{"product_id":"135028","title":"emotional disqualification ","description":"\u003ccenter\u003e\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:center\"\u003e\u003cimg src=\"https:\/\/tmgdisk01.cafe24.com\/images\/vs\/4172\/sv\/3jYCUZh6xthSKNL5yu67HWf3SmJx4U.png?v=1765050198\" style=\"max-width:100%;max-height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\u003ccenter\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:95%\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:center;font-size:30px;font-weight:bolder;line-height:1.6em\"\u003e emotional disqualification \u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"border-bottom:1px;border-bottom-style:dotted;border-color:;padding-bottom:20px\"\u003e\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable align=\"center\" width=\"100%\"\u003e\u003ctbody style=\"border:0px\"\u003e\n\n\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd align=\"center\" style=\"line-height:1.2em;text-align:center;font-size:18px;color:black;font-weight:bold;padding-bottom:20px;\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\n\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"text-align:center\"\u003e\u003cimg src=\"https:\/\/image.yes24.com\/goods\/154255059\/XL\" style=\"max-width:100%;height:auto\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\n\n\u003c\/tbody\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:95%;{split_style6}padding-top:20px;padding-bottom:20px\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:left;font-size:16px;font-weight:bold;padding-bottom:20px\"\u003e Description \u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:left;word-break:break-all;font-size:14px;line-height:1.6em;\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eBook Introduction\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e \u003cb\u003eA warm and intuitive emotional essay by author Na-eun Kim, who has dealt with the 'emotions' of countless people through counseling for over 10 years.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e 《Disqualified Emotions》 tells us why we fail at emotions.\u003cbr\u003e The disqualifying emotions that cower behind the kind, affectionate, and decent person we are, jealousy, anger, anxiety, and shame, trap us in a torrent of emotions.\u003cbr\u003e Who am I, this strange and cowardly me that only I know? No, maybe there's something even worse than that.\u003cbr\u003e Me, when I am consumed by feelings of envy that go beyond jealousy, when I am consumed by the heat of rage that goes beyond anger, when I want to die from shame, those feelings are piled up somewhere, but I pretend not to notice and disqualify myself. \u003cbr\u003eI, who cannot possibly accept myself as myself, betray myself by becoming, as psychologist Carl Jung said, a shadow.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e 《Disqualified Emotions》 looks back on those moments.\u003cbr\u003e It picks up the pieces of emotions that were broken while pretending nothing happened from the emotional trash can and puts them back in their proper place.\u003cbr\u003e Here, the place refers to 'me'.\u003cbr\u003e Those feelings are 'me'.\u003cbr\u003e The experience of being compared is expressed as jealousy, and the memory of unauthorized expression is expressed as anger.\u003cbr\u003e Find the exact words for the disqualified emotion and comfort its essence.\u003cbr\u003e Shadows are a great comfort to us if we recognize them.\u003cbr\u003e Words like “It’s okay” or “I love you” are not enough.\u003cbr\u003e You need to make them understand, not just read.\u003cbr\u003e Only then do the disqualified emotions slowly return to their proper places.\u003cbr\u003e Author Kim Na-eun will help you.\u003cbr\u003e She has a special resonance.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cul\u003e  \u003cli\u003eYou can preview some of the book's contents.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cspan\u003ePreview\u003c\/span\u003e\n\n\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eindex\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e prolog\u003cbr\u003e Days when I collapsed while hiding my emotions\u003cbr\u003e “I pretended nothing happened and then I broke down.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePart 1.\u003cbr\u003e Monsters Called Emotions\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The 'shadow' has always been by my side\u003cbr\u003e My feelings are not really my words\u003cbr\u003e The lie that says 'I'm fine'\u003cbr\u003e Every emotion has a face\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePart 2.\u003cbr\u003e The emotions that quietly broke me down\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Shadow emotions\u003cbr\u003e Jealousy: I hated that person doing well.\u003cbr\u003e Shame: I pretended to be okay in front of people.\u003cbr\u003e Anger: Who hurt me without permission?\u003cbr\u003e Anxiety: Nothing happened, but I broke down.\u003cbr\u003e Apathy: I don't want to do anything, I don't want to see anyone.\u003cbr\u003e Sadness and Loneliness: When You Want to Cry but Don't Know Why\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePart 3.\u003cbr\u003e Emotions are not heard when kept still.