“Only when eyes are wet with tears can a deep smile appear.”
Psychological CPR for those who want to save themselves and help you live here and now.
A manuscript edition of "You Are Right," read, write, and discuss with healer Jeong Hye-shin.

The bestseller “You Are Right” has sold over 500,000 copies since its publication in 2018 and continues to be loved by many readers.
Through this book, which advocates "psychology like home cooking" to help people heal their emotional emptiness in everyday life, countless readers have been able to look into their own hearts, empathize with the hearts of loved ones, and experience healing and change.
Moreover, this book has demonstrated remarkable influence both domestically and internationally, leaving behind numerous records such as being selected as the 'Book of the Year' in nine cities, ranking first in 'non-fiction book lending' in public libraries, and being exported to six countries including Japan, China, and Taiwan.
This is also the result of the inner strength of healer Jeong Hye-shin, who has been with those suffering from everyday life to social disasters.

After December 3, 2024, our daily lives were once again disrupted.
Psychological disasters no longer occur only in specific times and places, but are happening everywhere in our lives, and returning to normal life has become a hot topic of our time.
The author diagnoses that we are now experiencing another social trauma.
In this desperate situation, the author, together with his readers, carefully selected sentences for healing and recovery from “You Are Right,” which is advertised as a “psychological CPR behavioral guide,” and compiled them into a handwritten edition, “You Are Right Read by Hand.”

If I could give you the joy of meeting 'me'
As the winter of martial law swept through the world, carpet-bombing and scorching the daily lives of our community, I felt myself vividly as I wrote and rewrote “You Are Right.”
That time held me firmly in the harbor of my life.
It was an anchor that told me that this was the heart I needed, and a mirror that tattooed me like a tattoo.
As I went through that bizarre winter filled with fine dust, “You Are Right” was also a “mirror person” to me.
So, with the earnest desire to be a mirror to others, I organized the manuscript of “You Are Right” as if I were pulling it out with tweezers.
Finally, as spring has arrived, we hope that 『You Are Right, Who Reads with Your Hands』 will once again become a 'mirror person' for our neighbors who have worked so hard and put in so much effort.
Like a cheering song, like a comfort, like an encouragement, like a friendship that inspires respect.
I am fully prepared to embrace you warmly when I meet you someday on a street or in a life that is like a spring flower or a desert.
I hope you have that time too.
Both the reader and the writer are right.
--- From the "Prologue"

When you feel hungry, read and write like you eat.
Without letting go of my hand

To a child who came in after being beaten by a friend outside
Mom said, “Who did this to you?”
Hold the child's hand tightly until you find the child who hit him.
Just as we go along without letting go of each other's hands, so too is empathy.

Until the opponent's words, which have lost their direction and way, clearly reach the target
You must hold hands tightly and never let go of the other person's wrist.

Until when? Until I encounter the very existence of the other person.

You have to go holding on to that horse's head
You arrive at the door where your true self-story opens.

That's how empathy begins.
_ Page 141

“Who did this to you?” If someone were to grab my wrist, look me in the eye, and ask me this question, I would stretch out my legs, cry, and tell them everything I wanted to say.
Anyone would do that.
I hug ‘me’ and ‘me’, who endured and persevered through such sorrow and survived today, with all my weight.
--- From "The First Step_ If Only There Was One Person Next to Me Right Now"

The door that leads to me
My feelings and emotions are the doorway into my being.

Through feeling, a person can encounter his true self.

Through feeling, a person can become more intimate with his own being.

When you become sensitive to feelings, you are not an accessory or a spec-level 'me'.
You can meet the 'me' of the existential dimension more easily.

From then on, 'I' must become clear
Only then can I live my life.
_ Page 113

So, how are you feeling right now?
--- From "The Second Step_ The Door to Myself, Emotions"

Whatever the reason for crying, I am a huge fan of adults who cry.
Whether it's tears of shame shed as you look back on yourself, tears shed when you meet a hand that holds your wounded heart that you let go of long ago, or tears of disappointment in yourself that go back and forth like a reed between two hearts, your tears are right.
I encourage you to cry more often and more, and I intend to be the one to support those tears.
Tears have the power to gather together the fragments of our hearts, to cherish them, and to unite them lovingly.
Like a separated family that lived apart but eventually came together in one house, it embraces the fragments of our hearts that were scattered.
Tears are a strong adhesive and a furnace.
If you can cry, there is hope.
I feel stronger when I see adults crying.
Suddenly, I feel like this is love, this is a person.

--- From "The Third Step_ Facing My Wounds"

Reflection in relationships is seeing both you and me simultaneously, alternately.
It is not reflection to fix yourself as a constant and recognize only me as a variable.
If you turn your gaze away from your own existence and only focus on yourself, the end result will be a hell of self-reproach and guilt.
That's not reflection.
Rather, it is a failure of reflection.
Excessive self-censorship is the path to making me into a hell of 'my fault' and turning the other person into a monster of 'blaming others'.
It is a bad energy that ruins not only me but also the other person.
Excessive self-censorship is the perfect host for the poisonous mushroom of blaming others to flourish.
I shouldn't be pushed around.
Then you might overdo it, but that's okay.
You have to keep pushing and overdoing it to avoid being pushed back.
As you do this, you will develop a sense of balance between you and me.
If you keep going back and forth like a pendulum, you will come to know.
That is self-reflection that protects me and does not harm the other person.
--- From "The Fourth Step_ You Are Here, But I Am Here"

Love is something a child must feel
Just because I, as a parent, love my child doesn't mean it's love.

Love is when a child feels that his or her parents love him or her.
The same goes for apples.
Not “I apologized”
I am so sorry and heartbroken as a mother.
An apology is something that a child feels and touches his heart.
If you don't seem to understand properly
You have to sit down and apologize again, properly.

“This is how a mother feels.
It's true.
I'm really sorry to you.
That feeling is clear.

“That’s all Mom wants to say.” _ Page 295

That's all for an apology.
If you sincerely apologize and then complain that the response is lukewarm or the apology is not accepted, you are crossing the line.
It is entirely up to the other person whether or not they accept my apology and my sincerity.
Forcing it is worse than not apologizing at all.
It becomes psychological violence.
You have to apologize and wait, doing your best to be honest.
Only after reaching there is the apple truly complete.

--- From "The Fifth Step_ Empathy is Jumping in Place Together"

After experiencing some extraordinary event that disrupts our daily lives (a car accident, illness, failure, martial law, a breakup, etc.), we go to work every day as before and occasionally have dinner with our families.
On weekends, I watch movies with friends or go mountain biking as part of a club.
So is this a sign that we're back to normal?
It could be, but it might not be.
It may look like an everyday face on the outside, but in reality it may not be.
Daily activities such as company dinners, hobbies, and exercise are not daily life in themselves, but rather the relationships that allow us to share our daily lives are what make daily life what it is.
--- From "The Fifth Step_ Empathy is Jumping in Place Together"

Empathy is possible only when we can focus solely on the existence of ‘you’ without being absorbed in ‘me’.
Empathy is not simply a technique or a functional methodology, but rather a focus on existence itself.
Empathy is not limited to logical or emotional.
This is because it focuses on the individuality of each being.
It takes more time than you think for the gaze that lingers on 'me' to reach 'you'.
There's no need to be anxious.
There is no need to be frustrated that I can't do it.
If only I could occasionally notice that I'm not focusing on you, that would be enough.
Then time will tell.

--- From "The Sixth Step_ Overcoming Obstacles"