{"product_id":"134064","title":"A joke about wanting to live ","description":"\u003ccenter\u003e\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:center\"\u003e\u003cimg src=\"https:\/\/tmgdisk01.cafe24.com\/images\/vs\/4172\/sv\/3jYC5RKE8GhDR2Mt4ymmOrkf61kevX.png?v=1765023416\" style=\"max-width:100%;max-height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\u003ccenter\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:95%\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:center;font-size:30px;font-weight:bolder;line-height:1.6em\"\u003e A joke about wanting to live \u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd 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style=\"text-align:left;word-break:break-all;font-size:14px;line-height:1.6em;\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eBook Introduction\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctbody\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cdl\u003e\n\u003cdt\u003e A word from MD\u003c\/dt\u003e\n\u003cdd\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e To all those who fight despair today\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e A new essay by author Heo Ji-woong, who returned to life after a struggle with death.\u003cbr\u003e Coming out of deep despair, we speak of the reasons we still have to live.\u003cbr\u003e It contains his thoughts on how pitiful it is to live a life with misfortune, and how his life has changed significantly since his battle with illness.\u003cbr\u003e A consolation to all those who fight despair today.\u003cbr\u003e\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e \u003cspan\u003eAugust 14, 2020.\u003c\/span\u003e \u003cspan\u003eEssay PD Kim Tae-hee\u003c\/span\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/dd\u003e\n\u003c\/dl\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e \u003cb\u003eTo all those who are fighting despair today,\u003cbr\u003e Why we must live despite everything\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e This is a new essay written by author Heo Ji-woong, who poured his heart and soul into it after suffering the great ordeal of malignant lymphoma, a type of blood cancer, in 2018, and who has a significantly different perspective on life than before. \u003cbr\u003eThis collection contains 25 stories that I would like to share with people who are struggling to keep from collapsing while carrying their own heavy ceilings on their shoulders, and with people who are exhausted and have nowhere to lean on and rest.\u003cbr\u003e In this new work, released four years after his previous work, “My Dear Enemy,” author Heo Ji-woong’s interpretation of life has become sharper, and his affection for people has deepened.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Is there anyone who has not struggled to escape from pain and unhappiness?\u003cbr\u003e However, if you focus only on blaming others for your misfortune, you may end up falling into a deeper pit of victim consciousness.\u003cbr\u003e It is a vicious cycle of despair where I am the only one in this unfair situation due to the unfortunate reality, and I cannot escape from this because I am unhappy. \u003cbr\u003eRegarding this, the author says, “Misfortune is not the villains in the front car of the Snowpiercer, but rather like the snow that always falls outside the train,” and suggests that we acknowledge misfortune as an emotion that we must embrace, coexist with, and endure life together, and look at our own lives proactively.\u003cbr\u003e This book is a solid piece of advice from author Heo Ji-woong, who returned to life after a struggle with death, to those struggling with the harsh reality, and ultimately, a warm consolation to all those who are enduring life today.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/tbody\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cul\u003e\u003cli\u003e You can preview some of the book's contents.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cspan\u003ePreview\u003c\/span\u003e\n\n\u003c\/li\u003e\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eindex\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e Introduction\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003ePart 1.\u003cbr\u003e Still a long way to go before it fails\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Still a long way to go before it fails\u003cbr\u003e What we need is not a conclusion, but a resolution.\u003cbr\u003e Starting over again\u003cbr\u003e ceiling and floor\u003cbr\u003e How to deal with misfortune\u003cbr\u003e If\u003cbr\u003e Seven Scenes of Your Life\u003cbr\u003e Go back to the 8th floor \u003cbr\u003eMemory 1 - John Hurt, I am a man\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003ePart 2.\u003cbr\u003e When you need to say okay at the bottom of life\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e My calculations were wrong, as I didn't believe it and didn't expect it.\u003cbr\u003e The War Between Yukio Mishima and Osamu Dazai\u003cbr\u003e When good people lie\u003cbr\u003e We always fight among ourselves\u003cbr\u003e The devil invented the victim mentality to ruin you.