From private education, pre-learning, to SNS content
What to believe in the flood of information
To parents who are at a loss as to what to follow
Solid advice from an elementary school teacher with 20 years of experience!

Unwavering in the midst of information overload
We teach you how to become a parent

From the private education craze to early English education to stories of "other people's children" on social media, parents are shaken by the daily influx of information and comparisons.
The anxiety of, "If I don't do this, will my child fall behind?" is immediately etched into the child's expression and self-esteem, and the parents' choices become increasingly confined to comparison and control.
But what children need is not the speed to catch up with others, but the unshakable standards set by their parents.

“Parents with Standards Raise Their Children” is a book that sets those very standards.
Author Ha Yu-jeong, an elementary school teacher with 20 years of experience and an educational channel operator with 230,000 subscribers, dissects the mechanisms of why parents are swayed by anxiety based on numerous cases she has encountered in classrooms and lecture halls (Part 1.
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Next, we present specific principles and checklists for designing study methods, private education, conversation, and lifestyle habits that are tailored to the child's tendencies and developmental speed (Part 2).
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The greatest value of this book is ‘standards instead of comparisons.’
Private education should be provided without being excessive, studies should be tailored to the child's personality, conversations should be encouraged to move the child's heart, and parents should be encouraged to establish their own family standards through the small, daily choices they make.
Through this, parents can no longer be shaken and stand at the center of parenting with the confidence that “I know my child best.”
Ultimately, this book will be the most practical guide for parents to transform anxiety into confidence and enable their children to grow steadily at their own pace.

There's nothing easy in this world, but being a parent seems to be one of the hardest things.
That's understandable, because we all became parents without ever having been parents ourselves.
Still, you are already good enough parents.
Just thinking about a better way for my child is enough.
--- p.009

“I couldn’t do more than this due to my circumstances, but I want to make sure that my daughter does well.”
This is really strange.
Although it is called love, underneath it flows the emotion called ‘anxiety.’
The compulsion to start early, the impatience to not be later than others, the vague expectation that you should live at least better than me.
But it seems that that 'hard work' doesn't always have a positive effect on the child.
Sometimes, the child may quietly sense that the mother is anxious and keeps comparing herself to others.
--- p.025

Actually, we know.
There are only a very small number of videos of other people's children being interviewed in English.
Even the kid who passed the ○○ Academy level test probably doesn't always study with a smile on his face.
But the reason I feel anxious is because that scene doesn't seem like someone else's story, but because it keeps seeming like it's my child's story.
Then, suddenly, the thought, ‘I wish my child could do as much as that…’ quietly touches a part of my heart and passes by.
The sayings, "The sooner you learn, the better," and "You have to be ahead of others," aren't always true.
It doesn't give you time to think about whether it's right for your child.
Now is the time when ‘information discernment’ is more important than ‘information gathering.’
Rather than following what everyone else is doing, parents must first have the courage to keep what is essential for their children and filter out unnecessary information.
-pp.048~049

It's okay if it's a little slow.
It's okay if you don't know everything.
The standard by which you can judge for yourself 'the right path for your child' and that strong inner strength will give you strength as a parent.
Information is like a buoy floating on the sea.
They tell you where things are, but how you navigate the current ultimately depends on which way you row.
--- p.051

Yes, I will send you to an academy too.
Even I, who had only dug one well called education, could not help but knock on that door as my child grew up.
However, I would like to convey 'how it was sent' rather than 'where it was sent'.
I have one rule:
I never choose an instructor because others said they were good or because they were well-known by word of mouth.
The reason is simple.
There's no guarantee that it'll be good for my child.

--- pp.076~077

If you find yourself having recurring negative thoughts and don't know why, ask yourself these questions:
"Do I want my child to grow up right now? Or do I want to be recognized as a good parent?" Reflecting on where my inner desires stem from is the first step toward shifting my thinking.
--- p.135

In a fiercely competitive structure, a child who has been exposed to the content at least once in advance
It is an undeniable fact that it is relatively less embarrassing.
Good deeds themselves are not bad.
Rather, insisting that you "must go slowly" can make things more difficult for the child.
That doesn't mean that all good deeds are '
It is not right to say that we must return to 'more, faster, and more'.
In the end, isn't what matters the wisdom of parents who can accurately read their child's unique pace and needs?
--- p.177

“What a child needs is not a perfect mother, but a mother who is good enough.”
The 'good enough' mentioned here refers to a relationship that initially responds sensitively to the child's needs, but gradually reduces that response appropriately, helping the child face the world on his or her own.
child's homework
Rather than immediately helping or doing it for the child when they get annoyed and say they don't want to do something, wait for the child to think about it on their own and have a chance to start on their own.
When you tell a friend about an argument, rather than offering an immediate solution, say, “That’s right.
“Oh, I see!” It is a time to listen to the child’s feelings first.
That is the appropriate intervention that a 'good enough parent' would provide.
That 'appropriate distance' between waiting and intervention is 'good enough' parenting.

--- p.314