A hot bestseller that solved countless readers' relationship problems.
The Blue Cat Edition (revised edition) of "Kim Kyung-il's Wise Human Life" has been published.

Professor Kim Kyung-il, a leading cognitive psychologist in Korea, has returned with the Blue Cat edition of his book, "Kim Kyung-il's Wise Human Life."
This book sharply examines "human relationships," the topic that Professor Kim Kyung-il receives the most questions about in his lectures, and presents, through sixteen lectures, methods for maintaining appropriate relationships without stress.
Based on cognitive psychology, it examines the relationship between 'others and myself' and is structured to provide Professor Kim Kyung-il's clear insights into human relationships.

Have you ever heard the saying, "The Law of Villain Quantity"? Villains who torment and trouble us exist everywhere, at school, at work, and around us.
As society becomes more complex and relationships between people become more complex, concerns about human relationships are bound to increase.
This book contains 'how to protect myself' from villains that I encounter in any relationship.
Through 『Kim Kyung-il's Wise Human Life』, you will be able to regain your peaceful daily life and begin to live a confident life through proper relationships.

Creativity may seem like a constant, but it is a variable.
My creativity is not something I am born with, but rather something that depends on whether or not I can change the 'situation' that makes me think creatively.
The ability to get along well with others while maintaining an appropriate distance is not a matter of innate personality or temperament, but rather depends on the 'situation'.
This book talks about what can be changed between others and ourselves, and what cannot be changed.
We introduce numerous ways to change situations under the theme of 'Others, Me, and Life'.
This book may not be a powerful solution like Jeon Ga's "Treasure Sword," but I sincerely hope that it can help alleviate some of the pain you feel when you're stressed out and losing sleep because of people.
I hope I will no longer allow others to control me, and I will no longer be frustrated by things I cannot change.
---From the "Prologue"

I have 10 points on my heart scale, but my partner only has 2 points.
So what happens then?

I'd say something like 3 or 4 pointed things out, and the other person would get really excited and feel like they'd just been criticized like the biggest person on earth.

If the other person's heart has two scales, it means that the heart scale has not yet developed.
So the scale didn't increase.
So, should I wait until the other person's emotional scale matures? Or should I only talk to those whose hearts have matured? It would be nice if that were the only way, but the world doesn't work that way.

The 'normal assumptions' do not apply to people who have a narrow mind and explode with emotion at the slightest suggestion from me.
So how should we address this? If we carefully observe people with narrow mental scales, we find that they are surprisingly fine-tuned in certain areas.
They don't explode every time they talk.
So they might think to themselves, 'I may be a bit sensitive sometimes, but I'm generally a well-behaved person.'
Some areas have only two tick marks, while others have ten.

If you want to get along reasonably well with anyone, if you want to have a decent conversation with even emotional people, you need to investigate where the other person's tight-knit grid area is.
To communicate comfortably with people you work with, you need to put in this kind of effort and effort.
---From "How to Deal Wisely with Emotional People"

People who are good at repeating what others say will deliberately approach you and ask questions without offering their own opinions, such as, "What do you think about this? What should we do?"

When I buy something, they buy it too.
These are the people who constantly ask me what I think while telling me what other people think about it.
These are also 'people who want to be supported'.
They are very lonely and insecure people.
But is he coming to me? Is he coming to me regularly and asking questions? If so, I need to take a look at myself.

The fact that he keeps coming to me means that he feels a great sense of kinship with me.
It's because I'm so drawn to the thought, 'You and I are similar,' that it bothers and makes things difficult for me.
The cause of that homogeneity could be environment, appearance, a favorite baseball player, or a favorite singer.
What's interesting is that, surprisingly, the basis for homogeneity is not clear.
You should pay attention to that.
---From "The Psychology of a Person Who Repeats Other People's Words"

Wanting to be recognized means having others say to me, “Wow, that’s great.
That's cool.
I want you to say, "It's the best."
People who struggle for recognition are simply living hard to hear the admiration of others, and wanting to be recognized means that I need the admiration of others right now.

It's the same thing when I say I have to respect myself.
I need to be able to admire myself.
If I can't admire myself, no one else will.
How can I expect others to admire me if I don't admire myself? I'm not saying you should admire your own appearance.
How can I admire myself?

If your abilities increase, you can admire me.
It's an experience of growth through cultural activities unrelated to one's main job, such as becoming good at calligraphy that one couldn't do before, or learning to play the piano and being able to play a song.
Whether it's writing, music, art, or sports, experiencing accomplishments through a hobby is the easiest and best way to admire yourself.
---From "What's More Important Than Other People's Approval"

There is a term called trouble shooting.
When a problem occurs, it refers to the process of comprehensively diagnosing the cause of the problem and finding a solution.
The better the manual, the better the troubleshooting examples it contains.
It includes detailed and detailed information on frequently asked questions, common mistakes, and important product precautions.
So, when you have a problem with an electronic product, you can quickly solve the problem by just looking at the manual.

This book is not a theoretical book.
It is not a collection of essays that are a collection of fragments of thoughts.
It's a kind of troubleshooting.
Although it was written in simple terms, I put a lot of thought into each expression and checked each theoretical basis.
I believe that readers and those I meet at lectures will continue to ask many questions and want to hear answers to their concerns.
So, as a psychologist, I'll try to find answers to the best of my ability, and as a human being, I'll try to tell you honestly what I've experienced when dealing with similar problems.
This book is the first step.

---From the "Epilogue"