\u003cbr\u003e To those who seek ways to save themselves\u003cbr\u003e When you need to say okay at the bottom of life\u003cbr\u003e Memory 2 - Kim Young-ae, She Was Beautiful and Dangerous\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003ePart 3.\u003cbr\u003e Starting over again\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The courage to change what you can and the composure to change what you cannot\u003cbr\u003e Memory 3 - George Romero, the man who never stopped\u003cbr\u003e The question of whether to take off the mask\u003cbr\u003e A name everyone knows but no one knows\u003cbr\u003e Choi Eun-hee, an ordinary person\u003cbr\u003e There are no innocent victims\u003cbr\u003e Turning misfortune into motivation\u003cbr\u003e May the force be with you\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eDetailed image\u003c\/b\u003e \u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cimg src=\"https:\/\/image.yes24.com\/momo\/TopCate3108\/MidCate010\/310799300(1).jpg\" border=\"0\" alt=\"Detailed Image 1\"\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eInto the book\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e  \u003cdiv\u003eSeveral months have passed since I endured that darkest and deepest night.\u003cbr\u003e Surprisingly, I am much healthier than before I got sick.\u003cbr\u003e I had that thought a while ago.\u003cbr\u003e If I hadn't survived that most difficult night, where would I be now?\u003cbr\u003e Why couldn't I tell my family and friends to be by my side?\u003cbr\u003e If I had said so, would that night have been so deep and dangerous?\u003cbr\u003e I've always been proud of the fact that I survived and persevered like an orphan on my own.\u003cbr\u003e But at the same time, I became an idiot who couldn't ask anyone for help.\u003cbr\u003e Such a person is completely useless.\u003cbr\u003e A person like that cannot last long.\u003cbr\u003e If you can't hold on for long, you won't be able to prove anything you want to prove with your life.\u003cbr\u003e I don't know what happiness is.\u003cbr\u003e But at least I know that happiness is not just about the fancy pictures and the chatter displayed on the shelf. \u003cbr\u003ePerhaps happiness is something we prove to ourselves throughout our lives.\u003cbr\u003e I want to speak to the children tonight who are thinking, \"I'm screwed,\" as a person who knows how to ask for help.\u003cbr\u003e It's still a long way from ruin.\u003cbr\u003e --- p.13~14, from “Still a long way to go before we perish”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e If grand conclusions ruin your life, small resolutions become your motivation.\u003cbr\u003e And if you keep those small resolutions and accumulate results, they can become important ideas for shaping your life.\u003cbr\u003e In fact, clinging to conclusions is the best refuge for those in the most dire, desperate, and terrible situations.\u003cbr\u003e I can say this for sure because I was there.\u003cbr\u003e Because when you're focused solely on death, you don't have to worry about other trivial things. \u003cbr\u003eBut while I was ignoring such trivial things, I ended up becoming someone who couldn't think of anything else but death.\u003cbr\u003e --- p.23~24, from “What we need is not a conclusion, but a resolution”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Young people born into wealthy families have a relatively easy time accumulating winning experience.\u003cbr\u003e If you think you are at a disadvantage, try to gain experience in overcoming your body more than anything else.\u003cbr\u003e Since the starting point is different and the situation is not favorable, you should instead gain experience in overcoming your body.\u003cbr\u003e Gaining the experience of winning is like remembering the sensation of using your muscles and breathing, when to apply and release force, and when to inhale and exhale.\u003cbr\u003e If you become accustomed to losing, it becomes difficult to distinguish between what is truly winning and what is truly losing.\u003cbr\u003e That's why only those who succeed always succeed. \u003cbr\u003eOnly those who have won can win again, and those who have lost can start again.\u003cbr\u003e In short, the idea is to build a body that can endure to the end.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e When I think back to when I was young, I often think, 'If I were me now, I wouldn't do that, I'd be stupid.'\u003cbr\u003e At forty-two, I find myself thinking more and more, \"If I were back then, I wouldn't be doing this now. I'd be stupid.\"\u003cbr\u003e Growing older means being defeated by your past self more often.\u003cbr\u003e --- p.34~35, from “Starting Again”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e I don't want to say that I know about your pain.\u003cbr\u003e I don't even want to say that I understand.\u003cbr\u003e That's a deception.\u003cbr\u003e Because suffering is unquantifiable and incomparable, and there are a thousand ceilings and floors for a thousand people.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e But I want to tell you to decide to live. \u003cbr\u003eRather than living in inertia and sorrow because you cannot die, decide to live according to your own will.