{"product_id":"135009","title":"Special days are especially painful ","description":"\u003ccenter\u003e\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:center\"\u003e\u003cimg src=\"https:\/\/tmgdisk01.cafe24.com\/images\/vs\/4172\/sv\/3jYCUZhWBZBGDCSGjDoTVLqjGGyCmU.png?v=1765049794\" style=\"max-width:100%;max-height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\u003ccenter\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:95%\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:center;font-size:30px;font-weight:bolder;line-height:1.6em\"\u003e Special days are especially painful \u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd 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style=\"text-align:left;word-break:break-all;font-size:14px;line-height:1.6em;\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eBook Introduction\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e This book is a collection of entries from a year's worth of diaries written by a father who lost his daughter in the Itaewon tragedy, starting immediately after the tragedy.\u003cbr\u003e Faced with a sudden and unacceptable farewell, the father wrote in his diary every morning, enduring a world where everything was the same except for his daughter.\u003cbr\u003e This record reveals not only the father's unwavering love for his daughter, but also the interconnectedness of his family, colleagues, friends, and others around him.\u003cbr\u003e Thus, it shows why social disasters must never happen again, and why, if they do, the whole society must step in and address them.\u003cbr\u003e\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cul\u003e\u003cli\u003e You can preview some of the book's contents.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cspan\u003ePreview\u003c\/span\u003e\n\n\u003c\/li\u003e\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eindex\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e Prologue | To Jaewon\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003eⅠ.\u003cbr\u003e I miss you, but it's okay\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eSpecial days are especially painful\u003cbr\u003e Jaewon is Jaewon, Aejin is Aejin\u003cbr\u003e Girl, I knew it\u003cbr\u003e Breaking up with Jihyun\u003cbr\u003e On the Camino de Santiago\u003cbr\u003e Time just for you\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003eⅡ.\u003cbr\u003e There is no last day for dad\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Next to my wife doing laundry\u003cbr\u003e Memories of that day, October 29th\u003cbr\u003e A trip to meet you\u003cbr\u003e Far away from home\u003cbr\u003e 49th day\u003cbr\u003e Aejin's house\u003cbr\u003e 100-day diary published in the Hankyoreh\u003cbr\u003e Still, determination\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003eⅢ.\u003cbr\u003e Even the painful times don't stay the same\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e What letters, what comfort\u003cbr\u003e Memorial service for new employee Aejin\u003cbr\u003e Take courage and go to the bereaved families association\u003cbr\u003e Incense Burner Story 1\u003cbr\u003e 159th victim\u003cbr\u003e I just want to know the truth\u003cbr\u003e Tears Dried: Watching Lee Sang-min's Impeachment Dismissed\u003cbr\u003e Saturday evening at Marronnier Park\u003cbr\u003e Incense Burner Story 2\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003eⅣ.\u003cbr\u003e engrave\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Meet my boyfriend T\u003cbr\u003e Are we at the stage of acceptance now?\u003cbr\u003e Aejin I saw in my dream\u003cbr\u003e New Year's greetings\u003cbr\u003e I don't think I'm normal yet\u003cbr\u003e engrave\u003cbr\u003e friend\u003cbr\u003e Aejin's birthday party\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eEpilogue | I Miss You, But It's Okay (A Letter to Ae-jin on the First Anniversary)\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eInto the book\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e Dad, I thought love had a total amount.\u003cbr\u003e So when my sister left, I just thought that all my love had left too.\u003cbr\u003e When I lost my sister, I clearly lost everything too, but seeing you made me realize otherwise.\u003cbr\u003e --- p.13\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Life remains a story.\u003cbr\u003e Even sadness becomes a bearable pain only when it is told through a story.\u003cbr\u003e Even if the body disappears, the trajectory of life and relationships become the thread of stories.\u003cbr\u003e --- p.33\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e At that time, that heart had no name.\u003cbr\u003e It was an emotion that I didn't know, had never experienced, and couldn't handle, so I couldn't express it, let alone feel it.\u003cbr\u003e After sending Aejin away, I realized that emotions can only be expressed in a way that I can handle.