A gem of a book filled with profound spiritual insight and grace about loss!?
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If S. Lewis solved the 'problem of pain' with fierce intellect, Gerald Sitzer poured his whole soul into writing the 'problem of loss'.

Filled with profound spiritual insight and grace about loss, "Weeping Before God" speaks of the tragic experience of loss and the changes it can bring about in our lives.
Instead of offering quick and painless solutions, it shows you the path to a lifelong journey of 'growth'.
Furthermore, it tells us what changes we must bring about in the midst of loss.

Whose loss is worse? This question is a flawed one, cleverly missing the point.
Every loss we experience is unique and painful in its own way.
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What good can come from quantifying loss? What good can result from comparing? The question we should be asking here is not, "Whose is worse?"
The question should be, “What meaning can we find in suffering, and how can we grow through suffering?”

--- p.42 From “The End of Chapter 1, and the Beginning”

It's not true that after experiencing loss we become less happy than before.
Whether we become unhappy when we experience loss is a matter of choice.
It is entirely within our power to choose whether we allow ourselves to be crushed by loss until we are left with nothing but a shell of ourselves, completely subservient to the circumstances.
Loss can make us different, more mature than before.
Even when we walk through the darkness, we can still find light.
Even when we experience death, we can find life.
It's all up to our choice.

--- p.58 From “Chapter 3: Entering the Darkness”

Deep sorrow often causes vanity, pretense, and superficiality to fall from life.
Deep sadness forces us to ask fundamental questions about what is most important in life.
Pain can lead us to a simpler life.
A life that is not confused by non-essential things.

--- p.96 From “Chapter 5: Sailing the Vast Sea Alone”

The problem with the expectation of living in a completely fair world is that in such a world there would be no grace.
Because grace is only grace when it is given to someone who does not deserve it.

--- p.177 From Chapter 9, “Why Not Me”

I, too, have been thinking about heaven often since some time ago.
Life on this earth is real and good.
I have enjoyed the joys of life with those I loved who are no longer on this earth, and I am still enjoying life even now that they are gone.
But life on this earth is not everything.
Sometimes it seems like there is everything, but there is definitely more to it.
There is another life hidden in this land, a reality much greater than the present one.
As philosopher Peter Krieft said, this earth is not the outer reaches of heaven, but heaven's workshop.
It is the womb of heaven.

--- p.276 From “Chapter 14: A Cloud of Witnesses Surrounding Us”