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e If you decide to live, if you decide to embrace and navigate life between the ceiling and the floor, I can promise you that the victim mentality at the ceiling and the reality at the floor will no longer weigh you down or crush your face as they once did.\u003cbr\u003e At least I can promise you that you won't be helpless like before.\u003cbr\u003e That night has swallowed up many people so far.\u003cbr\u003e But the night can never devour those who have decided to live.\u003cbr\u003e This is a promise between me and you.\u003cbr\u003e So, live.\u003cbr\u003e --- p.45~46, from “Ceiling and Floor”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e There needs to be an appropriate distance between people.\u003cbr\u003e Some people need ten steps, others need half a step.\u003cbr\u003e Anything more or less than that and the bridge connecting the two will collapse. \u003cbr\u003eHuman relationships are about calculating that distance.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e When I think about this distance, I always think of electromagnetic forces.\u003cbr\u003e There are four forces in the world: gravitational force, strong force, weak force, and electromagnetic force.\u003cbr\u003e Among them, the reason my hands can press the keyboard instead of just passing through it is because of electromagnetic force.\u003cbr\u003e Electromagnetic force allows 'me' to exist in the form of 'me'.\u003cbr\u003e For example, it is the minimum distance that I can maintain my form, like the length of a hedgehog's thorns or the 'AT field' of [Evangelion].\u003cbr\u003e If I just kick myself out because I'm too lonely, my country will collapse.\u003cbr\u003e Conversely, if you are too afraid of others and surround yourself with a thick protective shield, you will end up becoming too distant.\u003cbr\u003e In short, the distance between us and others is simply a matter of adding to the thickness of our protective shields.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eHaving recently gone through what could be considered a major life event, I realized that my thorns and protective shields were ridiculously long and thick.\u003cbr\u003e Its length and thickness have long been enlarged by the compulsion that it must be that way in order to survive alone.\u003cbr\u003e So, it is meaningless to calculate the exact distance from others in the first place.\u003cbr\u003e Because no matter what, we are too far apart to be able to communicate with each other.\u003cbr\u003e My calculations were wrong.\u003cbr\u003e --- p.106~107, from “My calculations, which I did not believe and did not expect, were wrong”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e There is no one whose life is not full of sorrow.\u003cbr\u003e Everyone feels misunderstood.\u003cbr\u003e It's true.\u003cbr\u003e An evaluation of someone is not determined by precise criteria and records.\u003cbr\u003e It depends on the mood of the evaluator.\u003cbr\u003e right.\u003cbr\u003e It's so unfair.\u003cbr\u003e But that's the reality.\u003cbr\u003e Faced with this reality, some people detach themselves from the evaluation of themselves. \u003cbr\u003eIt's not as easy as it sounds.\u003cbr\u003e But I do my best to do it.\u003cbr\u003e And he silently does what he can.\u003cbr\u003e On the other hand, some people are unable to escape from evaluation and end up destroying themselves and those around them.\u003cbr\u003e --- p.141, from “The Devil Invented the Victim Consciousness to Ruin You”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e There are times when we must fight alone, without any divine being to lean on or institutional safeguards.\u003cbr\u003e At times like that, we become exhausted.\u003cbr\u003e Get rough to fight.\u003cbr\u003e Only distrust remains.\u003cbr\u003e Even those who are supposed to understand each other best hate each other.\u003cbr\u003e When we discover the aspects of ourselves we dislike most in others, we tend to prioritize criticism and drawing lines over empathy and understanding.\u003cbr\u003e There are cases where you can survive by holding on.\u003cbr\u003e But in the end, we are trapped in the darkness we fought against.\u003cbr\u003e Because I've been surviving on my own for so long, I've forgotten how to ask for help from others.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eWe must persevere and fight to the end, but we must also be kind to those who are exhausted and in need, and help each other by doing good deeds.\u003cbr\u003e [Three Billboards] suggests that only good intentions, actions, and solidarity among people who rise up for self-sufficiency can overcome pessimistic endings like [The Deer Hunter] or [Don't Look Up].\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e In the end, we will be saved not by the best and most excellent things we have, but by the good deeds we have done long ago, even though we don't remember when we did them.\u003cbr\u003e I think so.\u003cbr\u003e --- p.162~163, from “To Those Who Seek a Way to Save Themselves”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The Xenomorph is the most successful monster in film history.