter 1.
I decided to live roughly with all my heart.
Don't try to live well, just live | Don't try to have a good day | It won't be a big deal if you live carelessly | When your daily life falls apart, your ideals fall apart | Life is originally a 'mess'
Chapter 2.
I decided to change my thinking a little.
Treating problems like 'shit' | Life is a consumable | You deserve what you get | Is there a law that says I have to do well? | Don't be someone else's pride | You'll feel better if you give up on being a good person | The purpose of life is not achievement
Chapter 3.
I don't trust my will
How to do it 'easily' instead of 'well' | Just shut up and do a lot | If you're feeling down, you'll get through it somehow | The best motivation is to donate money | To achieve your goals, live backwards | If you don't mind failing
Chapter 4.
How to be generous to yourself and others
If you're cute, it's over | If you can look at the world cutely | Let's proudly show off our pettiness | Give ourselves credit instead of feeling inferior | Weaknesses are actually opportunities for a reversal | Hey, be a little more reckless
Chapter 5.
Pursuing only positivity is only half-assed positivity.
Nothing is better than okay | It's okay to lose sometimes | It's okay to not be like me | The power of saying "I see" | It's common to waver
Chapter 6.
I'm glad it didn't go as planned
You can just fix it | The arrogance of thinking you can control life | No, it's all luck | I believe in a world with a power greater than me | It's always about 'savoring' rather than 'meaning' | The beauty of uncertainty
Epilogue
Chapter 1.
I decided to live roughly with all my heart.
Don't try to live well, just live | Don't try to have a good day | It won't be a big deal if you live carelessly | When your daily life falls apart, your ideals fall apart | Life is originally a 'mess'
Chapter 2.
I decided to change my thinking a little.
Treating problems like 'shit' | Life is a consumable | You deserve what you get | Is there a law that says I have to do well? | Don't be someone else's pride | You'll feel better if you give up on being a good person | The purpose of life is not achievement
Chapter 3.
I don't trust my will
How to do it 'easily' instead of 'well' | Just shut up and do a lot | If you're feeling down, you'll get through it somehow | The best motivation is to donate money | To achieve your goals, live backwards | If you don't mind failing
Chapter 4.
How to be generous to yourself and others
If you're cute, it's over | If you can look at the world cutely | Let's proudly show off our pettiness | Give ourselves credit instead of feeling inferior | Weaknesses are actually opportunities for a reversal | Hey, be a little more reckless
Chapter 5.
Pursuing only positivity is only half-assed positivity.
Nothing is better than okay | It's okay to lose sometimes | It's okay to not be like me | The power of saying "I see" | It's common to waver
Chapter 6.
I'm glad it didn't go as planned
You can just fix it | The arrogance of thinking you can control life | No, it's all luck | I believe in a world with a power greater than me | It's always about 'savoring' rather than 'meaning' | The beauty of uncertainty
Epilogue
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That day, as always, the rope got tangled around my feet the whole time I was jumping rope.
While I was venting my anger in the waiting room, I noticed two children who appeared to be brothers happily playing basketball at the basketball court right next door.
The two little boys looked so young that they had difficulty even holding a basketball, let alone putting a goal in the hoop.
Even though it seemed like there was no chance of the ball going in, they kept picking up the ball that had gone a long way from the goal and throwing it over and over again, giggling as if they never got tired of it.
It was a scene I would normally pass by without even noticing, but for some reason, my eyes turned red.
'Why did I always try to score?' I muttered to myself, staring at the jump rope I held tightly in both hands.
'Don't try to live well, just live.'
--- p.20
Peggy Gou, a world-renowned DJ who appeared as a guest on the talk show 'Pishik Show' on the YouTube channel [Pishik University], responded to the MC's comment that she wanted to become a hipster.
“I think when you think less about wanting to be hip, you actually become hipper.” In this day and age where everyone wants to look cool and stand out like a famous influencer (and I am one of them), being “cool” is often considered a skill.
