Just as you must pass the first floor to get to the third floor, the same goes for love and marriage.
A romantic relationship is more intimate than a friendship, and is a one-on-one exclusive relationship that promises to be exclusive with other members of the opposite sex.
Internal and external conflicts are also most intensely faced.
How difficult would it be to raise children during their teenage years, when they are still developing their self-identity?
We should not expect to skip each stage of personal maturity and jump ahead in one go.
Dating and marriage also clearly require a certain amount of determination and training.
I sincerely hope that through this book, you will discover many points of personal reflection and that the direction of your prayers will become more concrete.
---From "Entering"

What exactly is spouse prayer? I define it as "the intercession of unmarried young people seeking God's guidance and intervention in all matters related to marriage."
Therefore, no matter how old you are or what your current situation is, it is always right to continue praying to God for your future marriage.
Because it is an expression of trust that I will not do as I please and will give the decision-making power of my future marriage to God.
I'm not against making a list of things you want while imagining your ideal type.
As I mentioned before, I made countless lists when I was younger.
It is such a beautiful thing to offer up our heart's desires to God.
However, let us assume the belief that God makes the 'final decision'.

--- p.29~30

Prayer for a spouse does not simply end the moment you meet your spouse.
In a true sense, prayer for spouses continues even after marriage.
If before marriage it was a prayer to ‘save’ a spouse, after marriage it becomes a prayer ‘for’ a spouse.
The times we pray for our spouse are moments when we 'already' love the future spouse whom God will surely allow us to have.
So, after praying, you can give twice as much love to your spouse as you have prepared.
Isn't that wonderful? Just like tea brewed several times, I firmly believe that the more you pray for your spouse, the deeper and more profound your love for your future spouse will become.

--- p.31~32

An important task in youth is to realize that God alone can fill the deepest need of our souls.
If you don't know this, you will inevitably become frustrated and angry with your partner in your future marriage.
The biggest problem is that instead of finding the cause of the dissatisfaction in a relationship in the 'qualitative relationship with God,' we blame it solely on the other person.
As the relationship gets worse, it is bound to get worse.
The satisfaction of the soul, which can only be found in God, is fulfilled only in a relationship with God.

--- p.40

Saying that we must put down the idols of relationships does not mean that we must reject people because we love God.
Rather, it means that we must love God as the ‘foundation.’
As our love for God deepens, our love for one another should also deepen.
This is the sign of true love.
Discernment is possible by examining whether your relationship with others is maturing at the same time as your relationship with God.

--- p.48

Just as it is important to not violate the boundaries of others, it is equally important to have a sense of responsibility to protect your own boundaries.
God clearly demands 'responsibility' from us when he entrusts us with the house of life.
God has entrusted each of us with our 'life' - our bodies, talents, circumstances, knowledge, material possessions - and we have a responsibility to care for it well, knowing that all of our lives belong to God.
Love is a responsibility given by God.
However, if we do not know the limits of our love in the amount and scope we must exercise, our lives as Christians will become more tiring and burdensome as the days go by.
A life that is sick in the heart because one cannot take care of and take responsibility for one's own home first is not the Christian life that God desires.

--- p.69~70

If you have done anything wrong while meeting, ask for forgiveness and forgive each other.
It is possible even if you have already broken up.
If you have committed a sin before God, confess it and ask for forgiveness.
Forgiveness is about not being tied down to that relationship anymore.
Imagine someone has tied a heavy load to our ankles.
It's not easy to move forward while dragging your luggage.
Forgiveness is the work of freedom and the final gateway to separation.

--- p.134

It is said that one sister prayed this prayer before starting a relationship.
“God, I will not look at this brother with my eyes.
“Please cover the eyes of men and let us discern our brothers and sisters with the eyes of the Lord.” Isn’t this a beautiful prayer?
If you see Jesus in the movies, he looks very handsome.
However, according to the Bible, Jesus actually had no beauty or majesty that we should desire him (Isaiah 53:2).
Even if God sends us a spouse like Jesus, it's the end if we don't recognize him.
Let us pray that we may see our spouses through God's eyes.

--- p.153

There is no failure in true love.
Even if things didn't work out with that sister, if you expressed good feelings, that in itself was a success.
The courage to confess and the sincere kindness you showed to your sister will have already enriched her life.
True love expects no reward.
I support your courageous steps and your attempts.
First of all, if someone tells you that something is good, you feel good.
Don't overthink it, just approach it.

--- p.173

This is the key thing you must know about women.
Ephesians tells us to love our wives as we love our own bodies (Ephesians 5:33).
If you just understand this, you're more than halfway there.
Almost everything a woman wants from a man is contained in this saying.
Our bodies are always connected to ourselves.
‘Connection’ is the key.
A husband's biggest mistake is being indifferent to his wife.
My husband washes his face and eats every day without fail.
Why? Because it's my body.
It means that you should treat your wife like this too.
I have to take care of my wife every day.
If there is no emotional exchange even for a day, anxiety begins to grow in a woman's heart.
If you like a sister you met on a blind date, ask her how she is doing in some way every day.

--- p.181

The Bible says that true love casts out fear (1 John 4:18).
This is true.
Before I met my spouse, my heart would freeze if my pride was even slightly hurt.
I didn't want to give up even an inch.
Even though I tried hard to ignore the anxiety that it might be him, it slowly rose up.
It's different now.
Fears that were previously insurmountable are overcome.
Courage comes from somewhere.
God often responds by giving us the courage to overcome our circumstances.

--- p.192~193

Marriage and the Christian life flow together in the same vein.
The life where this gospel can be most certainly applied is married life.
When I get married, my ego's sinfulness does not increase, but rather it reaches the most suitable points for its continual annihilation.
Marriage is a continuation of this process of death and resurrection.
There may be a difficult process that makes you say “Ugh!”
For about 30 years, I was used to just building up my specs and achieving things.
There were stubbornness, ego thoughts, firmly built plans, values, and lifestyles.
But as I met another spouse, this castle gradually crumbled.
Are you still single, but struggling with dating issues and already feeling a bit like your ego is crumbling? If so, I encourage you to be grateful in advance.
Time spent humbling ourselves and reflecting is not wasted time.
It is a period of intense preparation for a healthy marriage.
I hope that you will be thankful for the time of humility, thinking, ‘God is humbling me and preparing me for marriage.’

--- p.211~212