Emotionally Healthy Spirituality
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Book Introduction
A must-read for all pastors, leaders, and laypeople!
Don't believe with your head, believe with your heart!
Life-changing
If you are longing for a true encounter with God,
Grab this book right now.
Admit the painful truth that nothing has changed, even though you believe in Jesus.
If much of us remains untouched by Jesus Christ, it is fatal to our lives, our families, and our churches.
If the emotional aspect is not addressed, at some point our sandcastle will begin to crumble.
There is no true spiritual growth until we see the true nature hidden beneath the facade of being a "good Christian."
This book is a record of the author and the New Life Fellowship members praying, training, applying, and living out their faith.
Respond to the invitation to a deeper relationship with Jesus.
Don't believe with your head, believe with your heart!
Life-changing
If you are longing for a true encounter with God,
Grab this book right now.
Admit the painful truth that nothing has changed, even though you believe in Jesus.
If much of us remains untouched by Jesus Christ, it is fatal to our lives, our families, and our churches.
If the emotional aspect is not addressed, at some point our sandcastle will begin to crumble.
There is no true spiritual growth until we see the true nature hidden beneath the facade of being a "good Christian."
This book is a record of the author and the New Life Fellowship members praying, training, applying, and living out their faith.
Respond to the invitation to a deeper relationship with Jesus.
- You can preview some of the book's contents.
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index
prolog
Part 1: A Red Light Turns On in My Spirituality
1.
The illusion of growth
- Living without knowing the great depth of spirituality
2.
10 Signs of Unhealthy Spirituality
- Diagnosing the red flags of faith
3.
Full growth, integration of emotions and spirituality
- Don't ignore emotional issues.
Part 2: Finding the Path to Healthy Spirituality
4.
Step 1: Be honest about yourself.
- Don't judge yourself by what you see on the outside.
5.
Step 2: Face the Past
- Make peace with the past that holds you back
6.
Step 3: Let go of your control.
- Only by realizing your limitations can you see life beyond them.
7.
Step 4: Use Grief as a Fuel for Growth
- Don't put up a shield, but cry before God.
8.
Step 5: Rest and Pray Daily
- Take a deep breath and breathe the air of eternity.
9.
Step 6: Learn to love properly.
- Don't avoid conflict situations by pretending to be peaceful.
10.
Step 7: Develop Your Own "Rules of Life"
- Love the Lord above all else.
Appendix 1: A Prayer to Examine the Heart
Appendix 2 Daily Prayer
main
Part 1: A Red Light Turns On in My Spirituality
1.
The illusion of growth
- Living without knowing the great depth of spirituality
2.
10 Signs of Unhealthy Spirituality
- Diagnosing the red flags of faith
3.
Full growth, integration of emotions and spirituality
- Don't ignore emotional issues.
Part 2: Finding the Path to Healthy Spirituality
4.
Step 1: Be honest about yourself.
- Don't judge yourself by what you see on the outside.
5.
Step 2: Face the Past
- Make peace with the past that holds you back
6.
Step 3: Let go of your control.
- Only by realizing your limitations can you see life beyond them.
7.
Step 4: Use Grief as a Fuel for Growth
- Don't put up a shield, but cry before God.
8.
Step 5: Rest and Pray Daily
- Take a deep breath and breathe the air of eternity.
9.
Step 6: Learn to love properly.
- Don't avoid conflict situations by pretending to be peaceful.
10.
Step 7: Develop Your Own "Rules of Life"
- Love the Lord above all else.
Appendix 1: A Prayer to Examine the Heart
Appendix 2 Daily Prayer
main
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Into the book
It was only through these three struggles that I opened my mind to the concept of 'emotionally healthy spirituality.'
First, we were not actually experiencing the joy or satisfaction that the Bible promised us.
I was unhappy, deeply frustrated, exhausted from work, and at a loss.
In Matthew 11:30, the Lord said, “For my yoke is easy and my burden is light,” inviting us to a life of freedom and abundance, but I didn’t feel that way at all.
In ancient Palestine, yokes were made of wood, carved to fit the neck and shoulders of an ox so as not to damage its skin.
So Jesus said, “I will give you a yoke that fits you perfectly, a life planned just for you.
You could rephrase it as, “I promise it’s light and easy.”
But the reality was different.
After years of diligently working in the ministry, I was almost exhausted and desperate for rest.
I have lived my life conscious of what other people have done to me, what they might do to me, or what they might think or think of me.
