Nothing is more important than elementary school study skills.
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“A child’s study habits depend on what their parents say!” 15-year veteran teacher, EBS public recruitment instructor, and expert mentor in child education With over 5 million cumulative views on YouTube Teacher Lee Seo-yoon's elementary school study solution! A new book, "Nothing is More Important Than Elementary School Study Emotions," by author Seo-yoon Lee, a 15-year veteran elementary school teacher, EBS public lecturer, and a true representative elementary education mentor in Korea, has been published by Cassiopeia Publishing. In this book, he states that elementary school, when children's first impressions about studying are formed, is the golden time to develop a love for studying, and emphasizes that parents should examine their parenting attitudes and conversation methods to achieve this. This is because a child's study habits are influenced by what their parents say. “Don’t be annoyed, just speak nicely!”, “Do you have to get angry to listen to me?”, “Just study, what’s so hard about that?”, “Why can’t you concentrate?”, “Let’s try hard next time and get a perfect score!” This is a repertoire that parents often use when making their children study. However, these words spoken unconsciously harm the child's motivation to study. This is because 'study emotions' is a comprehensive area that encompasses the relationship between parents and children, communication methods, problem-solving skills, and the process of handling emotions. In other words, improving the study mindset is like creating a stable environment where our children can study with a healthy mind. For this to happen, a good 'relationship' must be built between parents and children, and for that to happen, parents must first and foremost be able to handle their 'emotions' well. This is because most nagging towards children is ultimately due to the parents' unresolved 'needs'. Many parents simply hope that their children will study well on their own without properly understanding themselves. Hopes like, “My child does his homework without being asked,” or “He knows how to do self-directed learning properly,” are, I can guarantee, nothing more than a parent’s fantasy. The reality is that nagging your child to study only creates a vicious cycle where the relationship becomes distant and the child's attitude toward studying worsens. Is there really no way to properly teach a child while protecting their learning style? The author of this book says that it is natural for parents to have difficulties at first because they are not Jesus, Buddha, or professional counselors. But with practice and discipline, children can break free from the vicious cycle of dysfunctional relationships because they learn that their parents are working for them. When children learn through experience that their parents are not demanding or controlling excessively, and when they feel that their feelings are accepted within reasonable limits, a strong trust develops between parents and children, a cooperative relationship is formed, and all subsequent relationships become more comfortable. In the process, children learn how to deal with their emotions and also learn to resolve negative emotions that arise while studying. In other words, the study motivation improves. Ultimately, a child's attitude toward studying depends on the parents' attitude. Let's improve your child's academic motivation and prepare them for middle and high school as well as the future. This book will be happy to help you. |
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Prologue_ If only I had known the emotion of studying a little earlier
Part 1.
The love of studying grows within the relationship with parents.
Chapter 1.
Studying emotions before studying
- Why is study motivation important?
- Relationships create a study mindset.
- Popular kids in the classroom
- Negative emotions are contagious
- More than half of the conflicts are due to studying
Chapter 2.
Parents' mindset should come before their children's academic motivation.
- Why do I keep getting angry because of my child?
- I'm angry because of my feelings.
- Standards established in parents' minds
- The real reason for nagging
- It's not because of the child's behavior.
- Whose desire is it?
- If the interpretation changes, the feelings also change.
Chapter 3.
How can we develop a love for studying?
- Shocking facts learned in the classroom
- The darkness of the mind appears in a picture
- One thing parents should do for their children
- Should I make elementary school students study?
Chapter 4.
How can I help my child study well while maintaining a good relationship with him/her?
- Achievement pressure is subjective.
- Diligence vs.
inferiority complex
- Self-esteem of elementary school students
- Three types of achievement pressure
- How can we create achievement-oriented pressure to achieve?
- How you apply the pressure to achieve is important.
# I'll do the nagging for you
Part 2.
30 Things Parents Say That Hurt Their Children's Abilities to Study
1.