In these times, his words sounded like the teachings of an ancient philosopher reincarnated and reinterpreted in modern language.
The more desperately you want to have something and achieve it, the further away it becomes.
Desperation is like an expression that cannot be hidden, it is bound to show on the outside, and such an appearance is not very attractive to others.
_
--- p.30
If you only focus on 'happiness' as the goal of everything you pursue in life, the unhappiness you inevitably experience will ultimately reduce the number of moments of happiness you experience.
Of course, it is not easy to willingly accept pain and suffering.
But if you can at least think, 'Yes, sometimes it's hard like this,' and 'If there are sunny days, there are also cloudy days,' the difficulties of life become surprisingly easy.
People who properly understand and practice the formula 'True happiness = happiness + unhappiness' have low sensitivity to anxiety.
Because expectations for happiness are not ideal and unrealistic, no matter what happens, they are not easily shaken or disappointed.
Rather than being shaken by problems, you will deal with them realistically and feel gratitude and happiness even for small things.
--- p.31
Not only when you're in a slump, but if you want to achieve any goal, you need to start with the simple, basic things.
And you have to do that basics very 'well'.
Looking back, the things I've done that went well were all when I had a good foundation.
The reason I was able to succeed as an English instructor, even though I had never tutored before, was because I had a solid foundation.
Here, the basics do not mean skills, but routines, that is, habits.
Wake up early in the morning, soak up some sunlight, eat a hearty breakfast, and clean up.
Even if you have to force yourself, go outside and move your body.
And then I go to a cafe and organize what I need to do for just 10 minutes.
That will do.
As I continued this routine, I began to feel more energetic and more motivated to work.
The 10-minute work time gradually increased to 30 minutes, 1 hour, and 3 hours.
And so, before I knew it, I found myself easily taking on challenges I'd never dared to tackle before, like preparing lectures, recruiting, and marketing.
All of these changes started with going back to basics: sticking to small daily routines.
--- p.49~50
There was a time when I was so consumed by the thought, 'Everything is a mess and I'm screwed,' that I felt endlessly helpless.
Everything I did was a failure, and I had no idea what to do next or how to get out of this situation.
At that time, a word my mother casually said while we were riding in the car together freed me from that hell of delusion.
“You’re just afraid of failing.
The fact that you have a lot of worries means that you absolutely do not want to fail.
But that doesn't happen in life.
No matter what choice you make, the outcome may not be good.
So what do you think? It's good to be cautious, but don't try too hard to avoid failure.
It's okay to fail.
“That’s nothing special.”
--- p.53
The reason I said I loved you hundreds, thousands of times a day was because I never wanted to admit my own shortcomings.
I was so scared to face my naked face, full of weakness and lethargy, that I didn't even want to think about.
So all I could do was imagine and imitate a perfect life where all these flaws disappeared in an instant.
At least in the positive affirmation, I wasn't portrayed as this clumsy and weak.
Of course, it is absolutely necessary to say positive words to yourself.
In a world where people keep telling you, “You can’t do it,” “You’re not good enough,” “You’re stupid,” and “You need to try harder,” self-affirmations help you stay grounded and centered.
However, in order to not be discouraged by minor negative events and for these optimistic thoughts and words to become a driving force for your growth, you must first accept yourself as you are.
It has flaws and sometimes even seems to be broken somewhere.
--- p.89
The fact that even such outstanding actors underestimated their own abilities makes us think a lot about what "qualification" means.
How exactly are qualifications granted? Do they come naturally from achieving good grades and receiving applause? If so, why did Kim Hye-ja still perceive herself as inadequate?
Perhaps qualifications are something you can never acquire unless you give them to yourself? No matter how much those around you encourage and praise you, or conversely, how much you scold them with, "You still have a long way to go," what ultimately matters is whether I acknowledge myself.