I knew in my head that I should live a life that pleases God, but actually living that way was another matter.
Jesus' yoke felt heavy.
Second, I lived a life of depression filled with anger and resentment.
For five years, I tried to do the work of two or three people by myself.
Our church held three services on Sundays: two in English in the morning and one in Spanish in the afternoon, and I was in charge of all the sermons.
However, the assistant pastor who was helping with the Spanish service took 200 of the 250 people who attended the service and started his own church.
I really hated him.
I tried to forgive him, but the hatred just wouldn't go away.
The mental pressure grew worse as I lived a double life of spreading love and forgiveness on Sundays and cursing when I was alone on Monday mornings.
The gap between my beliefs and my real life became more and more evident as time went on.
Third, my true self was revealed through my wife.
Jerry was tired of caring for four children alone and lonely because of her busy husband.
As my wife's frustration in our marriage deepened, we finally began to clash head-on.
Eventually, it got to the point where none of my excuses, promises, or evasions worked.
The wife had nothing left to lose.
Late one night, I was sitting in bed reading a book when my wife came in and announced in a calm voice:
“Honey, I think I’d be happier living alone than with you.
Now I want to escape from this roller coaster-like married life.
I love you, but I don't want to live like this anymore.
I waited a long time… .
I've also tried hard to talk to you.
You didn't listen.
I can't change you.
That's up to you.
“I just have to live my life.”
The wife was firm.
“Oh, and one more thing, I don’t want to go to the church you serve anymore.
“Because your leadership is not worth following.”
It was a brief moment, but then I understood why people kill the people they love.
I felt completely naked in front of my wife.
Another me inside me wanted to strangle my wife, but the emotion that gripped me more strongly was a deep sense of shame.
It was a strong punch that my fragile ego could never handle.
Nevertheless, I think that my wife's declaration at that time was the greatest love she has shown me throughout our married life.
The wife realized something crucial.
The fact is that emotional health and spiritual maturity are inextricably linked.
Spiritual maturity is impossible as long as we remain emotionally immature.
Although I truly loved Jesus Christ and believed many truths about Him, I was emotionally a child, trying to ignore my own immaturity.
When my wife announced she was leaving the church, I felt like I was on the edge of a cliff and began to look at the iceberg beneath the surface, something I had been too afraid to face.
Pain has an amazing power to open our hearts to new truths and to lead us on that path.
Eventually, I had to admit the painful truth that a huge part of my life had not changed at all despite my faith in Jesus.
My biblical knowledge, my position as a pastor, my seminary diploma, and my experience could not change that difficult reality.
I was busy cultivating what was essentially an 'emotionally unhealthy spirituality'.
Even though he was the senior pastor of a church, he wanted to escape the church by joining the ranks of people leaving the church.
First, we were not actually experiencing the joy or satisfaction that the Bible promised us.
I was unhappy, deeply frustrated, exhausted from work, and at a loss.
In Matthew 11:30, the Lord said, “For my yoke is easy and my burden is light,” inviting us to a life of freedom and abundance, but I didn’t feel that way at all.
In ancient Palestine, yokes were made of wood, carved to fit the neck and shoulders of an ox so as not to damage its skin.
So Jesus said, “I will give you a yoke that fits you perfectly, a life planned just for you.
You could rephrase it as, “I promise it’s light and easy.”
But the reality was different.
After years of diligently working in the ministry, I was almost exhausted and desperate for rest.
I have lived my life conscious of what other people have done to me, what they might do to me, or what they might think or think of me.
I knew in my head that I should live a life that pleases God, but actually living that way was another matter.
Jesus' yoke felt heavy.
Second, I lived a life of depression filled with anger and resentment.
For five years, I tried to do the work of two or three people by myself.
Our church held three services on Sundays: two in English in the morning and one in Spanish in the afternoon, and I was in charge of all the sermons.
However, the assistant pastor who was helping with the Spanish service took 200 of the 250 people who attended the service and started his own church.
I really hated him.
I tried to forgive him, but the hatred just wouldn't go away.
The mental pressure grew worse as I lived a double life of spreading love and forgiveness on Sundays and cursing when I was alone on Monday mornings.
The gap between my beliefs and my real life became more and more evident as time went on.
Third, my true self was revealed through my wife.
Jerry was tired of caring for four children alone and lonely because of her busy husband.
As my wife's frustration in our marriage deepened, we finally began to clash head-on.