“That’s why I told you to listen to your mother, right?”
2.
“Stop going to school, you figure it out yourself!”
3.
“You said you could do it?”
4.
“Don’t be annoyed, just say it in a nice way!”
5.
“Do you only listen to me when your mom is angry?”
6.
“Do you know how much I’m struggling right now to send you to an academy?”
7.
“Are you studying to get stickers?”
8.
“You study for Mom? I do it all for you!”
9.
“Why are you so lazy?”
10.
“Where are you talking back from?”
11.
“I knew it!”
12.
“If you do that one more time, your smartphone will be confiscated!”
13.
“Do you really have to do it?”
14.
“If you’re going to do whatever you want, go out and live alone.”
15.
“Why do you always make excuses?”
16.
“All you have to do is study. What’s so difficult about it?”
17.
“If you don’t want to do it, don’t do it.”
18.
"What's so hard about this? It's easy."
19.
“Why can’t you concentrate?”
20.
“What do you want to eat when you grow up?”
21.
“Other kids go to academies more.”
22.
“You’re so smart.”
23.
“What grade are you in now that you’re doing that?”
24.
"Let's try hard next time and get 100 points."
25.
“What did I do to you…?”
26.
shaking head, grimacing
27.
Habitual sighing
28.
“Did you try?”
29.
“Why on earth are you doing that?”
30.
“Have a child like you and let them suffer the same fate.”
# 10 Commandments for Conversation that Cultivate Study Aptitude
Epilogue_ The Path for Parents and Children to Grow Together
Part 1.
The love of studying grows within the relationship with parents.
Chapter 1.
Studying emotions before studying
- Why is study motivation important?
- Relationships create a study mindset.
- Popular kids in the classroom
- Negative emotions are contagious
- More than half of the conflicts are due to studying
Chapter 2.
Parents' mindset should come before their children's academic motivation.
- Why do I keep getting angry because of my child?
- I'm angry because of my feelings.
- Standards established in parents' minds
- The real reason for nagging
- It's not because of the child's behavior.
- Whose desire is it?
- If the interpretation changes, the feelings also change.
Chapter 3.
How can we develop a love for studying?
- Shocking facts learned in the classroom
- The darkness of the mind appears in a picture
- One thing parents should do for their children
- Should I make elementary school students study?
Chapter 4.
How can I help my child study well while maintaining a good relationship with him/her?
- Achievement pressure is subjective.
- Diligence vs.
inferiority complex
- Self-esteem of elementary school students
- Three types of achievement pressure
- How can we create achievement-oriented pressure to achieve?
- How you apply the pressure to achieve is important.
# I'll do the nagging for you
Part 2.
30 Things Parents Say That Hurt Their Children's Abilities to Study
1.
“That’s why I told you to listen to your mother, right?”
2.
“Stop going to school, you figure it out yourself!”
3.
“You said you could do it?”
4.
“Don’t be annoyed, just say it in a nice way!”
5.
“Do you only listen to me when your mom is angry?”
6.
“Do you know how much I’m struggling right now to send you to an academy?”
7.
“Are you studying to get stickers?”
8.
“You study for Mom? I do it all for you!”
9.
“Why are you so lazy?”
10.
“Where are you talking back from?”
11.
“I knew it!”
12.
“If you do that one more time, your smartphone will be confiscated!”
13.
“Do you really have to do it?”
14.
“If you’re going to do whatever you want, go out and live alone.”
15.
“Why do you always make excuses?”
16.
“All you have to do is study. What’s so difficult about it?”
17.
“If you don’t want to do it, don’t do it.”
18.
"What's so hard about this? It's easy."
19.
“Why can’t you concentrate?”
20.
“What do you want to eat when you grow up?”
21.
“Other kids go to academies more.”
22.
“You’re so smart.”
23.
“What grade are you in now that you’re doing that?”
24.
"Let's try hard next time and get 100 points."
25.
“What did I do to you…?”
