"If you don't block it, emotional exhaustion becomes a daily occurrence."

Why do we become unhappy because of others?
Why do we waste time and energy worrying about all kinds of trivial problems?

Wisdom to protect yourself from negative external influences

"Block Out Everything That Consumes You" is the blockbuster new book from the Franklin Book Club, founded by bestselling author Chen Shiming.
Born in 1990 to a poor family in Jiangxi Province, China, Chen Ximing graduated from Jilin University, one of China's top 10 prestigious universities, through the power of reading despite difficult circumstances. He then started an online book club named after Franklin's autobiography, which he had read with the greatest impression.
As his posts received explosive love, the Franklin Book Club grew into an internet platform with over 100 writers and 5 million followers.
Since then, Chen Shiming has been nicknamed the "Minister of Reading" and has published bestsellers one after another with several writers from the reading club.
This book is the result of five years of research and reflection by Franklin Book Club writers on the wisdom of protecting ourselves from negative external influences.


We live in an age where all sorts of sensational information is overflowing on various social media platforms, aiming to grab the public's attention, and where we are overflowing with news about the self-promotion of others and the private lives and fights of celebrities that meaninglessly drain our emotions.
So blocking power has become an essential ability for us now.
It is fundamentally my own fault that I am losing positive energy by worrying about other people who drain my emotions or worldly affairs that are of no importance to me.


This book provides 34 psychological prescriptions based on six rules on how to block out negative external influences and protect your inner self.
You can learn how to block out the trivial issues that don't need your attention from your life, give your energy and time back to yourself, and protect your inner self.
If you feel like your life is difficult and tiring because of your relationships, it's time to increase your blocking power.
Let's get the annoying people, the annoying things, the pointless social media, and the useless information out of your world.
A clean, bright, and vibrant life awaits you.

** According to related research, when negative emotions arise, the first part of our body to be attacked is the 'immune system'.
Long-term accumulated negative emotions reduce immunity, which ultimately lowers the body's resistance and causes illness.
The Yellow Emperor's Classic of Internal Medicine, known as the oldest medical book in China, describes the effects of emotions on the body as follows:


'Anger (怒) harms the liver, joy (喜) harms the heart, thinking (思) harms the spleen, worry (憂) harms the lungs, and fear (恐) harms the kidneys.'

** Einstein said, “Learning is not about acquiring facts, but about developing the ability to think.
“I also became a scientist through this method,” he said.
In this age of information overload on the Internet, we must not allow ourselves to become a collection of information that is impossible to think about.
To avoid this situation, instead of passively accepting vast amounts of information, start by selecting useful information and filtering out irrelevant information.
Then, most importantly, use your breaks to read more books, move more, and create time for deep thinking while working to digest the fragmented information you've taken in.
Since our way of thinking is determined by how we process information, I hope we can live proactive lives by protecting our inner selves and blocking the interference of fragmented information even amidst the flood of information.

** If you kick a rock in anger, you'll only hurt your toes.
In most cases, getting angry doesn't solve the problem; rather, it makes the situation worse or becomes unmanageable.
A fiery temper is like a wild horse, if you tame it well it will take you where you want to go, but if you don't tame it will somehow throw you off and block your path.
There is an article that I greatly agree with in this regard.


“The standard for judging how strong a person is is whether he or she knows how to get angry but doesn’t get angry indiscriminately, and whether he or she has emotions but doesn’t change emotionally.”

** American psychologist Carol Dweck believed that people generally have two types of thinking: a 'growth mindset' and a 'fixed mindset.'

People with a growth mindset see setbacks as problems that need to be solved, while people with a fixed mindset see setbacks as eternal failures.
That's why people with a growth mindset, when problems arise in their marriage, try to identify the cause and improve it.

** Zhuangzi said, "The greatest argument is not to argue."
Arguments usually waste time, energy, and hurt each other's feelings.
So, not arguing or arguing may be the greatest wisdom in life.
William Hannan, a New York real estate agent, has closed real estate transactions worth over $200 million.
He said, “The biggest taboo for a broker is arguing with a client.
“Debate is a form of competition, and no one wants to lose in a competition,” he said.

** Spending excessive time and emotions reliving things that have already happened in the past is a burden to the present, the future, and yourself.
Author Yu Hua said, “People don’t express it in words, but they replay the ending of the same drama hundreds or thousands of times in their minds.
He explained that the reason people burn out emotionally is because of their inner drama, saying, “The drama may have ended a long time ago, but it is still playing out in my head.”
The act of constantly repeating in your mind what has already happened in the past without being able to let go of it consumes you in silence.

** Sometimes life itself isn't that hard, but we find ourselves overly absorbed in the feeling of suffering.
As a result, negative emotions such as pain, fear, anger, and worry arise, and when the brain is consumed by these emotions, internal rules break down and chaos occurs.
As our brain becomes more confused, our inner self becomes more and more disorganized.
Sometimes, people can't regain their composure until their work and daily lives are in shambles.
However, people who are internally stable are shown to be focused on the present without being caught up in what has already happened.
This is because they know that focusing on the present is essential for maintaining inner order and stability, and that focusing on the present is the simplest way to restore order to a disordered inner self.

** Lifestyles are diverse, some people eat 3-minute ramen while others boil soup for 3 hours.
Some people plant barley, some people grow roses.
Some people get married at 20 and live a messy life, while others are single at 30 and still living the life many people want.
There is a poem that says, “New York time is three hours ahead of California time, but California time is never behind.”
The writer Zhou Guofeng once had this conversation with a friend who loved poetry and could recite countless classics.
“We have Goethe and Baudelaire, so what kind of poetry can we write?” his friend said with a sigh. Zhou Guofeng retorted.


“There was Goethe and there was Baudelaire, but am I not the only one?
Even Goethe and Baudelaire cannot replace me.
So I will continue to write poetry.”

** If we are to mention the 'reason for subtraction', we cannot avoid discussing Steve Jobs.
This is because his famous quote, “Less is more,” is still praised by people all over the world.

Jobs was a strict vegetarian, often eating only one or two foods for long periods of time.
His daughter Lisa said of his eating habits, “Jobs knows something most people don’t.
This is the law of extremes, which states that when things reach their extremes, they will inevitably reverse themselves.
He firmly believes that lack is abundance and that freedom is the key to joy.”


** The most important thing in life is to be true to yourself.
Instead of living in the eyes of others, you can live a deeper life by focusing on your inner self and sticking to the goals and intentions you initially desired.

British philosopher Francis Bacon said, “If you look deep into your own heart, you will find that all miracles are within you.”
Henry David Thoreau, the famous American writer and philosopher, gave up his comfortable life and built a small house on the shore of Walden Pond.
He completed the book Walden by pondering alone by the lake, reflecting on himself, and feeling himself completely among the wind in the pine trees and the chirping of birds.
“If you look into your mind,” he said, “you will discover that there are thousands of areas within your thoughts that have not yet been discovered.”

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