\u003cbr\u003e Monsters make money.\u003cbr\u003e Successful monsters like the Xenomorph not only make money, they become genres and industries.\u003cbr\u003e Not all monsters succeed.\u003cbr\u003e A failed monster becomes a laughing stock. \u003cbr\u003eBut there is something that both successful monsters like the Xenomorph and those who failed and became a laughing stock cannot avoid.\u003cbr\u003e I'm talking about the indifference towards the person who is playing the actual monster.\u003cbr\u003e Until the 2000s, all monster characters were voiced by people.\u003cbr\u003e Yes, that's right.\u003cbr\u003e There was a person there.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e We know all the monsters we've loved.\u003cbr\u003e But the actors who played the monsters were completely forgotten.\u003cbr\u003e Or maybe you weren't interested in the first place.\u003cbr\u003e People that everyone loved but no one knew about.\u003cbr\u003e People who are not recorded.\u003cbr\u003e People who spent their later years strangely lonely.\u003cbr\u003e People who all lived truly lonely lives.\u003cbr\u003e I really wanted to leave a story about him.\u003cbr\u003e I want to record those names.\u003cbr\u003e These names deserve to be recorded.\u003cbr\u003e This is a simple tribute to monsters from someone who has been fascinated by them his entire life. \u003cbr\u003e--- p.229~230, from “A Name Everyone Knows But No One Knows”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Misfortune is not the villains in the front car of Snowpiercer, but rather the snow that always falls outside the train.\u003cbr\u003e It's fatal, but we have to be together all the time.\u003cbr\u003e This attitude toward misfortune is different from discouragement, self-mockery, or passive pessimism.\u003cbr\u003e Rather, it is the will to accept and lead life proactively.\u003cbr\u003e This gives the person experiencing misfortune a space to separate themselves from the situation.\u003cbr\u003e Instead of being immersed in immediate emotions and branding yourself as a perpetual victim, it allows you to look at the incident from a minimal spatial and temporal distance.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e In short, it helps us look at the causal relationship of misfortune objectively.\u003cbr\u003e To say that I am the unhappiest person in the world is, in a sense, a greater arrogance than to say that I am the happiest person in the world. \u003cbr\u003eIt can be easy and comfortable to curl up in a ball, surrounded by thoughts that I am the most pitiful, the most unfortunate, and the most sick person in the world.\u003cbr\u003e But that's usually just a subjective impression.\u003cbr\u003e It's different from what actually happened.\u003cbr\u003e When conflict arises, no one sees themselves as the perpetrator.\u003cbr\u003e Both claim to be victims.\u003cbr\u003e Objectivity is needed to think about what really happened, what I did, what was done to me, and how I will deal with it.\u003cbr\u003e --- p.257~258, from “Turning Misfortune into Motivation”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Except for a very lucky few, you will not be recognized for your efforts and your worth will be denied.\u003cbr\u003e It would be unfair.\u003cbr\u003e I will long for someone to recognize my worth.\u003cbr\u003e It seems like everyone else is valued except me.\u003cbr\u003e Looks happy.\u003cbr\u003e At least that's what it looks like on social media.\u003cbr\u003e Despair grows. \u003cbr\u003eBut we must not give in to despair.\u003cbr\u003e You must not let despair consume you.\u003cbr\u003e The moment you lose objectivity and become consumed by a sense of victimhood, it is only a matter of time before you become a monster.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e We must not be consumed by evaluation.\u003cbr\u003e You have to separate yourself from the evaluation.\u003cbr\u003e Let's regain our composure and maintain objectivity.\u003cbr\u003e That is the balance the Force speaks of.\u003cbr\u003e Someday, someone will surely recognize your efforts and thank you.\u003cbr\u003e If you constantly refine, improve, and persevere, that day will surely come.\u003cbr\u003e\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e --- p.273, from “I hope the force is with you”\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003ePublisher's Review\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e \u003cb\u003eI am still living a life of endurance today.\u003cbr\u003e Comfort to all\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Author Heo Ji-woong, who has been active in various media as a writer and broadcaster, has returned with a new book after four years. \u003cbr\u003eIt was just over a year ago in August 2019 that I announced that I had completed my cancer treatment and was in good health, and in that time I have written enough to compile a book.\u003cbr\u003e He is still a diligent writer, proving that he is alive through writing.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Is it because I went through a great ordeal that was between life and death?