In other words, if you acknowledge and praise yourself, that is enough.
That's the most important thing.
While I was venting my anger in the waiting room, I noticed two children who appeared to be brothers happily playing basketball at the basketball court right next door.
The two little boys looked so young that they had difficulty even holding a basketball, let alone putting a goal in the hoop.
Even though it seemed like there was no chance of the ball going in, they kept picking up the ball that had gone a long way from the goal and throwing it over and over again, giggling as if they never got tired of it.
It was a scene I would normally pass by without even noticing, but for some reason, my eyes turned red.
'Why did I always try to score?' I muttered to myself, staring at the jump rope I held tightly in both hands.
'Don't try to live well, just live.'
--- p.20
Peggy Gou, a world-renowned DJ who appeared as a guest on the talk show 'Pishik Show' on the YouTube channel [Pishik University], responded to the MC's comment that she wanted to become a hipster.
“I think when you think less about wanting to be hip, you actually become hipper.” In this day and age where everyone wants to look cool and stand out like a famous influencer (and I am one of them), being “cool” is often considered a skill.
In these times, his words sounded like the teachings of an ancient philosopher reincarnated and reinterpreted in modern language.
The more desperately you want to have something and achieve it, the further away it becomes.
Desperation is like an expression that cannot be hidden, it is bound to show on the outside, and such an appearance is not very attractive to others.
_
--- p.30
If you only focus on 'happiness' as the goal of everything you pursue in life, the unhappiness you inevitably experience will ultimately reduce the number of moments of happiness you experience.
Of course, it is not easy to willingly accept pain and suffering.
But if you can at least think, 'Yes, sometimes it's hard like this,' and 'If there are sunny days, there are also cloudy days,' the difficulties of life become surprisingly easy.
People who properly understand and practice the formula 'True happiness = happiness + unhappiness' have low sensitivity to anxiety.
Because expectations for happiness are not ideal and unrealistic, no matter what happens, they are not easily shaken or disappointed.
Rather than being shaken by problems, you will deal with them realistically and feel gratitude and happiness even for small things.
--- p.31
Not only when you're in a slump, but if you want to achieve any goal, you need to start with the simple, basic things.
And you have to do that basics very 'well'.
Looking back, the things I've done that went well were all when I had a good foundation.
The reason I was able to succeed as an English instructor, even though I had never tutored before, was because I had a solid foundation.
Here, the basics do not mean skills, but routines, that is, habits.
Wake up early in the morning, soak up some sunlight, eat a hearty breakfast, and clean up.
Even if you have to force yourself, go outside and move your body.
And then I go to a cafe and organize what I need to do for just 10 minutes.
That will do.
As I continued this routine, I began to feel more energetic and more motivated to work.
The 10-minute work time gradually increased to 30 minutes, 1 hour, and 3 hours.
And so, before I knew it, I found myself easily taking on challenges I'd never dared to tackle before, like preparing lectures, recruiting, and marketing.
All of these changes started with going back to basics: sticking to small daily routines.
--- p.49~50
There was a time when I was so consumed by the thought, 'Everything is a mess and I'm screwed,' that I felt endlessly helpless.
Everything I did was a failure, and I had no idea what to do next or how to get out of this situation.
At that time, a word my mother casually said while we were riding in the car together freed me from that hell of delusion.
“You’re just afraid of failing.
The fact that you have a lot of worries means that you absolutely do not want to fail.
But that doesn't happen in life.
No matter what choice you make, the outcome may not be good.
So what do you think? It's good to be cautious, but don't try too hard to avoid failure.
It's okay to fail.
“That’s nothing special.”
--- p.53
The reason I said I loved you hundreds, thousands of times a day was because I never wanted to admit my own shortcomings.
I was so scared to face my naked face, full of weakness and lethargy, that I didn't even want to think about.
So all I could do was imagine and imitate a perfect life where all these flaws disappeared in an instant.