26.
shaking head, grimacing
27.
Habitual sighing
28.
“Did you try?”
29.
“Why on earth are you doing that?”
30.
“Have a child like you and let them suffer the same fate.”
# 10 Commandments for Conversation that Cultivate Study Aptitude
Epilogue_ The Path for Parents and Children to Grow Together
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Having experienced a slip-up due to my inability to deal with anxiety and feelings of hopelessness, I know very well that no matter how well I study, if my emotional drive for studying isn't well developed, I'm at a disadvantage in the long run.
'Study Emotions' goes beyond simply how a child thinks about studying. It encompasses the relationship between parents and children, communication styles, problem-solving skills, and the process of handling emotions.
--- p.11
Elementary school is a time when first impressions about studying are formed and attitudes toward studying are refined.
So this period is very important.
Simply put, 'study mood' can be thought of as 'the feeling you have about studying.'
But if you delve deeper, it means more than that.
In order to develop a study mindset, 'relationships' must be well-formed, and to do that, 'emotions' must be well-managed.
Elementary school is the time when children spend the most time studying in their lives because it is the school age.
Therefore, if you do not have a good attitude toward studying, you will have to spend a lot of time feeling uncomfortable.
Conversely, if you have a good attitude toward studying, that is, a good study mood, it means that you can spend a lot of time positively.
--- p.19~20
If you ask questions based on the assumption and belief that the child is already capable of studying, the child will become a child who chooses to study on his own, rather than a child who does something because he is told to do so.
Of course, when you ask them, “What are you going to do today?” they joke around and say, “Watch YouTube!” or “Play!”
Then please accept it cheerfully.
"Hey, our son has some work to do. What should we start with? Math? English?" Things like that.
A child knows whether his or her parents are criticizing him or if they are genuinely concerned about him or her.
When children feel that their parents trust them and do not condemn them as bad children, they also lose their defensive attitude.
Instead of being a child who listens because of their parents' nagging, they become a child who thinks through the choices they make.
--- p.168
What does a child who hates studying need? It's the will to study, or "motivation."
One of the things I often hear is, “Teacher, what are some words that will motivate me to study?”
Explaining that now is a good time to just study can help motivate you to study.
But it shouldn't be a criticism.
“When my mom was studying, she really hated it and it was hard.
But now that I'm an adult, I realize that even if I want to go to an academy, there's no one to send me to, and even if I want to study as much as I want, I don't have the time.
The old saying that there is a time for everything, even studying, is not wrong.
Studying while working is not an easy task.
Mom and Dad want to support you as much as possible in your studies.
So, I hope that when you grow up, you won't have any regrets thinking, 'I should have studied harder when I was younger.'" Please explain this 'true heart' of love.
Of course, explaining it this way doesn't mean that the child will come to his senses and study as the parents want.
--- p.185~186
This isn't to say that we should always avoid asking about scores or rankings, but rather that we should use more language that focuses on effort and process.
Especially in the case of children who constantly compare themselves to others or have a strong competitive spirit, they often feel distressed because of rankings or scores.
So it's important to emphasize the effort and process.
To the child who brought in a 90-point test paper, “You worked hard and got a good score.
“The test is to discover what I don’t know and to find out why I got it wrong, so let’s take a look,” he says, checking the wrong answers together.
If you repeatedly experience satisfaction through comparison with others, you will only experience relative happiness.
Please allow me to look back at myself so that I can feel my own satisfaction, that is, absolute happiness.
--- p.226~227
“I believe our son can get a much better score,” she says, conveying her belief, and then expressing her feelings by saying, “In that sense, I feel a little disappointed with this score.”
If you ask your child, “Don’t you feel any regrets?” and he or she says yes, the conversation will flow more smoothly.
If you say, "I don't really regret it," they might respond, "Really? Then you should leave that score as is? Why are you going to the academy? You should quit." But let's leave it as a matter of fact.
