Why was it that person?
Why was it then?

Why was it that person and not someone else?


We live our daily lives in countless human relationships, including with lovers, friends, family, colleagues, and spouses, and sometimes we get hurt and sometimes we get comforted in them.
But why did that person appear at that particular time, making me happy, sad, and hurt? Finding answers to these questions is never easy.
The recently popular MBTI is a personality type test tool based on Jung's theory of psychological types that helps you understand yourself and the personalities of others, but it is somewhat difficult to understand such human relationships.


So, the book “When Relationships Are Frustrating: Fortune-telling” was published to help people understand themselves and others and even their relationships in detail through fortune-telling, which can also be called the “language of reading relationships.”
Based on the study of fortune telling and Jungian psychology, it accurately captures the recurring emotional patterns between people to reveal the 'essence of relationships', and at the same time, it introduces in detail how to identify personality types using fortune telling to understand oneself and others more specifically.


The author, who hopes that this book will help readers understand the relationships that have come to them, the reasons why they have shaken them, taught them, hurt them, and sometimes made them understand them, said, “I wrote the book with the hope that readers will not say, ‘Let’s not get hurt anymore’ in interpersonal relationships, but ‘It’s okay to get hurt a little more next time.’”

You, the reader of this article, have probably also fallen apart in the face of some kind of relationship, gotten back up again, and sometimes looked at yourself first without understanding that person.
If so, then we are already people who have the same question.

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Whether it's love, conflict, separation, or growth, that person has arrived at that point to play that role.
The moment you realize that fact, all your past encounters begin to take on meaning again.
And the people next to me now, and the people I will meet someday, no longer feel like coincidences.
Relationships are not created by one person's choice.
Fate is something that arrives with the flow.

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Even if it was the same person, if we had met a little earlier, nothing might have happened.
Or, if we had met a little later, it might have led to a relationship rather than a hurt.
Fate is not a matter of people, but also a matter of timing.

--- p.27

So, fortune telling is not a discipline that ‘blocks’ love, but rather a language that ‘allows’ love to pass through.
When you don't understand that person, you look again at the structure of the four pillars.
To ask why we misunderstand each other so much, why we are so attracted yet hurt, and why we never reach each other.

--- p.56

The four pillars of destiny are not simply a tool to look at a person's personality or fortune.
The four pillars of destiny are a language for reading relationships.
It is a structure that tells us ‘what kind of influence does this person have on me’ rather than ‘what kind of person is this person?’
Some people make me feel comfortable, some people make me sharp.
Some people touch my wounds, and some people silently embrace them.

--- p.65

The four pillars of destiny are ultimately a map that tells us to whom we give our hearts, who we get hurt by, and through whom we grow.
And that map is being interpreted little by little through the faces of the people I have met so far.

--- p.188

Jung said.
“Humans live with their ego, but true life lies beyond the ego.” Beyond the ego lie the wounds of childhood, repressed desires, and unaccepted shadows, and the journey of holding hands with all of these is called the “path of individuation.”

--- p.224

Meeting them was a journey of 'rediscovery' for me.
All emotions, including love, jealousy, longing, and affection, flowed toward others, but in fact, they were reflecting something inside me.
So, true connection is the process of getting to know ourselves through others, and at the end of it, we are finally reunited with ourselves.

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