At least in the positive affirmation, I wasn't portrayed as this clumsy and weak.
Of course, it is absolutely necessary to say positive words to yourself.
In a world where people keep telling you, “You can’t do it,” “You’re not good enough,” “You’re stupid,” and “You need to try harder,” self-affirmations help you stay grounded and centered.
However, in order to not be discouraged by minor negative events and for these optimistic thoughts and words to become a driving force for your growth, you must first accept yourself as you are.
It has flaws and sometimes even seems to be broken somewhere.
--- p.89
The fact that even such outstanding actors underestimated their own abilities makes us think a lot about what "qualification" means.
How exactly are qualifications granted? Do they come naturally from achieving good grades and receiving applause? If so, why did Kim Hye-ja still perceive herself as inadequate?
Perhaps qualifications are something you can never acquire unless you give them to yourself? No matter how much those around you encourage and praise you, or conversely, how much you scold them with, "You still have a long way to go," what ultimately matters is whether I acknowledge myself.
In other words, if you acknowledge and praise yourself, that is enough.
That's the most important thing.
--- p.198
Publisher's Review
“Even this winding journey is something that must be endured
It took me a long time to accept that this is life.”
Human relationships, obsession, burnout, need for recognition, anxiety, depression, regret, and helplessness
Mental Health Management Tips to Give Strength to Those Who Are Feeling Unsteady
Everyone has probably had this experience at least once in their life.
Have you ever felt ashamed, depressed, or frustrated because of past failures or mistakes? Have you ever felt like a knife was stabbing you in the heart because of a careless remark from someone? Have you ever felt like others were doing more than their share but you were struggling to build a single life, barely getting through each day like walking a tightrope? Have you ever constantly compared yourself to others, putting yourself down and tormenting yourself? Have you ever fallen into a terrible slump where you had no motivation and life felt empty?
When we harshly whip ourselves to fit society's ideal standards and try to control a life that doesn't go our way, our minds can easily become sick.
Larit, who has received support from 140,000 subscribers by sharing insights on various topics such as human relationships, mental management, and motivation through his YouTube channel [Inspiration Class], has now reached out to readers through writing rather than video.
Although the author is now living a more peaceful life than anyone else, there was a time when he too was overcome by extreme feelings of helplessness and depression and was unable to escape them.
I lived so fiercely that my friends told me, “You’ll succeed no matter what,” but strangely, the more I did, the more doubt and anxiety took over my daily life instead of my confidence and assurance.
Because of my perfectionist tendencies, I would become deeply depressed when things didn't go as planned, and I would feel anxious even when I was on the road to success.
Days continued where I felt overwhelmed by trivial things and was overcome by fear every morning, worrying about things that hadn't even happened.
To overcome this anxiety, he spent years reading countless books, attending lectures, and receiving psychological counseling, all relying on external sources to find peace of mind. However, he was able to truly change when he began to focus entirely on his 'inner self.'
And like the fairy tale “The Blue Bird,” which tells the story of a journey to find happiness, you eventually realize that all the answers lie within yourself.
The insights I gained from this process were far more certain and powerful than any knowledge or advice I received from experts.
“Maybe it’s not the world that’s complicated, but your mind.”
A book that puts your mind at ease the moment you read it.
Most people know that 'mental management' is the most important thing for their daily lives to go smoothly.
Because the foundation of everything, whether it's success or human relationships, is the 'heart.'
When the center of the mind is shaken, both daily life and the ideals we dream of will crumble like dominoes.
This is not unrelated to the reason why many celebrities, including Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, and Oprah Winfrey, practice meditation.
You may have tried methods recommended by experts or enlightened people to recover from a mental breakdown.
But it didn't get much better, and you might have felt frustrated and disappointed with yourself.
We often believe that to escape suffering, we must change our circumstances or modify our behavior.
But in this book, the author presents a more fundamental solution, different from the methods you have tried so far.