You could say, "I don't regret it, but if you get a good score, you'll feel good, right? The satisfaction and pride you feel when you work hard and achieve a good result is an incomparable joy, different from the joy you feel when you're having fun and playing."
I feel this way while talking, but whether it ends up being a pleasant conversation or not is just a matter of a few strokes.
You need to practice connecting the emotions of the moment smoothly.
'Study Emotions' goes beyond simply how a child thinks about studying. It encompasses the relationship between parents and children, communication styles, problem-solving skills, and the process of handling emotions.
--- p.11
Elementary school is a time when first impressions about studying are formed and attitudes toward studying are refined.
So this period is very important.
Simply put, 'study mood' can be thought of as 'the feeling you have about studying.'
But if you delve deeper, it means more than that.
In order to develop a study mindset, 'relationships' must be well-formed, and to do that, 'emotions' must be well-managed.
Elementary school is the time when children spend the most time studying in their lives because it is the school age.
Therefore, if you do not have a good attitude toward studying, you will have to spend a lot of time feeling uncomfortable.
Conversely, if you have a good attitude toward studying, that is, a good study mood, it means that you can spend a lot of time positively.
--- p.19~20
If you ask questions based on the assumption and belief that the child is already capable of studying, the child will become a child who chooses to study on his own, rather than a child who does something because he is told to do so.
Of course, when you ask them, “What are you going to do today?” they joke around and say, “Watch YouTube!” or “Play!”
Then please accept it cheerfully.
"Hey, our son has some work to do. What should we start with? Math? English?" Things like that.
A child knows whether his or her parents are criticizing him or if they are genuinely concerned about him or her.
When children feel that their parents trust them and do not condemn them as bad children, they also lose their defensive attitude.
Instead of being a child who listens because of their parents' nagging, they become a child who thinks through the choices they make.
--- p.168
What does a child who hates studying need? It's the will to study, or "motivation."
One of the things I often hear is, “Teacher, what are some words that will motivate me to study?”
Explaining that now is a good time to just study can help motivate you to study.
But it shouldn't be a criticism.
“When my mom was studying, she really hated it and it was hard.
But now that I'm an adult, I realize that even if I want to go to an academy, there's no one to send me to, and even if I want to study as much as I want, I don't have the time.
The old saying that there is a time for everything, even studying, is not wrong.
Studying while working is not an easy task.
Mom and Dad want to support you as much as possible in your studies.
So, I hope that when you grow up, you won't have any regrets thinking, 'I should have studied harder when I was younger.'" Please explain this 'true heart' of love.
Of course, explaining it this way doesn't mean that the child will come to his senses and study as the parents want.
--- p.185~186
This isn't to say that we should always avoid asking about scores or rankings, but rather that we should use more language that focuses on effort and process.
Especially in the case of children who constantly compare themselves to others or have a strong competitive spirit, they often feel distressed because of rankings or scores.
So it's important to emphasize the effort and process.
To the child who brought in a 90-point test paper, “You worked hard and got a good score.
“The test is to discover what I don’t know and to find out why I got it wrong, so let’s take a look,” he says, checking the wrong answers together.
If you repeatedly experience satisfaction through comparison with others, you will only experience relative happiness.
Please allow me to look back at myself so that I can feel my own satisfaction, that is, absolute happiness.
--- p.226~227
“I believe our son can get a much better score,” she says, conveying her belief, and then expressing her feelings by saying, “In that sense, I feel a little disappointed with this score.”
If you ask your child, “Don’t you feel any regrets?” and he or she says yes, the conversation will flow more smoothly.
If you say, "I don't really regret it," they might respond, "Really? Then you should leave that score as is? Why are you going to the academy? You should quit." But let's leave it as a matter of fact.
You could say, "I don't regret it, but if you get a good score, you'll feel good, right? The satisfaction and pride you feel when you work hard and achieve a good result is an incomparable joy, different from the joy you feel when you're having fun and playing."