Eventually, it got to the point where none of my excuses, promises, or evasions worked.
The wife had nothing left to lose.
Late one night, I was sitting in bed reading a book when my wife came in and announced in a calm voice:
“Honey, I think I’d be happier living alone than with you.
Now I want to escape from this roller coaster-like married life.
I love you, but I don't want to live like this anymore.
I waited a long time… .
I've also tried hard to talk to you.
You didn't listen.
I can't change you.
That's up to you.
“I just have to live my life.”
The wife was firm.
“Oh, and one more thing, I don’t want to go to the church you serve anymore.
“Because your leadership is not worth following.”
It was a brief moment, but then I understood why people kill the people they love.
I felt completely naked in front of my wife.
Another me inside me wanted to strangle my wife, but the emotion that gripped me more strongly was a deep sense of shame.
It was a strong punch that my fragile ego could never handle.
Nevertheless, I think that my wife's declaration at that time was the greatest love she has shown me throughout our married life.
The wife realized something crucial.
The fact is that emotional health and spiritual maturity are inextricably linked.
Spiritual maturity is impossible as long as we remain emotionally immature.
Although I truly loved Jesus Christ and believed many truths about Him, I was emotionally a child, trying to ignore my own immaturity.
When my wife announced she was leaving the church, I felt like I was on the edge of a cliff and began to look at the iceberg beneath the surface, something I had been too afraid to face.
Pain has an amazing power to open our hearts to new truths and to lead us on that path.
Eventually, I had to admit the painful truth that a huge part of my life had not changed at all despite my faith in Jesus.
My biblical knowledge, my position as a pastor, my seminary diploma, and my experience could not change that difficult reality.
I was busy cultivating what was essentially an 'emotionally unhealthy spirituality'.
Even though he was the senior pastor of a church, he wanted to escape the church by joining the ranks of people leaving the church.
--- From the text
Publisher's Review
A must-read for all pastors, leaders, and laypeople!
Don't believe with your head, believe with your heart!
Life-changing
If you are longing for a true encounter with God,
Grab this book right now.
Admit the painful truth that nothing has changed, even though you believe in Jesus.
If much of us remains untouched by Jesus Christ, it is fatal to our lives, our families, and our churches.
If the emotional aspect is not addressed, at some point our sandcastle will begin to crumble.
There is no true spiritual growth until we see the true nature hidden beneath the facade of being a "good Christian."
This book is a record of the author and the New Life Fellowship members praying, training, applying, and living out their faith.
Respond to the invitation to a deeper relationship with Jesus.
True spiritual growth starts now.
The layers of emotions that have piled up in your life
Leave it to God's transforming hands.
This book is the result of the author's painful confrontation with the story of what happened to him as he served as a senior pastor for 26 years and devoted himself to God's work.
This is the story of the author, who grew up in a family full of wounds, covering up and suppressing his past problems and his own emotional issues, and running only for the salvation of souls and the growth of the church. However, after the church split and his wife's shocking declaration, he takes his emotional issues to God and begins to recover.
This book contains the author's experience of how his family was restored and the church grew day by day through contemplative spiritual training, which involves honestly facing these emotional issues and practicing monastic spiritual training.
Spirituality that is not based on healthy emotions
It is fatal to your relationships with people around you!
This book contains a serious and honest account of what happened to the author, who served as a senior pastor for 26 years and devoted himself to God's work.
A week's rest to appease his wife brought about a Copernican revolution in his ministry.
He realized that he had been living a false self, seeing only the tip of the iceberg, without seeing the huge lump hidden beneath the surface, and he began to face how that hidden lump was destroying his family and church.
He then slowed down his ministry, delved beneath his own iceberg, and encouraged his leaders to engage in the same self-reflection, completely overhauling his life and ministry.
Another groundbreaking event for him was the discovery of a healthy spiritual discipline that went beyond emotional issues.
In 2002, I traveled to monasteries with my wife for four months, learning about solitude, silence, meditation on the Bible, and prayer methods, and decided to embrace them.
In other words, when we began teaching about “contemplative spirituality,” which involves slowing down to be with Jesus, in addition to teaching about “emotional health,” a powerful energy burst through the entire church.
All worship and ministry began to be restored, and the church grew day by day.
That record is this book.
I expect this book to provide great insights to the Korean church.
I am confident that the hidden lumps within us, like the tip of an iceberg, will disappear, be restored, and be healed when touched by God's transforming hand.