What if I told you that even if the painful situation you're currently experiencing doesn't resolve immediately, or if you don't have to force yourself to change your behavior, you can find a sense of peace? What if, by understanding yourself and slightly shifting your perspective on the world, you could live a much lighter and more peaceful life than before?
The author conveys messages such as “You don’t have to be like me,” “Be prepared to lose,” “Don’t try to live well, just live,” “Living roughly won’t be a big deal,” and “Show your pettiness,” emphasizing that we can become truly free when we let go of the obsession with having to “live well” and embrace the negative aspects of life as they are.
At first, you may be puzzled by his words, which are completely opposite to what you have heard so far, but as you listen to his story, you will naturally nod your head.
And even if you don't do anything in particular, just saying these words to yourself will bring about a mystical feeling of peace.
“Life isn't about winning, it's about losing.”
A story no one has told in a world that shouts to live fiercely
This book details the author's journey from being a sensitive, perfectionist to breaking free from the obsession with "doing well," and finding the drive to accomplish many things while maintaining a center of comfort.
The author says:
Doing as much as you can, not trying to control the outcome, leaving the rest to the flow of the world, offering yourself words of empathy and comfort—these simple attitudes bring peace to our hearts.
Just as you have to know the bitter to know the sweet, you have to realize that life is half happiness and half unhappiness, and you can feel true happiness when you embrace even unhappiness.
When we make the purpose of life 'experience' rather than 'happiness' and make this attitude a habit, we can accept unhappiness as an experience.
This book does not attempt to teach by listing rigid psychological theories or pointing out wrong behaviors.
It doesn't offer empty comfort that has no power in the face of reality, nor does it make unrealistic promises that all your worries and concerns will be resolved.
Instead, approach them as if you were offering kind words to a friend who is having a hard time, saying something like, “I’ve been in that situation too, and this is what I did and it worked.”
These methods are clear and simple enough for anyone to put into practice right away, yet their effects are powerful.
This book summarizes the core content that has received great responses from subscribers and adds new personal stories that were not revealed in the video.
[Inspiration Class] The comments section is filled with reviews from subscribers saying things like, “This is more realistic than any solution I’ve ever heard,” “I just watched the video and it put my mind at ease,” “It gave me courage,” and “It comforted me on my way to work.”
If you've been struggling to stay afloat in the vast ocean of life, this book encourages you to take a break.
The moment you stop struggling, you will realize that instead of sinking, you can actually rise.
It took me a long time to accept that this is life.”
Human relationships, obsession, burnout, need for recognition, anxiety, depression, regret, and helplessness
Mental Health Management Tips to Give Strength to Those Who Are Feeling Unsteady
Everyone has probably had this experience at least once in their life.
Have you ever felt ashamed, depressed, or frustrated because of past failures or mistakes? Have you ever felt like a knife was stabbing you in the heart because of a careless remark from someone? Have you ever felt like others were doing more than their share but you were struggling to build a single life, barely getting through each day like walking a tightrope? Have you ever constantly compared yourself to others, putting yourself down and tormenting yourself? Have you ever fallen into a terrible slump where you had no motivation and life felt empty?
When we harshly whip ourselves to fit society's ideal standards and try to control a life that doesn't go our way, our minds can easily become sick.
Larit, who has received support from 140,000 subscribers by sharing insights on various topics such as human relationships, mental management, and motivation through his YouTube channel [Inspiration Class], has now reached out to readers through writing rather than video.
Although the author is now living a more peaceful life than anyone else, there was a time when he too was overcome by extreme feelings of helplessness and depression and was unable to escape them.
I lived so fiercely that my friends told me, “You’ll succeed no matter what,” but strangely, the more I did, the more doubt and anxiety took over my daily life instead of my confidence and assurance.
Because of my perfectionist tendencies, I would become deeply depressed when things didn't go as planned, and I would feel anxious even when I was on the road to success.