I feel this way while talking, but whether it ends up being a pleasant conversation or not is just a matter of a few strokes.
You need to practice connecting the emotions of the moment smoothly.
--- p.248~249
Publisher's Review
“Why is it an elementary school study mindset?”
A child with a stable emotional state of study
Outstanding and unique abilities
The author was a child who did not hate studying from a young age.
The grades also remained in the top ranks.
But he too suffered from stress.
The constant comparisons and the anxiety that my ranking would drop did not go away easily.
The insomnia that started like that continued until the day before the CSAT and tormented him.
The author, who has experienced slipping off the track due to his inability to deal with anxiety or despair, emphasizes that no matter how well you study, if your emotional drive for studying is not well developed, you will be at a disadvantage in long-term races.
The golden time to improve study habits is elementary school.
This is because this is the time when first impressions about studying are created and attitudes toward studying are refined.
Elementary school is the time when children spend the most time studying in their lives because it is the school age.
Therefore, if you do not have a good attitude toward studying, you will have to spend a lot of time feeling uncomfortable.
Conversely, if you have a good attitude toward studying, that is, a good study mood, you can spend a lot of time positively.
The author emphasizes that children with a stable study mindset not only study well on their own, but also have good relationships with their parents and have the habit of doing things on their own.
In other words, you are ready to enter a long-term study war with your bullets firmly loaded.
Many parents are very concerned about their children's grades these days.
However, elementary school is just the beginning of the long race called academics.
This book will guide you beyond simply being satisfied with getting a perfect score today and develop a study mindset for the future.
“A child’s study habits depend on what their parents say!”
Maintaining a good relationship with your child
30 Things Parents Say About Making Their Children Study Well
As with any other human relationship, emotions are naturally conveyed between parents and children.
If you hurt a child's heart by conveying negative emotions, those emotions will accumulate in the child's heart.
On the other hand, if there is strong trust between parents and children, the relationship becomes more and more comfortable.
The key is from now on.
Children learn how to manage their emotions, which helps them better deal with negative emotions that arise while studying.
In other words, forming a smooth relationship with parents is the shortcut to improving one's study motivation.
However, when it comes to making children study, it is difficult for parents to maintain emotional composure while dealing with their children.
Because the child does not move as the parent wants.
If you start nagging, your relationship with your child will deteriorate and their motivation to study will worsen, creating a vicious cycle.
How can we lead conversations about studying without hurting children's feelings? The author says that developing a love of studying without hurting children is actually quite simple.
Entering the mind of a child and thinking, 'How would I feel if I were that child?'
Do you understand your child's feelings, but don't know what to do next? If so, try the methods in this book.
This book not only contains 30 things parents say to their children to help them study well while maintaining a good relationship with them, but also 10 commandments for conversations that protect 'parental emotions' and the mindset that parents should prioritize over studying emotions, helping parents change their behavior through various stories.
If you follow the suggestions in this book, you will be able to greatly help maintain a healthy emotional state in your child's studies.
“Children with a stable learning mindset will lead the future world!”
‘Study sentiment’ is in the era of lifelong learning.
The best gift you can give your child
The order of study and relationships is like the chicken and egg debate.
Good relationships lead to good achievements, and good achievements lead to good relationships.
Here, good achievement does not necessarily mean first place or being in the top ranks.
It means a state in which you can feel your own growth and be proud of the process.
Having a positive attitude toward studying during school years, that is, a positive attitude toward studying, means having high self-esteem and confidence in life.
This is the key reason why this book repeatedly emphasizes the need to create a learning environment that allows students to study while maintaining their study habits.
People who shine in their field, who grow and mature, do not slow down in their ‘learning.’
This is because ‘studying’ means constantly throwing yourself into an uncertain intellectual world to broaden your horizons in life.
In other words, people who can study throughout their lives can always look at the world with new eyes.
This is the key reason why we must help children learn while maintaining their study habits during the elementary school years, when they first encounter study and build a foundation.