****
If these signs appear,
A red light has been turned on for your spiritual health.
∨ 10 Signs of Emotionally Unhealthy Spirituality
1.
I do God's work for my own satisfaction.
2.
Feelings of anger, sadness, and fear are immediately suppressed.
3.
Desires like music, art, and joy somehow seem like luxuries.
4.
They only try to cover up the past that holds them back.
5.
It divides the 'profane' and the 'sacred' like a knife.
6.
They are busy with their ministry rather than walking with God.
7.
Avoid conflict with people at all costs.
8.
Wounds, weaknesses, and failures are thoroughly concealed.
9.
I never acknowledge my limitations.
10.
Easily evaluate and judge others.
[Amazon Reader Praise]
This book deals with the deep emotions that reside in our subconscious and shake up our lives.
It teaches you how to acknowledge your emotions, diagnose their source, and cope with them.
Praying for change and submitting my life to the power of the Holy Spirit is the key to victory.
_ Tina Senftlebenon
We're studying in small groups using a set of books, study guides, and videos, and the response is explosive.
A must-read for anyone who wants to grow in Christ.
_ Davedarleneon
It helped me see where my own emotional health stands.
It was difficult at times, but it was absolutely necessary work.
I'm trying to become a more mature 'emotional adult' by reading with our staff.
It was a very practical book.
_ John Senteron
Through this book, I learned that if you live with the burden of unhealed past emotions, you will not be able to live as you were created to be.
I could also find such a gap in my appearance.
It has been a great help in my journey of faith towards perfection.
_ Topson
This book really resonated with me, as I have believed in Jesus since I was 12, but grew up in a difficult family environment and suffered many wounds.
I only read this book when I was 53, but I consider it a blessing from God.
_ kathyon
I especially enjoyed Chapter 3 of Part 2, which deals with the dark night of the soul, which is too easily ignored in the Christian life.
Although the 'dark night' is a natural part of the Christian life, it seems that people choose to run away from it rather than approach it and try to solve it.
_ Jason Kanzon
This book reminds us of what is truly important in life.
I would not recommend it to anyone seeking academic knowledge on the topic of emotionally healthy spirituality.
_ plantnmanon
If you truly want to hear God's voice, this book can change your life.
The content of some chapters may be difficult to accept.
But if you persevere, you will gain a new perspective on the Christian life.
_ giovanni rosarioon
This book proclaims the truth that all believers in this age need.
It not only presented the problem, but also focused more on practical solutions.
_ Rickon
I liked the idea that examining my true feelings can help me have a more authentic relationship with God.
I have been a Christian my entire life and have been religious since I was born into the faith, but this is the first time I have heard such a story, so I will say everything.
_ Rebekahon
I believe that all laypeople and leaders should read this book and apply it practically.
If Christians would stand silently before God, listen to His Word, respond to the voice of the Holy Spirit, and reflect on themselves, their discovery of the Creator would grow.
_Mommie Danielon
The author's honest, first-person style allowed me to identify with him and confront my fears and anxieties without judgment.
_ Debra Smutson
Don't believe with your head, believe with your heart!
Life-changing
If you are longing for a true encounter with God,
Grab this book right now.
Admit the painful truth that nothing has changed, even though you believe in Jesus.
If much of us remains untouched by Jesus Christ, it is fatal to our lives, our families, and our churches.
If the emotional aspect is not addressed, at some point our sandcastle will begin to crumble.
There is no true spiritual growth until we see the true nature hidden beneath the facade of being a "good Christian."
This book is a record of the author and the New Life Fellowship members praying, training, applying, and living out their faith.
Respond to the invitation to a deeper relationship with Jesus.
True spiritual growth starts now.
The layers of emotions that have piled up in your life
Leave it to God's transforming hands.
This book is the result of the author's painful confrontation with the story of what happened to him as he served as a senior pastor for 26 years and devoted himself to God's work.
This is the story of the author, who grew up in a family full of wounds, covering up and suppressing his past problems and his own emotional issues, and running only for the salvation of souls and the growth of the church. However, after the church split and his wife's shocking declaration, he takes his emotional issues to God and begins to recover.
This book contains the author's experience of how his family was restored and the church grew day by day through contemplative spiritual training, which involves honestly facing these emotional issues and practicing monastic spiritual training.
Spirituality that is not based on healthy emotions
It is fatal to your relationships with people around you!