\u003cbr\u003e --- p.48\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eJust as cold medicine can help you get over a cold even though there is no cure for it, I learned that day that empathy can help you endure pain even though it cannot cure it.\u003cbr\u003e --- pp.86-87\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Aejin's phone alarm now wakes me up.\u003cbr\u003e It seems like Aejin is whispering to me to get up and live one day at a time if life is hard.\u003cbr\u003e So, we must live.\u003cbr\u003e Life doesn't have to be fun and happy.\u003cbr\u003e Even if it hurts, you have to live.\u003cbr\u003e I want to live Aejin's dream.\u003cbr\u003e I want to make Aejin's dream come true.\u003cbr\u003e --- p.92\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Everyone has their own sorrow, and their own sorrow is the greatest.\u003cbr\u003e But when I reach out to the sorrow of another, my own sorrow remains the same, but my pain becomes less bearable.\u003cbr\u003e Only then can I finally express my sorrow to someone.\u003cbr\u003e The sadness that is taken out meets other sadness and becomes a bigger sadness. \u003cbr\u003eOddly enough, as the sadness increases, the pain decreases.\u003cbr\u003e Because it is not only my sorrow, but our sorrow.\u003cbr\u003e --- p.101\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Facing a disaster is difficult for anyone.\u003cbr\u003e I want to cover it up and pretend it never happened.\u003cbr\u003e Nevertheless, we must face the disaster.\u003cbr\u003e The truth must be revealed as to why the disaster occurred and what measures were taken.\u003cbr\u003e Because no society can be free of accidents.\u003cbr\u003e --- p.123\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Aejin didn't come back today either.\u003cbr\u003e Still, I wait every day.\u003cbr\u003e Aejin isn't home, and I'm at home without Aejin.\u003cbr\u003e Even in broad daylight, no light comes in.\u003cbr\u003e Even if you open the curtains, the light is just sucked into the darkness.\u003cbr\u003e This is how I live.\u003cbr\u003e That's okay though.\u003cbr\u003e I can bear it all.\u003cbr\u003e Endurance is simply a matter of bearing the weight.\u003cbr\u003e I can't let go of Aejin, my love, the reason for my existence.\u003cbr\u003e I draw my child again and again.\u003cbr\u003e --- p.159\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eMy way of grieving is to write a diary while thinking of Aejin.\u003cbr\u003e The time I spend writing my diary is the most peaceful and full of feeling alive.\u003cbr\u003e As I pour out my heart in my diary, a place and space for Aejin is created.\u003cbr\u003e So I'm writing a diary today too.\u003cbr\u003e I write a diary and engrave Aejin into my heart every day.\u003cbr\u003e --- p.174\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e It hurts so much to remember Aejin with sadness.\u003cbr\u003e My wife and I are always thinking about how memories can become strength, how grief can be transformed into life energy.\u003cbr\u003e As long as the memories don't fade, Aejin is everywhere.\u003cbr\u003e So my wife and I decided to plan a birthday party for Aejin.\u003cbr\u003e\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e --- p.179\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003ePublisher's Review\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e \u003cb\u003e★ How do bereaved families of social disasters face the pain of loss, and why is that pain social rather than personal?\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cbr\u003e★ Heartfelt recommendations from novelist Jo Hae-jin, singer Harim, influencer Choi Hye-seon, National Assembly member Yong Hye-in, and lawyer Lee Tan-hee.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “The path to find you is the path of my life.\u003cbr\u003e “Dad goes to find your meaning.”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e This book is a compilation of entries from a year's worth of diaries written daily by a father who lost his daughter in the Itaewon tragedy, starting immediately after the tragedy.\u003cbr\u003e Faced with a sudden separation, the father wrote in his diary every morning and went on to face a world where everything was the same except for his daughter.\u003cbr\u003e In the midst of the unending pain of bereavement, the father faces the past with his daughter and the future he cannot be with her, the present without her.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eThis book, consisting of four parts, contains the scenes faced by a family experiencing an unprepared separation, the time of approximately 100 days after the disaster, the process of expanding relationships through experiencing various events and people in daily life following the disaster, and the process of beginning the work of engraving the daughter's presence and leaving behind the meaning of absence.\u003cbr\u003e Although written in chronological order, I chose and grouped moments that fit the content of each part.