\u003cbr\u003e Reading the new work, \"The Joke of Wanting to Live,\" you get the feeling that the author's writing and speaking style remain the same, but something has changed.\u003cbr\u003e It feels warm and earnest somewhere.\u003cbr\u003e The author, who has been talking about the distance between oneself and the world and the struggle to endure each person's life through his previous works, takes the story one step further in this book.\u003cbr\u003e I speak to you out there, not to me or the world around me. \u003cbr\u003eThis new work contains stories I want to tell to people who are struggling to keep from collapsing, each carrying their own heavy ceiling on their shoulders, and to people who are exhausted with no place to lean on and rest.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “People say I look different before and after I get sick.\u003cbr\u003e I have no idea what has changed.\u003cbr\u003e But it is true that the topics I want to write about have changed.\u003cbr\u003e I don't know when I will relapse, and if I do, I have no intention of getting treatment.\u003cbr\u003e One treatment is enough for cancer.\u003cbr\u003e So, rather than just saying the right thing while I can, I want to leave behind some words that can be of practical help to young people.\u003cbr\u003e Everything I wrote after I recovered was like that.\u003cbr\u003e I hope you don't make the same mistakes I did and that you won't be unhappy or lonely.\u003cbr\u003e “I hope that in a world already full of hurtful things, at least we don’t bring it upon ourselves.” (p.217)\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eTo those of you who think you're screwed tonight\u003cbr\u003e \"We're still a long way from ruin.\"\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e In Part 1, “Still a Long Way to Go,” the author honestly writes about the changes in his thoughts after his battle with illness, which could be considered a major turning point in his life.\u003cbr\u003e I used to feel proud of having survived and persevered like an orphan on my own, but looking back, I realized that I had become a fool who couldn't ask anyone for help.\u003cbr\u003e A confession: “I’ve been surviving on my own for so long that I’ve forgotten how to receive help from others.”\u003cbr\u003e The author says he decided to focus on helping people in despair, poor young people with nowhere to turn for help, so that they don't have to go through the same trials and tribulations as he did.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e So, the author started to reply to each and every email sent by people who were having a hard time and were in pain. \u003cbr\u003eThen, when the volume of emails became too much to reply to, I started opening a voicemail to listen to people's stories and communicate with them.\u003cbr\u003e Some of them were introduced through the author's YouTube channel [Heo Ji-woong's Answer], and some were included in this book.\u003cbr\u003e After listening to the stories of countless people's worries, the author found that the most important solution was 'acknowledging unhappiness.'\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Just as there is no life without pain, there is no person who is not unhappy.\u003cbr\u003e However, if you focus only on blaming others for your misfortune, you may end up falling into a deeper pit of victim consciousness.\u003cbr\u003e It is a vicious cycle of despair where I am the only one in this unfair situation due to the unfortunate reality, and I cannot escape from this because I am unhappy. \u003cbr\u003eRegarding this, the author says, “Misfortune is not the villains in the front car of the Snowpiercer, but rather like the snow that always falls outside the train,” and suggests that we acknowledge misfortune as an emotion that we must embrace, coexist with, and endure life together, and look at our own lives proactively.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “Misfortune is not the villains in the front car of the Snowpiercer, but the snow that always falls outside the train.\u003cbr\u003e It's fatal, but we have to be together all the time.\u003cbr\u003e This attitude toward misfortune is different from discouragement, self-mockery, or passive pessimism.\u003cbr\u003e Rather, it is the will to accept and lead life proactively.\u003cbr\u003e This gives the person experiencing misfortune a space to separate themselves from the situation.\u003cbr\u003e Instead of being immersed in immediate emotions and branding yourself as a perpetual victim, it allows you to look at the incident from a minimal spatial and temporal distance. \u003cbr\u003eIn short, it helps us look at the causal relationship of misfortune objectively.\u003cbr\u003e (…) Objectivity is necessary to think about what really happened, what I did and what was done to me, and how I will deal with it.” (_p.257~258)\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003eIf there is misfortune, there is always hope.