This book contains a serious and honest account of what happened to the author, who served as a senior pastor for 26 years and devoted himself to God's work.
A week's rest to appease his wife brought about a Copernican revolution in his ministry.
He realized that he had been living a false self, seeing only the tip of the iceberg, without seeing the huge lump hidden beneath the surface, and he began to face how that hidden lump was destroying his family and church.
He then slowed down his ministry, delved beneath his own iceberg, and encouraged his leaders to engage in the same self-reflection, completely overhauling his life and ministry.
Another groundbreaking event for him was the discovery of a healthy spiritual discipline that went beyond emotional issues.
In 2002, I traveled to monasteries with my wife for four months, learning about solitude, silence, meditation on the Bible, and prayer methods, and decided to embrace them.
In other words, when we began teaching about “contemplative spirituality,” which involves slowing down to be with Jesus, in addition to teaching about “emotional health,” a powerful energy burst through the entire church.
All worship and ministry began to be restored, and the church grew day by day.
That record is this book.
I expect this book to provide great insights to the Korean church.
I am confident that the hidden lumps within us, like the tip of an iceberg, will disappear, be restored, and be healed when touched by God's transforming hand.
****
If these signs appear,
A red light has been turned on for your spiritual health.
∨ 10 Signs of Emotionally Unhealthy Spirituality
1.
I do God's work for my own satisfaction.
2.
Feelings of anger, sadness, and fear are immediately suppressed.
3.
Desires like music, art, and joy somehow seem like luxuries.
4.
They only try to cover up the past that holds them back.
5.
It divides the 'profane' and the 'sacred' like a knife.
6.
They are busy with their ministry rather than walking with God.
7.
Avoid conflict with people at all costs.
8.
Wounds, weaknesses, and failures are thoroughly concealed.
9.
I never acknowledge my limitations.
10.
Easily evaluate and judge others.
[Amazon Reader Praise]
This book deals with the deep emotions that reside in our subconscious and shake up our lives.
It teaches you how to acknowledge your emotions, diagnose their source, and cope with them.
Praying for change and submitting my life to the power of the Holy Spirit is the key to victory.
_ Tina Senftlebenon
We're studying in small groups using a set of books, study guides, and videos, and the response is explosive.
A must-read for anyone who wants to grow in Christ.
_ Davedarleneon
It helped me see where my own emotional health stands.
It was difficult at times, but it was absolutely necessary work.
I'm trying to become a more mature 'emotional adult' by reading with our staff.
It was a very practical book.
_ John Senteron
Through this book, I learned that if you live with the burden of unhealed past emotions, you will not be able to live as you were created to be.
I could also find such a gap in my appearance.
It has been a great help in my journey of faith towards perfection.
_ Topson
This book really resonated with me, as I have believed in Jesus since I was 12, but grew up in a difficult family environment and suffered many wounds.
I only read this book when I was 53, but I consider it a blessing from God.
_ kathyon
I especially enjoyed Chapter 3 of Part 2, which deals with the dark night of the soul, which is too easily ignored in the Christian life.
Although the 'dark night' is a natural part of the Christian life, it seems that people choose to run away from it rather than approach it and try to solve it.
_ Jason Kanzon
This book reminds us of what is truly important in life.
I would not recommend it to anyone seeking academic knowledge on the topic of emotionally healthy spirituality.
_ plantnmanon
If you truly want to hear God's voice, this book can change your life.
The content of some chapters may be difficult to accept.
But if you persevere, you will gain a new perspective on the Christian life.
_ giovanni rosarioon
This book proclaims the truth that all believers in this age need.
It not only presented the problem, but also focused more on practical solutions.
_ Rickon
I liked the idea that examining my true feelings can help me have a more authentic relationship with God.
I have been a Christian my entire life and have been religious since I was born into the faith, but this is the first time I have heard such a story, so I will say everything.
_ Rebekahon
I believe that all laypeople and leaders should read this book and apply it practically.
If Christians would stand silently before God, listen to His Word, respond to the voice of the Holy Spirit, and reflect on themselves, their discovery of the Creator would grow.
_Mommie Danielon
The author's honest, first-person style allowed me to identify with him and confront my fears and anxieties without judgment.
_ Debra Smutson
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: June 24, 2015
- Page count, weight, size: 328 pages | 450g | 150*210*30mm
- ISBN13: 9788953122567
- ISBN10: 8953122562
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