A child with a stable emotional state of study
Outstanding and unique abilities
The author was a child who did not hate studying from a young age.
The grades also remained in the top ranks.
But he too suffered from stress.
The constant comparisons and the anxiety that my ranking would drop did not go away easily.
The insomnia that started like that continued until the day before the CSAT and tormented him.
The author, who has experienced slipping off the track due to his inability to deal with anxiety or despair, emphasizes that no matter how well you study, if your emotional drive for studying is not well developed, you will be at a disadvantage in long-term races.
The golden time to improve study habits is elementary school.
This is because this is the time when first impressions about studying are created and attitudes toward studying are refined.
Elementary school is the time when children spend the most time studying in their lives because it is the school age.
Therefore, if you do not have a good attitude toward studying, you will have to spend a lot of time feeling uncomfortable.
Conversely, if you have a good attitude toward studying, that is, a good study mood, you can spend a lot of time positively.
The author emphasizes that children with a stable study mindset not only study well on their own, but also have good relationships with their parents and have the habit of doing things on their own.
In other words, you are ready to enter a long-term study war with your bullets firmly loaded.
Many parents are very concerned about their children's grades these days.
However, elementary school is just the beginning of the long race called academics.
This book will guide you beyond simply being satisfied with getting a perfect score today and develop a study mindset for the future.
“A child’s study habits depend on what their parents say!”
Maintaining a good relationship with your child
30 Things Parents Say About Making Their Children Study Well
As with any other human relationship, emotions are naturally conveyed between parents and children.
If you hurt a child's heart by conveying negative emotions, those emotions will accumulate in the child's heart.
On the other hand, if there is strong trust between parents and children, the relationship becomes more and more comfortable.
The key is from now on.
Children learn how to manage their emotions, which helps them better deal with negative emotions that arise while studying.
In other words, forming a smooth relationship with parents is the shortcut to improving one's study motivation.
However, when it comes to making children study, it is difficult for parents to maintain emotional composure while dealing with their children.
Because the child does not move as the parent wants.
If you start nagging, your relationship with your child will deteriorate and their motivation to study will worsen, creating a vicious cycle.
How can we lead conversations about studying without hurting children's feelings? The author says that developing a love of studying without hurting children is actually quite simple.
Entering the mind of a child and thinking, 'How would I feel if I were that child?'
Do you understand your child's feelings, but don't know what to do next? If so, try the methods in this book.
This book not only contains 30 things parents say to their children to help them study well while maintaining a good relationship with them, but also 10 commandments for conversations that protect 'parental emotions' and the mindset that parents should prioritize over studying emotions, helping parents change their behavior through various stories.
If you follow the suggestions in this book, you will be able to greatly help maintain a healthy emotional state in your child's studies.
“Children with a stable learning mindset will lead the future world!”
‘Study sentiment’ is in the era of lifelong learning.
The best gift you can give your child
The order of study and relationships is like the chicken and egg debate.
Good relationships lead to good achievements, and good achievements lead to good relationships.
Here, good achievement does not necessarily mean first place or being in the top ranks.
It means a state in which you can feel your own growth and be proud of the process.
Having a positive attitude toward studying during school years, that is, a positive attitude toward studying, means having high self-esteem and confidence in life.
This is the key reason why this book repeatedly emphasizes the need to create a learning environment that allows students to study while maintaining their study habits.
People who shine in their field, who grow and mature, do not slow down in their ‘learning.’
This is because ‘studying’ means constantly throwing yourself into an uncertain intellectual world to broaden your horizons in life.
In other words, people who can study throughout their lives can always look at the world with new eyes.
This is the key reason why we must help children learn while maintaining their study habits during the elementary school years, when they first encounter study and build a foundation.
GOODS SPECIFICS
- Date of issue: August 21, 2024
- Page count, weight, size: 304 pages | 404g | 140*205*30mm
- ISBN13: 9791168272187
- ISBN10: 1168272181
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