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhy social disasters should not occur,\u003cbr\u003e If it happened, why should it be revealed in detail?\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Parting from a loved one is painful.\u003cbr\u003e This is especially true if the breakup is unexpected.\u003cbr\u003e The world's established procedures for parting, such as funerals and 49th-day memorial services, continue with the passage of time, but those who do not wish to part do not have the time to follow them.\u003cbr\u003e Because we stay in the moment when our loved one leaves, confirming the pain of loss that approaches with each passing moment. \u003cbr\u003eThe moment of confirmation of absence is not grand.\u003cbr\u003e It comes to me suddenly in clothes that have been washed and dried, in new clothes that I bought to wear later but never got around to wearing, in conversations with others who no longer ask me how I've been doing.\u003cbr\u003e The pain of absence is so vivid and painful, and I worry that we will soon become accustomed to it and accept the pain.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e But more important than the degree of pain is thinking of the person you love every moment.\u003cbr\u003e Where is he now, what is this world without him, what does it mean, who am I to stand in the empty space he left behind, what should I do? The father cries and cries as he thinks and thinks.\u003cbr\u003e This process cannot be expressed in words such as accepting or overcoming separation and pain.\u003cbr\u003e Because he is someone I can't forget and can't be okay with not seeing. \u003cbr\u003eThe father pours coffee every morning and writes in his diary with the sound of singing bowls in the background. It is painful, but it is also a way to vividly remember his daughter, constantly facing her absence, which cannot be returned no matter what he does.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e My father's diary intimately reveals the suffering of the bereaved families of a social disaster, but it also shows that this suffering is not solely personal.\u003cbr\u003e A father who is faced with the absence of his daughter must also find a reason why his daughter is absent in a world where everything else is the same.\u003cbr\u003e The more clearly the reason is revealed, the more the father can properly face his daughter's absence.\u003cbr\u003e This is also something that society needs.\u003cbr\u003e Because it helps society properly understand the victims of the disaster and prevent another disaster from occurring.\u003cbr\u003e However, the Itaewon disaster was caused by a lack of proper identification of the cause. \u003cbr\u003eBecause of this, in addition to the pain of the tragedy, the father suffered secondary harm through malicious comments and malicious gatherings filled with hatred and ridicule, and was unable to properly confirm the truth of the tragedy he had been trying to face.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhy Social Disasters Require the Whole Society to Respond\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e But my father didn't stop there.\u003cbr\u003e At the citizens' incense burner, at the rally site, and at the Constitutional Court, I witnessed the process of uncovering the truth of the disaster together with other bereaved families and demanded that it be properly investigated.\u003cbr\u003e At Marronnier Park, we raised our voices together with the bereaved families of the Sewol Ferry disaster, asking them to remember the disaster.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Although those responsible for the social disaster were negligent in taking responsibility, the spontaneous solidarity of fellow citizens filled the void. \u003cbr\u003eFrom the looks he receives from the mourners visiting the incense burner, from the names called out at a church mass he happened to attend, from the scraps of articles related to the disaster in the library, from the time he spends with the volunteers who visit the incense burner more often than the bereaved families, from the comfort and encouragement he receives from family, friends, seniors, juniors, and colleagues, the father faces his daughter's absence and raises his voice demanding an investigation into the truth of the disaster.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The records contained in this book not only shed light on the father's unwavering love for his daughter, but also on the connections he makes with his family, colleagues, friends, and others, and the fact that humans are interconnected social beings.\u003cbr\u003e In that connection, the father expands his gaze from the place where his daughter passed away to the alleys of Itaewon, to other sites where social disasters occurred, and to our society. \u003cbr\u003eAnd through encounters with various places and people, he begins to answer the initial questions - 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