Days continued where I felt overwhelmed by trivial things and was overcome by fear every morning, worrying about things that hadn't even happened.
To overcome this anxiety, he spent years reading countless books, attending lectures, and receiving psychological counseling, all relying on external sources to find peace of mind. However, he was able to truly change when he began to focus entirely on his 'inner self.'
And like the fairy tale “The Blue Bird,” which tells the story of a journey to find happiness, you eventually realize that all the answers lie within yourself.
The insights I gained from this process were far more certain and powerful than any knowledge or advice I received from experts.
“Maybe it’s not the world that’s complicated, but your mind.”
A book that puts your mind at ease the moment you read it.
Most people know that 'mental management' is the most important thing for their daily lives to go smoothly.
Because the foundation of everything, whether it's success or human relationships, is the 'heart.'
When the center of the mind is shaken, both daily life and the ideals we dream of will crumble like dominoes.
This is not unrelated to the reason why many celebrities, including Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, and Oprah Winfrey, practice meditation.
You may have tried methods recommended by experts or enlightened people to recover from a mental breakdown.
But it didn't get much better, and you might have felt frustrated and disappointed with yourself.
We often believe that to escape suffering, we must change our circumstances or modify our behavior.
But in this book, the author presents a more fundamental solution, different from the methods you have tried so far.
What if I told you that even if the painful situation you're currently experiencing doesn't resolve immediately, or if you don't have to force yourself to change your behavior, you can find a sense of peace? What if, by understanding yourself and slightly shifting your perspective on the world, you could live a much lighter and more peaceful life than before?
The author conveys messages such as “You don’t have to be like me,” “Be prepared to lose,” “Don’t try to live well, just live,” “Living roughly won’t be a big deal,” and “Show your pettiness,” emphasizing that we can become truly free when we let go of the obsession with having to “live well” and embrace the negative aspects of life as they are.
At first, you may be puzzled by his words, which are completely opposite to what you have heard so far, but as you listen to his story, you will naturally nod your head.
And even if you don't do anything in particular, just saying these words to yourself will bring about a mystical feeling of peace.
“Life isn't about winning, it's about losing.”
A story no one has told in a world that shouts to live fiercely
This book details the author's journey from being a sensitive, perfectionist to breaking free from the obsession with "doing well," and finding the drive to accomplish many things while maintaining a center of comfort.
The author says:
Doing as much as you can, not trying to control the outcome, leaving the rest to the flow of the world, offering yourself words of empathy and comfort—these simple attitudes bring peace to our hearts.
Just as you have to know the bitter to know the sweet, you have to realize that life is half happiness and half unhappiness, and you can feel true happiness when you embrace even unhappiness.
When we make the purpose of life 'experience' rather than 'happiness' and make this attitude a habit, we can accept unhappiness as an experience.
This book does not attempt to teach by listing rigid psychological theories or pointing out wrong behaviors.
It doesn't offer empty comfort that has no power in the face of reality, nor does it make unrealistic promises that all your worries and concerns will be resolved.
Instead, approach them as if you were offering kind words to a friend who is having a hard time, saying something like, “I’ve been in that situation too, and this is what I did and it worked.”
These methods are clear and simple enough for anyone to put into practice right away, yet their effects are powerful.
This book summarizes the core content that has received great responses from subscribers and adds new personal stories that were not revealed in the video.
[Inspiration Class] The comments section is filled with reviews from subscribers saying things like, “This is more realistic than any solution I’ve ever heard,” “I just watched the video and it put my mind at ease,” “It gave me courage,” and “It comforted me on my way to work.”
If you've been struggling to stay afloat in the vast ocean of life, this book encourages you to take a break.
The moment you stop struggling, you will realize that instead of sinking, you can actually rise.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: June 15, 2025
- Page count, weight, size: 328 pages | 460g | 135*200*21mm
- ISBN13: 9788925573564
- ISBN10: 8925573563
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