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e When movement speaks first\u003cbr\u003e My body is my first home\u003cbr\u003e [Movement Meditation Guide]\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePart 4.\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cbr\u003eLiving while embracing even emotions\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Knowing your emotions doesn't suddenly make you happy.\u003cbr\u003e Recovery isn't about saying, \"I'm okay,\" it's about saying, \"I'm still hurting.\"\u003cbr\u003e The day I made peace with my shadow, I saw my true self.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePart 5.\u003cbr\u003e Connecting with the world through body and emotions\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e When your body opens, your relationships change.\u003cbr\u003e My boundaries and others' boundaries\u003cbr\u003e Matching the rhythm of the world to my rhythm\u003cbr\u003e Completing the connection, returning to myself again\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Epilogue\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eDetailed image\u003c\/b\u003e \u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cimg src=\"https:\/\/image.yes24.com\/momo\/TopCate5656\/MidCate007\/565567144.png\" border=\"0\" alt=\"Detailed Image 1\"\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003eInto the book\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e I was addicted to pretending I was okay.\u003cbr\u003e I swallowed my anger for fear of looking childish, and I smiled for fear of looking weak when I looked sad.\u003cbr\u003e When jealousy arose, I said, \"Congratulations,\" and when hatred arose, I said, \"It's okay.\"\u003cbr\u003e The days I hid my feelings were also days of self-denial.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e After enduring it like that, at some point I became unable to feel emotions.\u003cbr\u003e I became numb, I broke down, and finally I became indifferent. \u003cbr\u003eI didn't take care of myself, I couldn't take care of myself, and I pretended not to care.\u003cbr\u003e Then one day, when no one was looking, I suddenly realized something.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “I pretended nothing happened and then I broke down.”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e People say.\u003cbr\u003e “You are so kind.”\u003cbr\u003e “You always look fine.”\u003cbr\u003e Is that a compliment or a silent violence?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e How many emotions have I given up to become a 'good person'?\u003cbr\u003e I suppressed my anger, hid my jealousy, and suppressed my desires.\u003cbr\u003e I said, “I’m fine,” but in reality, I was falling apart.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e When you get used to hiding your emotions\u003cbr\u003e The feeling doesn't go away, it just comes back with a different face.\u003cbr\u003e Sadness turns to cynicism, anger turns to silence, and anxiety turns to a desire for control.\u003cbr\u003e It's not gone.\u003cbr\u003e It was pressed.\u003cbr\u003e And we call those pressed things 'shadows'.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Jealousy: I hated that person doing well.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e It's not that I hated that person, it's that I hated myself.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eAt first, it was just envy.\u003cbr\u003e He was confident and successful.\u003cbr\u003e Even without saying anything, people put him at the center,\u003cbr\u003e He laughed easily and was easily loved.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e I hated that.\u003cbr\u003e no,\u003cbr\u003e To be precise\u003cbr\u003e I was envious of that 'not-me' side of me, and I couldn't stand it.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e That's how jealousy begins.\u003cbr\u003e It seems like feelings towards others, but\u003cbr\u003e In fact, it is another face of self-loathing towards me.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Shame is an emotion that rises from the very bottom of our being.\u003cbr\u003e It's not flashy or dramatic.\u003cbr\u003e Very subtle expressions, shaking of the pupils,\u003cbr\u003e It appears in the form of a smaller voice or slurred speech.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e But the feeling speaks volumes.\u003cbr\u003e “Please accept me.”\u003cbr\u003e “I’m so scared of being myself.”\u003cbr\u003e “Please tell me I’m not the wrong person.”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Being able to feel these emotions,\u003cbr\u003e The truth is, I still want to belong, I still want to connect, I still want to live. \u003cbr\u003eA person who is completely broken doesn't even feel shame.\u003cbr\u003e I still want to live, feeling that emotion.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Current anger is often exaggerated or repetitive, linked to past experiences.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e My 'sensitive button': ____________________\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The energy that people expect from me,\u003cbr\u003e That reaction,\u003cbr\u003e That emotional service-\u003cbr\u003e As a result of pouring everything out\u003cbr\u003e The me now is not 'empty'\u003cbr\u003e It's 'all used up'.