To begin with.
Is it really okay to live like this now?
prolog.
Life is not inherently difficult.

Chapter 1.
Break free from the illusion that you can't change your life.

_ The Courage to be Disliked: Adlerian Psychology Returns
Happiness isn't something you dream about, it's something you create right now.
-All thoughts, feelings, and actions have a purpose (teleology)
-You can decide your own life (self-determination)
-Mind and body are connected (holism)
-All worries arise from human relationships (interpersonal relations theory)
-Seeing the object through one's own standards (cognitive theory)
Let the seed of courage blossom in your community.
-Overcome difficulties with courage (empowerment)
- Divide your problems into your own and your partner's (separate tasks)
-Live in community (community consciousness)

Chapter 2.
Put the center of gravity of life on yourself

_ The first month, Adler walks into life
Anxiety is not weakness, it's the spark of courage.
Courage and hope are in a straight line.
Coaching that gave me new motivation
-The foolish desire to completely understand others
-Don't put me off
-Why it takes courage to be hated
-My values ​​are not the right answer for everyone.
Perspective determines the temperature of life.
-If you want to know the frame for interpreting the world
*The subject determines the distance of the relationship.

Chapter 3.
Life is a game of overcoming difficulties.

_ From the second to the third month, the meaning of life is not determined by the surroundings.
Humans are painters who paint their own lives.
-The self-choice hidden behind the excuse that you can't do it
The future lies in the decisions we make today.
Happiness only appears when you take responsibility for your life.
-3 elements of lifestyle
-The happiness of doing what you want to do
Turn the stone of inferiority complex into a stepping stone
-Your self-worth is obscured by the shadow of comparison.
- Draw a detailed picture of what it will look like when you achieve your goal.
-You don't have to be important to everyone.
-Numbers are not a prerequisite for happiness.
*I am the average of 5 people close to me.

Chapter 4.
The depth of your life depends on who you spend it with.

_ From the fourth month to the sixth month, I finally found the courage to protect myself.
Choosing who to keep by your side is choosing your future.
-Human relationships are the result of the energy we emit.
-All troubles arise from human relationships.
-Words spoken without thinking can change relationships.
-Those who have a clear purpose in life will meet someone who will fulfill them.
-Protecting yourself is the most noble courage.
The moment you try to change others, your inner peace is shattered.
What exists within is not a fact, but only an interpretation of it.
-The only person who can hurt me is myself
Trust blossoms from the courage to face the possibility of betrayal.
-Follower count is not a sign of trust.
*Give courage to 'horizontal relationships'

Chapter 5.
The world becomes mine only as much as I choose.

_ From the seventh to the ninth month, what will you put in the vessel called ‘life’?
He who believes in himself is stronger than he who dreams of greatness.
-If you have courage, you will finally get closer to your dream.
-You don't necessarily have to be a great person.
-Don't be trapped in the past, using the future as collateral.
Body and mind are the two legs that support life.
Add meaning to life through valuable consumption.
-Home is a stage for life that can be cultivated for happiness.
Life is deepened by hobbies.
*8 factors that determine life satisfaction

Chapter 6.
Life is changed by the power of actions, not words.

_ From the tenth month to the twelfth month, there is no qualification necessary for happiness.
True happiness is just beginning
-Don't forget the value of 'togetherness'
-Why you should focus on me and no one else
-Focus on the 'person', not the 'object'
-Everyone has the power to choose happiness.

In conclusion.
Don't give your life's direction to others.
reference book

Why Adlerian Psychology Now?

Adlerian psychology does not stop at soothing wounds.
Adler says:
Past hurts cannot be the reason for the present, they are just excuses.
That's why Adler always emphasizes the 'now'.
At some point, we began to accept life as something to be 'endured'.
On the outside, I don't express my honest opinion because I'm worried about what others will think, I swallow my emotions so as not to hurt others, and on the inside, I always doubt, "Is this right?"
We live each day like that, swayed by the expectations and gaze of others.
Adlerian psychology turns a red light on such a life.
And says:
Rather than looking for the cause of the problem in the past, look at what I can do now.
It tells us to choose today, and even tomorrow, for ourselves.
This book guides you on how to do just that.
Whenever life shakes, to find your center again, you have to make the choices that are most true to you now.
So now we need Adlerian psychology.

'Is it okay to live like this?'
A Twelve-Month Record of Finding Answers in Adlerian Psychology

There are three things that are commonly emphasized in numerous psychology books.
First, self-esteem is important.
Second, wounds can be overcome.
Third, you should not compare yourself with anyone.
But the moment you close the book, those important messages fade away.
There is one reason for this.
Because there is no ‘practice’.
The author of this book is an ordinary office worker.
It is difficult to find stories of the author's brilliant career or dramatic success in the book.
However, it contains the record of a person who was contemplating the direction of his life, taking Adler's words to heart one by one and trying to live differently each day.
That's why this book is special.
Because the courage of ordinary people made a difference.
Amidst concerns that are familiar to everyone, such as family expectations and the anxiety of comparing ourselves to others, the author focused on “changes we can make today.”
Readers who have understood psychology in their heads but have not been able to put it into practice will experience the 'power of practice' in this book.
There are many books that cover Adlerian psychological theory.
However, it is rare to find a book that holds your hand at the same eye level.
The author's confession is honest, and the practical method is simple but clear.
So it's more convincing.
Because it was written by an ordinary person, it is a practical book on Adlerian psychology that can be accessed by anyone.

If everyone has different criteria for making choices
Your life hasn't begun yet!

“Wouldn’t you hate it if I do this?”
“I was afraid that if I said that, I’d be the only weirdo….”
Do you have this kind of thinking habitually? If your criteria for choosing your actions are always "other people," then your life as your "true self" hasn't even begun.
The author, too, lived trapped in the gaze of others.
No matter who I met, I always followed the other person's opinion.
As a result, I began to question the meaning of life.
Adlerian psychology is what solved that very question.
He decided to be honest with himself.
I said “no” to things I didn’t want to do, and I took a step back from a relationship I was overly committed to.
At first, it was hard to muster up the courage, but soon I felt myself regaining some sense of control over my life.
This book teaches those who mistake other people's perspectives for their own standards how to regain control of their lives.
Now it's your turn.
True life begins when I am the master of my own life.