When there is a conflict of opinion with a child, many mothers try to give in to their child's opinion until the very end, thinking, "I have to win the battle for dominance so I don't lose to my child."
In terms of the relationship with the child, it is right for the mother to lose because the child is young.
If you scold your child by saying, “Don’t do that,” “That’s not right,” or “Why did you do that” every time he misbehaves about something that should be done naturally, the child will get angry and not listen to you anymore.
When you have a conflict of opinion with your child, you need to find a way to convey your values ​​through compromise, even if it is difficult and takes a long time.

Sometimes people say that children deliberately pick fights to test their mothers, but this is not true.
All children have an instinctive desire to be loved and accepted by their mothers.
Children's greatest fear is that they might lose their mother's love at any moment.
That's why well-raised children don't assert themselves intentionally to test their mothers or to start fights with them.
Children who do not have a good relationship with their mothers rebel to express their anger.
If you are having a very difficult time with your child due to conflicts of opinion, you need to look back on your relationship with your child.

---From "Do I have to win the battle for dominance with my child?"

It is said that the temporal lobe, which is related to language development, and the parietal lobe, which is related to number concepts, develop in the brain around the age of 6.
So, if you teach Korean or math during this period, most children will accept it.
If your child is still having trouble learning Korean even after the age of 6, you should look into the cause.
This may be due to a learning disability, but there are more children who have trouble learning due to poor concentration or a lack of motivation to study.
This usually occurs in children who have been learning since they were 3 or 4 years old. They get bored because they do it too much when they are young, so they lose concentration and have no desire to do it.
If you start teaching at age 5 or 6, it will take a month or two, but if you start at age 3 or 4, it will take a year, and the child's interest will decrease during the process.


My eldest child, Gyeongmo, was only able to learn Korean two months before he entered school.
Because he was a child who had a strong aversion to things he didn't want to do, we had no choice but to delay his Korean language education.
But I learned Korean at a frightening speed.
It wasn't because the child was outstanding, but because his brain was developed enough to be able to learn.
So, please, as soon as possible, let go of the obsession with having to teach anything as quickly as possible.

---“If a 5-year-old can’t read and write Korean, does that mean he or she has a learning disability?”

When a kindergarten is filled with a diverse group of children, there may be one or two who enjoy bullying other children.
Most children will protest when they are bullied by such a child.
It's a bit difficult for children aged 3-4, but around 5-6, children develop the ability to protect themselves and talk back to children who are bullying them or tell their teachers or mothers.

It is perfectly normal for a child to report the injustice they have experienced, but if the child just watches and does not protest, and the parents end up sensing it, then it can be a problem.
Sometimes children who are anxious or lack confidence may exhibit this behavior.
Anxiety disorders and lack of self-confidence can occur when a child does not form a good attachment to their parents.
Children who are not well attached are not good at protecting themselves when their parents are not around.
If a child like this enters elementary school in this condition, he or she will develop depression.
If a child is bullied by a friend, he or she may become afraid of friends and want to be alone, which can cause serious problems in social development, so the problem must be resolved quickly.


Even children who are naturally introverted may not speak up when bullied by a friend, but this is different from the children discussed above.
Children may not speak out when they are being bullied, but normal children will speak out if you give them specific instructions on how to behave.
Parents should step in and talk to the bully, consult with the teacher, and resolve the issue. Then, teach the child something like, “Next time you’re being bullied, tell me.”
Then, even the most introverted child will talk about what happened to him.

---From "I think my child is being bullied at kindergarten"

Parents should not tell their children everything they think or feel.
If you say whatever you feel or think, your parents' authority will be diminished.
Because everything that comes out of parents' mouths ends up being nagging.
So, in order to convey to your child a message that you think is truly important, you also need the wisdom to overlook minor mistakes.
For example, which message is more important to a child: "Clean up your desk" or "Don't be lazy"? Of course, this depends on your values, but many parents would want their children to be less organized, but not lazy.
In order to strongly convey the message, "Don't be lazy," you should refrain from saying, "Clean up your desk."
Otherwise, saying "don't be lazy" can be reduced to the level of nagging, like saying "clean up your desk."


So, before bringing up a topic with a child, parents should always consider whether it is something that must be said or something that can be passed over, whether it is something important that must be said right now or something that can be said later, and whether it can be said in a low voice without getting angry.
This is the only way to effectively convey the values ​​that children need to know.

---From "How to keep your parents' words from becoming nagging"

During this period, the child's self-esteem increases significantly as he or she learns and is able to do many things.
They always try to verify, "Am I a good kid?" and when they get a "yes" in that verification, they want to brag about it to everyone.
This is why ‘pretending to be smart’ and ‘pretending to know everything’ are getting worse.
So, it is perfectly normal for a child to try to tell others what he or she knows, to ask "Did I do a good job?" after doing something he or she is supposed to do, and to try to receive every little reward given at kindergarten.


However, it is not right to just ignore it just because it is in the normal range.
This is because it can hinder social development, such as interpersonal relationships.
In such cases, encourage them to be considerate of others by saying things like, “○○ is doing really well, so I’m happy, but I think it would be better if all his other friends did well too,” or “It would be even better if you taught his younger sibling next time.”
If you suppress your child's show-off by saying things like, "Why are you doing that?", "Yeah, you're great", or "You shouldn't say things like that," your child may lose confidence, which is a virtue he or she really needs to have.

---From "You're acting like you know everything"