introduction

PART 1: The First Step to Nonviolent Communication

01 I see my heart
- 1st Period 'I' Let me introduce myself ● 13
- 2nd period advantage I really like myself ● 16
- 3rd Period 'Now' Notice the Weather in Your Heart (My Heart's Weathercaster) ● 19

02 You have to talk to me to know
- 4th period conflict was difficult ● 24
- 5th Period Communication If you don't tell me, I won't know ● 27

03 Recognize the words that hurt you
- 6th Period Anger: Want to become a firefighter? ● 31
- 7th Period: Reduce your worries and fears ● 35
- 8th Period Where Does Love Go? ● 39

PART 2: It's Not Difficult! Nonviolent Communication

04 Say what you see and hear
- 9th period observation: Look carefully and carefully for a long time ● 45
- 10th Period Objective Microscope and Telescope ● 49

05 Tell me how you feel
- The feeling of being in the 11th period is like a traffic light ● 55

06 Tell me what you need
- 12th Period I Know What You Want ● 61
- 13th Period: Finding the Means and Methods ● 66

07 Please do it properly
- 14th Period Distinguishing between requesting and forcing judgment ● 73

PART 3 Nonviolent Communication for Me

08 If you sympathize, you become friends.
- 15th Period Self-Empathy Clean the Room of the Mind (Listen to the Voice of the Heart) ● 79
- 16th Period Expanding the space of empathy and the mind of the other person ● 84

09 Gratitude makes life shine
- 17th Period Connection Thank you for making me happy ● 89

10. Talk with respect.
- 18th Period: Developing Self-Respect and Self-Esteem ● 94

『Nonviolent Communication for Youth』 10th Anniversary Workbook!
Alone and together
Practice loving conversations that examine your heart

The workbook, "Practice Nonviolent Communication Without Hurt or Being Hurt," was only briefly touched on with questions in the original version before revision. However, in lectures given over a thousand times with actual students, it has become more cheerful and lively, presenting specific practice methods by incorporating healing art therapy into nonviolent communication, which has been practiced in various ways.

This activity begins with an opening activity, and allows you to learn the stages of nonviolent communication that lead to observation/feeling/desire/request. Then, as you follow the lessons one period at a time, ending with a concluding activity that involves self-reflection, such as meditation and breathing, you will find yourself understanding yourself more deeply before you know it.

Young readers read and practice it themselves
Nonviolent Communication for Youth: Experience Change at School and Home

"Nonviolent Communication for Youth: Who Will Understand My Heart?", which garnered attention at the time of its publication for suggesting a "nonviolent communication" method suited to our reality under the theme of "dialogue for healing and empathy for wounded teenagers," has published a revised and expanded edition to celebrate its 10th anniversary.
This book has been a long-term bestseller in the youth field for 10 years, drawing sympathy and understanding of nonviolent communication from not only youth but also teachers, parents, and educators in various educational settings.


The author, who has worked as a Korean language teacher for nearly 30 years, obtained a Level 1 Counseling Teacher Certificate and completed a Nonviolent Communication Instructor course to reach out to the hearts of youth who are exhausted and hurt by school violence, bullying, and academic stress.
He said that while meeting students in various educational settings across the country and introducing non-violent communication, he came to understand the complaints, hopes, and real concerns that young people have toward adults.
Through various consultations and lectures, I have included in “Nonviolent Communication for Youth” how youth can understand, need, and practice nonviolent communication, and what changes they experience.

10 years after publication.
The author continues to promote nonviolent communication to diverse readers across various fields, and as a result, he has published a revised and expanded edition with a section on "self-esteem," a topic that was not included ten years ago but is essential for our youth today.

Observation/Feeling/Need/Request
Nonviolent communication, easy for anyone to start right now

It is not easy for anyone to realize what they 'really' want and to 'properly' express it.
In fact, it is no exaggeration to say that most of the misunderstandings and conflicts that occur around us arise from our inability to properly express our thoughts and feelings, so it is important to have a mature way of communicating.
Nonviolent communication can be defined as the process of properly expressing one's own intentions and listening to the other person's words to find common ground in situations of conflict.


This book, "Nonviolent Communication for Youth," explains the process of communication through text and examples that young people can easily relate to: observing without blame or evaluation, examining the needs and feelings of both themselves and the other person, expressing them properly, and making specific requests.
That is, we help young people express their thoughts and feelings at home and at school, listen to others, and recognize, understand, and take responsibility for the meaning of their words and the state of their bodies and minds.
This book encourages young people to open their mouths and ears to practice and experience nonviolent communication, thereby helping them experience small changes, joy, and a sense of accomplishment in their daily lives.


Through the experiences of young people told in their own words
Nonviolent communication, making it easier to empathize and understand

“Teacher, is there a nonviolent dialogue screen? Is there also violent dialogue?” For the youth who ask, “It sounds like the name of a station, Nonviolent Station,” this book contains various examples of dialogue and experiences so that young readers can empathize with what nonviolent communication is and what changes it can bring to our lives.
The vivid concerns and experiences of 16- and 17-year-olds, highlighted in color throughout the book, will allow readers to easily empathize with the stories, as if they were reading their own stories or peering into their own hearts.


Another strength of this book is that it contains the author's vivid experiences as a teacher for nearly 30 years and as a lecturer on nonviolent communication given over 2,000 times.
It contains a variety of real-life examples of youth encountering various relationships, including those with parents, siblings, friends, and teachers, as well as the experiences of children encountered at school, so it can provide readers with practical help in practicing conversation skills in their daily lives.


Additionally, to commemorate the 10th anniversary, the author simultaneously published a workbook that allows people to practice nonviolent communication through various body/language/art activities.
The revised and expanded edition of 『Nonviolent Communication for Youth』 and the workbook 『Practice Nonviolent Communication Without Hurt or Being Hurt』 will provide our youth with the experience of speaking, listening, communicating, and resonating with others through nonviolent communication, which will serve as a solid foundation for their growth.