\u003cbr\u003e Hoping that your day will shine someday\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e In Parts 2 and 3, the author uses examples from various movie characters and real-life people to show how a life obsessed with 'blaming one's misfortune' can lead to a sad ending. \u003cbr\u003eNixon, who rose to the position of President of the United States but was unable to overcome his victim mentality and committed illegal acts before resigning just before impeachment; Oscar Wilde, who enjoyed the greatest popularity as a genius writer in Ireland in the 1890s but was accused of homosexuality and fell from grace; and ended his life in loneliness, struggling with resentment and regret toward his lover; Anakin Skywalker, who eventually turned dark and became Darth Vader due to his victim mentality of not being recognized despite his outstanding talent.\u003cbr\u003e As we follow the author's story, we can vividly feel how unhappiness and a sense of victimhood push our lives into further unhappiness.\u003cbr\u003e In short, we are not unhappy because of unhappy things, but because we think we are unhappy.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “Except for a very lucky few, you will not be recognized for your efforts and your worth will be denied.\u003cbr\u003e It would be unfair. \u003cbr\u003eI will long for someone to recognize my worth.\u003cbr\u003e It seems like everyone else is valued except me.\u003cbr\u003e Looks happy.\u003cbr\u003e At least that's what it looks like on social media.\u003cbr\u003e Despair grows.\u003cbr\u003e But we must not give in to despair.\u003cbr\u003e You must not let despair consume you.\u003cbr\u003e The moment you lose objectivity and become consumed by a sense of victimhood, it is only a matter of time before you become a monster.\u003cbr\u003e We must not be consumed by evaluation.\u003cbr\u003e You have to separate yourself from the evaluation.\u003cbr\u003e Let's regain our composure and maintain objectivity.\u003cbr\u003e That is the balance the Force speaks of.\u003cbr\u003e Someday, someone will surely recognize your efforts and thank you.\u003cbr\u003e “If you constantly refine, improve, and persevere, that day will surely come.” (p.273)\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e As a counter-example, the author tells the story of Nietzsche. \u003cbr\u003eNietzsche, who suffered from depression and insomnia after being cruelly abandoned by his beloved woman and friend, and went through hellish times, including becoming addicted to opium, managed to climb out of that miserable rock bottom and write his life's work, 'Thus Spoke Zarathustra'.\u003cbr\u003e The author advises that instead of blaming all of life's suffering on misfortune, we can find a way to overcome it by facing and objectifying misfortune as it is.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “The past is just a variable, not a curse that can never be escaped.\u003cbr\u003e It doesn't determine your future life.\u003cbr\u003e If you can master your unhappiness through self-objectification, and maintain it for as long as possible, I am confident that you can turn unhappiness into motivation.\u003cbr\u003e I think it will be a stepping stone to becoming a stronger and healthier person.\u003cbr\u003e Don't try to guess your hope and luck day by day with words like \"there is no hope\" or \"there is no luck.\" \u003cbr\u003eHope is like a reflex to misfortune.\u003cbr\u003e If there is misfortune, there is always hope.\u003cbr\u003e I hope you become an adult who can empathize with the misfortunes of others in a much warmer and more mature way than I can, and who can seek a better tomorrow together.\u003cbr\u003e And be happy.” (_p.261)\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003enevertheless,\u003cbr\u003e On the courage to endure life once again\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The topic the author has consistently emphasized since his previous work is 'enduring life.'\u003cbr\u003e This book goes one step further, offering this message to those who are standing at the end of their lives, enduring and enduring.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “I don’t want to say that I know about your suffering.\u003cbr\u003e I don't even want to say that I understand.\u003cbr\u003e That's a deception.\u003cbr\u003e Because suffering is unquantifiable and incomparable, and there are a thousand ceilings and floors for a thousand people.\u003cbr\u003e But I want to tell you to decide to live. \u003cbr\u003eRather than living in inertia and sorrow because you cannot die, decide to live according to your own will.\u003cbr\u003e If you decide to live, if you decide to embrace and navigate life between the ceiling and the floor, I can promise you that the victim mentality at the ceiling and the reality on the floor will no longer weigh you down or crush your face as they did before.\u003cbr\u003e At least I can promise you that you won't be helpless like before.\u003cbr\u003e That night has swallowed up many people so far.\u003cbr\u003e But the night can never devour those who have decided to live.\u003cbr\u003e This is a promise between me and you.\u003cbr\u003e So, live.” (_p.45~46)\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e 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