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The compulsion to like me\u003cbr\u003e Maybe it was another name for the way he hated me.\u003cbr\u003e “I am precious.”\u003cbr\u003e “Trust me.”\u003cbr\u003e “Don’t compare yourself to others.”\u003cbr\u003e We recite these words like a spell.\u003cbr\u003e But at the bottom of it all\u003cbr\u003e There is a sense of urgency that says, 'Only then can I survive.'\u003cbr\u003e\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e --- From the text\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cdiv\u003e\u003ch5\u003e \u003cb\u003ePublisher's Review\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/h5\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e \u003cb\u003e“To you who pretended to be okay, pretended nothing happened, but ended up broken.”\u003cbr\u003e Being able to say, “I’m still in pain.”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cbr\u003eThis book says that is the beginning of recovery.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e We are often taught that emotions are something to be 'managed' or 'overcome'.\u003cbr\u003e But this book says:\u003cbr\u003e Emotions are not something to be treated, but something to live with.\u003cbr\u003e The author fiercely explores the emotions the body remembers, the layers of emotion that cannot be reached through words, and proposes to the reader a life of \"living with emotions.\"\u003cbr\u003e Shame, anger, jealousy, anxiety.\u003cbr\u003e The faces of emotion we wished to erase were ultimately our own shadows. \"Disqualified Emotions\" is a powerful and provocative declaration in an era where emotions are disqualified: \"It's okay to be sad, it's okay to be in pain, it's okay to remain as you are.\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “It wasn’t that I couldn’t feel it.\u003cbr\u003e “It was a life that made it impossible to feel anything.”\u003cbr\u003e “Was it really this difficult to feel emotions?”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e It starts with this question.\u003cbr\u003e There has never been a time in my life when I didn't know what emotions were. \u003cbr\u003eBut if I hold back for too long, at some point my emotions start to feel like I've been 'disqualified'.\u003cbr\u003e We live every day suppressing, enduring, and enduring our emotions.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \"are you okay.\"\u003cbr\u003e \"This is nothing special.\"\u003cbr\u003e \"I'm not the only one.\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Those words were weighing on my emotions, and ultimately weighing on me.\u003cbr\u003e 《Disqualified Emotions》 is a book that speaks to me like that.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “You were actually very sick, weren’t you?”\u003cbr\u003e “You wanted to cry then, but you held it back, right?”\u003cbr\u003e “Is it harder to pretend to be okay now?”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e This book contains a 'real narrative' of emotional recovery.\u003cbr\u003e Uncomfortable and complex emotions that are difficult to express easily, such as anger, shame, anxiety, and jealousy.\u003cbr\u003e I slowly read the patterns of emotions I could not tell anyone about, in my body, dreams, and memories.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e In particular, this book does not simply explain emotions as ‘thoughts’.\u003cbr\u003e I follow the traces of emotions that my body remembered first, emotions that burst out before words. \u003cbr\u003eWhen you listen to your body's signals, the words \"I'm not okay\" will finally come out of your mouth. \"Disqualified Emotions\" isn't a book about fixing your emotions.\u003cbr\u003e It is not a textbook on interpreting and analyzing emotions.\u003cbr\u003e It's a book that helps you just say, \"I'm still hurting.\"\u003cbr\u003e It contains the language of recovery that begins with permission to 'feel' emotions.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e After reading this book, you will be able to be a little more honest with yourself.\u003cbr\u003e You might end up pretending that things are less okay than before.\u003cbr\u003e And that may be the beginning of true recovery.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “It’s not that I didn’t know how I felt, I just couldn’t say anything because I was afraid that no one would accept my feelings.” \u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003ccenter\u003e\u003ctable\u003e\u003ctr\u003e\u003ctd style=\"height:10px\"\u003e\u003c\/td\u003e\u003c\/tr\u003e\u003c\/table\u003e\u003c\/center\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"width:95%;padding-top:20px;padding-bottom:20px\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:left;font-size:16px;font-weight:bold;padding-bottom:20px\"\u003e GOODS SPECIFICS \u003c\/div\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv style=\"text-align:left;font-size:14px;line-height:1.6em;\"\u003e\n\n\u003cdiv 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