Entering What Every Parent Knows

Chapter 1: When I relieve my anxiety, I see my child.
Was that choice really the right one?
Wasn't it too soon to tell him to do it himself?
Whenever my heart wavers, I take out my parenting diary.
Was I also a real mother?
Parental Reflection Magnifying Glass

Chapter 2: Play Observation | Discover Your Child's Strengths
Play is a child's instinct
Reasons for moving out of the city center
An important clue to discovering potential talent
Temperament is revealed through play and nurtured through waiting.
How to Save the Children on the Screen
Children who play well also study well.
Observation magnifying glass

Chapter 3: Observing Emotions | Reading Words and Actions
Naming your emotions reveals your heart.
Emotions become similar
The other side of the phrase 'I don't know'
Empathize with your child's emotions without being swayed by them.
"Emotional View" Praise That Soothes the Seeds of Talent
A child who leads emotions
A word to help you develop emotional control
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Chapter 4: Observing Relationships | Start with Conflict
Today is a breakup, tomorrow is a best friend
My child's private life that parents don't know about
The Power of Rules Learned at Home
Strengths that shine even brighter in relationships
Relationship Building and Study Emotions
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Chapter 5 Learning Observation | Find the Spark of Your Heart
A sense of pride makes you start studying
Finding the key to learning in your reading habits
School, between anxiety and greed
When a child tells a dream
Interest in a subject doesn't tell the whole story.
Precious clues given by the homeroom teacher
The heart that contributes becomes the greatest spark
Observation magnifying glass

In conclusion, observation is another name for love.
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Than parents who try to teach
Observant parents lead their children further.

The central philosophy of “Observational Parenting” is that “observation is another name for love.”
Observation is not simply seeing, but a deep act of reading emotions and context together.
The author said, “The secret was in what I had always done.
He emphasizes that parents must become unique observers to allow their children to grow in their own way, saying, “Observe your own child.”
This book contains various examples of understanding the nature of children through observation.
A representative example is the process of realizing that Miyeon, who was thought to be unable to study due to distraction, was actually a child who needed to repeat small success experiences.
“The reason Miyeon couldn’t concentrate on her studies wasn’t because she wasn’t organized.
This is because we have not been able to build the value of doing things ourselves through small experiences such as organizing.
The desire to study doesn't come naturally as you grow up.
It is something that is built up through countless small successes and failures in daily life.”
In this way, the author shows us how to practically read a child's emotions and motivations rather than reacting to their outward appearance.
Rather than teaching and advising, it guides you on how to look at your child with an eye for observation and understanding.


Real classrooms and homes
A book full of vivid examples

One of the greatest strengths of this book is that it is based on concrete examples of real children, not fiction or abstract advice.
The characters in the book, including 'Kang-i', 'Sani', 'Jae-young', and 'Young-woo', are all children the author met at home and in the classroom.
Their every word and action is meticulously recorded through the eyes of an observer.
For example, Jae-young's case, where he expressed the novel idea of ​​'a showdown between chopsticks and quail eggs' while trying to pick up quail eggs with chopsticks during simultaneous writing time, shows a perspective that observes him not simply as 'a child who is good at Korean', but as 'a child who conveys his thoughts in a concise and humorous way.'
Also, the case of an introverted child named Yeong-woo who changed after being taught Korean by a native English teacher during a club activity is a touching scene that shows how a 'contributing experience' can fundamentally change a child's self-esteem and attitude toward learning.
All the stories presented in this book are composed of the voices and actions of actual children, as the author observed countless children over the past 23 years as a teacher and mother, so readers will naturally think of their own children as they read.

Parents, when my child was in elementary school
Four Must-See Observations: Play, Emotions, Relationships, and Learning

The author emphasizes that during children's elementary school years, we should carefully observe the four areas of 'play, emotions, relationships, and learning.'

“Children build the foundation of self-regulation and social skills through ‘play.’
Next, you will develop the ability to recognize your own 'emotions', empathize with the emotions of others, and flexibly resolve conflicts.
“On top of that, through ‘relationships,’ you achieve harmony with others, and through ‘learning,’ you develop the power to look at yourself and expand yourself.”
It is said that when the four observations are gradually accumulated, the child's uniqueness comes to life and he or she can continue studying on his or her own.
Helping children become immersed in 'play' and develop autonomy will reveal their strengths, and observing the 'feelings' behind their words and actions will help them develop self-regulation skills.
He also emphasizes that observing a child's 'relationships' with friends can help them develop the ability to resolve conflicts on their own, and observing a child's 'learning' and providing learning opportunities tailored to their personality will allow them to discover their own unique colors.

Each chapter's appendix provides 'Practical Tips for Observing the Four Types'.
Chapter 1 provides methods for parents to recognize and examine their own anxiety before observing their children, and Chapters 2 through 5 introduce observation methods that parents can apply to parenting based on the know-how the author has gained from experience.
After examining and reflecting on various cases and applying them to your own children, you will be able to easily approach 'observational parenting'.


I want to go from being an anxious parent to a strong parent.
Warm encouragement to all parents

The sentences in this book are both advice-giving and comforting.
The author honestly reveals his frustration as a parent, his helplessness as a teacher, and his longing for his child.
So this book is not just a simple guidebook, but also a record of the emotions that parents and children experience as they grow together.

“It was ‘me’ as a teacher who kept me grounded when I looked at my child with a wavering gaze, gripped by anxiety. It was ‘me’ as a parent who lifted me up whenever I felt my heart break in the classroom.”
“I also grew as I realized that I had been confining my child in a small vessel of my heart, and that the child could only grow to the size of the vessel.”
“You can’t ‘force’ yourself into the feeling of starting to study.”
“All children want to be proud of themselves.”
When parents set unwavering standards, their children gain the strength to not falter in the marathon of academics.
Although this book is written in the format of a 'parenting book,' it is also a growth essay for parents and a mirror of emotions.
It makes parents worry more about how to look at their children than how to raise them.
The message of this book, “Illuminate your child with your own eyes, words, and heart,” reminds parents of the most important starting point of parenting.
This book will serve as a warm and solid guide for all parents and teachers who want to raise their children better.